awww that's so unfortunate...I feel for you...
Posted By: sm on 2007-05-05
In Reply to: You know, that is great to hear and you know - Snazzie
However, there is an old old saying, I'm sure you've heard it...
a son is a son 'til he takes a wife
a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life....
(I know it's not the case all the time, but what I have seen this SEEMS to be the case). GOD BLESS YOU and may you find peace!!! 
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It is unfortunate.....
that the first family event after this fight is her birthday. I totally understand your feelings, believe me. I feel the same way about my SIL but I have to tolerate her if I ever want to see my brother, whom I dearly love. Fortunately he and I talk on the phone all the time, which helps.
All I can do is tell you what I would do in your place. I would not go to the birthday dinner. That is just asking too much. But I would attend all the other family get-togethers that I normally attended, just avoiding her as much as possible. I would not let her prevent me from seeing the people I love. If she tried to start an argument at a family event, I would just say, "I don't have anything to say about that" and walk away. If there was another family member I could enlist to act as "buffer," I would do so.
Is your sister bipolar, either diagnosed or undiagnosed? She sure sounds like it. I should know. I live with it. But as long as I take my meds, I have reasonable control over the ups and downs.
Hope some of this helps. I'm sorry this is happening in your life.
Unfortunate choice by...
...his parents for a name, but he was born before Pol Pot came to power, which isn't even a true name, but the shortened version of Politique Potentielle. Maybe the similarity in names was part of the blame for the bullying Paul Potts endured while growing up.
Nevertheless, I didn't even think of the mass murderer when hearing this man's name. Maybe because I read the name before hearing it.
I thought with all the discord on some of the other threads, the unhappiness with jobs, offshore issues, and not to mention the garbage we all hear on the news every day, that this man's story would be a welcome change. It isn't often we hear of the good stuff that happens or the inspirational moments in people's lives. I wish I had left out his name in the original title of the thread!
Awww!!
 I absolutely adore them. I have 2. I have a red dapple and a black and tan and they are the best!! They are so lovable...but be careful, cuz they'll steal your heart away! I could not recommend a better breed of dog, but be sure to get one from a reputable breeder as the Dachshund tends to have a bad back. My Molly (red dapple) had a disk rupture and she became paralyzed February 28th, had surgery 5 days later and we were told she would not walk again. However, Dachshunds are a very strong personality and she is walking and running all over the place now! She still goes to water therapy where she walks on an underwater treadmill 2 times a month. They become just like your children! Mine sit near me while I work and they bark when someone comes to the door. They do have a big bark like a big ole hound dog, but they are so cute and lovable. They love to go on neighborhood walks. They also are destructive when puppies but I think if you give them lots of love and attention, you'll get through it okay! Both of mine were easy, easy to housebreak when I took them out every 2-3 hours (like a newborn) for peepee breaks, and then gave them lots of praise. They really are a bundle of energy and love and I can't say enough about them!! I highly recommend the breed.
awww...
Cats and trees can be a lethal mix for sure!
Sorry about your kitty. I had one who lived to be 20. It was like after she met that milestone, she just went to sleep...
AWWW
They are so cute together! My dog Misty liked it too. My daughter loves cats and was sitting behind me and since she is into martial arts she laughed and said that the honey-colored cat is loving the other one, but is proud that he has him in a semi choke hold because when they both wake up he has the edge! Or, maybe he wants to make sure the white cat doesn't beat him to the food dish.
Awww..sm
Isn't it amazing how many colors appear in 1 litter?
awww
That is just the sweetest thing for you suggest that. Thank you so much! I couldn't take your money though! I am getting over the mad thing and easing into the funny. I should make her go to school like she is so she will never do it again. She said that she wanted to cut her hair like her friend Laci because she loved her..... *sigh*... I will probably just cut the long back off and then just keep styling it for now. My mom always use to cut my hair like a little boy and I hated it. Now my daughter is cutting her own hair like a boy... and with SAFETY SCISSORS none the less. I cant even cut paper with these things!!!!
Awww, give yourself a hug from me.
I cannot imagine what that pain must be like, but my heart goes out to you.
AWWW that's sweet!!!
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Awww. Thanks for the picture...nm
awww...thanks...Our next one I think we will get a brindle..
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Awww...what a good nurse you are! Will say
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Awww congrats! She's a keeper! nm
Awww, what a cute kitty sm
so adorable. I love cats but my two youngest boys are deathly allergic. We did have one when they were very small and after she died, that was it. It was right after that their coughing stopped and sinuses cleared. Anyway, if it were my kitty, I would forego the tail. Still lots of kitty there to love. And the pain and bleeding would be gone.
Awww shucks Ma, didn't know that
ya'll 'sept my apology.
Awww...Santa's Helper!
He is so cute! I love dogs!
Awww I love 'zons! sm
I am down to budgies, but I did have an Indian ringneck parakeet for a long time, 2 in fact. I finally decided that she didn't have the life here that she needed and deserved, so I gave her to someone who has always been crazy about her. She is much happier and well loved. IRNs are not as teachable as an Amazon. They tend to be more calm and live in harmony with furkids. Plus, they are so large that no right-minded cat or dog would dare to challenge them. I know of a couple of 'zons who have put holes in cat's and dog's ears just for living.
You have to know that she is very attached to Birdie. I have a feeling, however, if someone was hurting you she'd do the same thing to them that she did to your jacket.
I am glad you spoil her, she is a lucky bird. So many people go into having a larger parrot and don't understand their habits and needs. This is why so many birds are abused and far too many of them can't recover from it. I'd be willing to bet she is beautifully fully feathered and a deep lime green. If her whole head is yellow, she is a double yellow head. If that is the case, they are known to be the best tempered of all the Amazons (and the most expensive in many places). Thanks for being a good birdie mom, we need more like you!
Riight, it's getting really creepy' Awww.....nm
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awww...hang in there Kendra...
he will be home in no time and you can have all the sex you want!!!
Awww, makes me want to shote WAHOO too!!
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awww what a nice fluffy tail too!
I think he'll make a lovely Stubby. Or you could make his middle name Stubby lol
Awww...scoop it up with a glass and a piece of paper and place
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How would you feel
Let me ask you, how would you feel if you were in an mva and when you arrived at the trauma center they said, sorry - we can't help you, we are closed for Thanksgiving or Christmas as the case may be. We make a choice when we get into healthcare - it's 365 days a year 24/7. Doctors, nurses, firefighters, police officers, military.. all professions that require working major holidays. Usually it's a skeletan crew that works and is on call for Stats. My feeling is, if a gaurantee job of no holidays is what one wants, then one should go into a field that doesn't require the coverage like banking or a private physicians office. Hospital medical transcription has never been Monday through Friday and never will. Think about it from the patient's point of view, after all - that is the main goal - THEIR care.
Been there - know how you feel sm
Honestly, I lost two angels before my firstborn. One at 16 weeks and the other at 12 weeks. It was excruciating and heart breaking. Now, I know I have two angels on each shoulder 24 hours a day watching over me and my family. It is comforting after a while to know that you have these angels.
God bless you and your family!
You should not feel bad at all, I don't
wrong with your response at all. My home is with my family also, but I do think of the small town in which I spent the first 20 years of my life and the wonderful times I had there, especially at the holiday time of year.
Thank you, too. I feel the same. As for
your European anology of family, you are SO right. I so admire that type of family dynamic, and don't understand fully what happened here in America. My parents were/are typical examples. They were 50's and 60's Beaver-Cleaver parents - my dad worked, my mom was a stay at home mom, though it turned out she hated it. They had the obligatory 3 kids, me being the last, and by a long shot. At any rate, they just did not foster a close family unit - we looked great on paper, but that was it. As soon as I was in my teens, my parents couldn't wait to sell the family home and take off for a retirement community, though they also weren't all that social, either. They barely paid attention to their grandkids - just the obligatory gifts and family dinners, where all was so strained and forced. They thought about themselves, really. Parents who put their happiness and interests first, while going thru the motions, though, of being that all-American upper middle class family. So, they sold everything that to me was cherished and headed south to a senior community, full of lonely seniors who chose that lifestyle. Know what I mean? They couldn't wait to get away from their grown kids and do their own thing, yet when the chips were down and their health was failing, they were stranded more or less, turning to visiting nurses and the like for care. It is odd about our society how things are turning like this and the close extended family just is a legend - like Big Foot. I have done lots of social political reading, and there are actually explanations - you are probably familiar, but it was some in governments plan, and they sure succeeded. Now all is backfiring, though. I know then I have stopped this family distancing with my own kids, thank God. My husband and I are very close with our kids, and vice versa. Many of our peers are the same, though most do not have relationships with their parents either. Maybe there is hope, eh? Nice meeting you! And though we differ, we are the same.
I feel for you
My MIL died of cancer on Christmas Eve back in the 80s. My ex-MIL, whom I loved dearly, told me, "How wonderful. She died on the eve of the Christ child's birth. You can't ask for a more blessed event as she is definitely in the arms of the Lord."
This always stuck in my mind and made me feel a lot better. I'm not an overly religious person, but when I think of that, I get a warm and fuzzy feeling all over.
I hope everything gets better for you. Just remember that they will be going to a better place without pain, sorrow, or heartache.
I know how you feel....
I just got word that my dad had a brain aneurysm and had a stroke. Nothing but worry. Right now he seems to be doing better, which I am very thankful for. I will be thinking about you and wishing you the best.
I feel for ya, but it will get better! sm
I am at about 10 weeks now. For 2 weeks straight, I was taking a nap at 9:00 in the morning! Then I could hold off until about 1, now I can go a couple of days without taking a nap. Take it as a wonderful sign!
I had a miscarriage last pregnancy, wasn't tired and wasn't nauseous at all. This time I am so very tired and so very sick and I took both as a sign that all was going well this time and it is. Hope all goes well for you this time. Take care of yourself and take it easy!
I feel the same..
The show is fixed. I watched last seasons show, and the rivalry was there in the last episode. I will not watch it again. Sam was definitely better - and Uh? how many times has Marcel won? BTW, he could not even pronounce the Hawaiian foods properly.
I feel bad for her
She lead a rough life and I feel bad for her and her daughter, who will never know her mother or her big brother. She will forever be known as a "who's your daddy" baby because of ghouls who can't mind their own business. I hope Anna is finally at peace.
yep - sure feel the same way!!!
I, too, remember all the lyrics (or most of them).......GREAT GREAT MEMORIES!!! :) 
That is how many already feel about
abortion being legal...it got on the books and has been a black mark ever since. Scarring. What victory are you hailing? The US is considered evil by many nations because of legalized abortion being practiced here. So the affect is greater than realized. Again, whose victory?
I feel for you
My heart goes out to you. I had an anorexic daugter for fives years which started at 10. She is 18 and is cured for the time being. Anyway you are doing the right thing calling the pediatrician and seeking help. Maybe a professional can talk to your husband. Once you get this help have patience it takes a long time for any results. My advice also would not to find any treatment they offer your stepdaughter. My daughter was hospitalized 3 time, and almost died. You have only a few years to work on this. Once their 18 they are their own when it comes to seeking help. Email me any time. I will be praying for your family. . I am so glad you see the problem.
I feel the same
way. I am getting tired of seeing Lucky so happy about his baby and it's not even his. It is starting to make me sick! I love Jason. He needs to take a stand. Also, I'm really ready for everyone to know who Jerry is and get it over with!
I feel the same way-
II was looking at renting an aapartment where everything is earth friendly and energy efficient and it sounds great but they have all these rules, such as you HAVE to recycle. I do recycle but I'll be damned if I'm going to have someone telling me I have to, especially if I am paying to live there. The little kid in me says "I was gonna do it until you told me to!"
I feel for you - sm
I'm sorry a few people jumped on your case. They shouldn't presume to know your entire situation. In my opinion, you asked a specific question and didn't deserve to have people criticize you like that. I had some issues too a couple years ago - mostly medical bills. I finally got them paid off a few months ago and very slowly my credit score is coming back up. Unfortunately, you just have to be patient, but as long as you make your payments on time now, your score should slowly come back up. Hope things work out. Good luck!
we should all feel the way you do; I know I do
If he is big in stature, as well as being a bully, he may respond better to a father in the neighborhood who may get invovled with him, when he is home alone. I am a single parent and am becoming more intolerable daily with people who do not take care of their kids and try to do the right thing.
oh how I feel for you - and I only have ....sm
I only now have night sweats - and I hate it, every night I tear off what I am wearing during sleep....and that's with the a/c on.....*laughs*.....neck, upper chest area is the worst.......drenching sometimes (tho not all the time)....
thanks for the heads-up on the new HRT method(s)....
Do exactly what you said you feel like doing--sm
and then get yourself out of it (marriage). If it has been less than 2 years and he is doing this already, then he will not stop. Do not subject yourself to a lifetime of misery. You stated all the reasons for not having to stay. You will find your happiness elsewhere. Just consider this a poor choice in your early life and move on. Nothing but a speed bump. There are better men out there...somewhere. Good luck to you!!!
You can feel better.
Have you tried talking to a professional and unburdening yourself?
My parents were also distant when I was little, and I confess that now that they want to be all nice and lovey, I think it feels odd and unnatural. I appreciate their fine qualities as people, but I feel like when I was weak and needed help, they left me feeling alone. Now that I have a husband, he is the emotional support that they never were. I don't hate them or anything, but I am baffled that they want more closeness now.
No, I feel exactly the same
I read somewhere people ask if she eats, with such a small body and yes, I too noticed that huge head- you just cannot get past that head to listen to her. I turn the television each time she comes on, irritating really.
I really think you would feel much better...
if you confronted her about it. Get it off your chest, so to speak. I know it can be so hard to be what is perceived as mean-spirited or confrontational (most of us hate confrontation), but I promise you that you will get a lot out of it if you go to her and tell her that it's so unfortunate that she didn't value your friendship and used you that way. Make sure to rise above it emotionally by letting her know that she threw away the best possible friend she could have ever had. She's the loser in this, not you.
I feel bad for you
that you have to insult people. you are not being forced to read this board. Like the OP said we do put names on our post. If you have nothing better to do than to look for posts like these and put people down,it does not say much for you as a person. Try to have a nice day :)
I know how you feel!
Today has been a nice break, since it's 88 and somewhere around 40% humidity. It's hoooomidity that gets to ya! I've had more folks tell me that I don't know what heat is like, because I'm from the north. But Philadelphia sits right next to a big bay and the ocean isn't that far away. We usually have humidity pumping over us all summer long. It just zaps the energy right out of you, doesn't it?
I have a friend who married a guy from central Texas. For the first 12 years of their marriage they lived down there, and when I'd visit and it was 100 degrees there, everyone would ask how I was making out in their heat. "Fine!" I'd say. It wasn't a springtime romp, but without the big wet humidity blanket, it was tolerable. They didn't believe me, and my friend told me to leave it alone, "They just don't believe that Philly gets hot." Well, they moved up her two years ago, and all summer long, her husband tells me, "You people were so right! This is awful!" He's always dripping in sweat!
Ahhh well! The comparisons can go on and on, I guess, until someone chimes in from an equatorial rain forest to put us all to shame!
As for me, I live in a 100-year old house with thick walls and lots of cross ventilation. We don't have a/c except for a room unit that we use for sleeping. The last week, though, has been a challenge. Eventually it'll break, and we'll be complaining about snow and ice here! LOL
I feel ya...
Milk here (GA) is almost $5 a gallon...well actually over $5 with tax! Completely ridiculous. Put your situation in the Lord's hands, you'll feel better! Prayers and hugs!
I feel for you!
I first want to commend you for stepping up to the plate and taking care of your stepdad when no one else will. I only hope he appreciates you for that. Can you contact Social Services to arrange for some home nursing care? You definitely sound as though you need some help with his ADLs. I recommend plenty of exercise and time for yourself if you can find it, a good stress release! Also I think a 5 or 10 minute guided meditation does wonders, but I realize that's not for everyone. Also, try Bach's Flower Remedy from health food stores. There's one called Rescue Remedy - a few drops on the tongue and you feel calm and peaceful and it's all natural.
And lastly just remember . . . this too shall pass !
I feel for you sm
I feel your frustrations. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I haven't had any situations similar to yours, but hearing about your BIL makes me angry. Sounds like he needs to be turned in. Is your sister scared of him? Maybe that's why she hasn't called you to tell you how she really feels. Mayb BIL has some control over her. I don't have any advice, but I sure hope things work out for you. Hang in there. I really hope your son realizes that he doesn't need friends like that. Especially the 20 something year old. He needs to pick on a crowd his own age.
Good luck.
Thank you. I need to just go do it. I feel
bad about being afraid to because some women would like to and might not be able to. Thanks again for your reply.
I feel for you....
I agree with the advice to try to talk to him and get to the bottom of it. I know that can be a hard thing with some men. Would he be willing to go to counseling? In the meantime, I would encourage you to find strong girlfriends to support you rather than guy friends. There's a way of having an emotional affair even when you don't have the physical one, if that makes sense. So it could be true that you're actually both distant right now.
I've been through divorce, and it's a very painful road for you and the kids. Yes, you do need to be a healthy mom for your kids, but that doesn't take away the enormous pain they experience as a result of divorce and the aftermath. You're in a very hard spot with no simple solution.
Clearly something needs to happen, and sometimes things get worse before they get better. I pray God will step into your situation in a dramatic way. Miracles do still happen, so don't give up hope. And regardless of what comes out of this, God can walk you through to a better place than you're in today.
Hang in there. Take positive steps forward. Email me if you ever want to talk.
Then I say just let him do it. I would feel sorry for him.
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