designer clothes/shoes
Posted By: mttoo on 2009-05-03
In Reply to: Michelle's ugly sneakers! - mm
I, for one, cannot tell designer shoes or clothes unless the designer's label is on the product. I, however, do know ugly when I see it and those shoes are fugly!
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I was not out buying designer clothes or stuff for myself - sm
in my case it was "we", mainly him, spent way more than we make. Everytime one of his cards got a large balance (he never looked at the statements and I pay the bills) I would tranfer it over to one of my cards, which again he never looked at, and I had a P.O. Box for--so in my case it was very, very easy to do, and with paperless statements today even easier. We had a lot of things happen in our life over the past 4 years which made the money/credit card issue much worse, easily added $40K onto it (at $89K now)--family death, serious child illness--still dealing with that some--, job loss on my part, private school tuition ($12K a year---no longer go there for the last 2 years), inability to pay bills and heavily borrowed on cards----d-u-m-b I know. So don't be so quick to judge, it is not always so black and white. Yes I did get a few things I should not have, but I know during some of this time I was depressed though not horribly so but enough so as to buy a few things I never should have, but for 95% of it it was my DH never denying himself anything (though he would have if he'd known, and now he is --granted not too happy about it---one tiny concession he has made is only 9 beers a day, down from 12, so maybe he can get 3 days out of a case of beer instead of 2.) So my days of robbing Peter to pay Paul are over. We plan to have an open book when it comes to finances once his are paid off, and mine are enrolled with a debt management plan--- then only use his cards for gas, and work stuff basically--I won't have any as they will all get destroyed and cancelled in the DMP, and will use my debit card for everything --which I do now anyway, so it won't be a huge change for me. I don't think she is lamenting, just realizing what a horrid mess she has to deal with, it is hard, and I have to deal with my DHs comments for years to come, he did a few zingers last night. I will be okay though and have to pay the piper, it is worth it not having to go through a nasty divorce and custody fight as I know it would not have been pretty.
Lucky for me I live in the rural midwest. Personally, I don't care about designer shoes
or pedicures, etc. The average person doesn't think about those things and I could care less what "Michelle" is wearing or who she is wearing or where she shops or if she has sleeves or doesn't have sleeves. I don't give a rats patootie about any of the superficial crapola that is the Obamas. Good God, people, this country is going to heck in a handbasket, the unemployment rate is rising, and we are talking about Michelle Obama's ugly, way overpriced shoes!
O talks about our government being fiscally responsible and his wife is wearing $500 designer shoes.
It's not "her money to spend as she pleases." It's my money, your money, his money, her money. O better put up or shut up and that means his family too. No more big talk about the deficit, fiscal responsbility, and redistribution of wealth when when his wife is walking around in designer duds. Am I the only person that sees hypocrisy in that?
clothes, shoes, purses, etc...........
Believe me, a lot of women do this.
Do you buy always expensive stuff?
Or are you reasonable?
Do you have a daughter that could wear those?
If not, instead of giving them away to charity, send them to me, as a gift, I would wear them!
I am 5Ƌ", size Misses 12-14.
Shoes 7-1/2.
LMAO !
Well, if someone didn't buy their shoes/clothes, employees
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Shoes! Love shoes. Thin soles work best.
Don't be mad, but foot size might have something to do with it. I'm a 7 1/2 shoe size, and I suspect a foot much bigger than that might be a bit wide to easily hit the right pedal every time. Remove the shoe and your foot is narrower and you can feel the controls and not hit the wrong one. Just a guess because I've heard guys have the worst time with the pedal.
Designer Dogs
Oh, gees, don't get me started on designer dogs! Those who breed them are only out for as much money as the public will shell out! Come on, a poodle and a golden who is advertised as a gooldendoodle is a MIX BREED! Those who breed them (and they are on par with back-yard breeders and puppy millers and I refuse to call them breeders!) are frauds. They say the "best from both breeds will come out." This is not true! There have been more gooldendoodles who have temperament problems, forget their coat! Bad news here trying to groom them. Sure, they look cute as pups.
I have goldens and Shelties. I show them, but I don't breed them....I leave that up to those who are more knowledgeable in which dog and biiitch lines would merge the best. I don't want to create a structural/temperament/health issue that will be hard to eliminate as it takes soooo long to bred them out.
You'll find the majority of designer dogs go for much more than a purebred that's bought from a reputable breeder. AND, that breeder, if reputable, will have health clearances, you'll have to sign a contract which covers your dog, you, and the breeder, and the breeder will take the dog back if either you don't like the dog, you move, or whatever. So why pay $300 to $3000 for a mixed breed, especially when you have no idea how they will look when they grow up? Or, what kind of health or temperamental issues may crop up between the two breeds?
OK, off my pedestal.....can you tell I'm passionate about keeping pure breeds pure?
Just to say one more thing.....I am not anit-mix! Now way!! Just don't taunt that mix as a "breed" and charge mucho money for it! have had many, many mixes in my life. I even obtained a CD (mixed breed) with Casie and she was also a Therapy Dog. Boy, could she ever fish out food that the patients stashed, or hid, in their wheelchairs!!
OK, now I'll go take an extra B/P pill!!!!
(biiitch is mispelled as it is a bad word per my first try to post. Hey, a biiicth IS a female dog. Perfectly OK to say!
A new designer has been highlighted
An unknown designer has been recognized and compensated for his/her work of how many years they were not paid or recognized. Now box stores will see the shoes for $10 bucks to people like you, thus employing millions and millions of people all over the world.
Um, wait if she had worn flip-flops would you have asked how much her pedicure was?
Oh, and btw your rent is cheap...I am way over that.
Not unknown designer
But the knock offs will be great.
Now they unfortunately call 'em designer dogs...
but they're really just muts. They are all lhasa-poo's. It all began when we lived in a townhouse in the city of Lowell, MA. I really wanted a dog but they (the condo association) had a weight restriction of 40 pounds. So, we were out for a Sunday drive one day and happened upon this lady walking the cutest little dog. She told us where she got it and we drove right to the kennel that day. They had one puppy left (our Winston) and we snatched him up right on the spot.
He's getting mighty old and to help the hurt of his eventual passing not be as bad, I had the bright idea to get his replacement another lhasa-poo( a couple of years ago (Patton). Well, the young whipper snapper was constantly pestering poor old Winston, so I said, "Hey, we need to get him a playmate." Enter the third little guy, "Sherman." Also a lhasa-poo. So there ya have it.
The oldster is still with us...blind, toothless, and kinda stinky, but it's one big happy family of little portable dogs and I don't think I'll ever get a big dog just because I like the little lap dogs. They are totally gay though---little puffs of yappiness.
Earth Shoes....heel lowered in Earth Shoes
So excited, new digs at home, anyone ever have a designer to give advice on how to place furniture?
I am just so excited can hardly type. I am getting new tile throughout my home, well the living room/dining room big room and then slate for my master bath and carpeting for my master bedroom. My question is has anyone ever had a designer or room coordinator may be the name to come to their home and tell them how to arrange furniture and items in their room? I have never been satisfied with my living room. I have 2 full size leather sofas, an oversized chair, several floor lamps and I have end tables with wrought iron legs. I have some decorations but if you have this done do they want you to buy other things in case you need to put more color in the room, say for instance a throw, new floral arrangement, and the like. Sure would like to hear from anyone who has gone through this. All this tile work starting next week and should last about a week and a half.
Cat in clothes
 I would love to see a photo of that! I love kitties. I have a big fat fluffy one of my own, but she is not one to be dressed up.
clothes - fun
I know how you feel! I start inhouse training for 3 months in a week and have one (1) acceptible outfit to wear! Having been MTing at home for so many years I am down to grungies and caftans...so I'm joining you in a shopping splurge, only I do not have a gift card :(
Best wishes for having a great time in the higher-learning institution. You're going to be sooo smart!
Aw, I really like to try clothes on.
I hate to return stuff.
I can never get clothes to fit, either.
I buy petite for my 5' 3" frame, but both the arm and leg lengths are still too long. I have to roll the elastic waist over 1 or 2 times or else the waist band is touching my bra. 
As for the arm length, it does come in handy when it's cold out. Just pull the sleeves over my hands. No need for gloves. LOL
My father was 6 feet tall but my mom was only 5 feet tall and weighed a whopping 96 pounds. She would wear petite small and still had to hem her slacks. I always wanted to be 5 feet 7 inches when in high school, but my wish wasn't granted.
My 14 yo wants clothes but..
I don't dare pick them out myself because she would hate them. She goes shopping (with her older sister) at the mall and puts clothes on hold and several different stores. I go later in the day,with her list of stores, and pick out what I like best, wrap them and put them under the tree. She gets what she really wants, but doesn't know exactly what she is getting. Works well for us.
teen clothes
For boys (my younest son is almost 16) - American eagle is hugely popular around here. My son also likes Abercrombie but they are so ridiculously expensive. Dockers shorts - lots of good shorts at Kohl's if you have one near you. Also if he has a favorite band/bands - order some of their graphic T shirts online, let him express his personality. Kids that age love those kind of T shirts.
School clothes
Since I'm returning to school next week, I went to Kohl's to use a gift certificate I've had since Christmas. My excuse for buying clothes is that I'm going to be a college girl now, and school means clothes shopping, right?
I'm down to a size 10, and many things actually looked nice. Of course I was trying to follow suggestions from "What Not To Wear," which is a show that does give good guidelines. I even found a nice looking pair of jeans. One shirt I put on was adorable ... but more appropriate for a 20-something than a 40-something. It's hard to say exactly why, maybe the puffy sleeves. But I splurged and got 10 pieces, so that was really fun. Poor DH had to break out the charge card, but hey, at least it was Kohl's, where you get a lot for your money. Plus we had the gift card.
I feel better now that I have my shopping fix.
just trying on clothes in the store -- you can get it
The nurse at our health dept said the bug lives many many days on objects - even clothing.
And yes, you can, if you have a reduced immune system, or even just a little scratch or something -- you can catch MRSA from someone who had a sore who tried on the clothing before you.
You can try on a pair of slacks and if you have a skin opening, you are set to get it.
So many people who come in where I work, think they have a pimple and so many are in the gluteal, buttocks region -- never in the mucosal part of the vaginal/labia area -- have never seen the bug go there interestingly enough -- but in the crease of the buttocks or even on the buttocks......or on the legs, arms, even the face.
People think they have pimple or a bug bite.
And they spread it through a family by sharing towels etc
lol...those are my work clothes too...
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Clothes lines
We have fixed our own dryer half a dozen times, so we have a back up clothes line. One is in the house and one on the back porch. Unmentionables stay in the house. Wait for the reaction when they use that first scratchy towel for real snobbery!
Yeah, I have to run out and get the clothes - sm
off if he is cutting the grass, or if they are still wet I tell him he has to wait and do it later or the next day. My other problem is the dogs, my lab loves to rub herself through the clothes hanging low enough, usually the towels, yuk.
I have seen clothes that were like size....sm
20-something. I thought any store that carries plus sizes would carry up to very large sizes. At least that is what I thought. Maybe I am wrong.
comfy clothes
For me it's cotton pajama pants and my oversized Big Dog T shirts and slippers. If I'm planning on going out and running errands or if I'm working at my itty bitty outside job that day then I dress in "real people" clothes, but if I have a long day of sitting and typing ahead of me, comfort is the key.
I live alone. I might be more inclined to pretty myself up if I had hubby coming home at the end of the day, but my cats don't care what I look like as long as the food bowl stays filled.
Do your dogs wear clothes?
little doggie sweaters or hats or boots?
mine don't. I had a dog once that I tried to put a sweater on but I lost.
My kids mostly got clothes, which they really needed sm
My son't (17) fav gift was a 20.00 indoor remote control helicopter. He has had so much fun with it. When my daughter (14) was shopping for a cousin she saw a Doodle Bear and went on and on about how much she loved hers when she was younger. DH got her one (I didn't even know about it) and that was was her fav. gift.
Wear your clothes more than once before washing or
I wear jeans, khakis, and dress shirts at least 2 or 3 times before I wash them. They key with dress shirts is wearing an undershirt. Some of you may think it’s gross, but your clothes will not fade as quickly and you’ll spend less on detergent and dry-cleaning bills.
I love my clothes line
Nothing like hanging out sheets on a windy day, besides that it saves energy. Aren't we all supposed to be doing our bit to save energy??
Can You Wear Cheap Clothes?
and they look good on you?
I was just thinking about my deceased mother and she sometimes would say about someone "I wish I could wear cheap clothes like her!"
Ironically - one of the best fitting/looking blazers my mom ever bought was from Walmat and was on a clearance rack for $7.99. (orig price wasn't all that much higher)
It sounds like a catty insult/put down, but my sister says it too about her friend, and it's not said with any kind of malice - she just wishes she could buy cheaper clothing that fits well and looks good too and save the money.
There are as good looking clothes for + size as
for the smaller sizes. Check out the shopping channels, QVC and HSN, same price for small and then the +sizes. No reason for looking tacky and wearing clothing 4 sizes too small, just none at all, sorry.
favorite work clothes
My SpongeBob PJ pants or soft flannel PJ pants and a T-shirt (or sweat pants if I feel like getting "dressed").
Favorite clothes for work
Sleep pants or sweat pants and a sweatshirt in the winter and light weight sleep pants, shorts and a t-shirt in the summer.
I got tons of clothes and toys. I always hit Walmart,
Toys-R-Us and JC Pennys for those things. I also went to Pac Sun and got me some jeans (2 for less than the price of 1). I never go for electronics. I figure what you are trying to save for 1 item, you loose by missing out on all the other small things. I did get gaming things though, basically any electronics I do not have to stand in line for, like Walmart has you do. For instance, if you bought a PS2 game at Toys-R-Us, you get a wireless controller for 5 bucks, normally 20. I got a game and the controller for 10 bucks.
If you feel good, like how you look in and out of your clothes, and are active, be
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Lots of clothes lines here that look like umbrellas sm
without the fabric on top. Here is one from http://www.clotheslineshop.com/. They also have indoor ones and retractable ones. Never knew before 
Macys has nice slection of clothes 14+.
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I'll take outside clothes line any day over dryer
I've been beggin hubby to put a clothes line in since the 80s. The natural air drying smell is nothing to be compared with an inside dryer. Alas, he doesn't see my point. He thinks I don't have time to hang clothes out....but I did in the 70s and now there's only 2 of us. Once and done, not 3 loads in the dryer.
Downey fabric softener should help with the stiffness? I wouldn't know since I have to use a dryer, and even DH likes rough towels, not soft, so why does he complain about outside lines? Don't ask me ....oh, wiat! Could it be because I pay the utilities? LOL
I'll take outside clothes line any day over dryer
I've been beggin hubby to put a clothes line in since the 80s. The natural air drying smell is nothing to be compared with an inside dryer. Alas, he doesn't see my point. He thinks I don't have time to hang clothes out....but I did in the 70s and now there's only 2 of us. Once and done, not 3 loads in the dryer.
Downey fabric softener should help with the stiffness? I wouldn't know since I have to use a dryer, and even DH likes rough towels, not soft, so why does he complain about outside lines? Don't ask me ....oh, wait! Could it be because I pay the utilities? LOL
Wore very expensive clothes. No one said a word.
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Vote please on clothes buying scenario for kids...sm
Scenario: 15-year-old finished growing 2 years ago, stable sizes. 8-year-old growing like a weed, can't wear anything from last winter.
It's getting cool now in my state and I need to get the 8-year-old some long sleeved shirts for school. The 15-year-old thinks they should also get the same amount of money to spend on clothes - even though they have plenty to wear in their closet and state they have nothing in particular they want and make money doing neighborhood chores as well as chores around the house. Also before school began both kids were given $100 to buy their school supplies and clothes. The 8-year-old spent the clothing portion on pants and new sneakers, the teenager spent it on various clothing items.
Would you:
1. Do it even though they don't need it because it wouldn't be fair to spend more money on one child than another.
2. Tell them that you're only getting the younger child clothes because they have no long sleeved shirts that fit, whereas the teenager does, and that they are welcome to spend their own money on extra clothes they want.
Which way do you vote?
And buy kitty nice work out clothes as incentive.
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shoes
I wore silver shoes with a purple bridesmaid dress. We also had silver/grey shaws to go with. This was in November.
In your shoes
Your story sounds exactly like mine. However, mine told me that if I did not lose weight he was going to leave me. He had an affair and blamed it on the fact that I was overweight. He said, "If you were not so fat, I wouldn't have gone there." Whatever!
Don't let him win - just MHO - same shoes here (sm)
I'm sorry for you - I know how it feels. People like that are best ignored, but would not want my kids exposed. My stepdad is just like that.
Put yourself in her shoes SM
If you had gone through a whole pregnancy and hoped for the "perfect" baby and things weren't perfect? The clubbed feet are correctible, yes, but seeing as she asked you not to say anything to anyone she is obviously having trouble coming to terms with the problem. She is a new mom, there is a problem she obviously is troubled about, hormones all over the place. I think backing WAY off is in order here. Respect her wishes and let her call you when she is ready. Being a new mother is overwhelming no matter how many times you've done it and she needs time.
at least ur not in my shoes
I would love for my husband to make advances towards me like that!!! I'm the one having to hug him and beg him. I agree with a below poster...don't push him away...enjoy what you've got. at least he wants to touch you.
Wish I was in your shoes.
I would do it in a heartbeat. Don't be afraid. Like another poster said, you can always move back. I now have a husband and kids and my family lives about 8 hours away. I miss my niece and nephew dearly but see them as often as I can. I stayed a month when each was born and then traveled every other weekend for several years. They are getting to be school age now so they know me well and I send things often. It has just become too expensive to travel that much.
I would just keep in mind with your BIL being in the military they may not be where they are longterm so that could pose a sticky situation if you get involved with someone special. Might want to talk to your sister. I know mine knows me better than anyone and always has great advice.
I have been in your shoes (sm)
I was in an abusive marriage and had children. I stayed way too long out of fear, I should have left years before I did. Just make sure you have tried everything to make your marriage work before leaving or you may have regrets. If it is something you feel you must do, you will be fine. It's not easy, but you'll make it. You'll have to work more and do without sometimes but you also should get child support to help.
My mom was in your shoes
Married Bob, our step-dad. He came on to all three of her daughters, sometimes right in front of her. She made excuses for him and downplayed what he did. She was blinded by his money. And of course he denied whatever, pretending it was all in friendliness.
He fooled around with my little sister, I had her move in with me and threatened to call the law. Mom cried and begged - oh, what will happen to the rest of the family? How will they live without Bob's money? Oh, the poor man is threatening to kill himself vs go to jail. Please, keep my mouth shut. He's sorry and won't do it again. Oh, and little sister was probably asking for it and to blame as well (yes, mom would rather blame her own child than precious Bob)!!!!
He went on to seduce a cousin, then her young daughter, and mom even caught him red handed molesting his own DOG!!!!! She stayed with him though, for the sake of his money and supposedly her family, although by then, most of us would not set foot in their house. My brother, who was growing up under his influence, also now has a thing for underage girls that are his relatives. Nice, eh?
He spent them into the poor house, and by the time he died, all his money was gone. My sisters and I refuse to even be buried in the same graveyard as that creep. Mom dug him up and moved him to his own family plot about 10 years later, but the damage is done to her relationships with her daughters.
So if you want to end up like my mom, deny, shift the blame, and believe him. Sacrifice your whole family and stand by your man. You'll get what mom got - shame and blame and many years alone to play should've/could've/would've.
Been in your shoes
I am sorry to hear of your troubles. I know exactly how you feel, because my son was addicted to drugs with meth and binge drinking being his poisons of choice. Of course, he'd take anything--and I do mean anything--if he thought he could get a buzz from it. Every time I heard an ambulance wail in the distance, I'd wonder if today was going to be the day he overdoses to the point of being unsaveable. Every time somebody knocked at the door or if a police car would slow down in front of the house, I'd wonder if today was the day I was going to get notified that he finally died from his addictions. My heart bleeds for you...it really does. I know the heavy heart you have, and I know all about the soul-searching about what could I have done to prevent or maybe I even caused it.
Well, nothing you did caused it, and you definitely can't control its outcome since he is an adult, and he makes the decisions as to what he wants to do or not do with his life. I know that's hard to accept, because I went over and over in my mind with the "what ifs."
The best you can do right now is to not enable his habit. That means not giving money for rent (my son spent all his rent money on meth and booze and marijuana and other noxious chemicles), not bailing him out of jail, not giving money for groceries or even giving him groceries for that matter. That was hard for me. However, if he needed a meal, he was always free to come to the house >sober< and not under the influence of drugs and enjoy a meal. I think he came only once.
I lost track of him for 8 years or so, and then I learned he was living behind a dumpster in Boston during the coldest spell of the last century. I managed to get him out of that environment, and he did okay for a while. He had to go back to Massachusetts to serve a 60-day jail term, but he did that and cleaned up.
He was doing okay for a while and then he ran with "the crowd" and ended up back on meth and other drugs. He was again hooked, and this time it was a 4-year hiatus into that misery for him. I put him out of the house about 4 years ago, and the last time I saw him, I burst out crying because my baby was down to skin and bones, and he definitely looked like he was dying. So, for the past few years, I've been dreading the wail of sirens and knocks at the doors.
Well, about 3 days ago, I get a call out of the blue, and it was my son, wanting to come over. I was suspicious, of course. (In my mind, I thought about what else he was going to steal, etc.)
When I saw him for the first time in 2 years a few days ago,I truly did not recognize him. He had put on 65 pounds (not fat either), looks reasonably healthy, and he has "the sparkle" back in his eyes. Before, they were soul-less black orbs. Now, they shine. I found out that he has been drug-free and alcohol-free for almost 2 years now but that he was hesitant to make contact because Narcotics Anon. suggests only coming back and apologizing when able to make full restitution money-wise. Well, he didn't have the money, but he did apologize.
So, I really do know how you feel and all the pain, sorrow, and worrying you are going through and just how much greater those feelings will get for you. It will be a whole lot more intense as time goes on.
You need to get somebody to talk to for yourself. I tried the local Narcs Anon and a few of the other addiction groups as well as a couple of private counseling sessions.
Remember this: You didn't cause it, and you can't control it. Just don't enable him with money or gifts (he'll just trade or pawn whatever you give him for drugs...my son did.
If you need somebody to talk to about this, feel free to email me. I feel for you. I won't lie. It's going to get really, really rough...but no matter what he says/does, you didn't cause it.
Kathleen
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