how can your husband not understand? play, read, tumble, laugh with the child
Posted By: do this every day on 2007-12-20
In Reply to: Me again! I am so frustrated, scared, and upset over here. I'm sorry, but sm - Mom
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just go, forget this child play and really, really enjoy ----
yourself without him. He'll change his tune.
If you allow this behavior and kiss pratt for it - you'll have to do that whatever and whenever the whim suits him.
agree with other poster - he he can't put himself aside for a couple of hours for your sake and the sake of the whole family...then it is he the problem.
I had to laugh when I read this
I can spread my toes like fingers and rarely pick up anything by bending over. When my kids have their friends over I am one of the sources of entertainment. The kids try to find the most bizarre things for me to pick up with my toes. Hey, at least I have some talent. LOL!
I laugh everytime I read those, especially the cow!
Priceless
Wanna laugh? My husband who is a know-it-all always says to me, just ask me sm
I can tell you the answer. So, while transcribing tonight I came across an ESL who mumbled,"Avapro ____ mg." So, I asked my know-it-all husband, "what doses does Avapro come in?" And his reply was, "Avapro for humans?" Trying to hold back my laugh, I said, "yeah, for humans." And he said, "I think 10 and 30 mg," but it depends on how bad the patient's rash is!
Then I looked over at him and we both started laughing hysterically!! He always watches ER and will yell, "Give the patient 500 cc of LANACAINE STAT!" Lanacaine like the itch cream on the commercials. He's probably thinking lidocaine or Xylocaine....haha
I maybe could understand if never had a child
but knowing your family history and then having to write a note in case you yourself incoherent at an age to explain is still SAD. If planned pregnancy with 2 other children already and grown, well can keep my thoughts to myself on that one.
Received this today. If you want a good laugh, please read....sm
 Why God made moms answers given by elementary school age children
>>> to the following questions:
>>>
>>> Why did God make mothers?
>>> 1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
>>> 2. Mostly to clean the house.
>>> 3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.
>>>
>>> How did God make mothers?
>>> 1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
>>> 2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
>>> 3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just
>>> used bigger parts.
>>>
>>> What ingredients are mothers made of?
>>> 1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and
>>> everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
>>> 2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they
>>> mostly use string, I think.
>>>
>>> Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom?
>>> 1. We're related.
>>> 2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's
>>> moms like me.
>>>
>>> What kind of little girl was your Mom?
>>> 1. My M om has always been my Mom and none of that other stuff.
>>> 2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty
>>> bossy.
>>> 3. They say she used to be nice.
>>>
>>> What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
>>> 1. His last name.
>>> 2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook?
>>> Does he get drunk on beer?
>>> 3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES
>>> to chores?
>>>
>>> Why did your Mom marry your dad?
>>> 1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a
>>> lot.
>>> 2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
>>> 3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.
>>>
>>> Who's the boss at your house?
>>> 1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because
>>> dad's such a goof ball.
>>> 2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff
>>> under the bed.
>>> 3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to
>>> do than dad.
>>>
>>> What's the difference between moms and dads?
>>> 1. Moms work at work & work at home, & dads just go to work at work.
>>> 2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
>>> 3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real
>>> power 'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at
>>> your friend's. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without
>>> medicine.
>>>
>>> What does your Mom do in her spare time?
>>> 1. Mothers don't do spare time.
>>> 2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.
>>>
>>> What would it take to make your Mom perfect?
>>> 1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of
>>> plastic surgery.
>>> 2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.
>>>
>>> If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be?
>>> 1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get
>>> rid of that.
>>> 2. I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my
>>> sister who did it and not me.
>>> 3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her
>>> back.
that was a LONG thing to read and not understand what is your question really about
I see the part you are asking are things black and white but you REALLY went on and on about your dad finding a job...do you have a question about what we think of that or simply just about your sister's actions and attitude? or joining the mormon church? Sorry but this is very confusing! I know i tend to drone on sometimes and i understand your frustration, but you are all over the place! have you confronted your sis on her behavior? i mean, if that's the problem that you are asking about?
I believe my ex-husband fathered a child SM
while I was married to him. Is there any way to find out online? I am a complete computer-phobe, so I have no idea where to start, or if I can even find out online, on my own.
If anyone wonders what difference is make, it really doesn't. I'm just curious.
Thank you.
My husband had a childhood no child should ever have to
endure. Both of his parents were alcoholics. He was passed from relative to relative, whoever happened to take pity on him at any given time and provide him with a place to live. When he did live with his parents, he was physically and verbally abused. Believe me, his past is very painful and I'm quite sure it's not a place he likes to revisit. He didn't finish high school. He dropped out of trade school. However, he shared all of that with me because not only am I his wife, I'm his friend. I, on the other hand, was raised in a very loving, very happy, Christian home. My father was a minister and for most of my growing up years my mother was a stay-at-home mom. I can't even begin to imagine a childhood like he had. There a lot of people who don't know all about his past, but I'm glad he trusted in me enough to want to share it with me. Once again, I'm glad my husband loved me and trusted me enough to share details (no matter how ashamed he was of them) of his childhood with me. JMO 
Anyone have tips on teaching ESL child to read? (sm)
I have been volunteering at my children's school once a week helping some of the children in my daughter's 2nd grade class practice reading. The children having the greatest problems are the English Second Language children and I have been working more with them, but one child in particular needs help and the teacher and I have decided that I should dedicate more time to him. In his home, his parents speak Spanish (he tells me) and he has two younger siblings. He is a very sweet, very popular child at school. The problem is he doesn't even recognize all the letters in the alphabet yet, even though he has been through kindergarten and first grade (how has he passed?). Trying to teach him the sounds that correspond to the alphabet has also been difficult, because he does not know the names of common objects/animals used to teach children alphabet sounds. For example, we have been making an alphabet book, cutting pictures out of magazines and gluing them to the page with the corresponding letter at the top of the page. He calls all large animals "elephant" and cannot remember from one week to the next that the "D" animal on his page is a "dinosaur" and not an elephant. He confuses letters like "e" with "n" when he is writing the name of the animal (with me dictating the spelling to him). I want to help this child so badly, but I dont' know where to begin.
sorry..that should read my husband AND I. too early. nm.
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by the way "band" was husband" sorry, so upset over this I did not proof read.
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I almost emailed my post back to you, but feared your husband would read this! so, here it is sm
I just came across your post on MTStars about the controlling mom thing and you and I are in the same boat when it comes to our kids and their dads. Wow. I could have written your post. Your husband sounds extactly like mine.. Mine is SO tough on them it makes me cry sometimes and they are 10, 4, and 2 - all boys! I am VERY laid back and peaceful and they come to me for EVERYTHING. They won't even ask him for a glass of milk for fear he will "retaliate." What do we do about husbands who slowly aleniate their children? It seems like you and I are a lot alike in that what CAN we do? If your husband is anything like mine, if you bring up his attitude towards the kids he gets angry, defensive, etc. I'm tired of arguing about the way he treats the kids. It breaks my heart. I, too, am so glad that the kids have me to love and dote on them and be the peacemaker around here. God forbid, literally, something happening to me. Can't even stand the thought. God is my only hope right now when it comes to the kids and their dad. He is a good man, a Christian, works 40+ hours a week, takes great care of us, but for some reason he likes to use his power to the fullest extent. Good luck
Should say the child found in Florida proved to be the Caylee child, homicide.
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If I don't read before I go to sleep I can't fall asleep. I will read sm
until I begin to fall asleep. They say reading relaxes you fully and it works wonders for me.
I used to suffer from insomnia, but not since I've been doing this - about 5 years now.
Plus, I've grown so much and have gained wisdom by doing so. I enjoy Christian books and reading the Bible.
How to get my CD to play
Okay fellow MTers, need some help on this. Have just gotten a new CD today from high school reunion and don't have a clue as to how to play on my PC. Insert it, blinks and nothing happens. What do I do next? Thanks in advance.
You should be able to play in on the DVD...
and record it on the VHS if it is both player and recorder.
I would play..
in the symphony or else would own a zoo, the only thing being at the zoo the animals would live forever, those are my fantasies.
I don't know how it will play out but (sm)
I'm so glad he's back!! (and as himself, not as Victor, Jr. which I was afraid of).
That won't play for me.
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play. Cat or dog?
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How do you play this? It looks like fun!
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Ah, I get it - let's play WHO GETS THE LAST WORD!
LMAO!!!!
Go ahead and take your little victory for the day - I know you're just itching to.
Can't wait to see your reply - and thank you for proving me correct in advance!
LMAO!!!!!
does he play sports?
Which sports does he like? Does he need equipment?
I would play it cool
If it's meant to be, it will happen.
You're not really sure he is interested. Your gut tells you he is, and he probably is, but if he is, he will definitely make the moves.
If you act to eager... well...
And, if you do call and he was just being nice with his note, then you'll feel silly (however, I'm thinking a handwritten note is pretty personal).
There are ways to let him know you're interested. Just a look works on must guys ;-).
Also, be sure he's not hitched as well!
Seriously, be patient. Just do a lot of "thinking" about him. He'll catch those vibes too, trust me!
Good luck, sweetie.
Don't play games (SM)
If you change the way you have approached this relationship just to test him, that is playing games and is unecessary.
You should be honest and ask him explaining that it kinda bothers you. If you can't communicate about things, the relationship isn't going anywhere anyhow.
Not calling him just to see how he will react is so high school people!
I'll play
Marriage - Great.
Lack of kids - I regret not having the energy, interest, selflessness, or hope and faith to have kids, but I have never felt the need to have kids. I think you are supposed to see your mom enjoying motherhood, and it appeared to me to be very unsatisfying for my mom. I can still remember the switch from playing with baby dolls to playing with stuffed animals instead.
Help with play date
About a month ago my I took my 5 yo swimming and invited one of her friends and her mom. The two girls played for a good 2 hours until another one of dd close friends showed up so she started playing with him. Well this upset dd little girl friend and she came to me saying "dd won't play with me. make her play with me. " I called dd over and said that we invited suzie over so introduce her to Joe and you all three play together. This just upset dd and made her mad at suzie. I was not sure what to do but suzie's mom said it was time to go anyway so they left.
Well, just yesterday MIL took me and dd golfing. DD met another friend and together they played. The went across the street to the playground then a friend of the other little girl showed up. Well, the other little girl dropped dd and started playing with her little friend. DD got upset adn said sandy won't play with me. I said well, I image you're feeling what Suzie felt when Joe came to the pool. DD just sat there mad. MIL said Introduce yourself to the other little girl. DD did not want to do that. Then MIL said well lets go play on the slide. DD went and played but she was still upset, she walked up to Sandy and said "I am not playing with you anymore not even at school." Sandy replys, "That is okay, I have a sister to play with." MIL told dd not to talk to Sandyl that she wasn't worth it and out loud too. (Luckily Sandy's parents were not there). I just said Oh MIL. I started talking to Sandy. I asked her if she was ready for school. Sandy and I had a nice little conversation. It kind of broke the tension between them. I am sure all is forgotten by now.
I was just wondering how other parents handle these situations. TIA
does anybody play Peggle?
I bought the full version. It's such an original game!!!
Sure, let them play the lottery..
Then, I think they should have to compensate their victims for the rest of their lives for all the heck they went through and will go through. If they don't want to do that then they shouldnt be allowed to play the lottery. They are criminals.
See link - play JM on your CPU
http://everythingoldisnew.wordpress.com/2008/06/05/a-night-to-remember-johnny-mathis-2008/
We did this play when I was in college sm
I was doing props and even backstage I had to be careful not to get too emotional about it or I would miss my cue. And that scene in the movie in the cemetary just makes me bawl. When I was 10, my aunt and 3-year-old cousin were killed in a car accident, and that movie always makes me think of her and her other child, who survived the accident. He is in his 20s now.
I play piano............. sm
but I think that would be a bit heavy around my neck! 
This is really nice. You do good work. Have you considered putting it on Etsy?
Happy Anniversary!
100% in accordance with you, our parents did not play
when it came to things like this. There are not that many kids who have medical issues to have to do this on a constant basis. I once had a child eating at my home that wanted to slurp their food and they were sent out to eat on the porch. I do not put up with this. I call to your attention and if you want to continue, then you suffer the consequences. How dare parents take up for this kind of action. This is why all these nanny shows on on today, how to handle the kids. Shame on all of you who uphold this behavior.
I think you're right - I did tell them not to play that way anymore (sm)
I told them they could hurt her and that they can't play rough with her like they do with me. I do wish she would understand that they are kids though. They haven't intentionally been mean and if they were, they would be in trouble!
Play luau BINGO
Use regular bingo cards and hawaiian colored markers - or pieces. Play for don ho recordings, leis, and coconuts
We play the dictionary game. (sm)
You can buy it, but all you really need is a dictionary, pieces of paper and pencils, and a bunch of people who are good at making stuff up.
The way we play it, not only does the person who chose the word and tricks people get points for each person he tricks, but anybody whose wrong answer gets voted for collects points too. It's hilarious.
We play also but call it Turkey Leg. It really is fun. nm
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he wants your attention; take an hour and play with him
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I think that's what happens when you play a "role" geared toward sm
satanic principles. He was filming the new Batman and played the Joker who was a murderer, satanic, without a conscience. It was said that Heath really took this role personally - keeping him up at night, only sleeping 2 hours a night because of nightmares and constantly "thinking about the role." He overdosed on sleeping pills.
Drat, there goes again, cant play video(EOM)
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Iced Tea. Work or play.
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Just to play devil's advocate...
there are many women who LIKE to play the victim, poor me, I sacrifice all the time role. IMHO, this is a lot of psychobabble designed by women to further their status as the downtrodden gender. No one can MAKE you not take care of yourself first; you choose to do that to yourself. It doesn't take a genius (or Oprah) to figure out that if you do for others all the time and are not taking the time to take care of yourself that you are eventually going to wear thin and fall apart. Too many women on anti-whatever drugs (anxiety, depression) who can't figure out how to go through day to day existence without mother's little helper pill. It only stands to reason that if you try to be perfect you will fail; something will be neglected in the long run. Deal with it, do the best you can and don't be a doormat. If you fill your face with junk all the time and are fat and don't exercise, that is nobody's fault but your own. If you try to do it all and don't ask for help, that too is your own fault. Women today have it much easier than other generations did. My mother-in-lawr raised 4 boys, worked on the family dairy farm, cooked 3 meals a day and cleaned every day and never thought twice about it. We are spoiled compared to that!
Can a kid with really bad eyesight play football?
My boy, Eddie, is seven years old. He has retinitis pigmentosa and gradually worsening decreasing vision. His vision without glasses is 20/200 and best corrected is 20/60. He does pretty well with baseball, especially after he had the bilateral rectus recession surgery and now both eyes are working together.
Tomorrow, however, is supposed to be football sign-ups, and I've been going back and forth about getting him involved or not. He's not all the way sure if he wants to do it either. I talked to some moms today, and they explained to me how grueling this five-day course of "conditioning" is. They described to me that most kids throw up from being overworked and go home crying. Doesn't sound like the best way for me to spend $45. He's not the toughest kid on the block, or any block for that matter, and I really don't know which way to go here. Any advice, football moms?
If he can play baseball with his vision...
he can play football with it. You need to see better for baseball.
Trust me, they don't have to be tough to play football. The first couple times they get hit, you can see how scared they are. Then the actually realize those pads really DO stop it from hurting...and some of our littlest ones turns into the most aggressive ones.
Football is hard work though, and the training is more difficult than the other sports. My husband coaches baseball, basketball and football for kids (12 and under). They do work a lot harder and they're pretty exhausted after football, but if it really is to the point where they are all throwing up and crying, you have bigger worries. You need a new program director!! I know that's not what you're asking about, but that's just not right for kids that young to be worked that hard. How can they possibly learn to love the sport from that?
Dr. Feel here, (not really a dr just play one on this forum)...sm
The only true advice I can give you without knowing you and your situation personally is if you love this man and it is a good marriage, talk to him and figure out the problem. Don't waste time being mad over something that does not involve you and him, or fix what is wrong if it does. My husband, whom I had been with for 20 years, was killed a little less than 2 years ago, and I would give just about anything to have him here to argue with about those sillly things in life or even the really important things.
I'm so clueless, I wanna play......how??? :( nm
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I saw a VERY sportsmanship play by the Steelers.
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As I said if you cannot play nice don't bother - sm
to comment.....I know I did a lot of things wrong...don't need salt poured in my wounds.
Is this a play on words from Auntie Em from Wizard of Oz?
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Two can play their game. Start nagging them.
Call them daily. Ask to speak to supervisor, then their supervisor, etc. You become the pest. It's not easy, but it may work.
You could hire an attorney, but try the above first. Good luck.
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