consider yourself blessed/fortunate/lucky sm
Posted By: Newly dating and fuming on 2009-05-26
In Reply to: Am I missing something? Working at marriage? - Sally
went in with the best intentions, tried as hard as I possibly could, 15 yrs and 4 marriage counselors and countless tears later, I am posting the message below
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I'm with you on being lucky and blessed...sm
my husband is retired from the military and we get a very nice retirement check every month from that. He does the laundry and cleaning because he likes doing this and runs the kids to appointments as needed. I don't let him go to the grocery store, though, because every time he goes he goes way over budget by bringing tons of stuff home. He does work 12 hours a week helping in the ASP at a local school just for the heck of it. If we needed him to work full-time he would but we're content with our income and lifestyle, and I love my job so there's no reason to do things differently in our household.
You're lucky (or he's lucky) the parents care
I have 2 kids just down at the end of the block from me and their parents don't give a rat's behind what they're doing. They're real smart alecks - ages 10 and 12 (?), both in elementary school. Apparently, they're quite the bullies at school, too. They like to mouth to any adults when they whiz by on their bikes. Is it wrong that I'd love to take my kids' BB guns and shoot their tires out when they're doing this?
Their mom doesn't care. When we first moved into town this past fall (short-term thing while we're building in the country), I felt sorry for them. They put on a good act. After a few weeks of them coming to our house and pretending to want to play with the boys, we soon realized they were freeloaders -- wanted to eat everything in my fridge (without even asking first) and then wanted to play our computers or video games (without my kids). I put the klinks on that real fast. After that, they started treating my kids like crap. I told my boys as long as they didn't do anything physical to just ignore them because they didn't care if they got in trouble and neither did their parents. Their mom even had the balls to come looking for them 1 night after they didn't go home. It was 9 o'clock at night and it got dark then around 7. I couldn't believe it.
Just a few weeks ago, the 2 perps beat another kid with a baseball bat at the ballfield. The cops were at their house quite a bit, but I see they're back out on their bikes again wreaking havoc. I can't wait till we move back out to the country!
You are very fortunate
I am too! I have a great hubby also but for different reasons. Ain't love grand!!!
I'm so sorry - but think how fortunate she has been! (sm)
She has obviously been loved and well cared for her whole life. There are so many homeless puppies out there. You have given her a good life so feel good about that. I know it will be hard still, but know in your heart that you gave her a good life, ok?
Yes, so fortunate
Eventually my husband and I want to move to a smaller house, but I can't bear to leave the neighborhood! It's wonderful to have supportive friends so close by. We all laugh about how nobody dares to move.
Thank God your son is okay! My prayers for those not so fortunate. nm
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We are also fortunate here in our area...
we have a small (1500 sf) home, 2 bedrooms, 1 bath, will be remodeling the bath and kitchen in the next year and adding 2 rooms upstairs. We live on 15 acres, have a 4-stall horse barn, a shop, a beautiful view, live in the country, mortgage is only 1100 a month and property taxes are less than 1000 a year. My dh only paid 185,000 for the place and it is now appraised at over 350,000. Used to live in California, so know the whole story about home prices there. We have Californians who migrate here and buy houses sometimes just by seeing a picture on the internet, never even come up to look at it in person.
You've been very fortunate...sm
You've been kind, taken care of folks and like you said, Karma (what goes around comes around).  Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pXDonUxBxig
Your grandmom was very fortunate to have you too! (sm)
how many grandchildren would live with their grandparent through college and still talk about them with so much love years later? That is so sweet and wonderful that you both had such a good relationship with each other!
Guess I'm fortunate
My husband is such a fantastic cook that we rarely go out for dinner. My birthday was last week and he gave me a choice of any restaurant I wanted to eat to celebrate. I thought about it for a couple of days, then just asked him if he could make his grilled rib steaks, shrimp scampi with angel hair pasta, and mixed green salad at home. It cost about a third of what getting a similar meal at a restaurant would have cost, and I swear it tasted better.
I don't grab fast food for lunch anymore...I usually heat up whatever we have left over from the dinner he's cooked the night before, so I guess it costs me $0 to eat lunch.
I don't ever want to go back to the value menu cuisine I ate before I met my husband, lol!!!
Fortunate ours are picky in this case....sm
Our cats won't eat anything but Little Friskies and Fancy Feast, and Meow Mix dry food, so thank goodness for that. Our dogs have eaten Mighty Dog, which is on the list, so I am a little concerned.
We were fortunate enough to receive one for coal...sm
Considering the high cost of heating oil, natural gas, and kerosene, we're very grateful...Thanks, Santa. Cat
Yeah, I hate that. I am fortunate to have - sm
a great eye doctor, no long waits either. He is very thorough and recently saw a spot on my daughter's retina. She had cancer almost 4 years ago now and anything out of the ordinary must be checked. We went back in for a repeat retinal scan and found it unchanged, diagnosed as a freckle, though he will continue to follow it to be on the safe side. He did a full exam on her though we were only to get the scan done, and only charged us for the scan. He is a good eye doctor in all respects. My neighbor recommended him to me after I complained that I had been bouncing from place to place for about 8 years trying to find someone I was happy with (newish to area), and did not blind me when dilating my eyes. He has a retinal scan machine and no need to dilate eyes, which is great as it takes me 12-18 hours for my eyes to get back to normal, hard to drive let alone work. My doctor does use dilute solution if you request it, and uses it in the summer for all so you are not so blinded in the sun. But I'd look for a smaller office, less patients, no chains, and one that has a retinal scan machine. Good luck.
Some of us are fortunate enough to NOT be cold-hearted shrews!
who care only for themselves and nobody else. We care deeply about our loved ones and it is extremely difficult to turn them out, even if it is the right thing and only thing left to do! It's not about backbone, lady! Where's your compassion? This is painful for her. She is watching her father sink further and further into mental illness and she feels helpless. She wants to fix him, take care of him, and make him better, but she is realizing she can't. That's a painful realization -- the realization that no matter how much you love them, no matter how much you try to help, it will never be enough, you will never succeed, and the only thing left to do is save yourself.
Curious Girl, will eventually do what she needs to do, but doing what is right can be just as painful as something that is wrong. What she needs are shoulders to cry on and people around her to tell her she's a good person NOT criticize her and tell her she needs to grow a backbone!
You are blessed...
And should feel very fortunate to have wonderful in-laws. Merry Christmas!
you have been blessed!
take care and thanks for sharing!
I too am blessed....
to have a great one. It is not bragging, simply the truth. I married a man, not a boy, and he is respectful, as I am of him.
You are blessed!
Enjoy it! They sure can amaze you, huh? When you least expect it, they can make you feel sooooo incredibly LOVED!!!!
I'm blessed to have two.
There was a time when I didn't think I'd ever trust or be friends with anyone again, but since rekindling a friendship with a woman I knew since I was 20 it's been great. We go walking once a week. So far I keep it to just one day of talking with her so that time we do walk, we chitter chatter about anything and everything under the sun. My other friend's been there for me for almost 15 years. We have our ups and downs, but I think I can confide anything with this friend and vice versa.
You are so very blessed!!
I'm almost speechless. What a wonderful way for things to turn out! Even the hardships, when you share them, can bring you closer together. It sounds like there's a lot of love in your family. Thanks for that uplifting, optimistic post!
i'm so blessed but most people don't know
that i was molested as a child, that i have been held up at gunpoint, i escaped pursuit of a car-full of guys when i was on a bicycle, experienced date rape before there was such a term, had an intruder in the night that even opened my bedroom door when i had a broken pelvis (and i said 'who are you' and he fled)...was the subject of an attempted kidnapping and rape in a hospital parking lot and even a few other things. All this has impacted my life, my emotions, etc, but i am by most standards extremely blessed not only with my life still intact, my basic health, a good husband, happy healthy children, grandchildren, animals etc etc. God can bring us through it all, if we hang on to his hand.
consider yourself blessed - not many speak same
Talk about blessed
Go to myfoxatlanta.com and watch the video of a construction crane collapsing on a woman's car. Miraculously, she was NOT injured...wow!
You are very blessed - I know there are a lot of graet men (sm)
out there. I have many friends whose marriages are great. When my husband complains I bring up one of our friends and say - well you know how Sally's house always looks great? She doesn't work, or she works part-time, and I have seen Joe helping around the house, and don't forget her mother lives in town and can keep the kids when she needs to do things. But it never seems to sink in. I see couples shopping together who look so happy. Sometimes I get in my car and cry because I don't have anything like that at all.
I never do this. But if you want to be beyond blessed this morning, please sm
email me and I will forward you this amazingly adorable thing about DOGS. I am not really a dog person, but after that, I am now! sniff sniff
I would love to share this with everyone. I rec'd it from my aunt this morning. Looking forward to hearing from a lot of you!
This is the email to use:
you mentioned how blessed
if you believe in blessings, i would (here goes this word again) "assume" you believe in forgiveness also. i think you should be the bigger one and try to contact your son and make an attempt to straighten things out. at least you will know you tried and then the ball is in his court. :)
Thank you Lord, I am blessed.
Thank you Lord, I am blessed.
"A blessed event" nm
you have been blessed with furry friends!!
I can't imagine life without them. They can really make someone's day. I especially love when I hear about the animals helping people in nursing homes or using them in libraries during children hours. I would love to be part of that. What beauty they bring to this crazy world.
Also blessed. And he's incredibly intelligent, too. nm
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Blessed, Stressed, and Need More Rest
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Blessed by the Body and Blood
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I am blessed that my husband is so thoughtful. He bought
put a lot of thought into them. He has always been that way. He is very caring and considerate. Our daughter is equally caring and thoughtful. I am a very blessed and lucky gal.
No problem, I hope you are as blessed as we are with our Anthony.
And incredibly mature and smart. You are blessed. nm
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That is wonderful! I, too, am very blessed! Merry Christmas! nm
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Your relationship is truly blessed and an inspiration to others. Congrats and Love long! :) nm
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Does anyone make a fruit cake for holiday giving or are you blessed
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Also blessed w/a great hubs, partner, and father to the kids. Fixes our cars, scrubs the carpets,
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You are so very lucky!
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You are lucky! sm
I think you are so lucky to get these "signs" that your loved ones are still around you. I wish I could have similar experiences. I love Lisa Williams' show. Sylvia Browne can be a bit harsh but she's a real character. I live in Upstate NY and wish I could still get John Edwards' show.
How lucky!
That would be nice!! It would be nice just be able to take time off when you are behind on everything like housework, etc. Oh well, high ho high ho it is back to work I go
Yes, you were very lucky. sm
I tried match.com, put in a 30 mile radius ( small area here). I found I had already met all of these losers, about 10 of them, in one context another in real life, and would never have considered having even a cup of coffee with any of them. Lucky you!
LUCKY YOU!!! sm
Mine only cooks on the weekends about once or twice a year. We wound up having turkey breast but I wanted grilled salmon so I ate that instead. Yum.
Lucky you!!!!!!! nm
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Lucky for me...
I'm not a Harry Potter person, but those who reside here are...
My daughter is 20, son is 26, and son's GF is 22. One is asleep after reading all night and the other two are quietly reading... the house is so QUIET!!
So... Lucky for me, they are reading and that I don't feel jealous because I have to work!!
They preordered and got the books last night. Unfortunately, my son accidently ran into a spoiler on the internet w/o even trying... so he's a little bummed.
Well... happy reading when you get off!!!
Wow, lucky you!
Was he a real ladies man and as good looking as he is now?
You will be lucky if
the kids don’t come back and wreck the meeting place where you were. I agree with you about the parenting. It should start really, really early. Hubs and I out last night for dinner and couple next to us with child, about 3 I would say that was all over the place but mostly a danger to himself as he was climbing up on the chair up on the booster seat. There were 4 adults at the table but not one called this child down. I am glad my children grown. Call me overbearing or whatever, my kids were never out of control like what I see now. Oh, I did not spare the rod either.
How lucky you are to be there! Have a
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He's been a lucky cat (sm)
Look at all the years of love you have given him...that is so sweet. Most animals never get a forever home where they can stay and live for 15 years. It's sad but it's sweet too. You have given him a good life :-)
Lucky you!
Believe it or not, I sure wish I was there! I have lived in central Florida since 1994 and have not lived in snow since. So sad. I was so glad to throw the old ice scraper and mittens away, but I really miss it. I miss snow days (not horrifying like Hurricane days are here), I miss cozy in the house while the flakes drop outside and how pretty it is. I know you in snowy areas might think I am nuts, but it is still 80s here and the only snap in the air is something for about 10 seconds between 6 and 6:15 a.m. No sledding here, only A/C in the house. Oh yeah, there was snow at my downtown, fake snow made by the town council for a holiday fair. There was roasting chestnuts, hot chocolate and hot cider. Too bad my little boy wore flip flops, he could not go in the snow and it was too hot out to drink the cider. Oh well, at least it looked like Christmas LOL.
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