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Posted By: MB on 2007-10-22
In Reply to: college freshman saga continues......thank you for everyone's words of advice...sm - still frustrated
I have a daughter that is a sophmore.Wamted this certain college. Could not convince to stay in state. It costs her 10,000 dollars more being out of state. She goes from wanting to b there to not wanting to be there to liking it it to hating it It depends on what day you talk to her. Joined the band dropped out, had problem with boyfriend moved across the campus, than they started dating again, then he ends it. She gets upset wants to come home. I get a phone call every night. Everytime we decide to have her transfer or come home she decides to stay. Has changed her major three times. What worries me is she is on Student loans that she will be responsible to pay when she graduates. If she leaves college she will have to start paying immediately, where she would have 10 years if the stays in college. This month she is already over 80 minutes on the cell phone and there is two weeks more to go. She spends hours talking to the ex-boyfriend and they are on the same campus. My husband and I are going to talk to a therapist about this because I want to do tough love. Hang up when she calls crying at 11 p.m. Telling her if she does not get her act together she will have no choice to leave etc. He is the softy. Nothing makes her happy.
By any chance is your son going to a college in New England.
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Amen. Well said...whoever wrote this. thx. nm
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Wrote down the info...thanks. nm
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First off, I was very upset when I wrote
the original post. Sending my son to a boys' home is obviously a last resort. I don't mean an orphanage or foster care. I mean a facility that can help to retrain him if I can't. I love my son very much. I would rather suffer the pains and guilt of having to send him to a reformity, then to watch him grow up into someone who would hurt someone else and ruin the rest of his life. I love all of my children equally.
Secondly, when I took my child to the child psychologist, I had several visits with him first to see if there was something I was doing wrong. I continued to attend each session with my child, including private sessions for myself after his meeting with my son.
Thirdly, your comments were not helpful, just nasty, and that's not the kind of help I was looking for. Anyone who's ever been in this situation already feels inadequate as a parent and doesn't need someone else to slam them. Thanks for taking the time out of your busy day to do just that.
You must be my twin because you just wrote
everything about me to a T!!! I've been in a quandry for quite some time about what I should do.
I was one who wrote below about finding SM
love after divorce. I believe there are good men out there, but they are hard to find, especially the older one gets. I think the key is letting him find you, but it doesn't mean you can't put yourself out there.
OK. What I think about problem men have in marriages. I'm speaking about my own here. I was the only girl he ever dated. He asked me to marry him and I said yes. He knew it was mistake, but was devout Catholic and just stayed married, but decided he would still like to be single, so he began cheating on me. As for me, I loved him for a long, long time. When I see him at family events, I wonder why! LOL!!!!
hih? truth? whose? Men who wrote Bibles?
I have not read but others wrote yet but you just need to stop - sm
you have done all you can do and have bent over backwards to help. Your guilt will be your downfall. I don't know how to tell you to stop feeling guilty, but you really have nothing to feel guilty about. You have done way too much for her and she has just taken advantage. She is 19 more than old enough to take care of herself. She wants to be homeless and can adapt as you say to any situation, then let her. I would just tell her the gravy train stops now and she has to learn how to take care of herself. Get some names of some shelters to give her, the YWCA, etc. and if she really wants to help herself she can start there but she is going to have to do it on her own now. If the worsed happens you know you have done all that one person can possibly do; but if she does not want to help herself (and it is obvious she does not) then there really is nothing you or anyone else can do. You need to steel yourself not to give in and basically cut off all contact until she proves w/o a doubt that she has cleaned up her act which will take at least 6 months if not more I would think. If you don't have caller ID then get it, otherwise let your answering machine answer all calls and just don't take hers or return her calls either. Good luck.
That wife you wrote about sounds like me! LOL! SM
I was married to a man who cheated for years. I was in total denial. After close to 30 years, I up and left. Best thing I ever did.
Just want to acknowledge point that men don't leave. If they are in a long marriage, and have been getting away with cheating for a long time, AND there is a lot of money involved, what with houses, pensions, savings, etc., THEY DON'T LEAVE.
I admire both your honesty. Good luck.
just wrote a long reply`
put stu@pid in it and it said I used bad language and to go back and it deleated my whole darn thing, will write back soon, behind in work, but have some comments to make later. Good to see you back Hayseed.
No when I originally wrote the check
The check was a voided check to Wal-Mart and the Loan company, CNH Capital, knew that and cashed it anyway. I thought it was illegal for someone cash a check that did not belong to them.
I can't believe you just wrote it's not okay for your kids to make mistakes.
"Just becuase UGU all forget things and make mistakes does not mean that my children need to be raised to think it's ok to do so."
Good god, I hope I never meet you or anyone else with your twisted sense of right and wrong.
no, nobody knows but the bank, they will cover checks you wrote
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Totally disagree with one thing you wrote. sm
You Wrote:
Yes, there are bad breeders, but there are far more good ones. In my 18 years in the cat fancy, I have seen some bad ones, *but the good ones far outweigh the bad.*
If only that were true. *sigh* Maybe you're talking about in the show world. It probably is true there, but that is such a teeny, tiny part of the whole picture.
In reality, outside of the show world, there are far, far, far more BAD 'breeders' out there, though I'm using the word 'breeder' loosely, to include backyard breeders (type that into Google if you're not familiar w/the term - I don't mean you, gd1, as I'm sure you know all about it!), puppy mills, and pet stores, and that is were the majority of the pet overpopulation problem comes from.
I wish only the reputable, ethical 'show breeders' of dogs and cats were the only ones doing any breeding. If that were the case, there would be little to no problem, as they are the caretakers of their breeds and are concerned with bettering the breed, only breeding animals with excellent health, conformation, and temperament - not just $$$ by cranking out puppies/kittens, or letting their dog/cat have a litter for the kids to see or because 'everyone wants one of her puppies/kittens!' or whatever.
I don't know if mandatory spaying/neutering is the answer or not. I do know it's being seriously considered in my state (CA), and there would be exceptions for hobby/show breeders, breeders of service dogs, search and rescue dogs, etc.
But I have a feeling people would find some way around it, and I imagine disreputable people (gag) in neighboring states would start to crank up 'production' if there were any kind of 'shortage' here. Makes me ill...
I also don't know how mandatory spay/neut. could be enforced. Animal control here (huge county) admitted on the news that only about 25% of pets are licensed.
I think I'm in favor of it, overall though, at least to give it a try and with exceptions available for *some* breeders, as I mentioned above.
I did breed rescue for 6 years, and I've been to more shelters and seen more animals there than I care to recall. It's absolutely sickening the number of perfectly nice animals destroyed, simply for lack of a home. A shocking number (about 25-30%) are young, healthy purebreds that cost the original owner a pretty penny, so even that doesn't guarantee a home.
The poster wrote 4 sentences on an MT forum.
You don't know her, can't judge her. This place is getting so catty and ridiculous.
You did your rant, laughed your ___ off and wrote off your Mom and Grandmom!
You have a lot to learn. When they are dead, you will realize it didn't really mean a thing except that you "wrote them off" and laughed your A@@ off at any suggestion that you should make peace with your Mom at Christmas. You only have one Mom, you came from her loins, no one else's. Too bad you can't realize how wrong you are to judge. No one said you have to see her every day but she's a human being and human beings make mistakes. Glad you are perfect and your kid is perfect. Hope you always remain "perfect." Merry Christmas! Sounds like you have a lot of people backing you up, so you think you're right in ditching your Mom and Grandmom. People in my family have done horrible things to me but I rise above it, send them a Christmas card and wish them a Merry Christmas and a Happy and Healthy New Year. I am not God. Perhaps you don't see your Mom's tears, but believe me, one day you will be sorry and it will be too late. Get a heart! You are telling your son in effect, "These are bad people, write them off!" Bad advice methinks. You are hearing only what you want to hear, so go ahead and laugh your a@@ off if it makes you happy. Watch out you are not that "Mom" one day, you've set the scene and have written the script, to "write Moms off."
Obviously a man wrote that Good Wife Guide - sm
Boy that thing is amazing, hard to believe that that is how people thought and behaved back then, Stepford wives. Guess some men were sad when women finally woke up and smelled the coffee. ---I only remember a couple things though, but I was born in 1965--- drive-in movies and the metal ice trays, rabbit ears, the star/sun ray clock, and we had an old metal Pepsi cooler which had my dad kept would probably be worth a small fortune now.
If you exercised your right to vote and wrote to your congressmen/women,
passive people just sit back ,allow bad things happening, and then whine about it, while aggressive people actually DO SOMETHING about matters they disagree with.
Mitch Alboum wrote a book about this called
Boy, Hayseed..you just wrote my story..Today, it occured to me...
I'm going nuts doing this job. The longer I sit here every day the fruit-ier I am getting. I have to force myself to leave the house and when I get out there I have panic attacks. I'm freaked out by traffic, freaked out by too many people and I just want to run home and put my sweats back on. A few days ago was the topper, and it was at that point, that I started getting on the job search for a job OUTSIDE of home. Isolation is NOT good. My husband had just made dinner, we ate, then I went back to my office for about an hour, and I irritatingly came out of my office to ask my husband why he hadn't decided yet what he wanted for dinner as it was getting late. He looked at me with that WHAT THE BLEEP BLEEP!!! and I just knew it was time to get AWAY from the computer and socialize with real people. I truly feel this is NOT healthy. I have started wierding myself out by some of the stuff I'm doing. I have even started forgetting people's names and numbers that I swore I would never forget...AND I refuse to believe I'm getting older or that I have Alzheimers. It's something much deeper..WORK..LOL..Well, it's late and I need to get back to work so I can keep losing my mind..See ya. 
I wrote my local buffalo rock and they told me a
I will look for your Folger's Instant Straight up tomorrow when I go!
I wrote a $10 check to Wal-Mart and turned in to a $40 mistake so far.
Here is what happened. When you write a check at this Wal-Mart here, they have you sign something and give the check back. I stuck it back in my purse. They are supposed to void. I was cleaning at my purse that day and paying bills at the same time. I wrote a $250 to pay a loan. I really don't know how it happened but I must have torn that one up and sent the $10 voided check to the loan. A week later, i was looking at my acct online. I notice that that $10 I had written to Wal-Mart went through twice. I called the bank and asked why. They said, "oh, it looks like Wal-Mart double dipped." so I was refunded the money. I don't know who refunded the money, was it the bank, Wal-mart, I don't know. Anyway, I became concerned about why that 250 check didn't come in so I called that loan company. They said $10 was credit to my acct. I did not connect the 2 at the time. I thought, 10, I don't write $10 to this acct. The man told me he would look into it incase there was a mistake. He called back the day later and said that was a $10 originally written to Wal-Mart and we cashed it. So I called the bank and told them. They then had me go to wal-mart because they said I owed them $10 back. I go to wal-mart and they say no it is the Telecheck, company they use for this service and they thanked me for trying to clear it up and said Telecheck will be contacting me. So I get a letter in the mail saying I owe $40 plus I am not allowed to write checks anywhere that uses their service until I pay that $40 back.
What scares me is that that check said VOID on it and that other bunch was still able to cash it and get their money, which I think was dishonest of them...also my bank let it go through. Now what if I were to loose a bunch of those type checks and someone cashes it AGAIN. Man I would be out a lot. Do you think any of this is right? TIA.
Sorry, I was upset at the time I wrote the original post
Basically, I sent a voided Wal-Mart check to a creditor by mistake and they cashed it and the bank let it go through both times. I called them on it. I was thinking that someone must have found that check and cashed it again. At the time, I did not realize my mistake. They then cancelled the payment to Wal-Mart, don't know why, and now Wal-Mart is treating it like I wrote a hot check. They added $30 to the original amount.
I read all the comments and I agree with the poster who wrote
'One has to teach people how to treat you' and one has to tell people what is imoportant to oneself.
It is inexcusable not to call or meet one's mother for mother's day and Christmas, etc.....
A cute little article/story my husband just wrote that I wanted to share!
Layoffs in the North Pole
Story by Bill Perkins
In a press release this morning Santa Claus announced the layoff of nearly 800,000 elf employees. The announcement was completely unexpected despite the current economic situation.
Due to the failing economy, and many companies cutting costs wherever they can, including advertising, Mr. Claus has lost several endorsement jobs.
Mr. Claus is seeking government aid, requesting his own bailout package from several different governments. However, he is meeting a great deal of resistance. Many toymakers and distributors, namely Walmart, Playskool, and the Chinese government, are lobbying against the bailout. They say Santa's "Free Toy for Every Child" program is a seasonal monopoly, and it generally takes four months to recover the losses sustained from his "good deeds."
Children across the globe will feel the impact this Christmas, particularly the naughty ones. Traditionally, naughty children receive lumps of coal from Santa on Christmas. Mr. Claus has no coal to give, though, as it was part of the elves' severance packages. It is Santa's hope that it will at least be enough to keep his former employees warm through the winter.
When asked if there was any hope of the elves returning to work next year, Santa replied, "It doesn't look very promising. The elves are like family to me; I love them all very dearly. Unfortunately, illegal immigrants work for a lot less, and I don't have to provide benefits, so that's probably what I'll have to do. It was a difficult decision to make, but it's necessary if I want to keep the business in operation."
The elves aren't the only ones hurting. The reindeer are suffering a great deal more. Mr. Claus has had to auction off much of his breeding stock just to stay operational until Christmas Eve. (See related story on page 5, "McDonald's Debuts new Christmas Menu.) It is questionable at this point how much longer Santa will be able to make his annual flight.
Could this be the beginning of the end of Santa Claus? Only time will tell for sure.
Another note, you said there must be more to it because
I simply responded because someone else posted that they wouldn't shop at WalMart.
You would not believe what was on my op note....
I had a doctor who falsified my op note. I had several procedures (plastic) including a face lift. He forgot the face lift! Yes, that is right. When I went and checked the medical record, the op note not dictated yet and when I approached him at his office he gave me an "IOU" on his office stationary with him signing his name. Yeh, right. I only asked for the up front payment I made for the face lift that I did not get and 8 months later he dictated the op note, except he included the face lift portion in it. I have an unusual last name so that would not be the problem. I went thru mediation and he even called my home twice in a threatening type voice. I worked there at the hospital where he is the head over that department and I just finally let it go- I believe in Karma... so
Should be " a more serious note"-
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Just another note
I'm so glad I wasn't "blasted" for my thoughts and its nice that people respect other people. You did have some good opinions too. One thing I should have mentioned though is that I don't have kids and I think that plays such a bigger role for people who do, and it is easier for me to make my decisions about moving on with my life than it would be for someone else.
Growing up it was the other way around. My mom cheated on my dad. My dad was a truckdriver, and yes he may have had women on the road but we never heard about it. My mom on the other hand we knew was having affairs (there's nothing more disgusting than being 15 and 16 years old and your mom's boyfriend is singing to her the song "I want to make love to you"). My mom also became pregnat by a sailor at the navy base when I was 3 years old and we ended up moving 2 states away where she had the baby and gave him up for adoption, unfortunately 3 months after she gave the baby up for adoption my little sister who was 16 months old died from meningitis. My dad ended up staying with my mom until my sister and I were old enough to understand why they were divorcing (which was 12 years later). We loved both my mom and dad equally. Mom's now in heaven with baby sister and grandparents etc.
Anyway...what I'm trying to say is in my case I would have an easier time dealing with this type of situation (because of no kids).
As for the hollyweird people I don't think any of them (or at least the majority of them) ever think when they get married it's going to be for life. They are just a different breed of people. Oh sure, they get on TV and say this is for life, but then 3 months later they turn around divorce and a week later marry someone else. I do think Brad & Jennifer were quite different than the usual crowd. I did feel bad for her when all that happened.
In my case I am committed while I am in the marriage, but if anything did happen I wouldn't be devistated because I'm basically doing everything myself anyways, but having an affair is just not something my husband would ever do (just not in his nature), but I also just look at life a little differently and figure if anything ever happens I will be committed to making myself happy.
End note!...sm
Perhaps I shoulda put in my first post that you seem to be rather mean-spirited. I heard it in your first post indicating that you're above it all. The second post was absolutely atrocious....(I am the grandaughter of...yada, yada, yada). Piffle and snot!
Hayseed is very tender-hearted, has extraordinary wit and humor, thinks before she speaks/posts, and works very hard.
Please don't mess with my friend. End note.  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
Please note sm
This is not the original poster.
Of further note...
My husband and I started going to counseling for us to have someone to talk to about the ex and get ideas on how to handle difficult situations with the child. We then slowly introduced the child after the counselor found out information and suggested it.
Just a note to all
I was reading all your posts and this thought came to mind. We don't live in the days of when I was growing up in the 50s. Things were very safe and we never locked our doors. But times are different. There are so many horrible crimes and in placed nobody ever dreamed would happen. Like one of the posters below said, I too have seen news where a crime happened and the people would say, we just never thought it would happen here. To all who think its safe or no big deal, it is a big deal and for all your safety I would please just take the extra 5 or 10 seconds it takes to turn the lock on your door. It takes but a second or two but an act that could possibly one day save your life. For all those who think your towns are safe, there are so many people who think the same thing and you see them on the news. One incident in particular that comes to mind is a town in Pennsylvania where a bunch of Amish school girls were killed. My point is that while everyone wants their town to remain a very safe place where everyone loves their neighbor and is so safe to leave your doors unlocked, it really is not that way anymore.
So, please just take the extra step and turn the lock at night.
Did he see the note?
It sounds like you told him about the note. I think his reply is pretty standard and that if he can deny it, blame it on "one of the guys" at work, and that be the end of it, then he's going to stick with his story.
It has a note on it.
It is three months behind and they are about to repo it. So that isn't an option.
Just a note
Not MY experience, but last year my mom (60 yo, well past menopause start) experienced abnormal bleeding. Turned out to be endometrial ca. They performed TAH and she went through radiation therapy. Did very well, and her last check ups were very good. I think time between diagnosis and surgery was a few weeks. My advice, don't stress too much between now and seeing your doc.
A note on my baby
I left a message on the board about how my babies F/L was measured short and the doctor told me the baby probably had down syndrome. Well, I went to see a specialist who was very upset with the previous doctor and he did a level II ultrasound and my baby is perfect and normal. They do not measure the F/L for down syndrome. They measure the humerus bone. Anyway to make a long story short-----thanks to all who responded !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and the baby has very long legs......
side note--sm
and don't forget to remove the neck and giblets in the bag inside the turkey prior to baking. I learned from experience. :^)
I don't get this from her note, her DH was supposed -sm
to be helping with the kids so she could bring home money. I am sure he has no problem spending any money she makes, but he does not want to be inconvenienced in the course of her making the money. I know, I have the same problem but not as bad as she does. My older daughter did not even know she had a dad basically until she was about 19 months old, then my DH had absolutely no choice but to help as I gave birth to our second daughter. At that point he'd probably only changed 2 diapers. But with kid #2 he helped more than he did with the first one, but still under some duress. To this day he still won't brush their hair, or supervise/help with teeth brushing (he says he doesn't know how to do it, well he does it himself so where is the problem), they are 6 and 8 now. You never feel pestered by your kids, you get on the phone and instantly they want you and nag you to death until you either lock yourself in the bathroom or get off the phone, then they don't want/need you anymore. Yes, I feel pestered sometimes, doesn't mean I don't want to take care of my children, I'd die for them if necessary. The poster is frustrated, obviously being verbally abused and has a jerk for a DH. I can relate and I am sure many others can too. It is hard to be supermom, work, clean, take care of the kids/house, make DH happy, everyone but you comes first, and then when the DH has to actually help out boy you'd think you were cutting off his leg. Well, mine is not like that now, but he used to be. Now he is good about it and likes his time with the kids on his own but they are older now and easier to deal with. They still can drive you nuts though. I hope she can somehow get him to turn around, maybe stop working for 2 weeks and when he sees the money is not coming in maybe he will realize just how important it is that she have the time to work without interuptions and pitch in some to lighten her load.
On a lighter note -
its FRIDAY!!!!!! WOO HOO Thank goodness, what a long week I've had.
On a personal note -
 Does anyone have any personal experience with subcutaneous lipomas? I have one the size of an egg in my left lower quadrant and the doctor says it must come out pretty quick; thinks it is attached to the muscle so open surgery is in my future. Anycomments or anything about it? I sure would appreciate it!
Got a tacky thank you note
I went shopping for the gifts and got a printed thank you note. That is just tacky-back. If I have time to shop for a gift, you can at least send a 2 sentence thank you- hey could mention my name and what I gave also. That is how you do things.
Quick note sm
I think he is incredible, yes, but he is a bit of a perfectionist and even loveingly complains when we don't keep the house "clean enough" or "yardwork needs to be done". I have always said he will either make a wonderful husband or drive his wife crazy. LOL!!!
I should note--I did the opposite of what OP is asking
I'm the youngin'. DH is the oldie but goodie.
Thanks for your note, here's more info...sm
She is doing well in school in some subjects and struggling in others as she has a couple of learning disabilities but has made great improvement with that so far this year. I'm hearing from her teachers and other parents that a lot of her kids her age are now "testing" them and parents like we used to do when we were older. She doesn't make friends at school easily and that's something a counselor is working with her on, because she does things to really annoy other kids and make them not like her.
We already did the drastic measure of taking everything out of her room and that really got to her for about a week, esp since she had to spend every moment she wasn't in school or in bed in her room during that time. She has only earned a few of her things back. Some days she does well and other days she's, like a brat trying to see how much she can get by with.
We don't believe in spanking but when I was growing up, if we ever talked like that we'd have been knocked across a room!
I told her tonight when she got mad at me and screamed in my face to STOP that if she kept this crap up she'd have a very miserably severely grounded life, and that my next measure would be to add to the grounding to her room no afternoon snack, which she loves, to see if that helps get her attention. She also knows that we're going to see Santa soon but we haven't told her the date for that and that if she's not behaving then we're going to make her tell Santa she hasn't been good....and she knows I'll make her do that.
Note for Siren (sm)
I saw your note below about how you are recovering from foot surgery and trying to lose weight. I lost weight about 5 years ago doing Oxycise when I had severe plantar fasciitis. I kept it off for over two years and then stopped Oxycising and gained back what i had lost and more, slowly over the last few years. I just recently started back on it and it is working like a charm. Anyway, it is 15 minutes a day of isometric and breathing exercises. The DVD is kinda nerdy looking and it doesn't look like it would do anything but it really does. It is about $30 and it really does work. Back when I lost so much with using it I was practically their spokes person telling everyone I knew but then I slacked off! Anyway best wishes to you!
I forgot to add to the above note
My children, sibling and parents do not have a key to my house and we are all very very very close, and I don't have a key to any of their houses - and we all feel loved by each other and welcome anytime as long as one of us are there or we arrange it ahead of time to let each other in the house without one of us there. Why in the world would anyone want a key to someone elses home when they don't live there is beyond comprehension for me. I know...maybe I should give them all a key to my house and they drunk on the corner down the road too. Give me a break everyone....better yet give the person who originally posted a break (and some credit for knowing right from wrong).
Note from an ex-smoker
I smoked for for 11 years. I quit 5/23/85 at midnight - cold turkey. I'm not going to sit and tell you whether you should smoke or not. Smokers know better than anyone how bad it is. I have nothing against smokers as long as I don't have to breath it in. I would get no joy in telling people they have a bad habit or its bad for you or cancer, blah, blah, blah (although some people do and I don't understand that at all). I think it is totally rude for someone to lecture anyone on their habits. If it was me this is what I would have said to your friends son. "You know whats more rude than telling someone they have a bad habit to their face, is to look into another person's personal belongings and comment on something that they shouldn't be looking at in the first place". Then if the friend said something to me about talking to his/her child that way, then I would have said my parents taught me to respect others privacy. Anyway...I knew when I smoked how bad it was for me. I knew that cigarettes caused cancer and all that crap, but it was my choice to smoke, just like it was my choice to quit (well actually I quit cos I was tired of arguing with my DH about my smoking). Honestly I do not like smoking at all. I am so against it because of many reasons. The main one being that when I am around someone who is smoking I just can't breath and feel like I'm having an asthma attack or something. Honest to God its like all the air around me is gone. Unfortunately there are a lot of people who smoke that don't care because they say "it's their right". I'm not saying you are like that but there are a lot of people who are. Second I don't like the way it smells and third is...well, it really is bad for you (duh....thought you'd like to know that if you didn't know already - HA HA). Anyway...for anyone to comment on another persons habits (whether good or bad) in my book is rude and they should mind their own business. For the people who do smoke yes there are a lot of obnoxious nonsmokers (I think the ones who used to smoke and quit are worse because they get the "holier than thou" attitude) - which is why I am so against forming an opinion about anyone. I'm sure when you feel the time is ready you'll quit on your own. I myself kept smoking for "spite" because I refused to be forced to quit, but figured my marriage was worth more than the cigs (even though I smoked when we dated those whole 2 weeks). So good luck to you. Try and not let the "butt-heads" get to you. (get it- "butt" heads) HA HA HA. PS - On a sadder note my mom died 3 years ago from lung cancer. Oh it was so awful to watch what she went through, so I really do hope you'll feel the time is right sometime soon to try and stop when your ready. I did quit by eating lots of red liquish (don't know how to spell that - Twizzler licorice - yeah think that's it). I held it in my hands like I was holding a cigarette. I told my DH I was going to gain a lot of weight and he said he didn't care how fat I got he just wanted me to quit smoking. 22 years later I am glad I quit (but it was a struggle for a short period of time - took me a couple months to get through the cravings).
I would use a check and be sure to note
Saw this on Judge Judy 1 too many times where people didn't note that on the memo line and it came back to bite them later on. Depending on the type of debt and whether you are mailing the check or dropping it off, I would ask for a receipt. If mailing it, send it certified (check with your post office) and you will get a return receipt for a dollar or 2.
Note my surprise...
I did not realize we knew each other so well. You seem to know my age, my mortgage amount, what kind of car I drive, the amount of my household income. You should really be in a different profession.
I'd certainly wanna see the procedure note
They should have some documentation of what happened. If not, I'd REALLY wanna know exactly what was so minor they'd not document it, but left marks on your body!
LOL, note that she said the cousin is now not that stable.....
Thanks to Auntie??? ; ) lol
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