haha! I think you hit it right now b/c "It's just money!" is my
Posted By: Vacationer on 2007-07-14
In Reply to: vacation - MNMT
husband's fav. term! haha
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Let me guess, the 15 yo says, "It's not fair!"
I can hear it now, because I have three teenagers and I've been working with teens for years. I wish I had a nickel for every time I've heard a drawn out exclamation, "It's not faaaiiiirrr."
My opinion: The 15 yo doesn't need more clothes, the 8 yo does need the long sleeved shirts. Therefore, it IS fair to spend money on one and not the other. It wouldn't be fair if the older child received something he/she does not need simply because needed items are being bought for the younger child.
Kids are very poor judges of fairness when it comes to getting "stuff" that they want. They have a hard time discerning between what they want and what they need, and a good many of them have no real appreciation for how much effort parents put into earning money and providing for their children. The kids just want, want, and want.
You are the parent, you are the judge and jury when it comes to decided what they need and what your budget can handle. Here's an opportunity to really teach fairness.
And if the kid continues to whine about it, turn your back and walk away. It takes two to argue. Give your reasons for your decision ONCE and walk away. Don't be manipulated, or your child will learn to be a manipulator.
Now, if the 15 year old wants to go and earn money OUTSIDE of the house, or do some out-of-the-ordinary chore that you are willing to pay for, say clean the garage. That's another good lesson. Work, earn, achieve. But I don't pay out cash for regular everyday stuff that has to be done simply because we all live together. When you do that, then it's hard to get them to do regular chores if a child doesn't need money.
Hey, invite me to give an opinion, and that's just what I do!
"It's A Small World After All" --
Ever gone to Disneyland and stood in the long line outside of the Small World ride? They play the song about 4 million times, and that's before you ever even get in there and get into the car, or boat, or whatever it is. By the time you're halfway through the ride, you'll feel ready to jump out and run screaming for the exit. Not to mention having the rest of your day at Disneyland tainted by that song running through your head hour after hour.
So then, at the end of the day you attend the Main Street Electrical Parade, and the theme song for that one is even more insidious and intrusive on your brain than Small World!
Still worse is the fact that it's written to run in counterpoint with "It's a Small World", "Zip-a-Dee-Doo-Dah", and just about every other well-known Disney song. So NOW your poor brain has multiple, unstoppable songs bouncing around the inside of your skull, possibly for DAYS.
Yes, those songs are EVIL -- probably some form of "Disney Mind Control"..........
"It's the thought that counts" - sm
Anyone who thinks enough of you to give you anything at all, deserves a heart-felt 'thank you'. All it means in the end is that they gave you something to let you know you mean something to them.
When I was a kid, a girl I knew had about 30 friends she wanted to give a holiday card to, and only had 15 cards. And no money to buy more.
So, she tore each card in half, and gave each half to all 30 of her friends. Sure, you got a printed message that either said,
'Merry Chr-
an-
Happy Ne-',
or else you got one that said,
'-istmas
-d a
-w Year'.
But each half had a personal, handwritten holiday message to the recipient on it, and we all treasured our half-cards as much as if they'd been whole, because of the person that gave them to us.
So, it really is the though that counts!
As you said in post "it just boils down to lack of disipline
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How much money rasied for Katrina, how much money for the diasters due to the tidal waves and what?
Every single one of them have had some smoke around it with the money not getting to where it was supposed to go. I did not contribute, I hardly watched, was not caught up again as I have seen things like this before. They should give a all you can give benefit for Darfur where people are being massacared each and every day. Genocide going on there each and every day. I have not seen any benefits to help them out yet.
But her money is her money to spend as she pleases -
I don't understand how you can think it is wrong for her to spend whatever she wants to on whatever she buys. It is their personal money they spend. It is not like they are saying give me those shoes and add it to the taxpayer's bill.
And in all actuality, they are saying spend, spend, spend to get the economy going.
I am sorry, I am jealous that some people still have plenty of money to spend and I don't, but I don't expect those people to quit spending just because I had to.
Haha...exactly. :O) NM
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haha
I laughed so hard when i seen you say "googly eyes" lol.
I always find it hard to watch people that think they're so darn sexy and it's like you have got to be kidding me!
I think the girl that was a backup singer is really good but without being mean it's hard to watch her too because she has no neck!
haha!
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No, I wish! haha...
Just a lady who comes and cleans once every 2 weeks.
haha -
Does he not give you access to the $?
I would just go and get new tires. That is very dangerous. If you have to set up your own checking account and get your money dd in there or buy your own PO Box.
Apart from the tire issue you need access to $ if you don't have it now.
HAHA
i liked that so much i posted it on my personal blog
HAHA!!! you got that right...
haha!!
Im not embarrassed to answer in my PJ's... but I DO feel like I have to take my bathrobe off (which is what i cozy up in over my PJs in the winter time)...
:)
Haha! I like that, maybe you should tell him!..nm
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yep, he's a boy, haha....
and he's starting to hike up that hind leg when he goes, BUT, in the apartment, he only goes when I don't take him out for hours, which was the case, for example, last 2 weeks I had the flu and sciatica pains hit at the same time, I was MISERABLE and could hardly bend over to get the leash on the poor little guy, and getting up...gah...and I was so wore out I would literally lose track of time, so I admit the few accidents he has had lately have been because I haven't taken him out.
I dont use piddle pads anymore. He made it easy for me to get rid of them, he started chewing up unused ones to play with for some reason, so I stopped using them. I only have 1 room in the whole apartment now that has anything to piddle on, newspaper, and that is in the utility room, which is the room he stays in if we are gone a lot during the day so he won't make a mess. He will scratch on the door to the utility room. The other times he goes is just accidents, unless there's a blanket on the floor, he will piddle on a blanket on the floor, or piles of laundry on the floor (like in my son's room), but otherwise he hasn't messed on anything. I do plan to get him neutered, but had to wait for the financing thanks to my crappy old job (which, btw, is why I had the name "goincrazyquick" haha, related to my last job). I've since found a new one and after 3 months of in-house training I'm back at home, so now I can get the puppy back on a schedule, myself on a schedule, and get the puppy scheduled for getting him neutered. :)
My cousin has 3 of her 4 dogs pomeranians, and one is a pom mix she got from a friend who found him. she has no problems in her home with 2 males and 2 females, but she said if he's not truly marking territory indoors, which he isn't because the accidents have only been here in the last 2 weeks where I was sick, or only if there is a blanket on the floor, otherwise no other accidents indoors for months, then he should be ok as far as not marking territory indoors. If the person who I got him from is correct on his age, then he turned 1 year beg. of January. Finally have the money to get him fixed, now just have to remember to get that appointment set! I started working midnights, haha, so my time is all out of whack.
I hope the OP is able to get her pup potty-trained too! :)
OMG! LMBO!! haha
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haha.. nope. they don't but they may
during teenage years! LOL. TOO FUNNY!
or maybe I'll just second it (haha) (nm)
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Haha! How about irregardless? (nm)
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Who knows, it's been so long - haha sm
I had a microdermabrasion done at a dermatologist's office - and it was expensive - and then when I realized I was expected to tip I was offended!! I guess 15 or 20% though....lol
who's divorcing who? HaHa - nm
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haha! My 5 year old wants to know: Who's driving and what are ALL the
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Yes! Can you see 3 of them? And they are expensive, too. DH HATES it! haha nm
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what? get in your face? that's why i started with HAHA
i suppose this is the trouble with typing you can't hear my tone. I certainly was not "in your face" and i thought my last paragraph about you never know was not derogatory or rude or anything
im sorry if it came off that way, not intended.
Um, YES and YES?! Haha. Also some of those meds have been found sm
to cause prostate enlargement and I believe prostate cancer.
haha, do you think I could pick up the accent?
or is it instilled in childhood??
haha
and i think i will be driving through there whenever i move back to Nevada!!
haha, my boyfriend was just telling me about this....
Less than 2,000, but the cost of living and such there compared to here, wonder how much it would be if they sold it around here? But, it has no air bags, uses "adhesive" instead of welded on parts, I wonder how great and safe of a car that would really be?
haha, I agree with you on those points! sm
I can fall asleep with my music in my ears. Only issue I would have is if they talk loud enough to be over the music, or if a movie is playing during the long flights and you can't hear the movie because they are talking so loud, otherwise I don't see it being a big deal. What I don't get, though, is they always made it sound like it interferes with the radio controls or something to have wireless laptops on or cell phones. Guess that was just another story they tell to get you to do what they want, lol.
haha, re-read what I typed....
and I realized the part to the OP, the first sentence didn't make sense, I didn't back up far enough, haha. I'm tired, shhhh, lol. I meant to delete the part "I think if you have a health reason" and just start with "I don't think you can..." Hope that makes more sense.
On that note, I'm going to sleep, haha.
HAHA! LOL! OMG! This is hysterical. I laughed at both, but yours made me cry. nm
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Haha...too cool. My fave was Jordan. NM
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HAHA! See, would never work with us. We are both cheap leaders sm
I don't like him telling me what to do and he hates taking instruction from me, so we sit here in a 25 year old home with nothing getting done because we're too cheap to hire and too stubborn to work together!!!!
Haha!! Some days I wonder!! LOL funny answer - thanks! (nm)
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Haha - I thought the same thing, the first time I saw
Who is Lee, and is he/she REALLY "perfect"?
Inquiring minds want to know.
Has anyone here trained (haha!) a cat to stay in backyard?
This is a long shot, but here goes: I adopted a 1-year-old cat from the pound 6 months ago. The original plan was to keep him indoors but a couple of times he got outside; however, he stayed in the backyard. Unfortunately, he trained me to let him out for a couple hours a day and started wandering beyond the yard. For right now, he is indoors only but it is pitiful watching him stare out the windows and meowing. My last cat trained himself to stay in the backyard and never wandered. Does anyone know of any tricks to teach this new guy?
Please do not criticize me for letting him out. I am well aware of all the dangers but I do not live near traffic or dogs other than my own, and he is only out for a short time, comes in when I tap on his food dish. He obviously does not use the neighbors' yard as a toilet--a well-used litter box is a testament to that.
Thanks for any ideas.
a baby man....lol....haha!!! another good point! sm
my self esteem is really pretty good. Just that my heart is sometimes bigger than my head
Haha! I'd have gone out one night and spray-painted
a great big ol' laughing yellow SMILEY-FACE on the pavement at the crash site!
HAHA... YEAH... I can just see our county jails filling up with (sm)
scores of pregnant women who (gasp!) CLOSED THEIR EYES during the *mandatory* video-viewing.
Haha... the above typo proves I haven't had the caffeine yet!
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Buy her a few good Joyce Meyer CDs. that ought to shape her up! HAHA
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I would like to add, my parents (both closet hermits) haha - traveled the US sm
for a year trying to find their retirement home. My mom is originally from MA and my dad from VT. For some reason or another they did not want to move the NE. No desire at all! I personally would have loved it if they decided on the NE so I could visit more often.
In any event, Alaska was their choice, hands down, because of the privacy (from other family members), plus it affords them with all the wilderness they can handle. My dad has already caught his first black bear (it took him weeks) and he just loves it.
Okay, I'm done rambling about AK. Good luck in whatever you decide!
Haha! Hubby-Prozac sounds like a plan! - nm
haha - I've seen a penis or two in town, but golly -
LOL!
Sure thing - can't wait till next week (no life- haha)
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No, but I love that my neighbor's mini yorkie is named ZEUS! haha nm
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Just got this at the library for our kids: Wacky Wednesday! Remember that book? haha nm
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Haha! Mine spells their names wrong - and they have very common names! (nm)
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You are right on the money here...
What great advice!!! I too did a lot of what you have listed in your post. It worked!!! When rules/expectations are in black and white, it's pretty hard to argue about it...
My 2 teens do their own laundry, clean the kitchen after supper, clean their bathroom, and now that they both work, buy the majority of their "things."
The key, I believe, is responsibility. Kids thrive with responsibility. They may moan and groan about it, but in reality, they thrive with rules and responsibility. Good luck!!! 
She is right on the money about that - sm
As I said in my post above. The discipline at our former (private) school was a joke. Luckily the majority of the kids at this school are good kids, but there are a few bad apples that would never be allowed to get away with what is tolerated at this school. The nutcase (or strangler) in my daughter's former class at the private school would have been expelled by now from a public school. Amazing what they will put up with for $6K a year and an alumni mother. Oh, and of course they have no type of a counselor or psychiatrist at the private school, no nurse even. They had a real cow when Jenny was in chemo and dealing with that. But that is another story.
Money.
Money or a gift certificate to whatever craft store they shop at when they get supplies for the kids. You can also donate money to the teachers "account" at school and it's tax deductible.
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