been there done that

Posted By: ginny on 2007-12-31
In Reply to: I'm sick & husband is being mean...just so tired of it - sm - crying all morning, just venting

My prayers are with you; I went through something similar for the entire 28 years of my marriage. Every time I got injured, had a death in the family, etc. he was so rude and not the least bit helpful or sympathetic. That is absolutely crap! Needless to say - we are divorced now!

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I'm sick & husband is being mean...just so tired of it - sm - crying all morning, just venting
- I HAVE A BRAINSTORM - nana
  - That was funny - thanks! LOL - he's nicer today (of course) sm - OP
    - Be careful of the cycle. He is in the gift mode. - HolidayMT
  - Don't you get drunk quicker while in the air? - HolidayMT
- Been there - heck, there now!... - The Other Sunshine
  - One tiime, say yes and go. See how he reacts to - that. nm
- been there done that - ginny
  - It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm) - OP
- Thanks everyone for your comments (sm) - OP
  - Calling AA will do you no good. You need to call Al-Anon. - latecomer to thread
  - GOOD FOR YOU! But, think of yourself first. call the domestic violence hotline FIRST. - Holiday MT
  - Maybe he was freaking out about germs - during today's incident
    - That one is highly unlikely! LOL! He doesn't believe in germs! LOL! - nm OP
- your hubby - spring
- So he's out drunk and with a gun. S/l a recipe for - huh
- Why don't you appreciate the fact that he cooks??? - Mt
  - Uh, what? Cooking makes up for meanness? - tnmt
  - He messed up the pan on purpose...to be mean n/m - OP
- I just wanted to say I feel bad for you. - sm
- I am so very sorry, my heart is with you. - HolidayMT
  - Thank you...do you really think they will listen to me (sm) - OP
    - Of course they will listen. Mental abuse is extremely prevalent - HolidayMT
      - wow - mimiskids
- Well, he sounds like a control - Me
- I'd kick him out. I would not enable him to keep doing what he is doing - pc
  - How can I kick him out? I have told him to leave many times (sm) - seriously - OP
    - you do the leaving - mimiskids
      - Thank you...can I ask you (sm) - OP
        personality/alcohol - mimiskids
    - If you are serious about leaving, you need a plan. SM - bunny buncher
      - Do NOT stay just because of the age of your kids. - MslaMT
        You may want to shoot me, but SM - bunny buncher
    - Order of protection, change locks and be prepared - to call police. nm
    - Call womans shelter/police and ask them where to - start. nm
- bull, he was not too drunk he has a girlfriend. See the writing on the wall. nm - Minding your Business
  - Honestly I think I am dealing with both issues with him (sm) - OP
    - Sorry to hear all this; here's my advice - sm
      - This is basically what I have been doing the last few years (sm) - OP
  - you don't know that for sure. He says he thinks he's an alcohol. - she needs to start there. n/m
- You choose to stay in this situation. Until you make - decision to change this, it will continue, no surp
  - do you know how alcoholism works? - n/m
    - I know if SHE doesnt get proactive and take charge - her and children's situation, nothing will chan
- if he states he thinks he may be an alcoholic, he is asking for help - there is help out there; utilize it.
  - Would he still act like this even when sober? (sm) - OP
    - alcoholics have personality changes; talk to AA group - get info on it. n/m
      - Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without - really being alcoholic? nm
        if he quits drinking and changes for the better, you have your answer - n/m
        This may sound crazy sm - Seasoned Survivor
        Thanks...and I drink almost never...I occasionally buy (sm) - OP
        Let us know sm - Seasoned Survivor

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