by the way "band" was husband" sorry, so upset over this I did not proof read.
Posted By: momMT on 2008-02-05
In Reply to: School counselor defensive? - momMT
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You had every right to be upset. Your husband should have told his friend
and then would get back to him. Now, if you don't feel comfortable going on a long trip with your small children and their practically grown children, tell your husband you don't want to go and that since it's your money your earning as well that you want to have some say in planning a vacation and that it should be done together as a couple, even as a family, and not just by one person.
sorry..that should read my husband AND I. too early. nm.
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I almost emailed my post back to you, but feared your husband would read this! so, here it is sm
I just came across your post on MTStars about the controlling mom thing and you and I are in the same boat when it comes to our kids and their dads. Wow. I could have written your post. Your husband sounds extactly like mine.. Mine is SO tough on them it makes me cry sometimes and they are 10, 4, and 2 - all boys! I am VERY laid back and peaceful and they come to me for EVERYTHING. They won't even ask him for a glass of milk for fear he will "retaliate." What do we do about husbands who slowly aleniate their children? It seems like you and I are a lot alike in that what CAN we do? If your husband is anything like mine, if you bring up his attitude towards the kids he gets angry, defensive, etc. I'm tired of arguing about the way he treats the kids. It breaks my heart. I, too, am so glad that the kids have me to love and dote on them and be the peacemaker around here. God forbid, literally, something happening to me. Can't even stand the thought. God is my only hope right now when it comes to the kids and their dad. He is a good man, a Christian, works 40+ hours a week, takes great care of us, but for some reason he likes to use his power to the fullest extent. Good luck
how can your husband not understand? play, read, tumble, laugh with the child
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Again, where is your proof that someone is being...
told to do anything?
What proof do you have? I believe in God, but not
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Pretty sure he's done that too - no proof (sm)
He admitted it once but then took it back immediately and denied it from then on. So are you still with your husband?
Please share your proof
of life after death with us. I am very interested and quite sure everyone else will be also.
personal proof? does it have something to do
did ya see a ghost or just have one too many drinks??
still I have no real proof of what he has done (sm)
I can't prove he cheated when he wasn't with that guy and I can't prove he opened the cards without my knowledge.
He can look at my debt and see it as a fact.
Nah, don't need proof, was just curious what you learned.
Nah, don't want proof, was just curious.
Ok so I didn't proof my message
You all get the point. We always alternating....hee hee
It's been a long week and it's only Wednesday!!
how to baby proof a house
First off, I am not being sarcastic....
Follow her around, fix everything, she touches and when she leaves the house will be baby proofed! :)
My 2-year-old son and I visited "great grandma" who had her pills by her TV all laid out. When no one was looking he ate them and we did not find out until she wanted to know where they were. He took one and a bite out of another, so we knew it was him. We were in the ER the rest of the afternoon. Luckily, it was just a mega dose of Lasix, so he just peed like a race horse for 24 hours. Those diapers weighed about 4 pounds a piece. She never did put the medicine away, and we had to train ourselves to watch him better at her house.
I am sure you have done an excellent job of getting ready. Have fun with your company!
You show proof of past income if you need to (sm)
and that should be enough - especially if you have excellent credit. I actually had a mortgage person tell me that self-employed people are basically stuck and can never make more money - needless to say I moved on to another company.
Makes me sick. They do have proof of abuse. PLUS
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Proof positive that time-outs are nothing but
Maybe, but you are living proof that in today's world, -sm
you just never know. 'Once bitten, twice shy', and all that.
The scenario you describe may have been legit, but to me it sounds just TOOOOOO risky! Especially when there are more than one of them.
In these hard times, there are more robberies, muggings, carjackings, etc. than ever. Always be aware of your surroundings. Follow your gut instincts if you think something is not right as you walk to your car, and go back inside the store to ask for an escort. When you get in your car, don't dilly-dally - close the door and LOCK all your doors before you even put the key in the ignition.
They were old enough to know that women shouldn't give rides to strangers - period. They could have approached a man and asked him, or better yet, asked for bus fare money.
Women are best off only giving rides to people they know.
disgusting shows are proof of lack of intelligence of producers.
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I am so upset...
Just need to express a little;
On my way home from a nice lunch with my DH, I saw a horrible car accident where a teen girl T-boned a car and killed the driver of the car. I am beside myself with emotion right now. The poor girl flipped out when she learned that the other driver was dead, literally running across 4 lanes of traffic and collapsing in a fastfood restaurant parking lot. My heart is breaking still for her as well as the other driver's family and friends.
I have a teen daugther chomping at the bit to get her license and I DONT WANT HER TO...just because of stuff like this.
Please remember these families in your prayers. This young girl has a long, hard road ahead of her I'm sure...not to mention the other driver's family...
I am so upset
Vehicles are not necessary or permitted at U.S. Naval Academy where son went until beginning of senior year. Daughter went to self-contained college campus in Maryland. Family member helped w/transportaiton when necessary. Raised 5 children. Shelter, food, clothing necessary expenses, vehicles & exhorbitant insurance for teens not necessary. Check the stats on young drivers ages 16-25. Then decide if you want your your teen driving. It helps a lot if they pay their own way or at least part. Def driving helps some. Raised 5 children. Lot of parents want the kids to drive so they don't have to be bothered.
I would be VERY upset...
and I'd let her know it too...whatta scrooge! Like the other poster, I'd go to the principal about this. She way overstepped her boundaries on this one. I am so sorry this happened right here at the holidays. Hope y'all enjoy Christmas anyway!
does this upset you? then do something about it.
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Like I'm not upset enough. . LOL
Hey everyone, HELP me! I had a bat hanging on the edge of my sofa when I came down from my break at 12:30 p.m. to go to the mall for my iced tea. I called the guy down in the apartment downstairs and he came up and let's just say took care of it. I was in tears! Don't like anything to be hurt, but I floze out about such things. I have bad eyes, and when I came down the steps I thought, what's that black sock doing on the side of my sofa. Then I remembered socks don't have wings! Beam me up! I'm still upset! LOL!!! This past week has been the week from
H E double hockey sticks!!!!! I need an Ativan the size of a hub cap! Just wanted all my MTs to know if could get worse. . . IT JUST DID.
The guy who helped me is so tall he kinda looks like Herman Munster without the bolt, which is scary enough!!!!!!!!!!!!! He is nice, though and thank goodness he was there. Have a good day, guys! 
Yes, and she was VERY UPSET
about what?? Cause she got caught? DUH. Man o Man. I cannot understand this at all. Well she should be going to jail like Paris did but for longer. Anyone of us in this same situation would still be in jail right now and would be going to jail for years with the drug possession charges from now and in May. Cannot wait for this to go to trial.
You have every right to be upset
but what is done is done and the best thing to do would be to take her to a GYN, get her on birth control, talk openly about safer sex practice and you can still let her know your disappointment but don't dwell on it. She may feel he is the "one" for her, but if he truly is a loser, she will figure that out in time, especially with the help of her friends...peer pressure is what gets them into the situation in the first place. I don't think you sound controlling...you just sound very disappointed for your daughter. Good luck.
Upset
I'm upset and never thought about that.....I just want my kids to be happy.....but he seems to think that the grass is greener on the other side, but once he finds out that it is not....he will back....but in the meantime....he will not have a key to my house to come and go as he pleases.....thanks for responding....
I for one do not see why others get so upset by
screaming and yelling in every situation. I understand the basic concept and the I-net rules and stuff, but honestly one or two words capped in a paragraph IMO hardly consistute yelling and screaming. I took it more as a way to stress a word or phase. Everyone needs to chill a little I think, including the OP.
Why are you getting so upset?
You stated a fact and apparently do not wish to hear what others are saying about how credit plays a big part in job situations (your credit probably pulled on a job before to check you out) and other parts of life. The bank does not have a part in your son's lack of money and being unable to pay his bills. Those are their rules and why you should continue to blast others for telling it like it is, I don’t know.
Why am I so upset?
Because you posters are equating being unemployed with being a thief or an embezzler. You'd be upset too if people called your son a thief.
I have never come across the problem with checking credit because my husband's and mine has always been excellent. I guess you learn something new every day, about life and about people who can be so vile while hiding behind a computer.
I would also be upset,
and I don't think you are being selfish at all. I have no advice or suggestions. I just wanted to let you know that I think you have every reason to be upset. With blessing across the miles, I pray for you. :)
You have every right to be upset....sm
And yes that has happened to me. Not all the time but it has. I have an 11 year old son and last year he did not wish me happy mothers day and didn't want anyone to take him to get me a card or anything. But when fathers day comes he always tells his dad happy fathers day and asks me to take him to buy him a gift. Yes, it hurts my feelings but I know my son worships his dad. I'm just mama. BUT this year, my son was different. He asks my mom to help him get me a gift and she did. He told me happy mothers day so I was happy. My husband wished me HMD but didn't get a card or nothing.
Yes, it hurts my feelings and I let my husband know it did but oh well. My husband can be a real a-- sometimes and then again he can be the nices guy ever. He has 2 different personalities.
No, it's okay! I wasn't upset or anything,
just was confused when I couldn't find it. I wanted to post all that so hopefully anyone having these problems could maybe try the same thing.
Firefox is letting me into every site I use though, so crossing my fingers it continues.
Thanks for the tip about the degfrag. I haven't done it and will. :)
Not upset here. Just said I thought
it was RUDE and I could care less if he is or isn't gay. I do not care if it was planned ahead of time or not.
I turn this show on for the talent aspect, but it is becoming less and less of the American Idol show but more about a popularity contest, putting people down, etc, etc. It is all about RATINGS and frankly the whole show is becoming a big JOKE. JUDGES and all
Well, I think she might be upset enough to stroke out or something (sm)
That's good enough for me!
I know you are upset about this and it is your decision
true enough. I probably would not like a 16-year-old to have the keys either. First of all, unless living there, lots are not responsible enough or use good logic but I was hurt, I was grown and could be trusted then and now and I would let me children have, but they are grown.
Me too!! I was so upset when I thought
he was demoted by that day rat. (sorry day shift people). I work over night shift and thoroughly love the comments about different shifts. Man that show is good. We just went on vacation with the kids to the Star Trek Museum (yes we are nerds)and stayed at the Hilton. We love the opening every time CSI Vegas comes on. We try to figure out where the hotel is and all the different things are. LOL. We are truly ill here. We flip between CSI and 2 Law and Orders every evening, and on Saturdays watch the tapes.
More upset with male, although I see your SM
point. If male, would be more about him. My ex did cheat on me for years. I felt deceived, but would have felt even more so if he cheated with men and probably scared silly about disease, which, I know, could have been passed on by women.
Wish people didn't have affairs and if they want a divorce, just get one and then date whomever you want. Yes, I am very naive.
Maybe you did sound upset. .
As you said, you were talking to your aunt on the phone who is dying of cancer and is in hospice. Are you sure you didn't sound upset or irritated with your daughter? At least she cares.
Should I be upset? My mother-in-law......sm
has been taking my 9-month-old daughter around the farm on the 4-wheeler. The guys are coming and going with the machinery, it's noisy, and she's driving my daughter around all of that. Am I overreacting, or do I have a right to be upset?
First off, I was very upset when I wrote
the original post. Sending my son to a boys' home is obviously a last resort. I don't mean an orphanage or foster care. I mean a facility that can help to retrain him if I can't. I love my son very much. I would rather suffer the pains and guilt of having to send him to a reformity, then to watch him grow up into someone who would hurt someone else and ruin the rest of his life. I love all of my children equally.
Secondly, when I took my child to the child psychologist, I had several visits with him first to see if there was something I was doing wrong. I continued to attend each session with my child, including private sessions for myself after his meeting with my son.
Thirdly, your comments were not helpful, just nasty, and that's not the kind of help I was looking for. Anyone who's ever been in this situation already feels inadequate as a parent and doesn't need someone else to slam them. Thanks for taking the time out of your busy day to do just that.
About my mom, from post below - so upset! sm
My daughter's friend's mom just informed me that my mother told her daughter (and mine) that she had been chased by a demon and had seen demons and ghosts. When my daughter told my mom she didn't believe her, my mother took out a Bible and swore on the Bible that it was true. She has the little girl so scared she won't sleep in her own bed and won't go to the bathroom by herself. I called my mom and asked her why she would do this. She said it was the girls fault because they didn't believe her so she had to swear on the Bible to prove it to them. I asked her if while she was saying all these things, she was unaware of all the times I have asked her not to say these types of things, and if she really did not know she was saying something I wouldn't want her to say. She said she guessed she did know and that maybe she shouldn't come to my house anymore if she is going to upset people (patheticically) so I said if she can't honor my requests as the mother in this house then I guess she shouldn't come back. I just feel so bad though, so bad.
Who is Valentineless today? Not upset or anything, just asking
I can't believe all of you are upset about the police comment...
but not that she will be sent to a "meaner mom and dad". lol Priceless and typical.
To me, no biggie. Plus I don't particularly like cops ;)
Poster was having a moment. There is far worse people say and do to kids. And that can be turned around, easily. Geez.
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Me again! I am so frustrated, scared, and upset over here. I'm sorry, but sm
my husband doesn't understand and my other friends homeschool (as do I), so I have no one to talk to about this. My 3-1/2 year old has been crying all day. What is wrong with him? Not crying, but unplugging stuff for my computer, unfolding laundry, taking DVDs and throwing them all over the floor. So, I spanked him, yet again, and nothing is working. I sincerely cannot take this. I cannot, I cannot, I cannot. I have to put him in a program somewhere.
I am crying so hard right now because my husband and I are both advocates for homeschooling and having the children at home. I am suffering having to spend the majority of my day spaking and disciplining an unruly child which gives me no time to homeschool his brothers. They (the other brothers) hate to see their little bro get into trouble, but what is one supposed to do? There are 3 of them and 1 of me. I just lost it a few minutes ago as he just started tearing things up again. Here are the options: Get rid of every single electronic thing in my household (including my work computer), tv's, Playstation 2(which is 10 year old brother loves), and everything else and go back to the days of old where it was just mom, kids, and dad at work. I'm seriously thinking he is just too distracted and can't help it. OR solution #2, put him in daycare somewhere (this makes me cringe, cry, sob- because he will be just a number there (I know - I worked for one for a long time - I don't care what anyone says), or in a pre-K program somewhere, but around here they only last for 2 hours (GA). I know, because I've checked.
Anyone else with similar situation? I'm thinking of putting them all in school so I can work since I have to work. Our expenses outweigh husband's income. I must work. I only work at night,though, so that isn't an issue during the day. I am at my wits end. I know if I work, though, a lot if it will go towards daycare. But inside my head and heart, I can't take this. I don't know why, I just can't do this anymore.
Maybe folks think you are upset because you keep yelling
Ultimately it is your decision whether or not to give someone the key to your home, or once they have it to let them keep it. You have to do what you are comfortable with. I have keys to my parent's home, my siblings' homes, and my cousin's home. Two of my brothers have keys to my home. We are all comfortable with that arrangement.
As a side note, you posted here about the entire situation knowing that everything in your post would be open to comment. If you did not want folks to comment on aspects your situation, then there really was no need to divulge so many details. You simply could have said, "My son is moving out of my home. I asked for the keys to my house. My mother felt this was objectionable." Then you could have asked for opinions or what other folks do.
More upset if with a man. Lie #1 is the affair, lie #2 is that he's gay and didn't tell me bef
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Equally upset at either, but for different reasons. nm
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I would get really upset at him, and give no chances
That does not mean I would be correct, though. I have an active imagination. And very little trust. But my DH and I met on a Singles board and even after we were close to marriage, he still had his ad up there. It made me crazy wondering why. He finally proposed. 2 years later married, I found out he had been interviewing girls right up to his proposal even as we were dating for a year and more than close. To this day he admits it and says he was just being insecure. Now I am married a few years, I still don't trust him or any guy who surfs the net like that. The bad thing is if you confronted your guy and told him about the history, you probably gave him too much info that you looked at the history and he can delete the history now. Don't know what to say, except don't be as untrusting as me, and drive yourself crazy over it. Either talk to a counselor who would know better what to do or trust your instinct. Me, I'd go to a counselor and they'd probably ease my imagination or get me closer to reality. Good Luck with this. My heart is with you.
I understand that some children are upset
when they learn the truth, but can honestly say that I never thought twice about it once I found out the truth. Actucally it wasn't so much finding out, it was just being old enough to realize the impossibility of Santa. My children are now old enough that they no longer believe and they were fine with it when they found out. I guess it would depend on the children. Our family always focused more on the reason for the season and not Santa, maybe that made it easier.
I am not upset that you are afraid of pits...sm
I could understand that. Totally understandable based on media hype these dogs get. But to make the comment that they should be illegal is uncalled for. My dog is not vicious and you have no right to make a comment about a breed of dog chances are you know nothing about except what you hear. You might have well have said my child should be illegal. I love my dogs very much.
I think that the show upset her profoundly...sm
It wasn't your fault of course. You didn't know the ending. I would just make sure she doesn't watch anything upsetting anymore and watch her.
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