forgiveness

Posted By: MTqueenB on 2006-11-23
In Reply to: What makes some people forgive so easily and others not so easy? sm - anon

You are letting her control your life. Never let anyone do that - take responsibility for yourself and use your power to forgive her. You CANNOT make another person do or say anything. Her forgiveness of you is not in your control but it sounds as if you have already done your best to forgive her.

At the get-together, greet her and if she doesn't pick up on it, so be it. Move on to other relatives and make it a pleasant time for yourself.

Good luck to you. You have a generous heart and you can handle this.

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What makes some people forgive so easily and others not so easy? sm - anon
- I wouldn't send it and this is why . . . - sm
  - Ya'll are just too kind and sweet. I am having a hard time thinking "I'm the better person& - me
    - PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm - me
- forgiveness - MTqueenB
- I would write an e-mail sm - Just me
- Sounds to me like . . . - Mimi
- Forgiveness is something - l
  - Agree wholehearedly. You have - been there too

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Forgiveness is something
we chose to do. We have the power to give or receive forgiveness. The question is, after doing all that you could possibly do, can you forgive yourself for past indiscrestions and move forward. In this situation, you do not need the forgiveness of others to validate your own kindness. Be patient, be kind, do not return evil. Most of all, know that you have tried - and that is all you can do.

This is all about forgiveness and letting go

Obviously your husband has some deep hurts and a lot of anger. Forgiveness is the key. I know it's a lot easier said than done but it benefits the person doing the forgiving, not the "forgivee". It doesn't mean he is condoning what was done to him. Maybe the stepfather is doing the best he knows how, who knows. We all have our issues. Your husband does need to work on his anger and not bring the kids into it though. Prayers for your hubby and your family.

I agree that forgiveness is overrated
nm

I beg to differ. Forgiveness, even Biblical terms, can
only genuinely happen AFTER the offender repents for having hurt/offended you. Forgive and forget is just a wimpy nonconfrontational thing. The only way one can feel true forgiveness is if the other party repents. One can make informed decisions and move on, but forgiveness is not one-sided, though it sounds all warm and fuzzy.