choice-
Posted By: RU Kidding on 2008-10-18
In Reply to: and a lot of damaage is done.... sm - sm
gay is a choice sort of like being male or female is a choice, sort of like having brown eyes is a choice, sort of like being tall is a choice. Whatever. One does not choose to be gay nor does one decide to be gay.
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Not by choice earlier in life, but now no kids by choice
When I was young we desperately wanted kids. We tried for years. (I never took birth control ever, and we even took fertility drugs and planned for multiple kids, just never worked out). Then went through a period of years where husband didn't want them but I did, then years where husband wanted them but I didn't, then about 15 years ago we both decided we didn't want them. We didn't even know what we wanted in life for ourselves and we figured if we couldn't figure out what we wanted why in the world would we bring kids into the world. Now I'm thankful we never did have kids and hope that we never do (I'm 52 with only one ovary - had ectopic pregnancy a few years back), but chances are I do not think we will ever have kids. Now I just cannot tolerate the kids. The little ones are very cute and we love hearing them play in our neighborhood. Some of the things they say are the funniest, but once they get to a certain age it seems like something in them transforms. When they lose the innocence of youth and start becoming little bullies talking back to their parents with their snotty attitudes we just always say, if he was my kid he'd never see the light of day again. Nothing drives me more insane to see the way some of these kids talk to their parents.
But now a days with all the bad going on in the country (around the world) and the country heading for disaster, and if the Mayan calendar is correct and in 2012 we see some major earth changes and the possibilities of civilizations being wiped out, who would want to put their kids through that.
So, I just say - I'm free of kids and loving it!
DH's choice
This is the dog my DH says we can have! He is 5 years old. He has been a show dog, but he finds it too boring, so we get to adopt him .... if Sasha approves of him. Do you think he's pretty?
http://www.synama-wintersweet.com/trey.asp
I am told this is an excellent line for show Siberians. You can tell who the champions are (to see their other dogs, click "Our Siberians" tab at the top) by the CH before their names. 
don't have a choice....
have to get the kids off to school, but most of the time still in my pjs
My choice . . .
Denzel Washington, Paul Newman, Robert Redford.
Again, you do not know whether they had a choice
or not. This is simply your opinion that they did not have a choice. Yes, teenage girls, or boys, for that matter, can be married with the consent of their parents. Again, we do not know the facts in this case. You have even gone as far as saying the men are "old and stinky." How exactly do you know this? You do not... That is simply your opinion. I have lived in St. George, Utah, which is very close to an area where these people live, and I have seen many young (20s-30s), what I would consider attractive men, married to these women. It is best not to stereotype people, especially when all of the facts are not available.
It is not your choice...
As I stated above, it really is NOT your choice! She could REQUEST leave, or a reassignment, but nothing is saying that it will be approved! Especially in the Marines! There aren't always, "ways to get around that."
Of course I do! I'm an MT- I have no choice!
If I want new clothes, you can't beat Walmnart's prices, plus they usually have some of the cutest clothes.
The rest of the time, I go to Goodwill and Thrift Stores. Just found great new one in the East Bay Area (CA) called Thrift Town, and got a perfect-fitting pair of Levi's for $3.50, and two lightweight hoodie workout-type jackets for $1.00 each. Can't beat that!
yes to both..but by choice, not by force.sm
some docs get caught up on their dictations while on holiday. I am alone and have nothing better to do anyway, so why not make some extra cash. but that's just me. good luck in your search.
ok-it's about choice-don't be intimate....sm
don't forget in the USA (outside of Alaska) there are 10 women for each man.......40 years ago it was 8 men for each women but we know how those numbers changed.....15 minutes out of 24 hours or 2x's a week being intimate for an hour in a 168-hour week - is too much to ask for? *curious*
Sounds like they don't have a choice, it's where YOU want them to be.
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Being overweight sure is a choice, just like sm
smoking cigarettes or doing drugs is a choice. If you are making the right food choices, exercising, drinking water, or even following a Weight Watcher's plan, you will lose weight, unless you have a problem with one of your organs where you retain "water weight". I, quite frankly, am tired of people sitting around asking "how do I lose weight" when they are not making good food choices and not staying active? If you have trouble with arthritis, then you can do aqua therapy (get in a pool even if it is heated). Anything that gets your heart rate up is exercise. The "government" is not at the grocery store holding your hand or at that fast food restaurant making you buy those burgers. I'm sorry, but that is JMO. 
That is a great choice.....by the way,
lots of people talking about her and I wondered if anyone else noticed her wrist is constantly bandaged or sometimes has loads of bracelets. I can make a good guess on that but will not state here. Just a thought.
We do have a choice. We can choose to keep our
undies on and not engage in sex or we can choose some form of birth control (albeit it fails from time to time).
That was her choice, not mine
it was her first marriage and she paid for it. I paid for the rehearsal dinner. She is the kind that does not want outside assistance, not from me and so I never BUTT in. It is probably nice for daughters who want their mother involved, mine happens to just want to be the 1 who does it by herself. Very independent and always like that. She never asked me to pay for anything - I volunteered for the dinner.
Unfortunate choice by...
...his parents for a name, but he was born before Pol Pot came to power, which isn't even a true name, but the shortened version of Politique Potentielle. Maybe the similarity in names was part of the blame for the bullying Paul Potts endured while growing up.
Nevertheless, I didn't even think of the mass murderer when hearing this man's name. Maybe because I read the name before hearing it.
I thought with all the discord on some of the other threads, the unhappiness with jobs, offshore issues, and not to mention the garbage we all hear on the news every day, that this man's story would be a welcome change. It isn't often we hear of the good stuff that happens or the inspirational moments in people's lives. I wish I had left out his name in the original title of the thread!
It's not a choice, It's a child. NM
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A 14 -15 y.o. CANNOT make that choice and for a
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They have a choice to find another job, yes? nm
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They usually have to discuss their choice with
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Your drink of choice?
Tonight I will be having club soda, cranberry juice and vodka with a twist of lime. Maybe two.....
I have a liquor cabinet filled, so what can I get ya?
hard choice
The choice to rent or buy is tough. I was a single mom up until a year ago. I had bought a home; however, I think I would have been better renting. When you buy, there is a lot to take care of on your own. It's hard with the unexpected things that come up. Then again, if you rent, a landlord could be tougher for a woman to deal with to get them to take care of things. In this economy, buying is scary, too.
I think it is her body, her choice, and
her business. In the same category with men donating sperm or couples going to a fertility clinic.
first trimester that is.
lol yeah, that was my first choice.
the store I went to last night didn't have them, so had to go out today, so too late for the crock pot. Thank you anyhow :-)
Childfree by choice?
Just wondering how many of you out there have made the decision to NEVER have kids. I'm 25, and have known for a long time that I never wanted kids. As time goes on, and I meet new co-workers with kids (and hear how unhappy a lot of them seem to be deep down), I feel even more relieved that I'm never having any.
One big reason why I know having kids isn't for me is because I have Asperger's Syndrome. Not only is it hard enough to just get through day to day life and take care of myself, but I simply wouldn't be able to handle the stress of parenting- I know my limits. Also, according to my Dr. (who is one of the most familiar with Asperger's in Baltimore), there would be a high likelihood of my child having a disorder somewhere along the autism spectrum. I know I couldn't handle a well-bahaved child (I just don't like being around kids in general), let alone raise a child with special needs.
Given that I have AS, I'm thankful that I have well above-average intelligence to at least partly compensate for other eccentricities. And I'm also fortunate enough to have a good, well paying, stable gov't job, where even if I'm not Mr. Popularity, I am still known to do a really good job (and on the bright side, even if I pi*s people off-which I have, it's not like they can fire me). So...since day to day living and working is hard enough for me, I want to have some time to have fun, and if I had kids I simply wouldn't have the capacity to raise them properly and have time to do things that are important to me.
The colors would not be my first choice, but...
I would move into it in a hot New York minute. It beats the baby-puke green house at the end of my cul-de-sac. I think it looks kind of funky and here where I live funky is a good thing. Of course it depends on what part of town you live in too. LOL.
No, unless of course the foster kids of choice
include the more difficult ones because a lot more money is paid monthly for them. I knew of a couple who took in only the more difficult kids, a bunch at a time and made a killing off these kids, now well off and retired and enjoying live and want nothing to do with any of them. Never did really. Sad.
If you have no choice to open up the door - sm
just say that now is not a good time for a visit and to call before coming next time (because you work from home and cannot just drop everything when someone pops by)(add that on if you chose to). They may not like hearing any of it but tough cookies. If you are out of sight, just don't answer the door, if it happens often enough maybe they will think to call first next time and you can again say no, or to nip the visits in the bud say you are quiting that church and to please stop calling you. I am in the boonies and get the occasional church groupie visits of various faiths, I just tell them "not interested" and they go on their merry way without a fight for the most part. Good luck.
I'm valentine-free by CHOICE! That's because it .....
:P
Your choice is to walk through the smoke.
People are made to smoke outside the store, can't smoke inside. Smoking is not against the law. I think people with body odor/bad breath smell way worse than people smoking.
don't have a *choice* to walk through smoke--sm
if you want to get out of or into the store. If someone HAS to smoke...go to your own car where it does not infringe upon someone else's right to not have to breathe it in and contract lung cancer. Body odor and bad breath do not inflict death and are easily taken care of with personal hygiene. Second hand smoke is just plain inconsiderate of others' health, but then why would you care about that. right?
I am talking single mom by choice, not by
a death. I have been widowed before and still had a child at home and the insurance money then was split half for a burial and I gave my child the other $10,000. I do not believe in pity-parties as I see a lot on MTS. I am just glad I waited until later when having my children. I think the ultrasound is a way to make a women thing more about what should be her decision alone but would not have changed my mind then or now.
I agree with abortion being a choice.
should everyone see an ultrasound beforehand? I am for the choice to do as you choose. I believe in freedom as well, but there are people out there that believe abortion is murder. That is all I was stating above there. What I am saying is that there are circumstances like some named in this thread that shall we say "warrant" an abortion, but those "rules" would need to be up to the lawmaker. Are we only talking about teenage pregnancies or pregnancies after the age of 45? What type of pregnancies are we talking about that the mother should look at the ultrasound beforehand? There would be a lot of ifs, ands, and buts, for this to become a law, wouldn't some agree? That is all I was stating there. I think this may have been misinterpreted. Of course, I believe a woman has the right to choose in regards to her own healthcare whether it be an abortion, a hysterectomy, or to have a fracture fixated. All the same to me. Sorry if I have offended anyone, but that is how I feel.
When you are summonds to court, do you have a choice
about whether you can show up or not?? What was the good behavior, no more sex films for the time being, not more than 3 DUIs? I have not heard about her good behavior.
Terrible song choice
Even though Jordin sang it extremely well, I thought the song was awful. It reminded me of last year's Do You Make Me Proud. I think most of the songs that they chose for "the song" is more orientated towards women. JMO. You're right a different song for each of them would have been better or at least a song that is more upbeat.
I've had none of those things (by choice) and boy
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Definately my choice would be Oprah!
; )
He didn't have much choice. The evidence
was overwhelming and his 3 cohorts all turned against him so they would not get in as much trouble. Now that there is so much proof, what else can he say? Love how he "found Jesus" so quickly.
32 for me (by choice, I wanted to wait)
she is going to have her baby/babies.....she too wants to wait until they have more $$ stashed away....both working 2 and 3 jobs...Lord, Bless Them!! *S*.....
Hey trose - I have A child...one...by choice...LOL
 Hi trose!
I knew I'd do GREAT with one and felt I'd be inundated with 2, especially since the husband was the 2nd child......in age and maturity...*lol*...I felt like I had TWO kids for 10 years.....I divorced him, got the kid, and she's TERRIFIC and close to both parents...
Came out nice and well adjusted, considering..........*ROFL* had I had a better marriage, I'd have had a gaggle of kids...*lol* But one quality child is better than 3-4 ones that can and might (will) run ya ragged. And mine is not all that spoiled, CERTAINLY NOT FINANCIALLY that's a given...*rofl* (on her own now for a long long time but around the corner...*whew*)
If your choice was no arms or being put in strange
in how to survive in such surroundings, with predators all around, you would still rather have your arms? Except with declawing, we are not taking whole legs, just a first joint of a digit. Really cant compare this to no arms.
Maybe not physical force but they did not have a choice. Besides that, they are not sm
legally married in most cases so that would constitute statutory rape. How many teenage girls do you know who want to be married to stinky old men?
Good choice. Anywhere but South Fla.
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I think that is a wise choice. So glad
you brought dad into this! It is just too much for one - I know because I was the only one.
AWOL....not the best choice but...it works
My youngest child decided that she wanted to enlist in the Army to help take care of me, her younger brother and my ailing mom. Well, she would call home and mom's condition was getting worse and we would not tell her exactly how bad things had gotten for us: my sisters and brothers had basically stopped helping me take care of my bedbound mom who I was forced to take care of alone. Now, I love my mom but she had a couple of conditions that were sure not going to get any better and I had a 2 year old at home and blessed with the opportunity to work from home. While on one of her visits, she accompanied us to the oncologist, and it was a really bad visit. I eventually persuaded her to go back and she started trying to get out due to the family hardship and was turned down. I tried to be strong during this difficult time but my 2 other daughters were forced to move back home to help me with mom because we could not put her in a NH. Well, needless to say, she came home on a pass and did not go back....Well approximately 4 months later she received paperwork that she would receive a hardship discharge due to the family problems. We regret it, but mentally it has strengthened us alot. The mother may have filed for a discharge due to medical problems and that was not noted in the report....All avenues are not the best ones, but there are ways to make things happen for you. Oh, I regret the route that she took, but I was glad to have her home with me.
I'm pro-choice. Abortion is not murder. SM
Abortions are performed very early on in pregnancy. I'm afraid to say this, but basically, it is a lump of tissue. Women have to right to form their own opinion, but the idea a person is aborting a roly-poly fully formed baby is a crock. This is propaganda devised by right-winged fundamentalists, many of whom happen to be men.
I do believe in practicing safe sex, so abortion will not be needed. That is the ideal, but we are all only human.
No, I never had an abortion. I had my daughter at age 25, after being married 5 years. My daughter was married at 30 and had her first child at 31. We are both Pro Choice.
1-800CALLSAM is my first choice for most annoying....
my second choice is the ones for used cars where the guy is HOLLERING at you to get in right now and buy, buy, buy regardless of credit status. LOL. His voice is just extremely annoying. I swear they pick them because their voices could crack glass.
1-800CALLSAM is my first choice for most annoying....
my second choice is the ones for used cars where the guy is HOLLERING at you to get in right now and buy, buy, buy regardless of credit status. LOL. His voice is just extremely annoying. I swear they pick them because their voices could crack glass.
Giving/lending should be a choice
I prefer to make the decisions as to what, if any, possessions of mine should be loaned, and to whom. If I'm kept in the dark about it, it feels a lot like theft when I don't know where my stuff is. If I then discover its been spirited out of the house by a loved one, it feels like a betrayal.
The government already takes whatever it deems necessary out of my paycheck so I can be anonomously generous to whoever they deem needy.
It is very, very easy to be generous with other people's money and stuff. Example - next time someone wants to borrow something from me, we'll just come get it from your house. Obviously you won't mind, and I can feel sooo good about myself by helping someone else by handing them YOUR stuff. I'll try really hard to remember to tell you I decided to do that, so you can feel as great about it as I do.
You get to an age where being with your family of origin is a choice, sm
You have hit that time! You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family. Friends are God's way of making up for your family. You know many of the other sayings that go with these. Ummm could there be a universal truth behind them? Yes, and you have come up on it.
NO you don't sit cats for free! No you don't encourage "Aunt Becky" to have a relationship with only ONE of your THREE precious children! NO you DO NOT have to put up with negative, nasty, hurtful talk to your face, to your back or to your ar$e!!!
I am not that much older than you are. I don't see my mom, I don't see my dad, I don't see my younger brother. I call mom on holidays sometimes, but I never call brother or father. I have several very dear friends I call "family" and so they are. I call my family a pain the ar$e.
Family becomes a choice later in life when your head is screwed on straight. Yours is on straight, tell the riff raff to take a HIKE. Live your life and be happy.
Child-free by choice, age 50 now. sm
I knew when I was in my teens that I didn't particularly want kids but kept an open mind through my 30s because people said, "Oh you'll change your mind; your clock will be ticking", etc. I never had the urge to raise kids and don't particularly care for them.
Hubby and I have no regrets. Don't feel guilty. I think if you don't have a strong urge to have kids, you really shouldn't.
Good luck and enjoy your freedom.
i made that choice for 5 years
and now i really enjoy my meat, esp bison and chicken.
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