hmm
Posted By: sm on 2008-05-16
In Reply to: What do you do? sm - lying spouse?
I think a lot goes in to this. When my husband and I were first together every little thing bothered me. I told him upfront that honesty was a big thing with me. He'd lie about the smallest things and I would be furious. I came to understand over time that many things do not matter, whatever the reason for the lie, it just did not matter and was not worth the argument. I also came to this conclusion after realizing that we both have "baggage" and that impacts or actions (right or wrong, it just does). Now, with that being said my husband has never told what I would consider a major lie. Nothing hugely financial, job related, women, where he is at. He mostly just tells "white lies" that are really insignificant. That doesn't mean that I don't call him out on it (just with a casual comment like) but it does mean that I don't hold it against him. I mostly put it to a "male/female" thing. I think women's minds works differently than men's.
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