did it cross your mind that if sm
Posted By: wondering on 2008-12-17
In Reply to: Because he is trying to get 50% custody (sm) - anon
you sty you are abusing your child and setting yourself up to be hurt? Get out now ND worry about it later. If he has been doing this for years why don't you already have enough proof? Have you been doing the wishy-washy thing all along? There is no excuse. You re no better mother than he is a father and husbnd if you continue to keep your child there.
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Did it ever cross your mind that HE'S using YOU as a meal ticket?
So now it's you that has more money than the younger hubby. Hmmmm...food for thought, but perhaps I was off base earlier and it is, in fact, YOU that is the meal ticket in that power-couple relationship of yours.
Better stick with that guy for as long as he'll tolerate you. Today's younger guys like their women independent and enjoy EQUAL relationships.
If I were you, I'd peek into his cell phone on occasion. Ya know, just check the incoming and outgoing call lists. He might already be shopping around for a less expensive model, something that requires less upkeep and doesn't consider community property 'hers'.
No you cross a bridge to get there - not far enough out (sm)
to warrant a ferry or plane. But it is truly surrounded on all three sides, and you couldn't wade or swim across...lol. It is a port town, and they have a huge shrimp boat festival there every year with all sorts of artsy vendors and such. There is an old saloon there called the Palace Saloon which was supposedly the old hangout for pirates and smugglers who went through the area. Here are a couple of links if you are interested in reading or seeing pics :)
http://www.tcpalm.com/tcp/travel/article/0,2547,TCP_1041_5116693,00.html
http://www.fbfl.us/index.asp?NID=54
I hitchhiked cross country twice when...
I was a teenager....and survived!
No way...driving cross country just as..
we do every year. DH and I take the month of May off for vacation and drive a Ford Explorer. Yes I have a large vehicle and no I don't feel guilty about having it It comes down to being economical in other ways. We use a credit card for the whole trip for gas and hotels, etc and get a 5% rebate. The vacation money is already put away in the bank so when we get back I just write a check for the bill. We have some of the highest gas prices here in the west and always figure it is a treat to head east and watch the prices drop a bit.
Someone once cross-stitched a beautiful
personalized picture for me that I will always treasure. She put it in one of those hoops and I hang it on my wall. Something personally made by you like that would be special but I also agree with flowers and a nice card like the other poster said.
I love cross stitch, to look at. I don't see well enough to do it myself sm
but I sure think it is pretty and there are several things I would love to have for my house. I could translate them into English smocking, which I can well, and put them up. I have a couple of Pullen pleaters and that helps. I have a baby dress for my mom's reborn doll I am doing right now and she wants that smocked.
The older guys, unless cross dressing
or otherwise, would never think of burning candles just like they would not take bubble baths. I think your sexual preference is whatever you want but I do not, for me, want a metrosexual (I want facials, skin care, pedicures - you get the picture) man. As an older woman, I just like total masculine myself for a hubby, don’t want to second guess why he is using my makeup, candles, fingernail polish and the like. Any time you have to guess like the post did, there is probably more underlying than you see on the surface.
If you cross your eyes, they'll freeze!
My mom told me that if I kept crossing my eyes, they'd eventually freeze into that position. I believed her, but I was a defiant little girl, so I'd stare at her and cross my eyes just to push her buttons. I figured that I might have at least one more freeze-less eye crossing in me to make her mad, and if they actually did freeze, then I'd just cross that bridge when I came to it!
By the way, I'm 45 and she's 77, and my mom is still telling me that if I cross my eyes they'll freeze that way! And I'm still crossing them just to tick her off! :)
I moved cross country from Nebraska
to Phoenix. It was the best time of my life. I actually lived in Mesa and the cost of living was suprisingly reasonable. I had a really nice condo for around $700-800 a month, 2 bedroom, with it's own laundry room, covered parking, etc. I worked in Phoenix and the highway I took wasn't all that bad from what I was expecting. I eventually moved to Scottsdale, but the cost of living there is fairly high, but beautiful. I loved Phoenix because it was just hours away from the Cali so I could visit the beaches on the weekends and also just hours away from Las Vegas. It's a great place to be single and I made so many new friends there so quickly. At the time, I was also single and no kids. It's supposedly the best city for singles. Good luck on your search. I envy you a little bit as I love traveling myself...
Hitchhike cross-country and get outside of my office
I would go from state to state and have a great time! To bad I am older and married.
Red Cross told me excessive tea drinking could cause anemia.
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Several 2 and 3 day trips and DH and I take all of May off and drive cross country...can't wait!
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If you don't mind me asking, did you take the
mega-B vitamin pill every day or just when you felt the symptoms? My former OB/GYN basically dismissed me as "it is part of life", but she did suggest vitamin B, but I don't remember if it was every day or not.... Thanks for listening.... By the way, I think my Mom had PMS too but never sought attention. I find out later on down the line not too long ago that she also suffered from severe anxiety. She had high blood pressure as well, which I do not have. But I think of all the times as a child how she would be so moody, ya' know.... LOL.... makes more sense now.
would you mind
what you think I could do to make it better for her... I'm not referring to the party.... just in general. It weighs on me. Thank you.
Sorry you had to deal with that growing up. That had to be incredibly hard.
I can do about anything I put my mind to...
The waterfall idea I had was obviously to make my own, but creating out of pottery, or a like substance and having it fired. However, I've no experience and tho I am keenly interested, I am afraid it would be quite time consuming. I would like to propose before Christmas.
I was always of the mind that
Happy Holidays encompassed everything from Thanksgiving through January. It was just a more efficient way of noting good tidings. It is certainly easier than saying, "Happy Thanksgiving and merry/joyous religious and/or cultural holiday and/observance of your choice and Happy New Year.
Well first keep in mind that everything changes....(sm)
Nothing stays the same. I remember at one point in my life feeling like I was at the lowest point possible... like no one in the world cared. I remember sitting in my room thinking it would be better if I just died. Then my sister called and told me that she was thinking about killing herself. I talked to her for an hour about all the people who would be hurt and devastated if she did. All the things she had to live for and how you never know what the future holds. By the time I finished talking to her I felt so much better. About six months later, my life was going great and I was so much happier, I thought back to the moment when I had sat in my room wishing to die and I realized that we have to always understand that a moment is just that...a fleeting moment. Nothing stays the same. You never ever know how things are going to go. You do have people who love you and count on you...your daughter and your granddaughter...it was a good decision you made not to exchange gifts with your daughter when you are in debt. Christmas is not about getting gifts anyway...it is about giving and loving others...and you did just that by sacrificing your own gifts to be sure your granddaughter had a good Christmas!! You should feel really good about that. Also, you said you have avoided people...reach out and reconnect with your old friends..you say you didn't even get a card...did they get one from you? Did you call them? Go to a debt counselling service and get help with your credit card issue. Keep looking for better jobs and hang onto your less than great ones in the meantime. Just from your post I can see you have much to be thankful for. You are obviously intelligent from the way you type, you have family members, you have 2 jobs (many people have none), you have friends whose opinion you valued at one time enough to avoid them over being ashamed. Everyone has something at some point in their life that they are not happy about or proud of...everyone comes into hard times at some point in their life. Reach out!!! Take some steps to improve your life. It is all so within your reach!
Do you mind if I ask
how your kids like your b/f and if they are comfortable around him. I have so much anxiety about that and that is one of reasons I choose not to date. How did you bring your b/f into their lives?
What if it is on her mind?
I think about ice cream all the time! Although, I suppose it is a problem. :)
Don't mind really
You know..It's funny. I really don't mind doing it. I kinda like the social aspect of it and being able to feel like I'm doing something other than just production work. But, I really would like to get some compensation for it as well. How should I go about it? My boss and I get along VERY well and we see eye to eye on most things, but I've just never been very good at asking for things.javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
I did not say he was in his right mind- sm
it is never right, just saying maybe childbirth, etc. made him be *tupid- who knows, who cares at this point. No need for you to be a total witch about it. I had not read all the posting when I posted, what is your excuse? I am more concerned about her current children. If he is a pedophile she needs to see if he had done anything with her/their own kids.
Only in your mind (nm)
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Mind your own
I doubt that getting the stick is so heinous, or the child wouldn't have chosen it. What the child did was deliberately deceptive, which is really one of the worst offenses. When a child believes he is so clever he can outwit the parent, there is trouble brewing.
Like others have said, DHS is not the best solution and once you get them involved, you can't un-ring that bell. If you see the child with marks on him or limping from injuries, that's different. As it is, stay out of it.
A J Cowling and OJ come to mind........
Oh yeah I did watch it - and still felt *inundated* - it became prime time TV.....it preempted many TV shows.....
And as far as you not thinking he did the deed - you're entitled to your opinion - just as we all are. I believe he did it and it's as simple as that, TO ME. To me, he HAS the legs - legs that were/ are known for running!!
Have a great Sunday...........
I think she should mind her own business - NM
NM
the first thing that comes to my mind
detatched retina.
not saying thats whats wrong but had 2 sister-in-laws who both had detatched retina and symptoms were floaters. get to an eye doctor asap to get it checked out. if it is the sooner its treated the better--- which is the case no matter what the cause is
I google whatever ? comes to mind...sm
http://www.mojomoon.net/santeria.html
http://www.bloomington.in.us/~lgthscac/santeria.htm
http://www.religioustolerance.org/santeri.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Santeria
I actually dont mind others using....
a cell phone if I am in a store as long as it is not to argue with family etc. My son has one and sometimes he will use it in a store to call me and ask me something regarding an item I asked to grab for me while there etc. I have also heard husbands talking to their partners asking questions regarding food shopping while in an isle. That doesnt seem to bother me at all..
How do you quiet your mind
My mind just always races and I can't sleep. I am not good at meditating, can't take meds or herbal supplements because of health issues. any suggestions?
Big DollHouse comes to mind!...
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I gotta get out, How'd i get in this slammer
This cooler, this big dollhouse!
Alright, ladies, welcome to the "Big Dollhouse!" For those of you new to the Baltimore Women's House of Detention, think of me as a mother... one who eats her young!
Locked up with all these lowlife women
And horizontal stripes ain't exactly slimmin'.
Is there anybody here who can dry clean my blouse?
It's the maid's day off In the big dollhouse
Lady justice, Where have you gone?
Îîí, wilbur, check, I think i left the iron on!
Did you see corny laughing? I could murder that louse!
Honey, that'll getcha life In the big dollhouse
Big house!... Locked up here in the pen
Big house!... No phone! No food! No men!
I need a conjugal visit from my loving spouse
Honey, just drop the soap in The Big Dollhouse
Yoo hoo, my stomach's a little sour
I haven't had food in over an hour
You just had a pizza, six burgers, a mouse!
There's no food left in the big dollhouse
Hey, I have got to complain
Mira, mami, don't i know you from 1st and main?
Eek, call my attorneys Lipshitz and Strauss
I gotta get sprung from the big dollhouse
Big house! No fair! No food! No fun!
Big house! And our fight had just begun
'Cause it's freedom's flame I'd like to douse
So we must break out of this Big Dollhouse
Penny, i can't take all this waiting
I've lost my man plus, my hair's deflating!
Well Tracy, I hate to grumble or grouse
But it's your fault that we're in this big dollhouse!!
Hey, cool it, ladies no need to shout
And don't ya got an old man to bail you out?
Ha! Her daddy's a pervert, a loser, a souse!
Well, it's just us girls in the big dollhouse
Big house! God, i'm too young to fry!
Big house! I'm busting out! Girl, so am i!
Lady justice, hear my plea 'Cause the big dollhouse
The big dollhouse ain't big enough for me!
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Brings to mind
Michael Jackson's little court room dramatics- hobbling into court in his PJs acting like he was at deaths door.
Do they really think the judge is gonna go "ohhh, poor thing, I can't send them to jail if they don't feel well!" Gimme a break!
Paris's "medical condition" is obviously not so severe that it kept her from going out and getting drunk and driving.
And please, I had a friend who had full blown AIDS and was still required to serve most of his sentence.
Okay, losing my mind. I now see it! Thanks for the help. nm
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That's a weight off your mind!
Glad it was just a contact allergy to something avoidable.
I can't touch roses myself.
Okay, I don't mind paying
to make sure everything is in order! Thanks for all the advice!
Would you mind sharing?
My mom used to always keep a copy of The Pill Book which had pics of medications as well as info about them. When my son and my niece were little, they would play doctor (REAL doctor, not the other kind! LOL) and use The Pill Book to prescribe things for each other.
with peace of mind 24/7 nm
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Mind Freak
Chris Angel....illusionist extraordinaire right now on A&E (whatever channel that is in your area)....The 21st century Houdini....Any comments? 
Mind if I ask who you're going with
we need to make some changes (going wireless as we now have three computers and only two are wired to the modem right now) and are considering getting a cell phone again (haven't had one for years, but had Sprint about eight years ago and felt that the clarity was better with their service than the experiences we've had talking to people who use some of the other services today). We have BellSouth, now AT&T, for phone/DSL and also had our Direct TV service set up through one of their special offers a couple of years ago. I haven't had time lately to take a look at available options for combining and saving, transitioning to wireless, etc., so I hope you don't mind if I pick your brain a litte bit. Oh, we do have a security system, but it is not currently being monitored and one of our puppies chewed first the carpet and then the SS wiring, so now just a trouble light there and will have to call someone out to repair the wiring. I have wondered about Walton EMC for that, but the computer issues and possibly dropping the LAN line for a cell are what's really got me thinking about this.
I sure would appreciate any insight you could offer. Thanks, and have a peachy day!
never mind, i figured it out nm
nm
Mind my business?
You rude ( I cant say on here what I would like so I will leave it to your imagination). If I was minding her business don't you think I would be calling her or going over there. No I am not. I AM minding my own business. I am well aware that a person can do what they like with a gift or card they get. But what a rude person to just put a card in a drawer that someone went to the trouble of sending. It doesn't change the fact it is rude. Don't tell me to mind my own business. You are probably one of those people who has no friends so of course you wouldn't have in insightful info on any experiences with friends. Therefore don't answer my posts. Concern for a friend does not make me clingy. Yes we talked all the time on the phone and emailed a lot. Why wouldn't I be concerned when that stopped? I have a life. I have a job, a husband, a son, and many pets. I have plenty to occupy my time. But I am not the type of person to not show concern.
Do you mind if I ask your age..I understand
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This crossed my mind too (sm)
It could be anything along these lines...maybe as simple as a strip club or maybe much worse. But yes, don't panic or let him know you are suspicious or you will have a much harder time catching him if anything is going on.
Clearly to blame for what? In your mind. nm
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To ease your mind
I told my internist I had a problem with my thyroid, knew what it was because of the obvious symptoms- however when the test results came back they called endocrinologist and I got in almost immediately. You see, the difference is a physician's office calling as opposed to you or me. I have learned that little trick and have asked other offices to call for me because they can get a person seen earlier. I did not have a nodule but I have hypothyroidism and treated with medication alone. Hey, we must have seen the same person - I was told the endocrinologist did not have a good bedside manner- just means he was not talkative or personable- would not let that bother me either.
you mind if we have a little hope here???
bet you slam everything.
Keep in mind I have zero experience with this, but...sm
first, has your mother told her lawyer about all of this? I would think her lawyer would have advice, or at least can refer her to someone in the know. Maybe she can charge your father really high rent with legal repercussions (eviction) if he fails to pay up? If your father has a girlfriend, why can't he live with her? Can he sell his 7 acres? Obviously I don't have a clue, just sharing thoughts in my head. What a tough situation; I feel bad you and your family have to go through this.
I don't mind at all that you sent my email along.
There is plenty of training material available to scout leaders on the transition period and how to help the boys stay in scouting. There are videos, training sessions run by people like me, written material, etc. It's out there. It's just hard to get it through some of the leaders' brains that the boys need to be treated like boys in transition, and not like army recruits. I really applaud you for being willing to go out on the trips with the troop. That is also a hard thing to do with so many men around. I looked very carefully when my boys were crossing over to scout troops. We are fortunate in our area to have many troops to choose from. We found a great troop headed by mostly even-thinking adults who had no problem with a woman joining them. It's not perfect, and every now and then, some sexist fool says or does something stupid, but nothing is ever insurmountable in that regard. Know that having women leaders is a unit option, which means that the chartering organization can decide that no girls are allowed, so to speak. This is sometimes done for religious reasons. Other times it's just sort of a tacit tradition. I didn't have to overcome that issue, and in fact, when it was discovered that I had been camping all my life and was an avid solo backpacker, I got the job of teaching the boys about backpacking, too. Our troop welcomed all volunteers who were willing to be trained and who could commit to helping the boys.
I do hope it works out for your son. If you do join as a leader, be sure that you take advantage of all the training opportunities available to you. Your troop should have a training coordinator or advancement chair who knows when training is offered. (By the way, are the adult leaders of this troop fully trained? That's VERY important.) As a GSUSA leader, you should understand the value of training. The Girl Scouts really do a great job of requiring leaders to be trained. BSA councils and districts, however, sometimes vary on how strict they are on training requirements. Don't be afraid to help out. You're doing this for your son, and that really is a great motivator. And what's really cool is that most of us start out wanting to help our own sons, but in the process we help so many other boys and parents along the way.
Good luck!
nothing comes to mind offhand, but
I know I have a few of them. A typo I make regularly, however, is when typing the word *and* . . . it never fails when typing fast, I always type *nad* LOL
Reminds me now of how we always laugh about the hair remover called NADS . . . what were they thinking? LOL!
OMG!! That's it. I wondered why mind was so.....sm
explosive and obviously ready to fight over just anything. Why I never took this into consideration I will never know, but that is so right on!!
It crossed my mind, believe me.
But that was my last resort, especially with the chicken cooking on the stove. Thank goodness for heated seats in the truck, cause it was pretty darn cold in just my jammies!
Would you mind if I e-mailed you?
There is something I would like to share that could possibly be of help.
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