confused mom, please see message
Posted By: momof2boys on 2007-09-25
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ok, when do you start talking about sex with your kids?? my 9 y/o son has asked me a few times where do babies come from. right now i tell him God. i think my 10 y/o nephew told him some things about sex (but this was when they were younger). i think my SIL told her son about sex when he was 7. i think that is too young. what's your input? thanks.
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the underlying read-between-the-lines message of the insurance lobbyist's message was (sm)
to, yes, appeal the denied claim. However, she lobbies for the insurance companies. She comes across sounding like she's on the patient's side but in reality she is on the side of the insurance company. The insurance company gets to deny whatever claims they want right off the bat. That leaves the SICK patient (who needs the coverage NOW when they are sick) to have to go through the appeals process. That could take quite a while. Imagine a cancer patient being denied some form of treatment that is going to help them. They now have to go through the appeals process (or pay out of pocket) in order for that treatment to be covered. In the MEANTIME their cancer is progressing. From the point of view of the insurance company, if they drag it out long enough they don't have to pay for it at all. That same insurance lobbyist was on 20/20 a little while back and basically came right out and said that the insurance companies COULDN'T AFFORD to pay for coverage for sick people. She's not on the patient's side.
I am sad and confused
I went to have my ultrasound yesterday and they told me my baby is normal BUT the bones (femur) is below the 5th percentile. I have to see a genetics doctor next week for another ultrasound and I do not know what else. Has anyone else been told their baby's bones are a little short? Two or three weeks behind what is normal? Could the technician be wrong? They only found one soft marker so is that not good? I am short and my husband has a big head when he was born. So measuring the 2 together you have a short baby with a big head. Please if anyone has been through this I need a friend.....
sad and confused
I have not been through that situation but can honestly say I know of moms who have had ultrasounds showing one thing or another and in the end, the baby came out fine. One of my friend's was even told her baby had Down Syndrome, but the child was born healthy! I would try not to worry too much and wait until you see the genetics doctor or have another ultrasound.
I'm a little confused.....
You may want to have more children but you don't want them to be your husband's child????? That doesn't make sense. You don't want something to be permanent in your life but it can be permanent in your husband's life. Don't be surprised if he doesn't go to the consultation you have scheduled!! I'm not trying to be mean, I just don't think you have thought about this very clearly. And there are other things you can do to NOT get pregnant. Good luck with this!
sorry, I confused the two
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I'm a little confused...sm
As to who the dog actually belongs to and who is responsible for the dog's care. I say that because you wrote: *I had sorta adopted the dog....no place to keep a dog around here.*
So, I guess my question is this - do they see it as your dog too and they just agreed to keep it at their house, or is it their dog as far as you're concerned, and you were just willing to help out initially? (Which is what it sounds like, but maybe your friend sees it the other way.)
At any rate, now you're starting to resent it and it's affecting your friendship. So I think it's time for a heart-to-heart talk with your friend about what you are and aren't willing to do for the dog (and who the dog belongs to, and does the dog need to find a new home). I'd try to leave the son and his drug problem entirely out of the discussion. I think that's a whole other can of worms.
Also, are you sure it wouldn't work for you to have the dog? Our Rottweilers have all been sweet, gentle creatures (despite what you see in the media all the time) who have been indoor dogs who were fine with small animals. OTOH, they are big, strong dogs and need a firm owner. They can certainly be too much for some people, so I don't want to sugarcoat it.
It depends on the dog of course, but a lot of Rotties and other big dogs are pretty low energy and do fine in a small home/yard (as long as they get enough attention and exercise). Just a thought.
Personally, I'd want to extricate myself from this 'drama' and just take the dog. (Though I'm a Siberian Husky person - the Rotties are my hubby's love.)
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it is not that he is running anything.....if he wants to live somewhere else....I would rather that than to have a rebellious child on my hands......he is good.....very good A's and B's in school.....I starting to think that people are really not understanding....but so be it....I would rather for him to be happy...not at the corner store selling drugs or whatever.....it might not work out with living with his sister.....but no one can that I did not try...children will get rebellious if they don't have they own way.....I would rather for im to go and live with sister than have to deal with the Po-Po because he is hanging out on a corner somewhere.....
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Well I have to admit I had to look up the word disinfranchised. I've heard it but never new what it meant. So what do you think I found as the meaning of Disinfranchised? It means To disinfranchise. HA HA HA. Needless to say I had to keep searching and I'm finding meanings all relating to the revocation of the right of suffrage (the right to vote). So unsure how this fits to me because I can vote if I want to. My main point is that you can't trust what comes through the tube each day. Just when I said I was going to "curb" my tube input I sat and watched the debates and screamed at the TV, then screamed at all the news people. Then I heard a little voice in my head say... "you've got to get your priorities straight". HA HA. So I learn to take everything with a grain of salt. I still probably will not vote (even though I can if I want to), but if there is a replay of the NH primaries why bother. Thanks for the new word though for me to learn. It went right along with my word I had to look up when I wrote my friend and told her I would give her my "pithy" comments. HA HA HA
I'm confused too, but have never seen so many
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Well, I got confused. Sorry.
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I think you have me confused with someone else...
Calling ME a religous nutcase? I'm not even religous! Hence why I think these sickos need to be prosecuted for what they are doing under the guise of religion.
And why on earth would I want Harry Potter banned? I love those movies! 
I'm confused --
Let me see if I got this straight - You're married, the guy you've been seeing is married and has a girlfriend in addition to you. Woe is your husband and his wife!
I'm confused on whether or not
you have the 8 o'clock bean available. I thought you said you did but maybe you were talking about in the past. If you do, be sure and buy whole bean and grind it, then you won't have to worry about fillers you were wondering about. If you don't have a grinder, it has been my experience (and my mother's - and we are coffee snobs) that Folgers 100% Columbian has the richest, truest coffee flavor. Unfortunately I can't drink it because it is high in acid and bothers my stomach but that's another story...
Maybe the filters are the answer. Another thing to consider is your coffee cup. I bought a nifty plastic Starbucks mug on clearance. It has a nonslip handle which I thought would be great for me in the morning. However, I have noticed that coffee tastes much better in a regular ceramic mug. I save the plastic mug for hot chocolate. Good luck on your quest. 
I'm confused. If they....
prayed in earnest for forgiveness, then how does that reconcile itself with the following verses, especially 1 John 1:9?
"Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need." (Hebrews 4:16)
"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light." (Matthew 11:28)
"Cast your burden on the Lord, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved." (Psalm 55:22)
"My little children, these things I write to you, that you may not sin. And if anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous." (1 John 2:1)
"If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9)
"Repent therefore and be converted, that your sins may be blotted out, so that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord." (Acts 3:19)
"I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted." (Isaiah 43:25-26)
"There is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus ..." (Romans 8:1)
"Come now and let us reason together," says the Lord,
"Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow." (Isaiah 1:18)
"Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away, behold, all things have become new." (2 Corinthians 5:17)
"In Him we have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace." (Ephesians 1:7)
Jan, why are you so confused?
You said SIL (mother of 2 children of my brother) should be entitled to receive my father's money. I only had 1 SIL- brother's wife. I really pity them also, one deceased, girl 37 and the son a druggie. Yes, they are to be pitied.
I was confused because SIL can also
mean 'son-in-law.'
And exactly, your SIL IS a legal heir from her father-in-law through her marriage to your brother.
You should try to find them and give half of it = $ 350.000.-- to your SIL and your nephew.
Maybe this will turn his life around. Put him into a rehabilitation clinic!
Then you will have peace of mind and will sleep better.
How did your niece die? So sad.
Confused?
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...when I hear someone talking and their use of a word is completely wrong AND THIS MORNING in a subtle way did a correction.
Okay, JMT...make up your mind. Did it happen this morning as you originally indicated, or did it happen two years ago as you later indicated in an attempt to defend not asking about the woman's aunt?
Enquiring minds want to know....
Oh, really confused, thought they were 1
in the same. Mother always said where there is smoke, there is fire. Howard from the Anna Nichole saga sure has a lot of smoke around him.
To confused wife...
It sounds to me like you've made up your mind that HIS problems are all YOUR fault...they are NOT. The only problems you are responsible for are YOURS. It probably will not matter what you change about you to him. If he's this angry and unstable, he'll ALWAYS find fault with you.
Please don't be naive and think that you can change him...you can't. Only he can do that and he has to want to change his behavior. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect and name-calling is by far the most disrespectful thing one person can do to another...especially if the other person is your spouse, the mother of your child.
And your child is being hurt by these outbursts. She would be better off in a broken home than to have to listen to you and your husband screaming and belittling each other all the time. In the end, her self worth will suffer, she'll think she doesn't deserve any better and may actually seek out abusive men when she gets older.
You all need help, even the child. Go to counseling, even if you go alone, but take your daughter with you. It may come to you and your daughter leaving until he agrees to get help. Then if he truly loves you and your family, he will do whatever it takes to make things right. Don't wait around for the abuse to get worse, because inevitably it will escalate. Now is the time to think of you and your daughter first. Your husband is a grown man, he's responsible for him...good luck and God bless...
confused wife
It sounds to me like you are being verbally abused. I went through the exact same thing until I said enough is enough. You are worth more than to be reduced to a *itch. I feel for you, I was in the same situation for 12-1/2 years, everything was my fault. Research the phenomenon of verbal abuse and you will find yourself and your marriage reiterated over and over in the stories you hear. Believe me. You sound just like me and what I went through. You have nothing to lose by just looking into it. Maybe you will find your answer. Don't allow yourself to be treated like that one more day, you are a human being and have God-given rights. I will be praying for you.
I'm confused. Who is the father?
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they must have been confused and thought
because stimulus checks didn't start going out until Monday:
http://www.irs.gov/irs/article/0,,id=180250,00.html
OMG - My apologies. I am sorry....I do have you confused....
I am so so sorry. I DO need to be more careful with my posts. I thought you were the one saying that the children should not be reuinited with their family. I guess I was just stunned that someone thought that way and all I could think of was what if the shoe was on the other foot. How would they like if their child was grabbed up from them without solid evidence and not be told why. From now on I will be more careful and make sure I don't post anything to the wrong person. Again I am sorry. I am not a religous person and I have been judged too many times by my "religious" family members (some of who believe the Harry Potter books be burned). I love the Harry Potter movies too and it takes me away from reality for a short time. Again - I am truly sorry. I
Sorry got a bit confused there, not a watcher -sm
of How I met your Mother.
I thought it was the aunt. I'm confused now.
What did the grandmother do?
I'm confused at your responses - are you the same person?
Are you the same person who keep saying "what are you thinking?" If so, in one post you are telling me everything else can wait and the other you're telling me I should be fired.
No ruffling here, just a confused person
So I think I am understanding, you are saying this belongs on another board instead of here. If that is why, don't mind. I just knew was something seen discussed all over the place, maybe just not on gab, got it now. Guess Hubba started here.
Apparently so many confused on this issue!!
His aunt, who died, knew him by this name. His brother does not respect his new name and has been asked to call him this PRIOR TO ANY FUNERAL. Friend apparently does not think silly after having asked before to be called that - numerous times, not just now. Most women when they marry have a name change- would most of them want to go by their old names? Most, underline that- so it is not taken out of text, would want to have their new name. Why is it different for a man?? His family comes around his new stepdaughter and son-in-law and calls him by his old name which they stepdauhter and SIL DO not know him by. Those are his wishes and here in America, I think most of us want our wishes to be observed. Oh about who cares- he does.
No doubt you're confused! I don't know what's
going on myself, so it's a bit difficult to describe it in any clear way.
I know very little about diabetes, but my vision is definitely deteriorating. I had wondered why the nurse specifically asked me if I was a diabetic. I also know that I have a great chance of developing diabetes once my pancreas is completely destroyed. All I know is the last set of labs I had were very good. I see my doctor again on July 22, and I will definitely mention this to him.
I took Wellbutrin almost 10 years ago to try to help quit smoking. It gave me tremors of the hands so badly that I couldn't type. So I stopped taking it. I'm on a mess of medicines (most of them, gratefully, provided by the manufacturers' patient assistance programs.) A couple months ago, I started Abilify, didn't seem to have any problems.
As far as the problem with staggering, mine came out of the blue, as well. I was somehow thinking they might be related, but after your comment about diabetes, I'm going to do more research on diabetes because it's a disease that I know absolutely nothing about.
Thanks so much for your post and your input. I'm feeling like "Columbo" trying to figure out a mystery, and I appreciate any input I can get.
Hope you have a great weekend.
My downies vary a lot in size, which confused
me for a long time because I thought the larger ones might be hairies. The more I read the more I realized that hairies are significantly larger. The hairy we had yesterday was even bigger than a red-bellied with a very long, sturdy beak. There is really no confusing them up close. From a distance it is more difficult.
I have at least 3 red-breasted nuthatches this year. I just looked out and there were 2 on the tree eating suet and one on the wire watching the other two. They are so cute.
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Wow! First of all have to give you compliments on stating your opinion as I figure you knew you would get nailed. I am also one that is a firm believer of kids have the ability to learn, sometimes through tough love and sometimes through every day simple life. Although I would disagree with you about the "coat incident" I still can relate to you on trying to teach kids to take care of your things, etc. I love my kids dearly, but I know at any moment I could be taken from this earth and I want them to be as prepared as they can be at 8 and 9. I don't expect perfection, but when they do "screw up" I make sure they definitely know it (and remember it). I think most people now do not appreciate children the way we do. They are very intelligent if you give them the opporunity to be. They deserve respect just as adults do (when they earn it.... just like adults). We have to teach them to be adults and it has to start somewhere. Again, I don't completely agree with you, but overall I understand what you are saying. Please ignore any misspelling in my post... I am using my husband's keyboard, which is "stiff as a board!)
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I believe homosexuality is a sin, but I also believe that sexual preferences should be personal and private. I would not refuse to shop at a store because a clerk was gay, but frankly, that is something that I shouldn't even know about a stranger. A person's sexual behavior should be totally private.
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I paid my balance off in full, received a finance charge statement of about $42. I called the credit card, and said I do not understand - I paid the balance in full, what is this charge for. Act like you need them to help you understand. They adjusted my account and took that finance charge off and said I will receive a statement of the adjustment and my balance is now 0.
It really all depends on how you handle it and in what way you speak to them. Try it that way and see if they will adjust it off.
Good luck!
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I just had my ovary removed due to a cyst and surgery went well, I did well postop and was relieved that it was over. However, just found out that the pathology report showed carcinoma and now I have to have a total hysterectomy and staging workup. Anyone been through this that can offer some comfort in what to expect? Thanks.
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Thank you for your suggestions. At least you give me suggestions other than telling me to seek therapy or bariatric surgery, which I would never consider anyway. I get defensive when I feel attacked for my opinions, thus the *anger* in my previous posts. I DID read your post thoroughly and I did note that you used to have a weight problem, as well. Anon upset me, and I guess I took it out on you. I apologize.
I will put in to use some of your suggestions, but just so you know, my one meal a day does not include snacking, either. I am busy working most of the day, have a lot to do, and the time just slips away before I realize I am hungry, which is generally around 3 in the afternoon. I may have a cup of coffee or tea in the morning, and sometimes water, but that is all. Some will find fault with that, as well, I am sure, but that's the truth. Again, thanks for your input. At least you are more pleasant about it all.
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Your symptoms sound similar to carpal tunnel, but it may be something else, too. If I may suggest seeing a neurologist? It sounds more like a nerve problem to me and it does not necessarily have to be in your hands or wrists. EMG nerve conduction studies on your hands may be negative, but I have done dictations from doctors who have patients with carpal tunnel with false EMGs and the docs call them false positives, meaning the patient actually has carpal tunnel, but the studies were not definitive for that. As the other poster suggested, it may also be neck related. Just get a second opinion from a different doctor, and be insistent on what YOU want checked. Some doctors are resistant to patient requests, so you have to stand up for yourself. good luck.
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When my 17 year old calico passed away a few months ago, I was with her, as well as my 20 y/o son, and it was very hard for us both to watch. My son couldn't stop crying...she was part of his entire life. We still have the 16 year old male with us, Oscar, who misses her very much. They always stayed in close proximity to one another...even though they still gave each other glaring looks at mealtime. He just hangs onto us all the time and it's hard to work because he insist on laying on my desk, in my lap, knocking everything off. He has never done this before. She always laid at my feet and talked to me and he laid up high. It's sad because he can't understand what's happened. She was his long-time partner.
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I would be careful...I am facing court for just this right now, due to old debt that I started accruing, due to being quite desperate and broke, after my bankruptcy was filed. I can file again but probably won't and don't want to, but still have to deal with the courts, this week actually. can't wait. bankruptcy is not the end of the world. you can get a credit card again and you can work on your credit. It stays on your credit report for ten years. how long will it take you to pay off that debt???
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He obviously wanted to be with her and you cannot fault him for that, I guess. It is never easy when someone in the family takes their own lives and those left behind never truly understand why or how that person was feeling inside. It is very hard, and I feel your pain. Cry, let it out, and then take God's hand. He will get you through it somehow. There will be a brighter day. They are together now. Maybe that will help some. God bless you and your family. {{{hugs}}}
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you only have to look into your heart to know what is right and what is wrong. I am not going to argue religion with you. I have my beliefs and you have yours, or disbeliefs in your case, and I am not going to argue with you about who is right and who is wrong. Time will tell that, in the end. and no one said anything about someone coming into your room on your deathbed and preaching to you, personally. It sounds like you are so opposed to it because you may actually be wrong about it more so than you just do not believe. Good luck to you.
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Think of a younger family member. Well everyone thought I was nuts to take my almost 18 year old nephew with me to San Francisco as I could not do the "night life" but we had a wonderful time. never walked so much in my life. We have always gotten along but he is so easy to travel with and appreciative of it. Went to a Giants game, did the Fisherman's Wharf almost everyday. Got lost. Took wrong buses and it was so nice being with someone that never got upset, enjoyed the little things and went with the flow. We talk about it all the time. I gave him so much money every day which was out budget for meals and "fun things" and he saw how the money went and if we did not spend much for breakfast it left that much more for dinner or something "extra". He had to figure out what the tips were, etc. It was great -- I did not have to handle money at all, left it all up to him. He read the maps and got us around with buses, etc. It was also nice that I did not have to worry about someone drinking too much and ruining the next day which is what my ex did more times than not. Saw everything down there. There is why I am thinking of taking him (now 19) and his 17 year old brother to Boston with me. So think of taking a younger family member that will enjoy it with you if you do want to share some special time with them. There are a lot of great teenagers out there that do like to spend time with adults.
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Hey, this happened to us just about a month ago. My hubby needed his ASAP!! I called the Records place in Kansas (where he was born) and they were willing to overnight it to me. Now, the total cost including the certificate was 36 dollars and we didn't get it until after 5 p.m. (could have paid more to get it before noon) on the 2nd day (ordered it on Tues, got here on Thurs), but I ordered it after 4 p.m. too, so you could probably get it faster. good luck!!!
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I don't mean this to sound rude or harsh, but I would tell them to start saving up now for moving expenses in October. If they have the next four months to save, they could probably find another place to live and pay for security deposits and moving transportation, etc. This is not a good financial situation, it sounds like, and I really do not foresee acquiring a loan in time to purchase this home, not to mention them not being able to meet the payments if they do secure a loan. I would tell them to prepare for the inevitable now, so they are burdened with financial problems when the time arises, and it most likely will. To keep them from moving in with you, this would be the best route for all involved. It is not your responsibility to solve their problems. Good luck to you.
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My friend just went through the same thing but because she didn't want to be alone, they stayed together until recently. He was having an affair and the other lady divorced her husband which is when he decided he was not going to stay married to her. I guess I'm saying this because I have seen what my friend has gone through with the other lady and if your husband feels that way, he might also find someone with the same interests. It is better to separate/divorce before an affair than during/after, as in the case with my friend. Good luck!
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If you look at the end of the subject, before you click on it and it says NM at the end, that means there's no message inside. I hope that helps and didn't confuse you more.
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Have you tried PetShed.com or other out of the country suppliers? I get mine for half the price. I also have several inside cats and this is much cheaper, even with shipping. Same pharmaceutical company making it, same med as in the US, just cheaper, because big pharma aren't buying the other countries.
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I too have an old cat, nearly 17. She has moved into my closet and spends time between my closet and my husband's closet. Odd behavior. She mews very loudly all the time and I don't think she sees well. I believe if the cat wanted to go out, I would let him. He might want to die and you "find" him afterwards rather than watch him die. Sorry about your cat. My Sam is not far behind I am afraid.
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