context is everything
Posted By: deenibeeni on 2009-01-01
In Reply to: I had a wonderful morning and - Little girls
I also stand by what I said.
If this is an African-American girl we are talking about, then great. It puts her somewhat more in that context but not entirely. You don't know anything about this girl, including whether or not she has any other symptoms, like breasts that are large for her age or body hair or whatever. The original poster did not mention any of this.
& I hate to punch a hole in what you learned at the health food store about normal bodily functions, but large breasts on a very young girl WOULD be a symptom. (Like I said, context is everything.) I'm not saying she has this, I'm saying I don't know enough about the situation, & possibly neither do the people closest to her (& certainly you don't, & apparently you wouldn't want to, so thank heaven you are not her mother), to make a diagnosis that absolutely nothing is wrong.
"Only someone who knows zilch about a young girl..."
I WAS a young girl. Now I'm a woman in an allied health profession who is extremely well read, not only because I'm an MT but because I have a master's degree in a health-related field. I don't do most of my research on MTStars or on Google.
"...and listen you sounds like a school marm."
I hope this is also the sign of a hangover, for the sake of your account.
Were it my daughter, I would sacrifice my reputation as a non school marm to make sure everything is okay. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & nothing actually is wrong, then everything is fine. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & something actually is wrong, she's the one who will suffer. That's a risk I wouldn't be willing to take. Small action, possibly enormous consequence. The original poster, her grandmother, didn't post for nothing. She knows her family & has a feeling something is not right, & if information will assuage this, I think she's right to investigate via whatever means she has at her disposal.
I also think that something about what I said really pushed a button of yours, because your response seems way out of proportion. What on earth are you projecting?
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context is everything
I also stand by what I said.
If the girl we are talking about is African American, then great. It puts her somewhat more in that context but not entirely. You don't know anything about this girl, including whether or not she has any other symptoms, like Tanner 4. The original poster did not mention this.
& I hate to punch a hole in what you learned at the health food store about normal bodily functions, but large breasts on a very young girl WOULD be a symptom. (Like I said, context is everything.) I'm not saying she has this, I'm saying I don't know enough about the situation, & possibly neither do the people closest to her (& certainly you don't, & apparently you wouldn't want to, so thank heaven you are not her mother), to make a diagnosis that absolutely nothing is wrong.
"Only someone who knows zilch about a young girl..."
I WAS a young girl. Now I'm a woman in an allied health profession who is extremely well read, not only because I'm an MT but because I have a master's degree in a health-related field. I don't do most of my research on MTStars or on Google.
"...and listen you sounds like a school marm."
Like I said, I hope this is also the sign a hangover, for the sake of your account.
Were it my daughter, I would sacrifice my reputation as a non school marm to make sure everything is okay. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & nothing actually is wrong, then everything is fine. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & something actually is wrong, I'm (or actually, she's) the one who will suffer. That's a risk I wouldn't be willing to take. Small action, possibly enormous consequence. The original poster, her grandmother, didn't post for nothing. She knows her family & has a feeling something is not right, & if information will assuage this, I think she's right to investigate via whatever means she has at her disposal.
I also think that something about what I said really pushed a button of yours, because your response seems way out of proportion. What on earth are you projecting?
You took what I said out of context
I am not angry about the past life. I was answering about being spoiled now after those years and said it was time I was spoiled, only time in my life and late in the game but still good. She was not around then, had nothing to do with that, don’t hold her responsible in any way. I am not even angry anymore about the person who was responsible. I hold no grudges again anyone. I was merely answering the person who was saying I was spoiled. Now do you get it?
I think those things do matter -- it's context
If it were a teacher calling a 16 or 17-year-old student that, then I would be concerned. However, as I said, my son's kindergarten teacher calls him that all the time. She's pushing 60 and he's 6 -- big difference. She's also had my other 2 children and done the same. I'm 34 and when I visit the class, I call the kids the same thing, mainly because I can't remember all their names.
I'd have to guess that if it upsets you, there's probably another reason that it upsets you -- maybe a roving eye or longer-than-you'd-like pats on the back by the teacher? If you have a bad vibe, you should definitely pursue it! Maternal instinct is usually right.
laughing out loud or lots of love depending on the context.
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I think you are taking this out of context...I originally asked about my in-laws basically coming ov
and then the issue of locking doors and security gets brought up...why is it you can't post something on these boards without it being blown out of proportion???
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