how do you respond
Posted By: mtstudent on 2007-06-18
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A few times I've met someone from the same city I grew up in and I say I am from xyz area. They always say something like you are really nice or I can't believe that or something kind of degrading. How do you respond? I kind of get flustered and do not know what to say! 
I've met people from xyz area and we joke about living there. It's commenting on the conditions, not our personal character. It's not the same type of degrading comments like above.
This isn't a big deal but I would like to learn how respond!  I could just keep my mouth shut and think before I speak!  The first time it happened I was not expecting that comment. I was very off guard. I never knew people would judge someone based on where they were born/raised.
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Would never respond to my son
the way you did. I don't want this to turn into a fight. I just think that everyone is different and I wouldn't assume something about that way I choose raise my daughter is such a bad idea. Being a mother is the most underappreciated job there is. What is wrong with a little support/ or at least not thinking I am worried about my daughter getting pregnant?
I would have had to respond to her.
It's not like your friend or the daughters are world class athletes, so in the grand scheme of things, missing 1-2 classes isn't a big deal. Some people take things WAY too seriously. Yeah, I've got kids in sports and the coaches act like they're going to be kicked out of the Olympics if they miss a practice. Be there or be benched. Never mind if the kids are sick. Spread germs all over the place, but don't miss practice. And the coaches act as if the sports are more important than my other kids and my job. Little coach dude with the big mouth, I make way more money than you do! LOL Tell your friend that some things are more important than athletics, like FAMILY and ILLNESS. Some people have really messed up priorities. I don't know why they're having practice on a holiday week anyway. We've got games and practice all week. What if we had wanted to leave town to visit relatives?
Always respond regardless that the response is
Unfortunately, many people think if they don't respond you are supposed to take that as a "No". That is just bad manners. I once responded to a candle party with a "Yes" and the hostess even said, well I just put that on their. You didn't really have to call. Go figure.
We only respond to what you post.
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I disagree with you, won't blast you, but will respond...
In my opinion, the largest selling holiday of the year is Christmas...period. If these businesses want to peddle their products, then they ought not pull Christmas out of their advertising. That stinks. I don't think it was ever mentioned that ONLY Christmas be advertised. BOTH, Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays could be advertised together. But, on the Christian side of things, I think that they went too far when they tried to lump every other religious holiday together to try to be politically correct and remove Merry Christmas, which is a greeting that has been used for many, many years. Also, Christians don't try to push Santa Claus out of Christmas. Not every religious holiday falls on December 25th, so that in itself seems inproper.
You don't have to respond, just food for thought
Did I detect possibly the real reason that this is upsetting you so much? Did you have something happen in your life that you regret? Perhaps sex too early or with the wrong person?
Is your daughter responsible in the other aspects of her life? Good grades/work/etc.?
Unfortunately, as teenagers we don't always make the best decisions - I made some not-so-smart ones myself - but it is from those decisions that we learn more about ourselves. I know it's hard to watch someone you love going full speed ahead into a train wreck, but sometimes we have to. Unfortunately, I can't give you the secret to how to "detach with love" (I've found, like the poster above, that Al-Anon meetings really fit with every aspect of life, and this is something they say often). Again, I don't know how to tell you to do it. Once I realized I could not control my loved ones or their choices, it just kind of happened. Maybe just really think about why you are so disappointed and, if it has to do with a personal experience, maybe you should share that with your daughter. It may help her understand you better and vise versa. Best wishes.
Thanks for taking time to respond.
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okay. Willl not respond anymore. Thanks. Nm
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i meant to respond to you about the 2 year old
YEA TRUE STORY
those are the victims
it's really naieve of you to think that the only thing that happens when you smoke pot is you get hungry. it was a funny joke but overall certain situations are not funny
Amen! I was biting my tongue not to respond,
as it probably would have been in anger. And to have such a hostile spirit and then go quoting scripture. Whew. Does not give a good testimony, but you sure did. Thanks for saying it so eloquently and lovingly. The sinner in me also can't help but mention that the devil could quote scripture just as well as Christ. He was -- well versed --
yep, w/email today, no excuse not to respond!!
what channel, what time? I want to respond to that host in a negative manner
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