grandchildren
Posted By: Pearl on 2009-05-08
In Reply to: My favorite memories were living near - Silly Girl
My husband grew up grandparents in same town. Mine were in other states. My mother and in-law did not have the grandma gene. My only grandchild is two days away and I hate it. She is only 18 MO and does not know us. Plan to move closer when hubby retires in six years.
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Two youngest grandchildren here tonight. They love breakfast for supper. (sm)
Will do bacon, hashbrowns, a frittata, biscuits and juice. If their mom gets here in time for supper will do gravy for her biscuits. The kids and my husband don't care for biscuits and gravy. (Go Figure).
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