curious - R U on speaking terms today with sis?
Posted By: no msg on 2007-03-02
In Reply to: I married my twin sister's boyfriend - sperry
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Did you read the terms of donating? That right there tells you it is a scam - it even says you agree not to report them to the host site, what a rip off
In terms of what? - sm
Could be Pentium 4, or it could mean someone who has had 4 childbirths-----Pregnancy history, written as "(gravida, para, X-X-X-X)," where gravida is the total number of pregnancies (including the present one), para is the number of deliveries after 20 weeks of pregnancy, and X-X-X-X is the number of full-term infants-number of preterm infants-number of abortions-number of living children-----written as G4, P4, A0. (cannot remember if it is with or w/o the commas, I don't do many of these).
OP can use whatever terms she wants and can also take care of herself (sm)
However, in her absence if her friends want to defend her that's ok too. Maybe we all need to get a life if we are going to be on here debating something so trivial.
Personally, I think it needs to be on their terms - sm
My son is actually my stepson. I have been with his father since my son was about 7 years old. I always had a little suspicion but stayed quiet. I figured if he was, he would eventually "come out" to us.
He was actually about 17 when he called me one day from school and asked if he could just come home and talk to me. We sat for three hours, just the two of us, and he spilled everything.
It was absolutely heart-breaking to know that he was so terribly uncomfortable with his "secret life".
You love your kids unconditionally. It was a little hard for his dad to understand, very hard for his grandparents to understand but he needed to be himself.
The only thing I can offer to you is that you need to let it be their timing.
If I had asked my son about it directly, I think it would have sent him over the edge emotionally. He just wasn't prepared for it because he wasn't sure what was going on with him either.
He knew that I had gay friends and I was okay with that so I think this is why he chose to talk to me first, rather than his mother or his father.
I know it was a very difficult thing for him and I just told him that I was so proud of him for having the courage to be himself.
He's not perfect by any means but I love him the same as the rest of my kids.
He will soon by 25 and I am just as proud of him as I am my of other kids.
I think OP means she would use the terms
mentally handicapped or mentally challenged. At least those are the terms I usually hear now-a-days. Good luck to you and your family.
But, she and her ex are on excellent terms
They see and talk with each other every week, no animosity there so that is not a problem. If fact when she was here Thanksgiving she had invited him if he were going to be in town.
Terms of Endearment
I remember when
Shirley McClaine was screaming for them to give her daughter her meds because it was time. I was 17 when I saw this movie and I kept thinking, my mother would be exactly the same way.
Those terms are used all the time around here..sm
A lot of southerners use those words when talking to people. Sometimes when they don't even know the person. It is really no big deal to me.
Tell your mother in no uncertain terms (sm)
that your son and his soon to be wife are deciding who they want at their wedding, and that they will decide. If she keeps calling, just simply say, "please stop calling, we are not going to change our minds. And then don't. If she chooses not to come, that's her decision.
ooh, you are right - see inside for link to their terms
http://www.myspace.com/Modules/Common/Pages/TermsConditions.aspx
Quite common terms in the South. We
call everyone something like that, whether we know them or not.
I beg to differ. Forgiveness, even Biblical terms, can
only genuinely happen AFTER the offender repents for having hurt/offended you. Forgive and forget is just a wimpy nonconfrontational thing. The only way one can feel true forgiveness is if the other party repents. One can make informed decisions and move on, but forgiveness is not one-sided, though it sounds all warm and fuzzy.
I am divorced and now on good terms with MIL, but not while we were married! sm
She was very critical, called me every name in the book and kept telling her son I was no good that he belonged in the home I could not PROVIDE FOR HIM, as in the home they could. Umm last time I checked he was an adult too and we were to make a home TOGETHER.
I can remember being sent to the hospital with preterm labor with my daughter. I was scared, I had had to drive my sons to my mom's and then myself to the hospital. My doctor was furious with him. Why did I have to do that? Because SHE needed to go to the doctor about her 'rrhoids and her rear end was more important than OUR unborn child!!! Oh and he could have been available sooner, but she wanted to go shoe shopping. She was truly the other woman in my marriage and when anything happened where I truly needed him, he was with her...shopping, taking her to the doctor, driving her to the dentist. He eventually lost a job because all of that. He didn't learn and continued until he finally has not had a full time job since.
What finally bridged the gap was our divorce. He didn't see his kids or pay support because he didn't feel he should have to. BUT I never kept my kids from her, she is their grandmother and they are her only grandchildren. She never forgot a birthday or Christmas and she didn't play favorites like my mom did. I respected her for what I felt was her important role in their lives and she grew to respect me for my that.
What finally did it is the fact that my ex up and remarried. The gal he married has many documented mental health issues (I saw the report her ex had on her, but that is a long story). My MIL tried with wife #2, she really did. Finally, just about the time they married, this gal threatened my MIL's life and hit her in the face hard enough to knock her down! This was done in front of my oldest son and my MIL's boyfriend at the time (FIL had passed on).
From that day on, I was welcome in her home anytime and "that woman" was not. I suddenly became the nicest of her 3 DILs and she told me that herself. Although the kids are grown and I have moved out of state, I send her birthday and Mother's Day cards. I know she regrets the things she said and did, she told me that too. I told her that stuff was all in the past and what really mattered is the here and now.
The categories are as specific as terms like "violence" allow - sm
Admittedly, there could be some disagreement about "marginal" situations. Is a raised fist "violence"? Some would say yes, some no. Away from these margins, though, there wouldn't likely be much disagreement as to which category a movie belongs in.
And since all movies are fantasy (fiction), whether they contain this sort of thing or not, the question being addressed here is what sort of fantasy is doing better at the box office?
To anon..She was trying to explain to the rest of us in simple terms...sm
how mares foal, bkz most of us don't have the opportunity to see that. You don't even know how many horses and other animals Hayseed has and cares for every day!
I suggest you apologize immediately.  Cat
What do you think of the quality of clothing today. What I looked at shopping today in nice stores
the stuff wasnt even sewn properly. Do you have to look at everything you buy or just hope it lasts a year.
Added fresh chives today. to the egg today.
and a SMIDGE of soy sauce.
Speaking of that
One time about 5 years ago, I was driving on the interstate, my SO now DH riding with me. Was just passing the rear of a trucker, cars behind me so there were witnesses to this and I couldn't just slam on my brakes, put on his signal and tried to pull out anyway. Since I was already passing him, kept going, and he ran me off the road to the center. Pulled back on and continued to pass him, had his window open and flipped me off. I didn't see it because I was trying to control the car, but the funny part was my DH (SO) rolling down the window and hanging out giving him a double one back all the way until I got in front of the truck. I said WHAT is going on!! He told me the bas%$@d flipped you off. Come on, they're high enough up to see there's a car right in front of them they want to pass. I told SO I'm slowing down and get that guy's plate number so I can report him. He slowed WAY down and stayed so far back that I finally gave up... Guess he wasn't in such a hurry after all. We still laugh about my husband's ~chivalry~ that day, him hanging out there giving him the double what for! Wish I had a pic of that for posterity
Not dissing truckers here, my own brother was one for quite a while and have had a couple who stopped to help me and went out of their way when I had a flat tire on the interstate one time in rush-hour traffic on Friday afternoon. My brother said that was really nice of them because it's money out of their pocket, but he did always say to report truckers who are playing games because it's so dangerous.
Speaking for myself.....
it is quite the opposite. Any thread not adhering to the politically correct policies of this country is in danger of being deleted. Christians are not politically correct and never will be on this earth.
Speaking of AI
Is anyone here going to see them on Tour? Tickets go on presale tomorrow and I can't wait to get tickets. My friend and I take our daughters and go every year. We make a day out of it. We become groupies for the day. We've had great luck meeting most of the idols since season 5 and I'm looking forward to meeting Adam and Danny this year.
well, speaking from experience (OP)
I never "sat on the bench with my breasts out" after breastfeeding my son. Most women *put them up* after the job is done. Come on now, be realistic about this issue...
Speaking of condoms...
DS (15 yrs old) came home from school yesterday and I asked him what was new. He said the usual - "Not much."
Then.... "Oh, yeah, we learned how to put on a condom in sex class."
I about fell over!!!! Apparently, the teacher had a ... uh... plastic "subject" and she asked for a volunteer to come up and apply the condom to the ... uh... model. And it's called "Health class," but he refers to it as "sex class."
Whatever happened to food fights in school????
No, seriously, I'm glad they learn this stuff. You know what they say, "The More You Know...!"
His speaking out against it would scares me too. (nm)
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sorry, His speaking out against it would scare me too.
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not OP but statistically speaking there are far more
There are online websites documenting how many men versus women in each city of this country and the number of women today far outweigh the number of men......
jes sayin'.............
speakers not speaking!
help! i may need to test for a new job this weekend. Cannot understand why speakers aren't working. They are plugged into wall and correct port and turned on. Mute is not on. Checked in control panel and volume is up. I tried 2 different sets of barely used speakers. What else can i check? thanks.
And speaking of kids...
One time quite awhile ago I was pushing my youngest through the mall in his stroller. There were two boys goofing around in the middl of the mall with the parents right nearby. I had to stop suddenly because one of the darlings wasn't watching where he was going and fell over the stroller. I said, "Excuse me!" with just a bit of sarcasm and the father had the nerve to yell at ME because I was rude. I then informed him that his kid was the rude one and kept walking. That one still makes me shake my head.
You sound as though you are speaking from
Would you honestly want to be stalked by a man you thought you got rid of 19 years prior??? If the answer is yes, then I will gladly introduce you two.
I am not sure why they are no longer speaking
but in due to the fact that she has no contact wtih him, I don't think he should have stayed in the house once he found out she was there. She was visibly upset when she realized he was there and began crying. My phone then rang so I missed what she said to her other housemates. It just seems like this is not the place for this to be handled.
Speaking of spiders sm
We have a friend that just can't kill any living thing (I have no problem stepping on a spider, so sue me)anyway, she found a spider as she was getting in the shower, with a towel wrapped around her she went to set it free outside her back porch. Her hubby grabbed the towel, pushed her out, and locked the door. They were not in an overly populated neighborhood, but neighbors on each side could see. She says next time, she will just step on the spider.
Speaking of Salad...
what kind of lettuce/other green leafy stuff do you like when you order/make a salad?
A couple of times I've gone in restaurants and they have brought me a salad that looked like they went out back and pulled weeds. Now, I love veggies, but that's some scary stuff. I'm simple..I just want iceberg lettuce!...then I can add other goodies that I can identify.
Speaking of homecoming...
Doesn't it seem a little early in the season for homecoming? It's h/c at my DD's school also...I always remember h/c as being at least cool, jacket weather, not still warm in the 80s...
Speaking of Gardasil, I have a
Just curious if anyone here knows why they are not marketing this to males. I have two sons, and I'm not sure whether or not I would/do want them to have this, but I remember reading several months back about Australia providing Gardasil for males also, and my sister made an excellent point about males being more likely to have multiple partners or to not want to use condoms so more likely to spread the virus, even though they cannot get cervical cancer (not saying females don't engage in risky behavior, it just seems to me that oftentimes girls are pressured into sex and all too often they do it because they think there is something special about the relationship, when really it is all about scoring for the guy, but that is just my opinion and I do know there are good guys out there, and my sons are being raised to be a part of that group), so it makes sense to me that males should also be protected from contracting the virus to begin with, and that vaccination of males quite possibly could offer a greater measure of protection overall than vaccinating females. Just wondering what you guys think.
and speaking of slang......
the word bling just kills my ears I hear people my age (50s) and older saying it and that makes me cringe, especially if they say bling, bling.... guess next time I'll just say "Oh, snap"
speaking of dachsunds...sm
My friend has a dachsund about 7 months old and she is just impossible almost to house train. She said it doesn't matter how much she takes her out or how much she swats her with a paper for going in the house she just keeps on. Does anyone have exp with housebreaking them?
Speaking of girdles.....
I just saw Dr. Rey's undergarments advertised on HSN this week. They are supposed to be great and also very comfortable. You might want to check those out. 
I am speaking with very little knowledge here..
I have only met one (1) pit bull in my life. It was very pleasant, wanted to be petted, and never hostile. What I did notice is how muscular it was and I remember thinking that I wouldn't want that dog to snap at me. All dog breeds are capable of being aggressive (especially if there is a dominance issue), but some breeds are more muscular and less *intidimated* by humans than other breeds. It seems to me (dog experts, please correct me) it would be easier to pull a Yorkie or a Cocker Spaniel off an attacked person than a pit bull. I don't know how that applies to bigger breeds like labs or retrievers.
However, my humble opinion does not make up for the fact that you could face the loss of a loved family pet. I hope it works out for you.
Speaking of pictures.....
My husband never knew his maternal GF, but was named after him. His maternal GF died long before he was born. Well, by the time my husband was in his 20s, he was the spitting image of his GF, right down to the mustache. My children used to look at the picture of their great GF and think it was daddy. They could have been twins. So, to have his mom name him after her father and then he turn out to be his spitting image, that is unbelievable! She had four other sons and none of them look like their GF.
Speaking of banks...
My DD opened her first checking acct a few weeks ago. She received her ATM card in the mail and, being a young woman, didn't want to wait on the PIN to come in the mail. So she took the card to the bank and had it activated. After this, the PIN she selected at the bank would not work, so she took it back to have it changed. She walks into the bank, tells the woman she needs to change her PIN cause the original one doesn't work...the woman takes the card, slips it into a machine, gets the new PIN from my DD, and she walks out with her card with a new PIN. The kicker is...the woman at the bank DIDN'T EVEN CHECK HER ID!!! For all she knew, my DD coulda found that card and brought it in to change the PIN so she could use it!
Speaking of shopping........
Anyone remember how the old stores were when there were 'Main Streets'? Remember the wood floors and the merchandise in wooden bins on tables? Remember the cookies and candy they sold that was all encased in glass? No escalators, and only the best stores had elevators? Elevators with a man asking 'what floor'?, elevators that creaked and had criss cross bars across the front, instead of doors that closed? Evening in Paris perfume for our mom's at Christmas, Old Spice or hankies with his initial on them for dad? Remember when all you could use was cash? And of course, those wonderful lunch counters? I remember one of them sold sardine sandwiches! Anyone remember?
Speaking from experience!
I was always attracted to younger guys, too. I met a guy who was 15 years younger than I am. Never been married, had no kids, minimal baggage, etc.
It started as totally physical on both of our parts, as I was always a 'use 'em and lose 'em' cougar.
Fast forward...We've been living together for 1-1/2 years and are getting ready to make this legal next week.
It's NOT age that matters. It's life experience that makes the connection and erases the chronological gap. My BF has lived as much and been through similar things in his life as I have been in mine. We have everything in common, from life experience to music to movies to our quirkly senses of humor. In areas where I'm weak, he's strong; in areas where he's weak, I'm strong. We're the perfect complement for one another.
Initially people think we're an unusual couple, but once they spend any time at all around us, they realize we're so much alike that we can almost read one another's minds and are perfect together.
Don't let that age difference influence you...Go with your heart. I never thought I'd change my ways and settle down, but ANYTHING is possible.
Good luck to both of you!!!
speaking from experience . . .
A similar thing happened a couple of years ago when my daughter was in 6th grade. A girl a couple of years younger told her she was going to kill her. This girl has some problems, but after thinking about it and talking with my husband, we decided to go to the principal. Now most kids say this not meaning it, but they need to LEARN IT IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE TAKEN LIGHTLY. It is WRONG, it is AGAINST THE LAW and they can be arrested for making terrosit threats like that to another person. it's this warped sense of what's right and what's wrong that leads these kids to major difficulties later in life. The principal tried to blow me off, but I told her one more time and I go directly to the cops. My daughter had nightmares and slept with me a couple of nights until I went to the principal and talked to her and told her what I would do if this ever happened again. This little girl never said anything like this again and is very aware of who I am and how she acts around me. CHILDREN NEED TO KNOW THEY ARE BEING WATCHED AND WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG. IT'S OUR JOB AS PARENTS. Haven't we all typed the ER reports where they hold a person for 24 hours after making threats??? I don't care how hold the child, this is a great lesson for her to learn.
Speaking of the dinner...
My son and his best friend, along with their dates went to a quite expensive restaurant before their senior prom in downtown Atlanta. Between the 2 boys, they probably had just enough for dinner, no dessert.
After their meal, the waiter brought out 2 big plates of dessert. Well, the boys kinda panicked...not knowing if the girls had ordered the desserts behind their backs or not, and knowing that they couldn't afford to pay for them.
Long story short, the waiter told the kids that someone in the restaurant had sent over the dessert and picked up their check! My son was so excited, he called me from the restaurant...thinking his dad and I had done this wonderfully generous act. It was tempting to take the credit, but we didn't.
They have no idea who it was but it made their night! I know, not related, but just a nice prom story!
speaking of scumbags
My BIL had ALS. My SIL put him in a nursing home and immediately got herself a boyfriend. When questioned by the family she said she needed someone to help her through this ordeal. BIL died, she remarried. Nobody in the family speaks to her anymore.
speaking of ignorance...sm
This young man, in some countries, would be considered a *man* by now and more than likely raising babies. Most *courts* in this country allow a *child* to choose which parent he/she wants to live with when the parents divorce. If the *child* is old enough to choose who he/she wants to live with, he/she should be old enough to decide if he/she does not want a *treatment* that is going to cause him/her much anguish and pain and suffering. A 13-year old is not a *child*, but a young adult and has had enough life experience to know what he/she wants out of life. If you understand this correctly, the mother is not refusing *treatment*, but rather refusing chemotherapy! There is a difference. The Bible states that for every disease and illness on the face of the earth, there is a cure and treatment. I do not believe it is referring to the thought that by throwing a bunch of harmful *chemicals* into the body that some pharmaceutical research person dreamt up with thoughts of $$ in his head, as a *cure*. Nature has already provided us with whatever we need to treat ourselves and our diseases. This is what this mother is searching for. How would you like to have someone tell you that you had to have a treatment that you don't want? Would you want someone to force you to be throwing up every half hour and lose your hair??? I highly doubt it.
Speaking of working or not......
My MIL is OBSESSED with whether or not we have any money and what we do with our money. It IRRITATES me to no end! I mean we HAVE our own money, we don't ask her for money, so get out of our bees wax!
She came to our house when I was re-decorating my bathroom. I was doing it in roses and I was buying the stuff for it piece by piece and she was in the store with me looking at stuff and I showed her the garbage can I was going to get and it had roses and matched everything else, although I didn't get it that day. SOOOO my MIL goes to the dollar store and buys me a plain white trash can and brings it over and tells me and my husband that she got that for a dollar and SAVED ME $19.00 for the 20 bucks that I was going to spend on a garbage can!!!!! I told her I wanted the other one because it went with my theme and she told me that was ridiculous because this one serves the same purpose! I was so mad, but trying to hold my tonge and then my husband told me he didn't want me getting the other one cause it may "hurt her feelings". He said if i got the other one to just trade them out when she came over. FURIOUS, FURIOUS, FURIOUS, that woman STAYS in our business, it's horrible!
Just curious, why N?
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OP, I'm curious, how old are you?
I hope you don't mind me asking.
Just curious...
Just curious as to what triggered the idea to search his computer. I have an ex-porn addicted BF. Porn was very important in his life, and not in mine. So I broke up with him. No sense wasting a good life with someone you can't be happy with.
I am curious
I did not get to see very much of her trial coverage, and it is my general opinion that one person does not have a right to decide that another should die. That said, if someone insisted that I let them *stick it up my butt* (literally -- ewwwww) and told me that if I had any problems I could have surgery . . . not sure what I might do.
I know you guys said you don't believe her story, and dead men tell no tales, but I am really curious about why such a light sentence for her. What was the evidence of abuse (I seem to remember hearing something about medical notes from doctor's visits, in which she had supposedly lied to the doctors about injury causes, which she now says were caused by her husband.) Do you know why they believed her story?
Curious about your name
I it pronounced Teresa and is this the actucal spelling. My name is Teresa but spelled Tereasa. Extra a was accidentally added on my birth certificate and my mom kept it that way.
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