awww...hang in there Kendra...
Posted By: MtMommyof2 on 2008-11-26
In Reply to: I would love to, but my husband is in Iraq :( - Kendra
he will be home in no time and you can have all the sex you want!!!
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Kendra, I'm right there with you...
I've got an entire SET of matched baggage I lug around with me courtesy of my mother. My BF, whose mother abandoned him for many years when his father was killed, has not only forgiven her but treats her with the utmost respect and no hidden hostility. He also treats ME with great respect and any other woman I've ever seen him encounter.
I don't think the average guy has issues because of mumsy. Maybe the proverbial "mama's boy," who was waited on hand foot and his every whim catered to, who then expects his GF/wife to follow suit.
But I agree...I know far more women, such as myself, who lug the baggage courtesy of their mothers, not men.
Well put, Kendra
*I am not against a hand UP but I am very much against a hand OUT.*
Very, very well put. I become infuriated when I know people who making living off of the system a lifestyle and feel entitled to it, when so many others genuinely need help and cannot get it. The system was made to be 'assistance', not a lifelong support.
IMO, people living off of the system just drain it so that those who really do need a *hand UP* cannot get it.
Kendra, that is why I have my own ATM and
hubby has his own. I don’t use his, he doesnt use mine. Works out really good that way. We neither one know what kind of money the other one has.
Congratulations Kendra!
Assuming from your post you are pregnant too. That's wonderful! :)
I'm pregnant and there's a lot I would tell people for the money too. Can't say I blame he/she...I blame the people who buy the magazines and watch the TV interviews. I don't support it one bit. No different than any other woman getting IVF.
Kendra, I'm with you completely on this
I have a lot of animals and unfortunately have lost a few through the years. It is never easy and I have never stopped feeling conflicted about the decision to euthenize them, for the same reasons you mentioned. If I am reasonably sure they aren't suffering, and if I still see a spark of joy or love of life in their eyes I do what I can to support them, JUST LIKE I DID FOR MY MOM when she was paralyzed and bedridden, being fed through an NG tube after multiple strokes. She indicated to me that her life was still valuable to her, and I find it very difficult to determine when life ceases to be valuable to the person or animal living it. Also, I have seen miraculous recoveries after all hope was lost. I'm perplexed that we assume an injection is the "humane" way to deal with ailing pets yet recoil at the thought of human euthenisia.
Love and blessings to all of you going through this.
Sorry, that was Chia saying that, not Kendra
Reading the post and I do not see where that was said they did not need the jacket. Was that in another post?
Kendra, join in whenever. You would think with all the
negative that NO one else ever heard some of these things. Now, really! I left out some really juicy ones. Guess I will have to do a part 2, you think?
Kenna, Kendra, Kimberley nm
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So MTmommy and Kendra, question for you
I noticed the ages of your children and both said 2. Have you worked outside the home before these children were born?
Kendra, I did not read what you did, where did the person
buying jacket from QVC said they did not need? Maybe I missed it?
Like I said before, Kendra, READ THE ORIGINAL POST.
Sheesh.....!
Kendra! READ the post! Nothing was mentioned
And seriously consider getting your tubes tied.........
Awww!!
 I absolutely adore them. I have 2. I have a red dapple and a black and tan and they are the best!! They are so lovable...but be careful, cuz they'll steal your heart away! I could not recommend a better breed of dog, but be sure to get one from a reputable breeder as the Dachshund tends to have a bad back. My Molly (red dapple) had a disk rupture and she became paralyzed February 28th, had surgery 5 days later and we were told she would not walk again. However, Dachshunds are a very strong personality and she is walking and running all over the place now! She still goes to water therapy where she walks on an underwater treadmill 2 times a month. They become just like your children! Mine sit near me while I work and they bark when someone comes to the door. They do have a big bark like a big ole hound dog, but they are so cute and lovable. They love to go on neighborhood walks. They also are destructive when puppies but I think if you give them lots of love and attention, you'll get through it okay! Both of mine were easy, easy to housebreak when I took them out every 2-3 hours (like a newborn) for peepee breaks, and then gave them lots of praise. They really are a bundle of energy and love and I can't say enough about them!! I highly recommend the breed.
awww...
Cats and trees can be a lethal mix for sure!
Sorry about your kitty. I had one who lived to be 20. It was like after she met that milestone, she just went to sleep...
AWWW
They are so cute together! My dog Misty liked it too. My daughter loves cats and was sitting behind me and since she is into martial arts she laughed and said that the honey-colored cat is loving the other one, but is proud that he has him in a semi choke hold because when they both wake up he has the edge! Or, maybe he wants to make sure the white cat doesn't beat him to the food dish.
Awww..sm
Isn't it amazing how many colors appear in 1 litter?
awww
That is just the sweetest thing for you suggest that. Thank you so much! I couldn't take your money though! I am getting over the mad thing and easing into the funny. I should make her go to school like she is so she will never do it again. She said that she wanted to cut her hair like her friend Laci because she loved her..... *sigh*... I will probably just cut the long back off and then just keep styling it for now. My mom always use to cut my hair like a little boy and I hated it. Now my daughter is cutting her own hair like a boy... and with SAFETY SCISSORS none the less. I cant even cut paper with these things!!!!
I agree with Kendra, if you fear he would be physicall abusive - (sm)
then you need to be away from him. He is just your boyfriend, right? Not even your husband. I left a marriage recently from an abusive husband. He "only" beat me physically once, but he was controlling and emotionally abusive at other times AND he looked at young lesbian porn online. If I ever start dating someone and I get even a hint that they could ever become physically abusive to me I will run from that relationship so fast your head would spin. Please get away from him!! Dont even deal with it another day.
Awww, give yourself a hug from me.
I cannot imagine what that pain must be like, but my heart goes out to you.
AWWW that's sweet!!!
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Awww. Thanks for the picture...nm
awww...thanks...Our next one I think we will get a brindle..
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Katiana, Korinna, Kendra, Kari, Kayleen, Kyra nm
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awww that's so unfortunate...I feel for you...
However, there is an old old saying, I'm sure you've heard it...
a son is a son 'til he takes a wife
a daughter is a daughter the rest of her life....
(I know it's not the case all the time, but what I have seen this SEEMS to be the case). GOD BLESS YOU and may you find peace!!! 
Awww...what a good nurse you are! Will say
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Awww congrats! She's a keeper! nm
Awww, what a cute kitty sm
so adorable. I love cats but my two youngest boys are deathly allergic. We did have one when they were very small and after she died, that was it. It was right after that their coughing stopped and sinuses cleared. Anyway, if it were my kitty, I would forego the tail. Still lots of kitty there to love. And the pain and bleeding would be gone.
Awww shucks Ma, didn't know that
ya'll 'sept my apology.
Awww...Santa's Helper!
He is so cute! I love dogs!
Awww I love 'zons! sm
I am down to budgies, but I did have an Indian ringneck parakeet for a long time, 2 in fact. I finally decided that she didn't have the life here that she needed and deserved, so I gave her to someone who has always been crazy about her. She is much happier and well loved. IRNs are not as teachable as an Amazon. They tend to be more calm and live in harmony with furkids. Plus, they are so large that no right-minded cat or dog would dare to challenge them. I know of a couple of 'zons who have put holes in cat's and dog's ears just for living.
You have to know that she is very attached to Birdie. I have a feeling, however, if someone was hurting you she'd do the same thing to them that she did to your jacket.
I am glad you spoil her, she is a lucky bird. So many people go into having a larger parrot and don't understand their habits and needs. This is why so many birds are abused and far too many of them can't recover from it. I'd be willing to bet she is beautifully fully feathered and a deep lime green. If her whole head is yellow, she is a double yellow head. If that is the case, they are known to be the best tempered of all the Amazons (and the most expensive in many places). Thanks for being a good birdie mom, we need more like you!
Riight, it's getting really creepy' Awww.....nm
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Awww, makes me want to shote WAHOO too!!
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awww what a nice fluffy tail too!
I think he'll make a lovely Stubby. Or you could make his middle name Stubby lol
Me too hang in. sm
I have terrible anxiety too. Being an MT, I am sure you know that anxiety/depression go hand in hand. Here is how it goes with me: I worry myself into an exhausted state of depression, one in which I could sleep around the clock. I am on Zoloft. I don't like being on medication either, but it is better than what I call going into darkness. I will be starting yoga very soon, as I think that will help me.
It took awhile to find the right med for me. Good luck to you.
Hang in there!
Hey, you just need to hang in there. I've been thinking a lot about you today and the whole situation. The fact is, you'll never know what he is doing 24/7. Like I said before, you just have to hope that his upbringing is deep rooted in there somewhere and he'll have the sense to know right from wrong. He will make mistakes in his life journey and you have to let him make those mistakes so he can grow as a person. I'd still take the car away. That is how he will learn the consequences of what he has done and when you do give the car back, he'll be more appreciative of having it. If he was paying for the car himself it would be a different story, as one writer posted. I'd just hate to see him lose his scholarship. I mean, how many people get that opportunity. My son went to the army to get money for college because we could not do it ourselves financially and he did not want to have a bunch of school loans to pay back when he was done. But to get a scholarship like that is just such a gift, I hope he doesn't blow it. Maybe mention that to him, how hard it would be financially if he had not received the scholarship. A lot of kids don't get to go to college because of the cost and are stuck in dead-end jobs. It'll all work itself out, don't worry.
Hang in there!
How about just taking 1 day off as a "me" day. That would not dent the 40 hours much. You would be surprised how a day of rest and away from the computer and transcribing would free your spirit. Do whatever your heart desires. Or do nothing. A therapist once told me that if you don't fill yourself up from time to time, you will become all worn out. Filling up means doing something just for you. So do that something just for you. And if you get too worried about taking the PTO just call in sick and make the lines up later. But don't stress. You'd be surprised how 1 day off now will make a difference for the rest of this stressful holiday month.
Good luck. There are many of us like you who understand. We are worn out too!
just hang up
:)))
Hang on to it!! LOL! NM
xx
and you can also hang one
ol-timey style over an open fire (or in a fireplace)or on a wood (box) stove. We also have one of those double-sided screen things that you can put steaks (any meat/veg) in and cook over fire.
Why don't you just hang out with
your older sister that you enjoy being with? Simple as that. Nobody is forcing you to feed your sister's cats. You probably just want to get along with everybody which isn't always possible. Just don't answer The Witches of Eastwick's phone calls or have contact with them. You sound like a very nice person but maybe too nice to your sisters and they take advantage of you. Remember, nice guys finish last and start getting a little tougher. Don't feel guilty if you chose not to have contact with your sisters. It sounds like you worry too much about what your sisters think of you. Go a week without talking to them and see if your self-esteem improves. Your sisters sound very toxic.
Good-luck and let us all know how you are doing.
Hang in there...
Just as an aside -- a girlfriend of mine was in similar situation and had him removed after years. Her kids were grade school age. Couple days after he left, kids were doing their homework at the table and the daughter, 8, said it was so quiet in the house. The boy, about 10, said "yah, this is what peace sounds like." Blew me away to hear that. I truly hope your house finds peace and you are able to take a deep breath and know what your day is going to be like - peaceful without him. Best of luck and good thoughts.
You hang in there - been there myself
I quit on May 5th 1985 at the stroke of midnight. Just was tired of paying money to keep funding the habit. Plus everything I owned smelled like cigarette smell. I got through it by eating red licorice. I would hold it like a cigarette bite both ends of and pretend I was smoking. That helped, plus living with someone who didn't smoke. the cravings lasted a long time. I don't remember how long but I got over them. Every time I wanted a cigy I'd get my mind on other things.
So just hang in there and soon you will be over it enough for it to be bearable.
Good luck and congrats.
Hang in there!
I've been where you are. That's one of the hardest habits to break. You're doing great. Every time you think you want one, just picture yourself walking into a room full of new people and not smelling like cigarette smoke. Or imagine how good food is going to taste once it's all out of your system. Or imagine how good you'll sleep 2 weeks from now.
You can do it! We're rooting for you. 
Hang in there!
First of all, he's reaching puberty and has all that to deal with. Second of all, while dad wasn't great to live with, it is probably still very hard on him to deal with such a big change. He could be having to really face the fact that dad isn't who he wants him to be, and that's so hard on kids. Even when divorce is wanted by all parties, it is still a very sad situation. Lost dreams of a "normal" life!
I have been separated/divorced from my ex-husband for 11 years now, and my 14-year-old daughter still has trouble dealing with the break. My ex rarely calls them, always lies to them, and constantly disappoints them, but she still worships the ground he walks on and treats me and my husband like total crap most of the time. My husband has been around for 10 years, since she was 4, and has tried so hard to be the father she wants/needs, but she won't let herself accept him as her father. She knows her father is a huge disappointment and not who she wants him to be, but she just can't accept it.
I wish I had better advice for you, but maybe it helps to know that it's not just you going through it. Just stand firm on your rules, compliment him on his good qualities, and show and tell him that you love him every day. That age is a hard time for children anyway and then adding divorce on top of that makes it even tougher. I doubt he even knows why he is acting the way he is --- he's just dealing with so many hormones and emotions that he isn't himself.
Just keep doing the best you can and hopefully things will get better soon!
Good luck and God bless!
Awww...scoop it up with a glass and a piece of paper and place
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Hang it up Beyonce
I think she needs to hang it up - with Jennifer doing such a great job - there is no competition there - Beyonce could not hold a candle to Jennifer's booming voice. I do believe that she is out and Jennifer is going to be the "next big thing". So long Beyonce - Jennifer is much classier, as well. Thanks for being yourself and showing up Beyonce - even with Jay-Z on her arm - Beyonce is a has been - and thankfully so - she is a poor role model for our young girls.
Scounces, how do you hang these?
I saw some really pretty ones on Craigs List but I have never had and wondered how they were hung? Thanks.
Hang it outside. If it's a little chilly out, sm
the cool air will freshen it right up and it will smell absolutely fabulous.
Good for you and hang in there!
Love your own community service idea! Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders and are a strong anchor for your son. I hope things start to turn for the better for both of you. Take care of yourself!
Whoa...hang on a second
To say not to get married is a huge statement. I've been married for 20 years to an awesome man. All men are not controlling, manipulative, insecure jerks. I have my own mind and I use it, my husband does not tell me what to think, how to act, etc., just as I don't do that to him. We are one in marriage, but still our own person. Marriage is a wonderful, beautiful thing when done with the right person. I am grateful I'm not single from what I've heard of the dating world lately, not much good out there to choose from (all the good ones are taken...). Marriage is not about becoming someone's property; it's about uniting 2 people who are in love to become one in God's eyes, yet still maintaining your own identity and self. Married couples work together to make each other happy. It's a give and take situation, more than anything else in the world. And marriage is not easy, not by far, but you have to work together, not against each other. I'm sorry you ended up with a big, fat jerk...it happens to the best of us. There are, however, ways out! God frowns on divorce, period...but I also believe that God frowns on one person using and manipulating another, especially a husband and wife. I'll say it again, marriage is AWESOME......with the right person and thank God I found mine...he's the best!
Hang out your laundry if possible
Start hanging your wash out rather than using the dryer. It will save big, not those pennies they claim you'll save by unplugging your toaster. (By the way, my son, an electrical engineer, claims unplugging your toaster saves nothing. Unplugging a coffee maker if it has a clock does save a little.)
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