how many of you needed scholarships for college
Posted By: mdlfcrs on 2007-05-31
In Reply to: I can't believe our representatives - Misha
tuition for you or a child and didn't qualify - did ya know the illegal immigrants are getting them? That's when I went off!
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COLLEGE AND SCHOLARSHIPS
My first daughter was lucky with the scholarships and has just graduated from a private college in state with a degree in Nursing (BSN). She went to this $34,000 a year college for $13,000 a year but still has $60,000 of student loans to pay back but she makes $3,000 a month and has no other expenses. My other daughter chose to go out of state and Massachusetts only helps in state students. She goes to Umass at Amherst and there is so many scholarships if you live in MA. Anyway she is also on student loans. I told my girls this is the only way you can go to high priced colleges if this is what you want. They have 10 years to pay for them once they graduate. Most of their friends are doing the same way. We also applied the FASA 4 years in a row and it helped with the first child but even when I had both in college it did not help my second child. She still has to pay the going rate for out of state. I even called up Umass and said another college in MA is giving her $10,000 scholarship off the tuition and they said well tell her to go there. I really think it depends on the college. GOOD LUCK
There are all sorts of scholarships out there.
My second college-bound child is applying for scholarships right now. My first is in his second year at college, and he is at a state school, but he's received some scholarships from sources that did no require he attend a state school. My second has a real assortment of applications to deal with. I also went to college out-of-state with a few scholarships I cobbled together from various sources. That was way back in the day, though, before there was internet. My sons found most of their scholarships by searching the internet and also through their guidance counselors at school. My first son, in particular, is just not a wonderful student. He's a solid C student with an occasional B thrown in here and there. Even he was able to find a couple of scholarships that fit the bill.
Scholarships are given to all types of students for all sorts of reasons. You just have to be willing to spend some time searching. Have your child stop at the guidance office. They will have lots of information to get her started. Once you get into the process of it all, you'll find that one bit of information leads to another and then another.
Incidentally, I studied broadcasting, as well! I didn't finish in that major, but I really loved those two years. I went to Temple University in Philadelphia, which as a fantastic degree programs in broadcasting/film/radio.
She needs to apply for scholarships if she hasn't already.
My daughter did that and with the multiple scholarships that she got it covers nearly all of her cost and I pay the difference.
check out all scholarships that may apply plus
student loans. Scholarships and student loans and a few contest wins (ie, writing) got our daughter through professional school. She graduated this last May. If she wants it bad enough, it can certainly be done. p.s., i bet they teach a little more than you are giving them credit for!
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Thank you so much...I needed that. nm
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I needed this
I read this today and loved it: If winter comes, can spring be far behind?
Thank you!! That is EXACTLY what I needed to know sm
I have 2 dogs, one who is VERY furry and I was concerned about dog hair cloggage.
Thanks for taking the time with all the great info :-)
Yes, he needed to go.
I don't know how Scott stayed in as long as he did. Nowhere near the talent of the others, although I believe the the two top contestants are Adam and Alison, who are miles above the rest. I think Adam is an amazing talent and should win. He is the only reason I am watching AI this season. Otherwise, it has gotten extremely boring. I never did understand the enthusiasm for Danny Gokey. Good voice, but he does not appeal to me at all.
You may not believe this and probably will not but thought you needed some help the other day
as I was reading the posts. You certainly came across not just as a person who was grieving but with the last post about the person committing suicide, I was thinking this does not sound exactly right. If I felt depressed and/or suicidal and felt like I could not handle things, your emergency room would probably see you and refer you to someone and then you would probably wind up waiting again. I doubt they would do anything specific for you. There are some 800 hot line crisis centers you can call.
Thanks so much to you all. I KNEW I needed help! :-)
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FOOD IS NEEDED!
I volunteer at a food cupboard twice a month. Today I went in to fill requests for families in need, and the shelves of our little interfaith cupboard were nearly empty. It was a struggle to get together some basic items for four families.
This is a problem with food cupboards all over the country. At holiday times, food drives are held and shelves are full. Even during the school year, more donations come in as school and youth groups run food drives to help those in need. But during summer, donations slow to a trickle as people are busy with summertime activities or away on vacation. Food drives are forgotten, but people still need your help.
If you can, please consider donating to your local food cupboard. Anything you can give would be appreciated. Even a couple boxes of cereal or a jar of peanut butter can make a difference!
Thanks again so much..I needed to hear this.
A day doesn't go by that I don't pray for a miracle. As the obvious enabler, I just always feel if I helped her just this one last time, this would be the time she turns it all around and I want to be there for her. Everything positive she does, I praise her, only to be crushed the next minute for it was just a mirage. It wasn't really there. Every night I have gone to bed saying a pray that we can just get through another day, and honestly, some days, I wasn't sure that I wanted to wake up. I just couldn't do it one more minute. When you love someone with everything you have and realize it still is not enough, that right there is the most devastating feeling ever. For every tear she has cried, I've cried thousands. I try to be strong so she thinks I am uncaring. If only she could see or feel what I feel inside. If love could have saved her, she would be. I am going to put it in God's hand because I have nothing left to give. Everyone wonders how and why I have survived and gone through what I have..and honestly, I have no idea. I hate the thought that it has become such a habit that I just expect it. I wait for the calls to come every day, as they will, on the next crisis. I wait for my day to be ruined and that is one of the reasons that I chose to work at home. I was embarrassed when she would call me 15 times at work, even though I told her not to, or she'd show up. Just barge through my office. I've gotten beyond what people think, but I know my friends understand and love me for me. Thanks for listening. Another dark day. Sadly, I have had to pretend to be on vacations so she won't come around trying to manipulate me but then she calls me nonstop on my vacations to send her money. It honestly never stops and I don't think it ever will. Please everyone say a prayer for me...
OMG! Thanks for that. Needed the laugh!!!
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Thank you so much for your kindness. It's just what I needed sm
right now. I've never been one to have the "victim mentality" although I can see how my post probably came off that way. They never gave me a chance from the start so you hit it right on when you called it a tribe mentality. I think a lot of it is jealousy - as my mom points out - I had that a lot growing up because I tend to get along with everyone - not a jealous bone in my body - and I can tend to irritate those who "don't like everyone" or who have sour attitudes.
When the poster said that she found it hard to believe that all 3 hate me for NO REASON I didn't want to respond because they do hate me for no reason. If you were to ask them why they don't like me or want me around their answer is, "just because I don't."
Anyways, your post was very kind and I am thankful for it. God bless you!
Gift help needed....
For my hubby's company Christmas party this year, we need to take a wrapped gift ranging in price of $18 and $22. They are doing the "everyone pick a gift" sorta thing. So, it will need to be for male or female, ranging in ages from 20-60. See my dilemma? I am thinking a gift card wrapped in a huge box. LOL
I would appreciate your suggestions!
Thanks!
No electric needed.
If they sleep together, they dont need electric heat, body heat will be enough. I would build a "cave" of strawbales, toss in some loose straw and there ya go. I wouldnt use blankies as if they get wet, they will freeze. Like lying on an ice cubes Mostly, dogs just need to be out of.the wind. If they dont sleep together, just build 2 caves. Either way, should be snug so body heat will build a pocket of warmth around dog.
sweet....I needed that
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opinion needed
(some background info) My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years, been together for 15 years. He has a friend whom he has been friends with since high school. His friend is married and we have become somewhat friends as a couple. I really don't like these people but I have NEVER let them know this. Its really that I don't respect the things that they do, on the other hand they are very nice and would do anything for you so I tolerate them. They have a garage that is full of pictures of naked girls so I don't allow my children in there (my husband doesn't get this but that's another issue altogether) and they are very "sexual" with each other regardless of who is around them (again I don't like my children seeing this). Needless to say unless I can find a babysitter for my kids I don't generally like to go to their house. Well my husband turned 40 last week and this couple wanted to take him out for his birthday. Apparently they started planning this with my husband a few weeks before his actual birthday. My problem is I wasn't invited. I could see if it was just the guys but the fact that the husband and wife were taking my husband out along with another friend (male) and I wasn't invited bothers me. It immediately made me think that they were taking him to a strip club (which I don't like him to go to, again another issue in itself). My husband wasn't going to go but then Friday he decided he was going. I once again asked him who was going and he said the couple and a friend, still not invite for me. I confronted him with it when he got home from work and told him that I wasn't mad at him but very irritated with the fact that I wasn't invited. He replied that maybe his friend didn't think I could get a sitter to go out (which I am very fortunate and I NEVER have any problems getting a sitter) but that he wouldn't go. He didn't say "geez hon, of course your invited, lets get a sitter and both go", nope he just said "i won't go". A week or so before this he went to this friends house for a football game/party, again I wasn't invited, my husbands reply was "well you don't like football", I feel I should have been able to make my own decision as to whether or not I wanted to go whether I like football or not. Then today for the superbowl my husband tells me he is giong to a party at a coworkers house and then he will be home. Then later a friend of his comes to the house and she's gonna go with him oh but no they aren't going to the friend's house they are going to a different friends house, then the pub and then will be home by halftime, too bad I have to work and can't go. I guess at first I thought it was the first friend who wasn't inviting me and now I'm thinking my husband just doesn't want to be around me. What would you do? I have stayed very calm through all this but its really grating on my nerves now and I was hoping to get some opinions. Thanks so much...
I definitely needed him a few weeks ago.
Definitely HOT. What did you think of the season finale?
Thanks for the site! Just what we needed! (nm)
Why did they say your dog needed a bath?
I just throw my collie mix outside when it rains and maybe take him to the groomer 2 or 3 times a year. If he was rolling around in mud and dead animals, that would be different.
LOL. Thanks. I needed that after the morning I just had. nm
Ok for all us that diagnose others sometimes, help needed here
I have some symptoms here and hoping maybe some of you have heard of before and can give me some "diagnosing." I do it myself quite a bit. Like I told my aunt, after doing this before the telephone was invented, sometimes we hear so much and pick up on things so hopefully someone out there can give me a hand. Here we go and thanks so much:
Pain on my right hand side around my rib cage, it's not a constant pain, I feel it when I take deep breaths.
Pain around abdomen when having a bowel movement
Slight pain in abdomen when walking
Some abdomen pain comes on suddenly while sitting still but not often.
A pain in or around my neck that is noticeable when I burp.
Needed that one for today. Thanks!!! NM.
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college son
I agree - take the phone away! My son's first away job was at age 18. He was sent to NYC Kennedy Airport as his base (flight attendant). We live in a tiny little town in IL. Of course, I wanted him to be safe, blah, blah, blah. First phone bille I got was over $200.00. His dad gave him a credit card for emergencies - first bill was over $3000.00 - you guessed it. Took both away. Got him a number to call home with, no one else. Phone companies do that somehow. Dad started sending a fixed amount (flight attendants are paid terrible wages in the beginning) Fifteen years later, he is an extremely successful hair stylist with his own hair product line in Spr. Illinois. You have to do something now or you will be broke, he will waste a year at school and they will probably make it or break it no matter what you do. Hang in there! He WILL grow up! 
college son
I could have written that same thing except this is my daughter and her boyfriend is a loser. Dont like him and havent even met him. She goes to a junior college where we live and works PT. He on the other hand does not go to school and does not have a job. When will it end. Any advice.
college son
 My son's spree ended when he was 27. He spent years "finding his niche." Flight attendant, waiter, retail clerk. Constantly broke, moving absolutely continually between IL, NY, IA and MO. Drove us nuts. After a few moves, I stopped helping with moves - "if you want to move, get your friends to help." After bleeding his dad (we were divorced, then he died) and my mom (you know the ask grandma thing) practically dry, he finally had to grow up. Went to hair college in Iowa and has been working his tail off ever since. It took him years to mature, years of poor choices, years of being poor to finally realize that his life was up to him, not anyone else. He is now totally responsible - I am so proud of him. For the past 2 years in a row, he has earned the Iliinois Times "Springfield's Best" title for hair stylist. Quite an honor. Your son will be okay. Some young guys don't make college on the first try and have to do it again a few years later. Hang in there. 
College vs. not
I am a year away from graduating with a Bachelors in psychology with counseling. I'm pretty sure it will be useful, but there is no way of knowing now.
However,
My husband just graduated in May 2008 with his History degree. This week he finally got a job, and more than likely he could have gotten it without a degree (managing a sports store), but I am sure it helped, since he doesn't have a lot of retail experience.
I think it's kind of a 50/50 deal. You could get a degree, and never need it. Or you could get one and not need it until later on in your career when you want to move up. Or you could not get it and get blocked for all kinds of jobs.
In the end I would probably do college over again just because I love learning.
Anyone out there going to college at age 40? sm
I am considering about ditching the MT scene once my children graduate from high school (in 7 years). I am currently 42 years old and considering going for a Bachelors in computers. Anyone else doing this?
BCP helped me immensely, but I needed to take sm
something for nausea for the first week. Can't remember what it was, but it really helped. It was an antinausea med for pregnant women. You should see a gynecologist, though, to see if you have something that could be causing the pain, like endometriosis, or even cervical stenosis (what I had) which was helped with a D&C. Don't suffer. Life is too short.
What's shocking is that a rule is needed.
Many here have acted like this is normal behavior and should be excused and there are reasons for it, etc. Sure there are.........and there also many, many kids who do it to be obnoxious and so it has become a problem - like so many other things - but these parents continue to excuse their kids.
This will be total and much needed catharsis....
I am almost 54 years old and the permeating thought in my brain is that I am "a monstrosity," something my mother called my sister and I because we were tall. My father is still alive at 86 and says about some "pretty little thing." THAT drives me INSANE because I am not. He asks when I am going to play piano for him, and I laugh, but I think, "Never, because you have always criticized me." Still does. God help us all. That's the thing that has totally messed up my brain. I am a "monstrosity" and will never be a "pretty little thing." There. Now I have said it on the internet.
But, FYI, I am not a tall humongous woman, I am just tall and not a "pretty little thing." There, I typed it and that's almost like saying it out loud.
This thread ROX!
No reality check needed here (sm)
as far as any animal abuser goes. These are not little children--these are TEENAGERS. Dollars to doughnuts they've done this before....They were just caught this time.
You are right, cats are animals and not people. Animals cannot speak for themselves. They cannot call anyone for help. They cannot defend themselves against the ultimate predator--us, but yet we brought them into this world to make our lives richer. It is therefore our responsibilty to ensure their safety.
You are fortunate you can stay naive to such atrocities commited against animals and can shrug it off as just a couple of messed up girls who need a hug. It's just a newspaper clipping to you.
Divine intervention needed.... sm
Neatly stenciled white letters on brown sawhorse by side entrance to local church:
HANDYCAPPED PARKING
Bathtub opinions needed please!
Hi ladies! We are building a new house and our contractor needs to know the dimensions of our new tub in the master bath so he can build the platform around it. My husband has now decided it would be easier to just put in one of those stand alone claw foot tubs. I do not like them, but we are selling the house in 2 years and building another one for our permanent home. So I need opinions. Do you like the looks/functionality of these types of tubs or would you prefer a normal soaking tub with a ceramic surround? Don't hold back, I need honest opinions. Thanks!
My kids mostly got clothes, which they really needed sm
My son't (17) fav gift was a 20.00 indoor remote control helicopter. He has had so much fun with it. When my daughter (14) was shopping for a cousin she saw a Doodle Bear and went on and on about how much she loved hers when she was younger. DH got her one (I didn't even know about it) and that was was her fav. gift.
LOL. Thanks, I needed the laugh today...nm
Thank you. That's how I feel also and I just needed to hear it from others.
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pray tell, how DID they get to college and/or
I'm back in college now. You
have me thinking about getting a class ring too - how funny. But the ring I like best is the class ring my mom has. I never see that style anymore. No stone, not overly large or fine either, just gold with a narrow, stacked rectangular portion in the middle that has white gold while the rest of the ring is yellow gold.
Maybe I should just see if I can get her ring back from her; I let her have it back when I moved out of the house after wearing it a lot after high school.
HELP, son in first year of college... psm
I don't get to post very often, but I am kind of at a loss as to what to do. We are having a real problem here.
My son has always been a very good kid. He has always made good grades. He has never gotten into much trouble. Well, he got almost a full-paid scholarship to college. We always told him that if he got a scholarship, we would get him a car. Well, he got the scholarship and carefully researched what kind of car he wanted. We went out and got him a car.
Subsequently, he became involved with a girl. I don't have a problem with his girlfriend. She's very sweet and I do like her. The problem is this. I got the first phone bill after he left and he was texting her day and night. So, we asked him to cut back. We pay the phone bill. We make the rules. We have unlimited messages but 15,000 messages in one month just seems crazy when he is complaining about being exhausted. We worked it out. At 10 seconds a message it would be 40 hours worth of texting...
He comes home for the weekend and we take him to dinner. Fifteen dollar dinner and he is falling asleep at the dinner table. He proceeds to tell us how miserable he is at school. We explain to him how sorry we are, but he is stuck there at the very least for this year as he is already enrolled etc. We also made it clear that he needed to at least try to make it work.
So, he continues to text day and night even though he promised he would cut down. He was texting during classes, which just seems wrong to me. It is disrespectful to the professors and unfair to the students sitting around him. We threatened to take his phone away. He finally stopped doing that but now I have my suspicions he is cutting class to talk on AIM to his girlfriend, and he had to drop the only difficult class he had or he was going to fail it and lose his scholarship. He is lying to us about stuff. He is being deceitful about stuff. I am just at my wits end.
This is a nice girl from a nice family. We know her parents. We like her. We like her parents. But I feel like she is trying to control his life from 2 hours away and it is working. It is almost like he is chosing to be miserable to accommodate her. I talked to her mother last week and one day she called home 15 times. My husband feels like we shouldn't talk to her parents about this.
We know that we can't make dating her an issue because that will just make him want to date her all the more. I am at a loss as to what if anything to do about it. My husband says that if he is chosing to be miserable then he can be miserable and that college is what you make of it. I am 95% sure he wants to change schools and go where his girlfriend is going. Well, that is the most expensive school in the state and he will be giving up a free ride to do that plus he now has an almost new car that we would have to deal with because he would not get to keep that and go to the expensive school. No way, no how. I have serious reservations about him going to a school with a party-school reputation when he has a free education at a very good school. I also do not want to pay $18,000 a year so that he can be with his girlfriend no matter how much I like her.
Any words of wisdom?
1st year of college
Went that same route, it was awful. A psychoogist friend of mine told me not to panic, to insist he finish out the year where he was. He then transferred the 2nd year. He is now married to someone he met in that second college, has beautiful children, etc. Yet to say that was one of the most horrible years of my life would be the truth. Hang in there, be stronger than he, he's just a kid, really, thinks he's in love. You on the other hand are paying for him and working yourself to death for him. Take the phone away or at least make him sign a contract that he will finish the year out, will limit his phone bill, etc. You are the boss of him, not the other way around. It's horrible, I know, but tough it out. This girl cannot be too smart, but probably very sexy. Not much you can do about it. Have your husband step in and take over or else you will be the classic Monster-In-Law. Time for Dad to be the boss here and set the rules, tell him to step up to the plate and stop being Mr. Nice Guy! He needs a strong male image to step in and tell him what the rules are, not you.
My son threw college away....
My mother was gonna pay for everything including tuition, books, clothing, you name it. He went in the front door and out the back. Later my father offered to send him to some sort of trade school, all expenses paid. Son married then, 2 children, turned it down. He basically has had horrible attitude towards any job he has ever had and usually quit/fired. I have not talked with him now in about 3 years (he lives close by). I have wished he and his family the best- I quit being the bank for them. If I could make it without extra help around to raise 2 children, with their family having both parents there, children out of high school, they can certainly make it. Good luck to them.....
Yes it is from a community college - thanks (nm)
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I don't have children old enough for college yet, but
I did hear that there are all sorts of scholarships out there, you just have to know where to look. Maybe someone else will know exactly how to find them, but I remember hearing that there's some sort of book out (maybe try googling)where you can get a scholarship just (as an example) for being Polish or Italian and some places give out scholarships for the oddest things. Good luck. My daughter wants to be a vet, and the school she'll want to go to Cornell is so expensive, if she doesn't get a scholarship there's no way we can afford it.
paying for college
I have two sons in college right now ...one out-of-state, one in a private university. They both end up getting paid to go to school because they have so many scholorships. Did the high school counselor help me find any....NO. We are in a small town and I got no help from the school or town. Neither one of my sons played any sports...but I will tell you what I found out...what is more important is that your child is involved in school and the community. They don't care if they have ever worked a day in their life...they want to know what they have done in school grade wise, and community wise. Even just ringing the bells for the Salvation Army at Chrismtas time will earn you a scholorship. I filled out over 56 scholorships for both my sons to go to school for free...you just have to learn as you go how to word answers on the scholorships. We are not poor but we are not rich...but we made to much money to get any FAFSA help.
college in Morehead
I went to college in Morehead in the late 70s.. it has grown a lot since then. . they are even getting a super Wal-Mart soon.. lol.
It is also title used on college and job
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college costs
DD just got accepted to the Pratt Institute, an art and design college in NY. Cost for first year including room, board, fees, books, etc., $48,000. I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Seems like a lot money to learn how to paint and make collages.
college was definitely wasted on me
First I tried sociology, then quit to get married. Then I tried nursing school but couldn't deal with it anymore, so I purposefully got pregnant so I could quit in my last semester of school (first trimester of the pregnancy). I'm just not smart enough for that stuff anyway.
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