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d) none of the above sm

Posted By: flybye on 2009-05-19
In Reply to: What would you do if your grown child told you - Mother talking here

i would be accepting of her comments without taking them personally, love unconditionally, set healthy boundaries*, listen actively, seek first to understand, and let go of ALL expectations. search your heart; what is your goal? a better relationship with her or protecting yourself from her hurtful words...? *to set healthy boundaries with my kids i use the "i feel ___(emotion) when you ___(action) i want ___(desired outcome); if ___(options) then ___(consequence)" method, e.g. "I feel hurt when you say you have to walk on eggshells around me. I want us to have a good relationship; it's important to me. If you'd like to talk about it, then I'll listen." --or-- "I love you, but I feel sad when you say you have to walk on eggshells around me. I want you to stop saying that. If you can't, then I'm going to need to limit my contact with you." I would choose to seek mutual understanding and a win/win.


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