has he been tested for ADHD/ADD/autism?
Posted By: curious...but I have NOT read the entire thread.. on 2007-12-19
In Reply to: Me again! I am so frustrated, scared, and upset over here. I'm sorry, but sm - Mom
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I'm sorry, but the kids already know about ADHD -
ADHD has almost become the "norm" in schools now, and the teacher announcing that did not tell them anything they did not already know. When my son entered first grade, the first day the teacher shook her pockets of her jacket at me, you could hear pill bottles rattling, and asked where his medication was. He was not on medication, but it seemed as if the whole rest of the class was.
I have 3 nieces and nephews who are on some form of medication for ADHD and also a stepdaughter who is on the highest dose of everything they can possibly give her. They are neither embarrassed by it, nor picked on about it. It is just as I said normal.
Do you have him on medication? If it is not controlling his behaviors, maybe you need to talk to his physician and either up his dosage or change his medicine if it is not working.
My son has ADHD and is 18 years old............. sm
It does get better, I promise, with a lot of hard work and understanding into his condition. I did have my son on medications for a while just so that he could sit still long enough at a time to get some kind of education. Through behavior training and much repeating of instructions, etc., he did learn eventually to control most of his hyperactive times and was better able to concentrate on the task at hand. Trust me, I know how monotonous it gets repeating things over and over again in order to get your child to do something, but this is all part of the behavior training. It is necessary to create new pathways in his brain that will better respond to the instructions you give him. My heart goes out to you because I have BTDT and have the T-shirt in every color.
Here is something that I found on the internet many years ago and printed out and hung in my kitchen to serve as a reminder to me that my child needed my special care and attention and it helped me tremendously. I hope it will help you as well.
"HELP ME TO FOCUS"
Please teach me through my sense of "touch". I need "hands-on" and body movement.
"I need to know what comes next." Please give me a structured environment
where there is a dependable routine. Give me an advanced warning if there will be changes.
"Wait for me, I'm still thinking." Please allow me to go at my own pace. If I rush, I get confused and upset.
"I'm stuck! I can't do it!"
Please offer me options for problem-solving. I need to know the detours when the road is blocked.
"is it right? I need to know NOW!" Please give me rich and immediate feedback on how I'm doing.
"I didn't know I WASN'T in my seat!" Please remind me to stop, think and act.
"Am I almost done now?"
Please give me short work periods with short-term goals.
"What?" Please don't say "I already told you that."
Tell me again in different words. Give me a signal. Draw me a symbol.
"I know, It's ALL wrong,isn't it?" Please give me praise for partial success. Reward me for self-improvement, not just for perfection.
"But why do I always get yelled at?" Please catch me doing something right and praise me for my specific positive behaviour. Remind me (and yourself) about my good points, when I'm having a bad day.
"I may be hard to live with, and have ADHD, but I still have feelings
and would have never chosen to hehave like I do sometimes."
God bless you in your journey to help your child.
Those are great for any child not just those with ADHD sm
I disagree with the poster above about trying to turn them into men. My son is almost 12. He is a child, not a man. He needs stronger guidance but he doesn't need me to make him suddenly grow up. I really like the list you gave. Good reminders! Thanks
Better those than liar, cheater, retard or ADHD.
Those are just a few of the choice names that teachers have called my kids in the past. And my kids are all well-behaved honor roll students. I'm not stupid, I know they're capable of misbehavior. However, I have one kid who wants to quit band after five years because the teacher called him a retard. Now all the kids in the class call him retard, too. It's become his nickname. He's to the point of wanting to hit people who call him that. Frankly, I hope he does. I got nowhere calling the school on it. Since when did it become acceptable for teachers to call kids "retard?" Even if it was a joke, it's gone way too far. What do I have to do, home school or put him in private school? Now he's being harassed.
I think teachers use honey or sweetie because they can't remember all the kids' names.
Son's teacher tells his classmates he has ADHD...
My 12yo has ADHD diagnosed since he was 5. He is now in the 6th grade and is having an extremely difficult time with his peers. He is being picked on terribly, excluded from groups, bullied and harassed, always when the teacher is out of sight or has her back turned. She knows it is happening but doesn't always see it because they're sneaky. Last Friday was a worse than usual day for my son and the teacher actually witnessed some of the students being rude and mean to him. My son left the room to use the bathroom and while he was away the teacher announced to the whole class that he has ADHD and to stop picking on him. I know this is a fact because I asked several of the kids and they confirmed it. The teacher called me at home tonight to explain what happened and why she said it. She said she was so angry at the kids for the way they were treating my son and in a state of anger (the kind when you can't even think of words to express your emotions) she told them he had ADHD and his annoyances and behaviors are sometimes out of his control so stop picking on him. She basically read them the riot act. I realize she was trying to help and defend my son but even she admits maybe she made things worse. My son told me today that somebody called him "sped" for special education. I hurt so much for what he is going through and don't know what to do. Isn't ADHD protected under privacy and confidentiality laws? Did she violate my son't privacy or am I making a big deal out of it. I am having a meeting with the teacher on Wednesday and need some advice on what to do next.
Anyone here really know about autism?
I met John, Kelly, Jett and Ella when Jett was only about 8 or 9, and actually heard Jett converse.
He spoke clearly, and quite appropriate to the topic at hand. I saw nothing unusual about him, to be perfectly honest.
Could autism develop AFTER that age? I admit I know nothing about it, other than there are varying degrees.
But at the age I saw him, he appeared to be a normal, even a bit precocious, 8 to 9 year old boy.
For the record, the Travoltas are wonderful, gracious people, who treat everyone from maids to CEOs with dignity and respect. No attitude whatsoever. They're definitely NOT typical Hollywood people.
Thanks for any info anyone has.
Worried about autism.
Hey everyone, I was just hoping someone with experience in autism can either confirm or shoot down some fears for me. My mother says that she is 90% sure my son has autism, and although we have had concerns before she mentioned anything, the doc said a couple of months ago to wait until he is 2. He is 22 months now and his next appointment is next month. This has really been worrying my spouse and I recently and I was just hoping for some input.
My son shows some definite red flags, but at the same time seems perfectly normal. For instance:
RED FLAGS: (1) His speech is pretty delayed. He will say "uh oh" and "daddy" and a few other words, but nothing else really and it is near impossible to get him to say any of the words he knows with prompting. He babbles jibberish constantly, however. (2) Sometimes it seems like he is ignoring us, but this is usually when he is occupied with something else. Sometimes he will look at us to his name, sometimes not. It does appear that he is deaf at times. (3) He never points at anything that he wants or is interested in. He will either get it himself or drag us by the finger to whatever he wants. (4) He lines objects up. They are never in any particular order or color and he doesn't get upset when we mix them up or take away one of the objects, however, they are usually the same type of object, ie. cars, dvd cases, blocks. (5) He won't give kisses or hugs when asked, however, does without being asked every once in awhile, hugs much more than kisses. (6) Compared to other children, he seems very behind in listening and really interacting with others.
NORMAL BEHAVIOR: (1) He loves other people and children and will often act silly if someone comes over to our house, showing off. He will bring out toys that he hasn't played with for awhile. (2) He isn't afraid to look us or others in the eyes and always has a ready smile. (3) He loves to cuddle and has no problem with it unless he wants to play. (4) If one of us pretends to cry or if he accidently smacks a friend who is his age and they cry, he will look concerned and give them or us a hug (and a kiss if we are lucky.) (5) He plays with his toys for the most part how they should be played with and gives his favorite stuffed bear rides in his trucks. (6) He has no problems with schedule changes and loves to go places different. (7) He has no repetitive movements with his hands or body, at least none we have noticed.
After actually listing these things, I feel a little more at ease, however the red flags are pretty strong and are very apparent on a day to day basis, especially his speech. I'm thinking he is somewhere on that spectrum at least. Thanks for listening as this has been the cause of some tears lately.
Autism Walk
Hello everybody,
I'm going to be walking for Walk Now For Autism on Sep. 20th of this year. It is a ways away but since this is such an important subject for me i'm trying to get started as early as i can. If you'd like to check it out, register yourself in a city near you, or donate, you can check out my website on their website:
http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian
I appreciate your time,
Tanya 
Autism website
Hello everyone.
I am a mother to a 7-year-old little boy who has autism. I've had so many conversations about autism and being a mother with a son who has autism that i've decided to start a blog. There are so many mothers out there who feel alone (i'm one of them at times) that it'd be nice to read other peoples thoughts and feelings on the topic without it being sugar-coated. Here's the website if you know somebody with autism or just want to read what it's like at times.
www.autismwho.blogspot.com
Autism Speaks
Hello,
I'm doing a walk for Autism Speaks on Sep. 20th in Mn. If you'd like to check out my page it's: http://www.walknowforautism.org/minneapolis/team/teamderrian
Any donations are greatly appreciated in this battle for a cure or even info as to why this is happening! Let your family, friends, or anybody you can think of know of this great cause and you can help just by getting the word "autism" out there and educating people person by person.
Thanks!
I have also heard he has autism
It has been stated there were very little verbal skills if at all. Still a tragedy no matter what problems he had. He was loved by his parents tremendously. As far as the "lover" rumors, they have been going on for years. Not saying they are true or not, I have no idea. BTW, does it really matter?
Being as autism discovered in 1943
sorta puts this theory to rest, doesn’t it? Years ago people with retardation, problems with autism not talked about, hidden by the families. In 1943 infants were not overpowered by vaccinations so nah, don’t hold vaccinations responsible.
Your son has ADHD, probably combined type along with opposition defiant disorder in a nutshell...sm
Been there for 14 years. Tantrums, fighting constantly with younger brother and sister to the point of injury, i.e. kicking, punching, slapping, throwing hammers, knifes, hard soled shoes, scissors, you name it. He is wonderful outside of the house. He is considered a very nice boy who is very well mannered and a hard worker (as he likes to do yardwork. That part of it is the ADHD at work). I knew something was wrong when he was about 1 1/2 years old and his sister came along and he started hitting her right away. Everyone from teachers to counselors told me it was all my fault and that my son had found a great way of manipulating me. That is...until the fourth grade when two weeks after school started a miraculous thing happened. His teacher called me in to say something was terribly wrong and that she suspected ADHD. I got the referral for testing with a pediatric neurologist and he was diagnosed with ADHD combined type (the hyperactive part), oppositional defiant disorder, and a learning disability. It has been a tortuous 14 years, I can tell you that. I have four more years to go and although I love my son more than words can say, at the age of 18 HE IS OUT THE DOOR!!!
Have you been tested for -- sm
mono? also have your thyroid checked. This could cause those symptoms, as well. also, try using 1 tbs of honey mixed with 1/4 tsp of black pepper several times a day. It may sting, but if it's some type of infection, it works. get some rest. good luck.
early detection in autism is tantamount!! AHDH too
get him to a professional......before continual spanking of him which is far more destructive than ALL_OF_YOU getting some professional help....will pray for you!
Remember this.....if you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten.......
evidently whatever you're doing IS_NOT_WORKING.....
No autism experience but - he sounds pretty normal (sm)
My children talked pretty early but some of their friends who seemed delayed to me at the time are fine now (10 & 7 years old). My son has never been affectionate when asked and is not a big hugger, never has been, but he is in gifted classes and has lots of friends and when he does decide to give me a hug, he means it and it's special. It is so easy to get an idea in your head and then without meaning to, find things that seem to fit your worst fears. With your mother saying she is "90% sure" that has to make you worry even more. But the fact that he acts silly at times and is concerned whenhe hurts his friends are good signs. And many babies have "selective hearing". Please try not to worry too much - and also - this probably sounds ridiculous - but be sure he does not have wax impacted ears - I say this because this was the case with me in first grade - my teachers thought I was mentally impaired - until everyone realized I couldn't hear - and it was just from wax! Once that was taken care of - I became an A student. It could be just some little thing that needs to be looked at. One friend whose child seemed very delayed had the child checked and she actually had fluid in her ears and needed tubes. The child was almost 2 before she walked! and it was because her balance was off from fluid. Anyway, I'm just saying that if there is anything wrong it could be something minor so try not to panic :-)
He has been drug tested....
for his job. I don't think that drugs or alcohol are involved. We have considered it, but I just don't think that it the problem. I certainly would never let him drive with my son if I was unsure. I just don't know what it could be. It would take a book to write down all of his issues. The sad part is that his father dismisses it all because he does well in school and he is premed, but he just lacks any sort of personal character. Being smart does not make you a good person and he is just not a good person. I am still so sick to my stomach about this. I feel like I am a bad person, having mothered this kid for 13 years and now I am just ready to wash my hands of him. I am dead serious about that and it makes me ill. I pray to God that I don't ever have these feelings about my son.
Tested for lyme?
lots of Lyme disease where I live. Some of the same symptoms you listed, aches, fatigue.
Have you been tested for gout? - nm
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Have you been tested for mono?
I had mono before and at the beginning stages of it I had a killer sore throat.
I had to go get drug tested today for my - sm
bus substitute driver job; they provided the car for us to go the clinic. Apparently they normally take the white car, but today we took the red car because the white one was being held as they found drugs in it last week. Kind of funny as it is a county car used only by the school employees; and mainly to go to drug tests. How un-smart is that? They still don't know who is the guilty party as the car had more than normal traffic in it last week. Guess they will figure it out though, I bet everyone that has been in that car for the last 2 weeks is getting drug tested; if you test positive you are immediately fired.
Have you ever been tested for food allergies?
What is the one thing that you have at each meal consistently? A drink? Some type of bread?
Start keeping a diary and after a couple of weeks, show it to your doctor to see what he/she thinks.
I am randomly tested for my bus driving - sm
duties. I get one day notice then have to show up at the testing place with a few other drivers and we either get alcohol testing (breathalizer) or a drug (pee) test, or both. If you test positive, you are immediately fired. I don't have a problem with that as I am responsible for other people's children and certainly would not want some alcholic or stoner driving my kids.
I'd leave him and get HIV-tested ASAP. sm
In this day and age, if a wife cares anything about herself, she had better run in the opposite direction. With HIV going around like the common cold....more than ever, a wife just can't afford to take chances.
sad we have to battle the school system that we pay for, but has she been tested for dyslexia? sm
sounds like a repeat of my daughter who is now in 5th grade and it has been a battle every since. in fact, i posted message on here few months ago regarding her. she also has dyslexia, which is quite common and sounds like your daughter may have too. we had it in our family so i knew she had it given her symptoms. school says they can't test til 3rd grade. hello, who can catch up when they are that far behind? i fought it enough i finally got someone to say, we can test earlier if the parents' request it. so they did and it has helped her tremendously til we moved this year and now she gets a "video" dyslexia class that sux and doesn't help. i am not sure how to continue battling it from this point. at her prior school though she went from failing to A's and B's with dyslexia help and extra time on assignments, verbal reading, etc. with her IEP.
Hope the baby can now be tested to find out who the father is.
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My husband is drug tested on a regular basis
for his job, just took 1 yesterday. It can be at any time, when he is arriving or leaving work and being as he has a responsible job, I am totally all for it as he is.
Is she on BC pills? Hormones may be contributing now. Tested for food, gluten, other allergies? nm
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