childcare in AA
Posted By: central office on 2009-05-21
In Reply to: AA/NA - in recovery
At 30 years it has probably been a while since you took your kid to a meeting. I still do not recommend it. There were child molesters at the club I attended, but I was not in an upper class neighborhood with lawyers, doctors, etc. In my neighborhood meeting there were just working stiffs who came to meetings filthy, smelling and not always sober. Leave the kids at home. You can still get sober using a regular babysitter.
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No, never had free childcare
I did not live in the same town as my family and had to pay and it was hard because when inhouse if child sick then you have to find someone outside there. When the youngest child got in school only went half day, so back to a babysitter again for half day after school. My son about 8 years older so had latch key kids because my job was in a hospital, not sitting at home. I thought about what would happen if my husband died because I work part time now and I thought to stay where I am would probably want to take in some renters. I have a big home with 4 bedrooms (1 is my workroom). My daughter has her own house and she does the same, right now by her doing this is paying over 1/2 her expenses each month. I have always had the "what if" so I try to at least think of a plan just in case. I made extremely good money in the past and it is hard for me to understand why women sit around waiting for work or not making enough to exist on. I know women make less but in that case I just work more to provide. I do not need a "halo" or even a St. Amy for taking responsibility for the people I brought into this world, no one else. I had no more children than I could afford. More people should think about this before having kids unafforable. Have a friend similar situation husband dying. This friend not old enough to get either social security but in 50s and had to go back to a penny-ante job after not working at one for about 40 something years. Talk about pitiful. I have always believed women should work just like men and have something to fall back on if the need arises.
I presume you had free childcare since- sm
you worked more than 1 job, unless you left them alone while you worked. I am sure some of those on welfare work 2 or more jobs, don't have health insurance, have to have a babysitter or daycare which eats up mega dollars, and barely have enough to take care of essentials and rent, let alone food. Yes there are abusers but there are also people that really need the help. If my DH left me or died w/o life insurance I would be okay but it would be a struggle as I only make about $24K a year (we have $350K in life insurance so I would be okay, along with $280K in 401K after it dove down)....SS would help me make ends meet and I would be okay and not need Welfare, and still be able to stay home and do MT but not everyone is so lucky. I know someone whose husband did die at 36 from a heart attack, no life insurance, 2 young kids, she is struggling, gets SS for herself and the kids which she says will run out when they are 16 (I thought it was 18? so I hope she is wrong....kids are 12 and 10), and works babysitting in her home, she is barely squeaking by. She is also trying to go to school to become a LPN so she can make more money....though I think LPN is at the bottom (not sure), I'd go for the BS and get the better degree, etc. but I guess she does not want huge loans to pay back, that is her business. Everyone's story/circumstances are different. They do need to do a better job "policing" the abusers and getting them off the system so those that really need it can get it and get back on their feet, that is its purpose, nothing shameful in it.
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