home invasion for me 2 weeks ago
Posted By: dnt on 2009-01-30
In Reply to: Yesterday on my break at our local mall when I - Did I dodge a bullet?
I, like you, always try to help out, give money to street people and try to be NICE. In your case I would have offered some money for a bus ride. Would never get in my car with someone I did not know.
Almost 2 weeks ago the doorbell rang at 3 a.m. (always a bad sign). I was sound asleep, as were my husband and son. I looked out the window and saw a kid (turns out he's 20) and opened the door about an inch and asked him what he needed. He burst through the door and began to beat me up in the livingroom. I was able to force him back out (sustaining a sprained wrist and a concussion in the process) and my husband heard me screaming and ran after him. Of course, we called the police and he was caught as my husband was able to get a partial license plate number. He was arrested, spent a few days in jail and is now out awaiting trial. We don't really know what it was he wanted - we live in a really nice neighborhood where these things supposedly do not happen. I am so thankful I was just able to fight him off - I'm 50 and have often wondered if I would be able to get the gumption to fight. I found out I could. For a week I was completely crazy about any sound outside and could not sleep. Also, don't plan on a dog saving you. My boxer-doberman mix who is quite fierce and barks at absolutely everything was asleep on my bed through the whole thing.
Anyway, bottom line, a warning. The policemen told me that, in studies, 99 out of 100 people will open the door in the middle of the night if awoken, so they suggested having a somewhat complicated lock so at least you'll have a few extra seconds to think before you open that door. We got a new lock the next day, but I can assure you, if anyone shows up at my door in the middle of the night, the cops will be called.
I have struggled with the same issues as you, "entertaining angels unawares" and all that, but I am so glad you did not get in the car with them. Just typing this and telling the story once again has gotten me all anxious again. I pray every day that the boy (and the men waiting in the car outside by the way) straighten up and turn their lives around. That is the most I can give them.
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
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Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
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Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
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It has only been two weeks, it will get better.
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Yes, used now for over 3 weeks and
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Only used them for about 1-2 weeks when they - sm
were newborns. Personally I don't think they should be used for long at all or they become dependent on them (tops 2-3 months when newborn). I know someone who has a 3-y/o who walks about with one in his mouth 24/7; can't understand him at all even when he does take it out of his mouth to talk, major speech issues I think because of it. I feel bad for him, angry with her for being lazy and not trying to get him to transfer his need for a security object to something less destructive. One of mines has a doll and blanket that are her security things, and the other and old teething toy that is a cat from Right Start with all the rubber "feet" cut off, still sleeps with it at 8, both are well-behaved and mentally developed kids with no issues of any sort.
I used to get one every 2 weeks...
I just called a local service and had 2 sisters come every other Friday. We paid them $75 plus $10 tip. We just now cancelled the service and decided to put that money in our savings account and do the cleaning ourselves:-) We had to get the house totally cleaned up anyway the night before, which was pretty stressful. It was good, though, for the year we did it. They brought their own equipment and dusted and cleaned the whole house except for the basement. We'll use them for parties like the one we're having this month, but that's it. Just check your local paper and call a few. Ask questions to see if they fit your needs. You can have them come every day if you want, once a week, every 2 weeks, or once a month, whatever you need. Good luck!
I have someone come every two weeks
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As far as what you should pay, I think the area where you live and the cost of living needs to be taken into consideration. I would expect to pay someone in New York City or Los Angeles more than I would pay someone in a small Midwest town, for example.
Just my two cents. 
I go to one every 3-4 weeks - sm
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I think just a few weeks at most ... sm
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I had a bag of those a few weeks ago (sm)
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Just ate there 2 weeks ago - sm
WONDERFUL!!!!! This is the third Emeril's we have eaten at. We ate at one in New Orleans and one in Atlanta and now the one in Gulfport (used to live in Biloxi, so we are trying to support their rebounding economy). We always eat 4 courses and are never disappointed. ENJOY! Worth every penny!
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That sounds like a wonderful vacation. . I'm taking off a few days too and I'm really looking forward to it.. Hope you have a great time!
2 weeks
as it sounds like routine blood work. If no call by the 23rd I would call the office and leave a message and then you will probably hear back on that Monday.
2 weeks?
I just had bloodwork last Thursday and I got the results on Monday. I guess it just depends on the physician/lab. They used Quest Diagnostics.
I am 43....just, B-day was about 3 weeks ago- sm
My DH is 6.5 years older than I am and dying to retire. He keeps telling me at 55 he is done. He will then go out and get a PT job somewhere, probably at $7.50 an hour, just to stay active and bring in some money. I want him to keep working until he is 62 at least then one kid is done college anyway, and we will be able to sock away quite a bit in the 7 years that we have no mortgage and have for mad money, home improvements, save for kid's weddings (they are going to get 10K each and that will be it--can do what they wish with it, but that is the gift--not going to be one of those nutty parents who blow $25K on their kid's wedding--I did it for 5K, everything including honeymoon in 1996, so can they). But in 5 years the house will be paid off (2013), as well as our loan to pay off his debt. I may or may not be done with mine at that time. So there is a goal and it will be nice to be out of debt then, though our monthly expenses now, mortgage, food, utilities, college funds, etc. come to $3400 a month---luckily combined bring in about $4300 a month currently. I go for testing on the 15th for an administrative asst. position for a neighboring county sheriff. Want the job but on the other hand don't want to change my current schedule, etc. But it would be nice to have a nice steady paycheck coming in.
I go about every 3 weeks when I can - sm
I did not go for like six months and just went about 3 weeks ago. I just go when I have a little spare time anymore which is not too often. I went initially because of a car accident, very stiff neck and shoulders, went once a week, then every two weeks, now when I feel like it. Since I had not gone for a while my spine was sore for a day or two, but it does make me feel better as I get so stiff sitting here working 6-10 hours a day. Need to start exercising too, I am sure that will help too. As for dissing chiropractors there are good and bad, there are the ones who rape you with all the different machines they put you on (been to one of them, racked up $800 in 3 days), or those (as a friend swears to) are called "straight" chiropractors who attended Palmer Chiropractic school, who don't stick it to you. My visit is $45, lasts 10-15 mins, and my insurance pays for the it, no co-pay for some reason. She ends up with $36 in the end and I do not have to pay the difference. But just tell him you will be starting to come in once a month or so from now on, what is he going to do, tell you to go somewhere else as the is unacceptable to him?
He will be in about two weeks (sm)
I am going through with the separation and in fact have signed a six month lease and paid a deposit and first month's rent, so no turning back now! Thank you for your encouragement the other day and everyone else too. I do know that what he did was wrong, I was just having some grief over the "dream" I had coming to an end. I went to a board on cafemom and talked to some others who have been in abusive relationships. Apparently it is very normal for anyone divorcing to feel grief and doubt, but from what I hear, I will be feeling much happier once I am out and away from the relationship. Thanks for checking on me :)
Usually I would think about 1-2 weeks,
especially if they sent them out. What did your doctor say about calling for the results?
I just had this 2 weeks ago... (sm)
It's called pyelonephritis, and yes, you need to go to the ER. If you can't take Levaquin, they might know of something else, but still.
I'm taking something that decreases my immunity (according to the ER doc - I had never known that about Plaquenil before), and I didn't go through the high fevers, but it seemed more like it was because my body couldn't fight back with a fever. It actually made sense when the ER doc explained it, which is totally weird because the ER doc was a jerk otherwise.
Anyway, I hope you feel better VERY soon!
Home sweet home.
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Home, Home, On The Range SM
where the beer and the cantaloupe play . . . where seldom is heard . . . .
What happens at home stays at home. (nm)
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She is home, by that I mean she is 1 mile from her home.
I am the one that moved away. My brother lives there, but she requires 24-hour nursing care right now, and he is unable to provide that for her. My son is graduating high school this year and I plan to move back to take care of her, but I just can't until then. I did tell the adminstrator that they have 24 hours to figure this out, and then we will bring in the police. I have also threatened to go to the media, and this facility has a very excellent reputation and is run by the Brethren Church, so I would think they might not want bad publicity. It is a pretty small town and this is one of only a couple of care homes in the area.
I told everyone at 6 weeks...
then waited to tell son when we had first ultrasound...
Ultrasound at 7 weeks?
Ack - I didn't realize docs were doing these so soon. There are so many variables in pregancies (and children) that I wouldn't be too concerned. But, after all the ultrasound horror stories that I have heard over the years, we skipped ultrasounds with both of our children. I had normal pregnancies and there was no reason to have one.
I measured completely different with both of my children through my pregnancies and with good reason, the first was 10 pounds 4 ounces, the second was 7 pounds 14 ounces.
I hope everything is fine, please let us know.
It is probably that engineer from a few weeks ago
the one that wanted extra cash because she could "type good." LOL
I started WW 4 weeks ago...
I actually NEVER cook. My kids are picky eaters, and they both are picky about different things, so we eat mostly TV dinners.
With WW, you can eat anything. You calculate "points" based on calories, fiber, and fat grams. You get a certain amount of points each day based on your weight. You also get 35 cheat points per week. If you are still hungry, you can earn points by exercising.
In 4 weeks, I've lost 6.6 pounds and I haven't felt like I was dieting even once. I wish I would have done their program years ago.
If you do cook, you can go on their website and use E-Tools to calculate points. You can enter your own recipe into the online calculator, and it will tell you how many points it is.
Right now they have a special where you don't have to pay the initial start-up fee and you get free E-Tools for $40 a month. That's what I'm doing now, and I plan to stay at it until I lose all the weight.
Good luck with whichever program you decide.
I have a maid come in every two weeks sm
She has her own business. I just lucked out - she advertised in the paper, I talked to her on the phone and then she came over and gave me an estimate and she seemed like a very nice, responsible person. She has been cleaning for me for about three months now and she does a great job and is indeed a very nice person.
I have a two-bedroom, two-bath house that is about 1800 square feet and I pay her $75 each time she cleans.
How much exercise have you had in the last 3 weeks?
The kind of exercise where your rib cage actually has to expand as far as it can go?
That kind of exercise causes relaxation, and relaxation is an antidote for anxiety attacks.
I was also helped by learning relaxation with biofeedback and I also take Effexor. Not everybody can take that though.
It's only been on the market 2 weeks
nm
Or eat the 2 weeks and get professional from here.
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I definitely needed him a few weeks ago.
Definitely HOT. What did you think of the season finale?
For the last two weeks I have been listening
to Christmas music in my car. Don't know why, but I was in the mood for some Manheim Steamroller, even if it is a little early in the year. I have to say that when I listen to the Hallelujah Chorus on this particular CD it makes everything that is wrong in my life seem so insignificant. I love this group's music. It just makes you happy.
Merry Christmas, a little early! 
I think about 6 weeks is the norm sm
My first and last both wear able to newborn size about 6 weeks. I probably would have upped their size sooner had I not had so many newborn diapers. They were both about 7 pounds at birth. My second child was 8 pounds 6 ounces and didn't wear newborns for more than a week.
I would definitely get the size 1 instead of the newborn. Of course, you could always call the new mom or maybe the grandmom and ask. But I agree that it's better to go up a size and have to wait a week or 2 to wear them than to get the wrong size and not be able to use them.
yeah i second that. it has taken 2 weeks for me
to get video games for my kids before. The holidays will make it take longer too!!
bloated after 12 weeks...
I got bloated somewhere around the end of the first trimester/beginning of second trimester. My pants hurt me sooo bad. I got some really uncomfortable stomach pains because of it. I finally had to break down and buy a couple of pairs of maternity pants. I was far enough along that I knew it was going to happen (buying pants) at some point in the next couple of months and it did not matter. Comfort is #1 in pregnancy, and if you want a pair of pants you can go out in and not feel embarrassed about, get some prego pants. I still wear those pants I first bought in my third trimester.
Really odd. I had a cold about 3 weeks ago and got another one now and a lot of
other people are having the same problem. This is very unusual for me to have this happen. Not much fun! I really dont get around many people at all so I have no idea where they are coming from.
I'm currently 8 weeks preggers
with my second child. I don't recall having major swelling problems with my first pregnancy. I would suggest laying off any and all salt and taking it easy and keeping those feet propped up until you deliver your baby girl! Congrats, BTW.
Mom has been in hospital for 2 weeks.
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10 weeks of summer
We have always scheduled 5 weeks of the summer for the kids and they get to choose 5 weeks for themselves. I guess we are the weird ones...
I'm pregnant - 5 weeks along, 1st pregnancy....sm
My husband & I are thrilled that we conceived so quickly, especially with my being 43 and him being 50. We got married in June and started trying then. His 15-year-old daughter and our 6-year-old foster daughter are excited. Next year will be fabulous as we'll be finalizing the adoption of our foster daughter in January and having a baby in June!
Ihaven't had a *Friday* in 3 weeks!
going back a couple weeks....
anyone remember when - forget his name - sang * geek in the pink * ? I LOVED THAT....have downloaded the original to my iPod BUT he dedicated it to his grandma and after he sang it, Paula asked him if his grandma would know what geek in the pink means and he just shrugged.
Can someone tell me what * geek in the pink * means? I am over 50, have asked my youngest, who is 25 years old, and she did not know. Figured SOMEone here could clue me in before I go around the neighborhood jogging and singing it out loud!!
TIA Idol Fans!!
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If you are leaving for 3 weeks, take them to a kennel and sm
pay for daily care. They need more than food and water, they need attention and loving and daily petting, and exercise. Bless you for taking them on, but don't desert them now.
I lost mine at 11 weeks also
after trying to get pregnant for 17 years. I was the same way with the due date, as well as the date that I lost them (twins). It was really strange because on the due date (that I didn't even realize at the time) at work I was so emotional and just felt like crying over every little thing, then I realized what day it was. I don't really know what to tell you because what got me out of my depression was we adopted a 1 and 2 year old a little over a year later, but everyone is different.
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