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I wish I could explain this more - (it's probably in one of our mental health reference books!)  I believe that no one ever showed her sympathy as a child and taught her to be very suspicious and untrusting of other people.  I believe she feels if she shows that she cares, she'll just be disappointed anyway, so why bother.  It causes one to put up a wall, just like the other poster said.  This really resonated with me when I read it.  Because of myself also being brought up this way, it's sometimes hard for me to let anyone else in too, and I have had to teach myself empathy.  I sure am doing my best, and very obviously, to teach my children empathy by using life examples and modeling the behavior myself.

I'm so sorry about your son.  If you want to talk about it on the board, we're all listening.  XX

for those of you who still DO NOT GET IT.........

I think you'll like it.  Do not get discouraged.  You should really only lose 1-2 lb per week.  Just taking the attention to the portions is a great step.  Also, drink the water if at all possible.  The exercise is good as well, but this need not be structured or even at a gym.  Exercise around your house.  Take the long way to do things.  Park further in the parking lot (be safe of course), walk around your kitchen when you're cooking.  Getting up the heart rate is most important!!!  I think you'll like Weight Watchers.  Feel free to keep in touch, would love to encourage you some more!  Well wishes to you...  

You are very brave - a lot of people would be afraid to speak up. As I was reading your post, I kept thinking about a prayer I read when my son was little:

"Dear Father, hear and bless Thy beasts and singing birds
And guard with tenderness small things that have no words."

Sounds like you are His eyes and ears and hands down here on Earth.

One of my grandsons is home-schooled.  Two are public-schooled.  The home schooled one is doing very well.  The two who are not are in deep trouble (one is in 1st grade and the other in 3rd grade.  The 3rd grader has been held back twice.  All the school does is complain about him, say he cannot read (he can read at my house) and plague his mother with their frequent phone calls and meetings where they try to place the blame on the parents "lack of helping enough with their homework"  (since when do first and third graders have two hours of homework at night - that is crazy).  The 1st grader is doing okay, but barely.  When my own kids were young (I have 3) my son would have really benefitted frome home school, but at that time the state of California made that impossible.  I went through so much with him and with a nephew (my sister-in-law and brother-in-law spent 800.00 a month on special reading and tutoring classes and that was back in the 1970s and 1980s.  That is the only way he did well, and the tutors agreed with the parents that there was nothing wrong with him or his ability to learn, that it was the school's lack of teaching to the individual that was the problem.  Lucky for him that his parents could afford the tutors.  Psychologist's don't know everything (and I am an old Psych RN and have met a lot who were probably attracted to the field because they were formerly psych patients  .  As a grandma who lives with her home-schooled grandson who is in the fifth grade now I say hooray for home school! It feels really good to know that he gets taught in a way that works best for him and his mother.  If the psychologists are worried about "group interaction" just take her to martial arts classes.  Since when were schools the only place a child could interact?   Martial arts is good exercise and it also has worked wonders with ADD children and I've seen that first hand.  It is helpful with self esteem and helps children work on their ability to work with others as a team.  My home schooled grandson can interact with anyone anytime and we get tons of compliments on his behavior and he is delightfully happy.  Every year we ask him if he would like to change to public school, private school or continue with home schooling.  His answer so far has been homeschool!  My other two grandsons who go to public school are much loved, but there is defnitely a difference in their behavior, their attitude toward learning, and their ability to get along with others when compared to their cousin.  The public schools are not what they were when I went to school - I had wonderful teachers and obtained an education that was second to none.  Alas, this is not the 1950s anymore and the public schools prove that to me every day in every way.  Go to some websites and check out the curriculums.  See what is out there.  I recommend Calvert's great curriculum.  Good luck! 

white collar workers only *ROFL* - what a small minded troll she is too....oh well, seems like  personal problem to me but then y'all have to stop feeding the troll (her).    she is also enthralled with herself *HAHAHAHA*......

Well, seems to some of us (me-me-me) that  she probably, in that neighborhood of only white collar workers) is low gal on the pole - she IS her own trash.....