baby steps
Posted By: flybaby2 on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: Found it but won't take my address sm - frugalfannie
Start by throwing away what is broken, stained and full of holes. If I can't throw that away, I make a rag bag and put it in the garage for checking the oil.
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I agree with you and feel very deeply for this poor child. This woman is hateful, immature, and a dozen other adjectives that I could add, but they just would not change her bad, bad, bad, bad behavior and attitude. Wonder if her husband knows she is trash-talking him online --- would love to here his opinion of this situation --- since she has unilaterally decided to air her dirty laundry in a public format. Who is spitful and immature????
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Example of what??? Someone who supports children rather than those who abuse them?
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You be gone --- find someting to do rather than supporting this freaks abuse of her husband's 5-year-old child.
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If I am a nut for not supporting child abuse, then a nut I am.
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Thank you for your warped insight. I do not, in fact have low self esteem --- that belongs to those of you who think that a 5-year-old child deserves this type of abuse.
Maybe your stepdaughters were on to something they saw in you.
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better annoying than warped enough to support child abuse.
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I don't need pills or booze, but I am not surprised that you do. Child abuse is not okay. I have contacted a moderator to request that they track down this nut job and report her to the authorities in whatever state she lives in. She sounds unbalanced and dangerous, and in my opinion this poor child needs to be protected. They also need to make the child's father aware of the venom this woman is directing at his child.
It sounds to me like this child is simply responding to her bratty behavior and she is the one who needs to be reigned in.
Unlike you, I do not believe that child abuse is acceptable --- most people do not take pills or alcohol to forget that fact, obviously it helps you, though.
take steps
start documenting on a notepad what happens and when. Keep the note you found. definitely contact the police for further documentation, and ask for extra patrols. Maybe they can even "investigate" the possible "friends." If it were me, I'd keep outside porch lights on, and keep a loaded gun in a safe/quickly accessible place (if no small kids in house). There is too much tragedy going on nowadays to ignore this kind of thing. It is NOT something to ignore.
start with small steps
It does sound like separation anxiety. I've had this. I start with small steps -- going out and driving around a couple of blocks and then coming back home again. Then I increase the amount of time I am driving little by little. She knows Mom will be back this way and over time has gotten used to my being gone for hours. She had been abused when I got her and was a wreck emotionally so I hope this gives you comfort.
I also keep the atmosphere at home the same when I go out as when I am home -- radio playing, lights on, etc. No drastic changes except for me being gone. My pets like New Age. Puts them right to sleep. (me too sometimes).
If you have an answering machine, call home and just talk to the dog as you would if you were there. Let him hear your voice. He might just think you are in another room, but with your dog he might tear down the doors to get to you so I don't know about this for your circumstances.
I also have a roomy crate near my desk and I keep a pair of slippers near it. I have a couple of cats and a dog. They all argue over who's crate it is, as they think it is their "special place." The door is left open all the time. Often I find them all in there snuggled up together. But this gives them a feeling of a special place whether I am here or not. They have their place, I have mine. I think this helps when I am gone because I often find my dog has dragged her favorite blanket over to the crate while I was gone. My scent is on the slippers and that comforts her.
Also, bringing home a treat helps!
I have a cat who pries the cabinet doors open and curls up inside the frying pans. Now I have an obstacle course of buckets, etc. to climb over as I work at the counter! (If I move them, I forget to put them back until I hear him close the cabinet door behind himself.)
There are more tricks out there somewhere but I can't remember any of them. Hope you find something that works for you. That's a BIG problem in more ways than one!
Some men don't see the little steps that lead to affairs...
What I am seeing that are red flags include...
1) She has chosen to discuss her relationship/marital problems with a married person of the opposite sex - this 100% creates an intimate situation between 2 people that should only exist in the relationship/marriage.
2) She has chosen to discuss her marital problems with her clients - this is not really appropriate client/professional behavior. She is looking for a personal connection with someone.
3) She has accepted a fairly large amount of money from a client given to help her personal situation and not as a professional thank you - this is setting up a deeper intimate relationship. She is looking for a provider.
4) Your husband seems to be filling a need to be important and a hero in someone's life by giving her this money (I agree with hero concept below but sex isn't necessarily the solution) - he is responding to the deeper intimate relationship. He is being the provider.
5) He is mad at you and telling you that you are being stupid about this - he is invested in this relationship enough to defend it.
For every step he takes forward, the relationship has a chance of becoming more serious. As each little step that he takes becomes okay with him, the next step is a little closer and a little more natural. While he may never get up 1 day and say I am going to have an affair, he is about halfway down the road and might not realize it yet.
I strongly suggest talking with him about it. Food and sex is a not a cure for this one. Make sure he knows that you are not comfortable with this and you are both done seeing this gal as a hairdresser.
The FIRM is great. I built 2 steps for it. nm
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Bad idea...unfair and taking steps backward.
This segregates a group out and discriminates against others. It says one group of citizens deserves more special attention or situation than others.
If homosexuals want to be treated like everyone else, they must extend this through every aspect of their life.
It wasn't easy for women or blacks to get to vote or have any of the rights we do today. This group will have to fight for theirs, as well.
I also want to point out that there is no way to shove the homosexual agenda down the throats of those who are opposed and make them like it.
New baby on the way.
Congratulations!!!!!! Hope you have a beautiful, healthy baby. I lost my first baby and it was 4 years before I tried again. I also think about the baby I lost, I don't think that ever goes away. I am proud to have two girls now to enjoy. Take pleasure in each moment. Enjoy!
I just want him to baby me
I am a female have been married to my husband for a year and 7 months, (no kids yet) and ever since I have been married I feel like I am babying him. I am more affectionate to him, I always want to cuddle with him, always worried about him and feel like I don't want to lose him. we have a great relationship open and honost. But sometimes I want him to run after me, to show me affection, to take care of me to feel like he is scared to lose me. I want him to tell me that I wanna go out with you with out any friends just the both of us, I just want him to baby me like I baby him. what do I do? trust me I have tried talking to him, but you see I don't want to tell him these things I want him to do it on his own. I go to school 2 times a week in the evenings and I always have to beg him to pick me up from school, I want him to tell me that he wants to pick me up. how do I go about? please help.
The baby's name is
Dannylynn Hope Marshall Stern. I think the move to Bahamas was Stern's idea and I think he is sly like a fox, i.e. the main players mother and son out of the way and now the baby who he is laying claim to with the name of Marshall in there (deceased husband's name). If you are the real father, you would demand to have paternity testing- we all know this is something he has tried (unsuccessfully thank goodness) to stop. The courts supposedly giving DNA results this past Tuesday but nothing yet. It would be a big shocker if the husband who died (Marshall) turned out to be the really father, wouldn't it? Can we say invitro?
My baby Fox isn't doing well.
He hasn't felt well for several days, but it seemed that every time we decided okay, we definitely need to take him to the vet, he would improve a little.
But today my son was getting ready to leave the house and Fox usually runs after him, barking, to try to get him not to leave. Fox started barking, but he couldn't get up. He was on the carpet, not the wood or the tile. He just could not get up.
So I took him to the vet and she examined him. He has arthritis in both his knees because of the surgery he had when he was younger (for patellar luxation). We found out a few months ago that his right shoulder is luxating in the same way that his kneecaps did.
Now his left shoulder is also luxating.
He's such a little stoic it is hard to tell exactly how much pain he is in. The vet gave him a prescription for a fentanyl patch. My husband should be home in a few minutes so he can help me put the patch on. The vet shaved a place on his back for it but she said to hold it in place for 2-3 minutes so that it adheres properly.
The vet said the pain reliever might make him feel so much better that he would be running and jumping around and injuring himself worse. If he feels well, the only way we can keep him from running around is to crate him.
I don't know what to do. I don't want him to hurt. I don't want to shut him up in a crate. He would go nuts - he is used to being very active.
I don't want to keep him alive and miserable for my own selfish reasons - that I can't bear to part with him. But I also don't want to decide too soon that his quality of life is unacceptable.
I don't know what to do.
Baby sm
First of all, congratulations! You are about to experience the greatest gift on earth. I was not heavy but had a friend who was. Mind you, this was way back, as I am older, but I was surprised that she actually went on a very healthy diet which was good for the baby, and actually lost a few pounds. Check with your docs, but perhaps this will be a great incentive for you. Be positive, it will all be good! Best of everything to you and your baby.
Baby's bpm.
Hello. I just had my first real appointment at 12 weeks today and the doctor, i believe, told me the heart rate was 114. I've been trying to do some research on this but the more time i spend on the computer the more worried i'm getting. I've been reading a lot of women saying they lost their babies. The rate was much lower and around 5-6 weeks but i'm still scared. If anybody has info. about this or knows a thing or two i'd really appreciate it until i can call the doctor tomorrow. Thanks so much. =)
My baby
Buster is unfortunately not a puppy anymore. He will be 14 in January. He has some arthritis in his back legs and has what we think are TIAs occasionally, but he still runs and plays like a puppy when he gets a new toy.
Maybe you could rig that baby to
heat the house! 
Baby? lol
He looks like a big baby! lol How cute, looks like he poses for pictures often. I would definitely have that one in a frame with that beautiful smile! :)
Sorry about your baby...
Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family. We lost our beloved 9-year-old black lab 4 years ago, the week of Christmas. I had to take him to the vet because out of the blue he had an episode, that he just lied there and wouldn't respond. I thought he was dead then. He came to and I took him to the vet. She couldn't find anything wrong with him, took some blood for testing. He died the next day. It broke all of our hearts and when I saw my husband cry (I had never seen him cry before in 13 years of being together), it made the hurt that much worse.
Hopefully someone will come up with 8 baby
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Congrats!!
If your income isnt too much you can always get medicaid and wic (not health insurance but helps out with food and formula)
right age for a baby?
For those of you who are planning to have kids, what is the "right" age to conceive? Of course everybody will have a different right time, but I'm just curious about other people's time lines.
What about Sun-In (to go along with the baby oil)...
and, more importantly, drive-in theaters - my boyfriend and I used to go to the drive-in almost every weekend in the late 70s/early 80s!! I wish they would bring the drive-in back.
some relief for your baby...
Try hemorrhoid cream to the blisters...I swear it will significantly decrease the itching. My daughter was around 4 when she got the chicken pox and I put Preparation-H on her blisters and kept it on them and she barely noticed them. Please try this, it honestly will help! Good Luck...and BTW, sounds like the doctor isn't the only one that is a jerk!!!  ---to your "husband"...
Poor baby!
I hope you can figure out what's going on with her.
A note on my baby
I left a message on the board about how my babies F/L was measured short and the doctor told me the baby probably had down syndrome. Well, I went to see a specialist who was very upset with the previous doctor and he did a level II ultrasound and my baby is perfect and normal. They do not measure the F/L for down syndrome. They measure the humerus bone. Anyway to make a long story short-----thanks to all who responded !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and the baby has very long legs......
2 is NOT a baby! It's a toddler and IMO too old...
to be breastfeeding! That's disgusting for a child that old and YES I would be offended and grossed out to see a mom breastfeeding a 22 month old! I have absolutely no problem with moms breastfeeding BABIES in public, but not a toddler.
Thanks for that tip on Baby Alive!
I was wondering such! My daughter's birthday is in two weeks, and guess what she's asking for? More food and diapers for Baby Alive! Poor Baby Alive, she hasn't been fed since the day after Christmas! She'll be so happy when birthday time comes!
Baby Alive
You bet!!! My 5-year-old loves Baby Alive. We are on our second extra package of food (10 pack). The cost of diapers was getting crazy so I gave it a shot. You have to adjust the pretty tightly but $7.00 for 40 diapers is so much better than $4.88 for 6! I am wondering if you can used baking soda and water for food? Good Luck!
My Mom got my Baby Alive from
a yard sale, but I loved her anyway! I could only play with her in the backyard on the picnic table, or maybe I just chose to do so??? lol Anyhow, we had great times and I'll never forget her, ever! 
Baby Alive
Me too! I will be 40 next September. Wonder what became of my original? 
I'm not going to breastfeed my baby...sm
by choice. I want my husband, other kids and family members to share in the joy of bonding with the baby by bottle feeding at times and have no desire to be pumping my breasts. Our pediatrician leaves it up to the mother to decide whether or not to breastfeed, which is the way it should be. I've known plenty of kids who were bottle fed that turned out just fine.
Anna's Baby
Yes! Yes! Yes! The baby should be with the real father now.
TrimSpa Baby!!
Great for the heart...
the baby did ask to be born
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I think the baby looks like the guy they showed her
the nice-looking dark-skinned man in the hat and glasses. They showed a glipse of them hugging. I think the baby looks like him. She has really curly hair and an olive complexion. JMO.
Baby daddy is by DNA
Larry is the father
Thinking exactly the same that the baby
might be getting, according to the older child, more attention than he is at the present time. I could understand him doing something like this for attention getting. Hope this works out ok for you.
Best wishes for your fur-baby
I haven't kept up so I don't know what the diagnosis is, but my diabetic cat, who was on death's door in DKA a little over 4 years ago, is now snuggled next to me. I never would have thought back then that he'd still be with me today, but he is. I had to finger-feed him all-meat baby food for about 4-6 weeks while he recovered and freaked out while I learned to blood glucose levels and adjust to his insulin needs.
He's now even become a seasoned traveler (considering he has to be given insulin injections every 12 hours and I can't leave him) and has gone on numerous beach trips, mountain trips, Civil War reenacements and Scottish Highland Games. He thinks he owns the RV now. :-)
You'll know when it's time and your kitty may surprise you and take you way past when you thought it would be.
OH! Is that a baby Rott?
xx
See, my husband is the baby...
He's the youngest of five children, with two older sisters who also dote on him endlessly. He has had some hard habits to break, but we are working on them. But mama lets us know how awful it is that we live so far away ALL THE TIME!!! Its about 280 miles for us.
I also do not believe for a minute that you are overly sensitive. To those other posters who do believe that she is too sensitive, you try dealing with that kind of a situation every time she calls or visits. Its a constant barrage of guilt along with overstepping their boundaries. My MIL also does all my laundry and rearranges my cupboards and cleans my house to her specs while she is visiting, then complains about how bad her arthritis hurts her because she did it. And then if I thank her but tell her that she doesn't have to work so hard while she is visiting, she bursts into tears and tells everyone that I hate her.
RE: Victoria's baby
I hate the thought of it but I am afraid she will lose the baby. She just said right before the accident that she was no longer going to be superstitious about losing the baby which is usually a sure sign of disaster. I think they will then find out the baby is Brad's which will mean he has lost 2 unborn sons. Regarding any other deaths I have not read anything stating that any main characters were leaving.
Baby lovebirds
Does anyone out there know about baby lovebirds? Two eggs hatched 3 weeks ago and we have these really cute chicks (they really look like chicks). The mom takes good care of them (daddy flew the coup and escaped somehow), and I make sure to provide fresh water, lots of food, even vitamin drops, and extra supplements. We have a cage for 2 birds and now that the chicks are a little older I will get a bigger one (when I get paid). Any tips you have would be great. We plan to keep these 2, and I want to keep all 3 happy and healthy. The mom keeps them snuggled under a little soft towel I put in the cage and she keeps them and inside there very clean. But I really need to take care of totally cleaning the cage for them, but don't want to handle the chicks yet, they are so young. I looked on the internet, and did not find anything specifically about this, and I have not gotten to the library for a book. Any birdy lovers if you have ideas, they would be appreciated. Thanks in advance from me and the babies.
Give that baby a BIG hug for me
He is adorable.
Here is a better picture of my baby! - sm
with his long tongue hanging out!
What a pretty baby....sm
Glad Buck got to spend time with you, even for a little while...He was a real beaut. Cat
Maybe the baby was sleeping.
I know mine all had lower heart rates in the 1-teens when they were sleeping when we did ultrasounds and listened to their heart beats. When they were awake it ranged from 130s-160s. I hope yours is okay.
Of course I was also talking to the baby (sm)
It was a Kohl's store and some of you may know they have the black carts but also have stroller carts that look almost identical...so someone may not seen the baby and may have gone and told the manager I was talking to myself and then of course he gets there and I look like glittery warmed over death...that was one of my most embarassing moments for sure!
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