dying tradition would refer to the new generation
Posted By: it doesn't matter how long you have been marrie on 2009-01-02
In Reply to: I have to disagree. Marriage is not a dying - wannie
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Sure did. It's tradition
We go shopping the day after Thanksgiving every year. We went out fairly early, and the store at the mall we went to weren't bad at all. Got a few things for the kids and then did our traditional eating lunch at our favorite Greek Restaurant. We were actually out of town at my parents (only an hour away). When we got home late this afternoon we decorate the house and tomorrow off to get a tree.
I would refer the poster to look down
the page where she on this date asked my friend again when we were going to take this to email, and stated she found it more odd than cute. Don't accuse me of trying to start trouble. She responded to an email that my friend submitted to her. I think the subject was I feel sorry for you, or something to that effect, then the post again about it being odd under that. Then mine which starts out PARDON ME.
am a Christian, but it is really a tradition
of man; the Bible doesn't tell us when Christ was really born, and doesn't authorize Christmas as a Christian holiday, tho it still has a religious flavor, it is certainly not a religious holiday in the strict sense.
I love the way you refer to everything as
YOURS rather than OURS. Did ya get a prenup, too, so when hubby takes off for a less materialistic woman you'll be left with YOUR house?
Believe it or not, the very fact that you keep referring to everything as YOURS as opposed to OURS says a lot about your relationship with your husband.
Poor dude. I hope he opens his eyes (or at least checks the bank account) soon! I have far too much self-respect to use my husband or anyone else to get what I want in life. I prefer to get what I want through hard work. It's a matter of pride. But, aside from your TRACT HOUSE, you apparently don't have a whole lot of pride in anything.
Reading your posts is making me feel increasingly blessed and thankful with my life, so keep on posting :-).
I love the way you refer to everything as
YOURS rather than OURS. Did ya get a prenup, too, so when hubby takes off for a less materialistic woman you'll be left with YOUR house?
Believe it or not, the very fact that you keep referring to everything as YOURS as opposed to OURS says a lot about your relationship with your husband.
Poor dude. I hope he opens his eyes (or at least checks the bank account) soon! I have far too much self-respect to use my husband or anyone else to get what I want in life. I prefer to get what I want through hard work. It's a matter of pride. But, aside from your TRACT HOUSE, you apparently don't have a whole lot of pride in anything.
Reading your posts is making me feel increasingly blessed and thankful with my life, so keep on posting :-).
Have your doc or NP refer you to a urologist NOW!!!.....
I worked for a urology office for 13 years...you have what sounds like pyelonephritis or something worse. THe sooner it is treated, the better. If your doc can't get you in, go to the ED. They can usually get you set up with a specialist right away.
Please let us know how it goes. Will keep you in my thoughts.
It's a tradition with us! Only have a 1/2-hour ride. nm
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They are adults and can handle it. After all, this is the tradition
with your husband's family. If they don't want to go, then let them stay home. Surely they were aware this is what your husband's family does on Christmas Eve before inviting themselves to spend the night. Don't ruin family time with your family and your husband's family.
aebleskivers - they are yummy and a tradition
My hubbie likes his with Lingonberries and daughter likes sausage in hers
Lil man (2yo) likes them any way he can get them.
Christmas is always done with Swedish fixings Lefse and all
whatever the tradition, tolerance works
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We refer to this as Kamikaze squirrel season.
Hope I spelled that right.
you're right, sorry. I like your posts, any that refer to love of animals
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"Tone" post not just for this incident/moment. Refer
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Hey, nice to meet goombas here! Love the fish tradition Christmas Eve!
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i think it MUST be a generation thing
if my husband used body butter from B&BW, i would have to ask him what the *** he was doing. i stick by my story - it sounds weird to me.
my husband has dry skin and uses Lubriderm lotion which is not frilly, just gets the job done.
in the shower he uses a body wash and a bar soap. but he doesnt spend time in there, just washes and gets out. he would not think of taking a bubble bath.
I think nearly a half generation did that too *lol*
Don't forget the next generation
will be at it sooner than you'd think, LOL.
lately? these stories have been around before this generation.
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I probably would; I know too many people in this generation
that had the virus and now have infertility issues and can't have kids. May be a gift in disguise.
meant *my* generation......
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unbridled generation--sm
It is not the school's responsibility to discipline the children...it is the parent's responsibility. The school is supposed to be there to *educate* our children, not discipline them. Parents these days all have to work and therefore are not so involved in their children's lives and upbringing, but that does not mean that it should be put onto the school to take over, or the government, for that matter. This child's parents probably had no knowledge of her even having a blog on MySpace or what she said, for that matter. I will admit what the child said was inappropriate and that her *parents* should teach her about respect, but suspending a child will only hurt the child and not help her, and probably make her even more resentful of others, particularly teachers, in the future. We are giving too much control to the schools and the government concerning the raising of children these days. IMHO
I'm not the younger generation and I don't sew either
I'm 46 and with the exception of a button here or there, I don't sew either. I also don't iron. My mother did all of those things, it just never trickled over to me. Now, my daughter can sew a few things and her best friend has her own sewing machine and sews quite well.
what a snobby generation...
My dryer went on the blink..my reprman says that my new one is delayed abit in transit...okay..so I wash and now I say to my men here in the house..I want a clothesline...my son almost fell out of his chair and says to me...Mom! you can't be serious!!!...you might as well put in the front yard!!!...yuck!! Excuse meee?!!
Since when is a nice looking clothes line such a taboo?...I mean its just for emergencies...you can make one pretty and descreet...
How many here still have use of a clothesline on occasion?...jeesh I'm going to get a dryer...
I can see where city and town ordinances might frown upon them...but heck...my house is nice and neat...no neighbors...granted won't be hanging up underwear....lol...
Those under 30 are the gimme now, I want it now generation....
they are the ones who will suffer because of their instant gratification needs. They spend too much, charge too much, have to compete with each other and think the free ride will last forever. We over 30 (more like 45) have houses that are almost paid for, no debt at all, money saved in the bank, don't worry about having the newest car, latest technology, biggest house, etc. In our case we have very nice electronics, clothing, vehicles, all paid for and buy what we want when we want with cash. I think we are headed to a depression, my own personal opinion, and the younger generation will not be able to deal with being told no, you can't have everything you want just because you think you deserve it.
What if he's dying right now?
Something more TERRIBLE is happening tonight. That poor dog may be bleeding to death internally or already dead and because you're a coward to tell them or even make an anonymous phone call and you ASSUME the police wouldn't help. They absolutely WOUD go to the address and tell them if you made an anonymous call, if you don't have the nerve to face up to it. This is 2007. People have a clue about animals. Well, most of us do....
It does not matter people whose fault it was to that dog. It does not help him to exchange blame. If you have to play those human games, then do it later, after he's helped. If he doesn't have tire marks on him, how are the owners even supposed to know if he's hurt? It's not like they can talk, you know.
This make me sick. I work rescue. I see and hear worse every day, but it just eats at my soul to know somebody is sitting there "feeling horrible" and "doing nothing" to help God's creature.
dying
I think it is a normal phase kids go through. My 5-year-old started talking about death last year. When I watch medical shows on TV she is very interested (which is great), but it also scares her. She is afraid of heart disease now because of a show I was watching. I try to explain it to her also, but she is still stuck on the whole dying/death issue. I really don't know what to say, other than keep talking about it and hopefully he will become more comfortable with it.
what do you say to someone who is dying
A life long family friend has cancer and chose not to take treatment. She is in her upper 80s. She has other ailments and was once very active but now all she can do is stay in bed and hurt which is why she chose to let nature take its course. The doctors only gave her 3 weeks to live. She lives with her son, he never married and is in denial.
This woman lived next door to my grandparents and I used to love to go over there when I was little. She had a little dog that I could play with. She had a piano that she would let me play on. She had tons of jewelry and I loved to go over there and play dress up. She has been good to my mom. Mom lost her house and she gave mom a place to live which is a trailer house next door. To me that was a big thing as she always kept her stuff neat and nice and picture perfect and mom, Gosh I love her, is a slob.
I am thankful for this woman and she will hold a very special place in my heart but I really don't know what to say. I don't want to be unrealistic but I don't think that talking like she is dying would be right either. I don't know what to say if that topic gets brought up.
I'm a child of the greatest generation.
That's what we now call the generation that came through WWII. My dad had been a medic with the 82nd Airborne. He never talked about it much, but by studying history I knew what horrible fighting the 82nd endured. To see the pictures of those poor guys on last night's episode broke my heart. I even looked for my dad and cried a bit.
I grew up in a small town, a very close-knit community. All of the men my father's age had been in the war, my uncle, my dad, my friends' fathers. They were an amazing bunch of men. The others who were left at home told about life here in the US, the rationing, the stars hanging in windows, the terror of seeing the Western Union delivery man on his bike riding through town with the notices that loved ones were dead. Later, when I was in high school and college and studied the war, I'd ask my neighbors and family about what they knew back then, what did they know while it was actually going on. They never felt any animosity toward the government for withholding information. In their day, they didn't say the government lied to them.
You have to remember the context. This was a global war, people were sure that spies were everywhere, and in those days information was not immediate, as it is today. Why did the government not tell the American people how badly its fleet was damaged at Pearl Harbor? Because the Japanese were listening to the broadcasts, too. So by concentrating on the fact that carriers were not hit and were out to see at the time of the attack, the government was hoping more to mislead the Axis countries than our own, and to bolster the faith of the American people that we could win the war. Remember, the U.S. was not perceived to be a world power at that time. And, the war had been going on for several years before we were involved. We held a strong isolationist position while Hitler marched through Europe well before Pearl Harbor was attacked by the Japanese.
Certainly, government secrecy would not be tolerated by the public today. That changed with Vietnam. News still traveled slowly in those days. It took two weeks for film to travel back to the U.S., be developed and broadcast. We received news very slowly in those days, and that gave the government more time to slant information. And today, the average person on the ground has access to mass communication. We can read blogs from Baghdad, listen to podcasts from around the world, and see news broadcasts from other countries via satellite.
Satellites, internet, cable technology have made the world smaller, and in a way, we can all "see" what's happening. The secrecy during WWII was meant to preserve the integrity of military intelligence. It was meant to keep up the morale of the American public, it was meant to mislead our enemies who were listening, just as we listened in on their broadcasts. It was definitely a different world in those days. And of course, I think the public was more forgiving of this secrecy, because in the end, we won the war. The lying that went on about Vietnam was such a different matter. The war went on for so long, and we weren't told how badly things were going. And with a mushy objective, eventually we were all fed up. The lies of the government were revealed. And of course there was Watergate. There's nothing like finding out that your President was in on a deal to break into the offices of his political opponents to shake your trust in politicians in general. Especially when such a thing had never happened before, to our knowledge, at least. From then on, the public attitude shifted toward a government versus the people perspective. It's definitely a different world now.
I just think this younger generation just needs to be taught! sm
I am a woman in my 30s. Got married almost 10 years ago. I lived up north for a long time and married a man from the "true" south. Okay. Here I go - and I may get flamed for this, but here I go...When I lived in NY, I NEVER saw a thank-you note or even saw anyone in my family write one. Never. So, I was never "taught" that you write thank-you notes due to my upbringing.
I think it is a cultural thing. Maybe it's even a socioeconmic thing. Yes, we were very poor growing up in NY. Both my parents made around 26,000 combined with 3 children.
Fast-forward. I move down here, meet this amazing guy with a large family - most have money - lots of it - we have a huge wedding - I receive more gifts than I could even count - met people at my wedding I've never seen before in my life - the southern generosity has been overwhelming, and still is. We go on our long honeymoon and when I get home, my MIL calls and says to me, "Mrs. so and so (from the wedding shower), still hasn't received your thank-you note. Maybe you just forgot to send hers out. In any case, just thought I'd let you know! EMBARASSING! So, I pulled out my thank-you cards that came with my wedding invites and began writing thank you notes. That is where the LOVE of writing thank-you notes and just-writing-to-say-hello notes began. I LOVE doing it now. Love it. My family up north and around the country are amazed.
Here again, I was TAUGHT by my new mother-in-law, so to speak, and she did it in a very tactful manner.
Writing notes is just an amazing ministry and I love to do it. I get them printed off and personalized now with either my initial or my full name. You can get them on ebay, they will print 20 of them for you with corresponding envelopes for around 10 bucks.
Anyways, this was my experience.
He was trying to instill in the next generation that women
The guy sounds like a real JERK.
the younger generation will be the heros
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yBUKRAE2O9c
Maybe you will be wise elder, but you won't be the hero, the kids will be.
I wish I just new someone who sewed :)) Seems like a dying art
and what a shame! I don't know how many times I have said in the last 20 years... 'if only I knew someone who could sew!' I can do buttons and great at hemming tape and have sewn in the past but way too frustrating for me!! Good for you!!
My grandmother is dying also
She and I are not exactly close, we live across the country from each other and always have. She was never very nice to my mother so I had a hard time getting close to her. My brother and I are the only family she has left and of the 2 or us I am the only one that keeps in constant contact with her.
When I do talk to her I reminisce. Not about our times together but about when she was younger. She loves to talk about herself.
If this woman feels like talking do that. Or maybe she just feels like listening and you could tell her how much you enjoyed playing her piano and playing with her jewelry. Just let her know she made a difference in your life. You don't have to outright talk about missing her, but I know she will get the message and I am sure it will bring her some comfort.
consider the source - this generation of 20-something advertizine geeks.nm
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Thanks for the posts on my furkid dying
I posted on the 11th and my little girl, oh she went by several names, Kitty-Kitty, baby, sweet lamb and my little girl, but actually her name was Emerald, died at my home the next day, Saturday 1/12/2008. She was born at my home 18 years ago and how I loved her. She had some ID keys that she wore on a collar and everytime I would go to the powder room or the kitchen, she would always come in, when I returned home here she came with the little keys sounding off. Now the quiet is almost deafening in my home. I have 2 other furkids (cats, both males) my husband gave to me, knowing Kitty-Kitty was older and when she died the others would sorta soften the blow. Nah, I love them but she was my baby. My daughter claimed her but "let" me have Emerald when daughter married because she knew my heart would break if she moved her. I went to the vet the day before Emerald died and asked if I thought she was in pain, was there anything I could give her - he told me a baby aspirin every 3 days and also if she were not sleeping, could give children's benadryl to help her rest. I never felt she was in pain and I held her Saturday morning for about 4 1/2 hrs telling her I loved her and she could go, knew she was sick and had been for several weeks really bad. I made her comfortable, covering her with a light blanket on a pillow and she died later on that afternoon. I dug a grave for her in my yard so she would never have to really leave her home. I will always treasure her love and the joy she gave us. What a wonderful girl and she was just my little girl.
my freezer/fridge is dying
Like an idio t, i thought it was my imagination that stuff wasn't getting cold enough or frozen hard enough in my fridge/freezer so i haven't said anything to the manager of our townhous complex. around Wedesday I noticed my cool whip wasn't frozen. Now my "frozen" fish sticks are softer and easy to break. Are they safe to eat? what happens if a "keep frozen" food gets thawed out? Is it still safe to eat?? The office isn't open until Monday and he probably won't get here until Monday afternoon at the earliest so what do I do with all my food in the meantime??
I have to disagree. Marriage is not a dying
tradition. My parents just celebrated their 63rd anniversary. My husband and I celebrated our 30th anniversary this past June, so no, marriage is not a dying tradition.
I'm more afraid of dying before I have a CHANCE to get old. nm
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Sometimes, though, it helps the person dying to know sm
you have accepted it and they can go on. My dad held on until my mom said I'll be okay without you, I know you cannot go on any longer. He died within the next few hours of my mom saying that to him. We, too were in denial, and I believe that is why he hung on so long. Tell her what an impact she had on your life and how much she has meant to you and you will love her forever. Is she right with Christ? Does she believe she is going to heaven? In my grief class after my dad died, sometimes you don't have to say anything, just a "meeting of the hearts." Just go over there and see her and let whatever happens happens. Let your heart lead you.
It's the images of dying people that get to me.. you must be out of the loop
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I hear you- I had a friend dying of AIDS
that I lived with and helped take care of so he could die at home. There were times it was so stressful and uncertain that I would sometimes wish he would just die already. I felt like the worst person in the world for feeling that way but now I realize I am only human and I did the best I could.
I have a friend who called me to say her 34 year old son dying
this past week. I was shocked but this is a kid who has never hardly worked, looked to his mother for most things- she is on retirement and sucks the life from her. He is in ICU with cirrhosis, liver and kidney failure, started on dialysis yesterday. He has sat at home, not working, something wrong with all the jobs, but now he did have a girlfriend who worked part-time. My friend tells me he sat on the couch just drinking until he could not get up but continued just drinking, not eating, everything tasted like cardboard, he said. Well you know who was taking him the beer, right? The mother of course. Last Thursday my size 4 girlfriend had to carry her son (who was 60 something lbs) out to her car and rushed him to hospital, he stopped breathing, been on vent since. This is a mother who does the above, gives all she can and runs herself out to help her boys (34 and 34) but she thinks she helps. She has almost helped him into his grave - oh he is still very, very ill and may not make it. BTW, the girlfriend is now at the hospital begging for gas money to go back and forth to see the boyfriend and yet the mother has no real income of her own. She feels like she is an excellent mother also. Really sad to see this and so irritating at the same time as she really does not get it, the damage she is doing (has done).
My heart is heavy -I think my older cat is dying
It is hard to type or even see when your eyes are brimming with tears. I have had this girl since her mother first showed up at my door pregnant with her about 17 years ago. She is a purr girl and she has been sick, had a stroke which she recovered from but now a couple of months later feel like she is living on borrowed time. Not in pain but seems to be sorta stuporous, will respond when I call her name by looking at me. I have hand fed her water (ice water which she likes) and also she took very little in in the way of food. I called my daughter to see if she wanted to come by tonight after she gets off from work and she said absolutely. I hated to tell her at work but so afraid this ole girl is not going to make it much longer. She has trouble getting around so I am her legs now. If she needs to go to the bathroom, I will take her there also. I have her laying on 1 of my fav sweaters now in my work room, held her lots last night and today also. My heart hurts.
My oldest furgirl is dying and I am crying
I have just called the veterinarian's office to see if there was anything they could give me to ease her pain, should she be in any which I do not think is the case. I have had her since she was born at my home so it is almost unbearable today. The vet had told me about a week or so ago that her organs were probably failing due to some lab tests she had. I gave her some water with a syringe and even tried feeding her some this morning as I do not want her to be hungry nor thirsty. She is laying on a blanket and I have a cover on her. Besides my having her put down which is really hurting my heart- she has been with me all these years- is there anything I can give her so she is not having a painful death and I just don’t know about it. Thanks everyone.
Thanks. I think mine is slowly dying. It sometimes gets a reddish tint all over it and I think the
refresh or whatever it does through the different colors isnt working right. I do shut it off when I am not working but I am usually working except at night. I paid a decent amount for this so thought I would get at least 3 years out of it.
Guess talking with dying aunt over daughter just shouldn’t happen
Yes I did say disconnect (have thought about that for some time just due to the excessive amount spent on land phone though and daughter suggested disconnecting also to save $$$) the fuss was the fact about others assumming something. I took what I considered to be the more important of the 2 calls- basically I talk with the daughter every week several times and the aunt - well what would most do?
Dying girl denied more time with imprisoned father - please sign the petition (sm)
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/Have-Mercy-on-Jayci
This child is 10 years old - this is national news, not a hoax of any kind. This child was healthy six months ago and now has very limited time to live. Her father is imprisoned and her dying wish is to spend more time with him - which is being denied. Please go to the above website and sign the petition asking the Nebraska prison system to honor her request.
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