does your future son-in-law sm
Posted By: mb on 2009-06-17
In Reply to: I am not Catholic and maybe this is how it is in all Catholic churches, but I have to ask! - SM -- I am steamed!
go to church each week. If not is he getting questioned like your daughter. I am Catholic and go to church every Sunday. I know from hearing family members that a priest will not marry you unless he has proof that you are going to Church each week. The envelopes are the proof. The priest does not want to marry you in the church just because your Catholic. So if your son in law does not go to Church he is at fault also. My DD is getting to another Catholic next year. She became very relaxed about going to Church. They registered back into the Church once they got engaged and waited six months before contacting the priest.
Some of what you said seems like it is the priest and not the Catholic religion. I would contact another Catholic priest and see if he feels the same. The bad part is if your daughter is probably getting turned off by the Catholic religion before she gets started. She will have to sign a paper promising she will raise her children Catholic. My daughter told me that there is separate paper work to fill out if you are living together so most people do lie. She does not live with her fiance. Also after they get married in the Catholic Church and then stop going most priests will not baptize the children just for the sake of it if the parents are not going to take the children to church. All this is really a shame because the Catholic church is turning a lot of people away. Good luck and give us any updates.
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