aww, sweetie, don't get your big panties in a wad..sounds like jealousy to me!
Posted By: nm on 2009-02-25
In Reply to: Who's jealous? I'm not overweight. I just choose not to dress - SM
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Wearing panties sure does not make
my feeling of security. Under PJs?? You don’t sleep with a teddy bear still, do you?
Panties to bed? RU kidding? T-shirt for me.
Yes, I'd say it is sibling jealousy - sm
I am going through something similar but for different reasons. Jess, my 8, soon to be 9-y/o, is very jealous of her younger sister who is 7, and in the last 2 years since her cancer diagnosis and treatment, etc. Jen has gotten an inordinate amount of attention due to her illness, i.e. Gifts, cards, comments, etc. She also has the most beautiful hair which grew back almost the same color (it was very bright red before) but even more beautiful than before, now it has a lot of blond highlights in it and everyone always comments on how pretty her hair is, etc. and it makes my other daughter feel bad to say the least. She on the other hand is very beautiful too with very pretty hair too though brunette with blond and red highlights, nice bod and will knock them dead in a few years, and also very smart, a lot smarter than her younger sister is-- read earlier, great speller and writer, understood math sooner, etc. BUT she is so jealous of her and has been saying lately she hates her and we try to give her one on one time but that is hard to do as it's usually just me all day/night with them and my DH has been traveling a lot for work lately, so it can't just leave one and go off with the other. I know she does not really mean it. They do love each other a lot and usually get along quite well. So when she feels out of sorts I try to give her 10 minutes of my time for some girl talk and 100% of my attention while her sister is doing something else in the house. So lately I have taken to going to her bedroom when she is going to bed for a little chat, just the 2 of us. She really likes that and Jen doesn't mind in the least that I do this, so that is good. She gets more of my time since my older one holes herself up in her room a lot and plays her DS Lite. I also try to take them out 2 x a week now during the Summer and do something fun together and they always have a blast too (did King Dominion water park today), I think that helps a lot in providing happy sisterly feelings in our case.
The family is great towards me, some jealousy...
from one SIL, but hardly ever see her. My problem is with my stepdaughters, who really dislike me. Neither one calls the house, of course they only call once or twice a year,and only call him when they know he is at work. One more year of child support until she turns 21 then we won't hear from her either like her older sister. Funny how when the money stops so do phone calls!
Update on jealousy/stepkids...
Okay, the man in my life with the kids did not come home until 5:30 this morning and at 5:32 AM I was telling him that I had taken all the disrespect from him and his kids that I was going to take and that we were going to have to just end this relationship.
Don't know how long I can stick to it - but he's gone for now. And ya know what? I just feel like a weight has been lifted off my chest...
Normal. I think jealousy is involved & also that his hormones are starting
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Hey sweetie!! That would be me and...sm
I am SO happy you posted your experience with Fermodyl, just like you said you would!!! WAY_2_GO!!! Happy it's working for you. I never lie, anyway. *ROFL*
Keep in touch!!! *hug*
Signed: *el*
And you think by asking, sweetie-pie
would you please not do this or that it would stop and just to think this person even got a phone call from the other parents. If I had a husband like that, I probably would appreciate others staying away rather than have to make excuses for his bad behavior.
Sweetie....
If you don't want a relationship with her don't string her along, tell her to leave you alone instead of saying she is STALKING you with a COUPLE of emails a year... she will probably be better off not meeting you seeing how you already have so much animosity towards her.
As far as me telling you to stop being hateful that was not towards "SOMEONE ELSE'S DAUGHTER" it was towards the other people posting their experiences here just like you!!!
Laptop for my sweetie
My hubby is very hard to buy for, no clothing, no this and no that, likes to get it himself but I do have an idea what he would love and that is a laptop. I want to maybe get him one for Christmas. I just introduced him to the internet since our marriage in 2000 and he lovesssss it. He has so much downtime with his present job (long distance truck driver) and spents time just waiting to be called back to return home that I know he would enjoy. Never had 1 personally so anyone there that can tell me any items I need to check for, how do you connect if no internet service in your hotel room, etc. Thanks so much and I am sure he would thank you too.
Sweetie, I am depressed because of the
state of the world, and I guess maybe I was supposed to post for you. I wish I could help you, bring you a smile. Your poor children. What a sad world this is with people hurting as you are hurting. That is what is depressing me. I guess I did expect maybe a smile from these people in real life. That's all I tried to say. I am depressed over what kind of world this is, where neighbors can't say hello and smile, where even church members just are members on paper only on a mailing list, but can't sit and smile, especially during the Holidays. I am so sorry for all the hurt you have been thru, and, yes, I have been seriously hurt as well. I have moved on, though, and will never ever lose my joy. Thank you sincerely for helping me see this. 
Well thanks for joining us sweetie! nm
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We get it deeni sweetie, you
are the noncircumcision queen! I bow to you. Bring your cause to Washington, march to the Capitol building and stop the so-called atrocity! Please become an expert on something else.
Ah sweetie, there is nothing "wrong" with you and if you...sm
Love this guy and he Loves you, that is most important. As post below suggested, you may just have a low sex drive or possibly hormones. A good check up by your doctor may hold that answer if you want to seek help. If you haven't tried it, maybe the products that are available at Walmart, the his and hers? Or even, don't worry about it, and know that you are loved and he is loved, and the sex will just work however it does, like you said, it is what it is. Try not to worry too much about it, that may only make it worse.
BTW, some women, just like men, lie about their sexual experiences with their partners. Maybe lie is too strong a word, maybe enhance is a better word. I am not saying all do. I know this from personal experience. I had a girlfriend who swore to another girlfriend that her and her husband were just like young lovers, carrying on several times a week. However, she told me they hardly ever had sex, maybe once a month or even every couple of months. So all this GREAT sex talk you hear about may just be just that, talk.
My husband and I were together for 20 years before he passed away, and we had hot and cold spells. Sometimes it was really great, sometimes it was just downright pitiful. Through it all though, whether we went to sleep frustrated or very satisfied, we never forgot we love each other. I say love because to this day I am still very much in love with him. Even though his physical body is not here, his spirit and love are still very much a part of me, and I would not trade that for all the "great sex" in the world.
Yeah, Shep's a sweetie
Real sweetie, thx for sharing with us! nm
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Oh sweetie, I just have tears in my eyes for you - sm
What a horrible man and I can so relate to not wanting him to touch you.
BE SAFE. My biggest worry would be the guns and that's why I suggested you leave; I know it is important to try to keep your kids stable in school, but nutty control freaks do horrible, horrible things when they feel their power taken away.
Please keep us updated.
Oh sweetie, you just wouldn't understand!
Again, Merry Christmas to you all, hope you all get what you deserve and may you all prosper in the New Year!
sweetie, you are still DENSE...you obviously can't read...
by the email that you personally sent me. Take from me honey, you do yourself no good by trying to switch the minds of others. Now sweetie, get off the computer and clean the house or something!
Sweetie, you are not the kind of woman I am talking
about. You I have respect for. It's the little girls who can't/won't do it that I have a problem with. Believe me, I am no slave to my DH, he provides a very comfortable life for me, but I am not spoiled. I can make my own way in the world. To those that brag about being spoiled and pampered, why the heck are you working then? I have always found that the ones who brag about what they have, have to let everyone know etc, tell the tallest tales.
No, but I did call them "Hun, Sweetie, dahling suga pie"
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I LOVE your costume, sweetie! As far as hating Pittbulls it would
never, ever enter my mind. It is up to the breeders in the first place to breed aggression out of this breed. So many are bred for fighting and bred to look mean and threatening at the owner's side. If more responsible breeders and owners did their part, this is actually a wonderful breed. HAPPY HALLOWEEN!
Tom Jones - they threw panties at Ton Jones LOL
3-yo black lab/grt dane mix named Walter. Yes he is very tall!Short fur,spotted tongue,huge sweetie!
You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
Sounds like you are doing everything right...
Hang in there. It sounds to like you are doing everything right. I totally agree that kids are under too much pressure these days and that they certainly need to be given more time to just be kids. Being a single mom I try make sure that my children grow up to be responsible adults with good morals and values, but I also make sure that they have their space so they have a chance to make their own choices (when possible) and see the consequences of those choices. Being a parent is certainly not easy and doing it in today's society is stressful to say the least.
As for your neighbor, I think she could take some lessons from you. Good luck and keep your chin up!!!
Sounds to me like . . .
she has the attention she wanted, it's almost like you took her bait. She sent you nasty Emails and now you are begging her to forgive you. You know the the saying "Don't cast pearls before swine". Sounds like she can more easily respond to the negative rather than the positive. Anyway, what would you do if she forgave you? Be her friend again? Until she changes her heart, you're better off, keep your distance. She sees your goodness as weakness. It's probably fun for her to make you uncomfortable. Maybe deep down she is jealous of you. Don't hate her, be sad for her. Don't fall into her games.
sounds like a CC I used to have, which did--sm
pretty much the same thing. They said it was their *annual fee* and, like you, I just paid it to keep the peace and close the account. Personally I think it is a scam just to get a few more dollars out of you, but how do you prove it and who do you complain to??? I don't have credit cards any longer either. Learned my lesson too. what a rip!
Sounds like (sm)
your FIL has two abled bodies to care for him already. Why should you go back? It would probably be nice if you checked in once in a while and took your 2-year-old to visit, but moving back sounds like it would put a strain on things. Your husband may be feeling guilty and feels the need to "help". Explain to him that helping is taking some groceries once in a while or offering to pick-up meds, etc. You, your husband, and child would be probably a breath of fresh air once in a while if you were to just visit on occasion. Moving back seems a little like overkill, but it is tough because when it is family you want to give it your all! Also, there is one in every family that "freeloads". Let them figure it out for now. Hope your FIL is feeling better soon and hope you can find your way to be helpful without having to sacrifice your new home.... Take care and good luck...
sounds mean . . .sm
but when my daughter and husband were pulling that on me I told my daughter it was not safe that she could die very easily in the front seat or get hurt very badly. She quit asking, daddy quit doing it. Now she is 12-1/2 and no problem there, she is 5Ƌ" and weighs about 130 pounds. But I used to get SO FRUSTRATED!!! Daddy's little girl . . . .
Don't know that one, but it sounds sm
like a good time. if you are in for an evening away from the parks. I have friends who own Sleuth's dinner theater. Three theaters, dinner included, plus one is only for kids, I think. You enjoy a great dinner, and a murder mystery play, where you take part in solving the mystery. It is right on Universal Drive and I think the website is sleuths.com
sounds like your going to anyway.
but i would urge you to proceed with caution, go very very slowly. When it seems too perfect, too good to be true, it may be wrong. One of my first thoughts is that if he is the spiritual man you think, ie, Christian, he might not have had 2 divorces -- not always the case, but often times. you both need to know what your own faults are and be careful to not make the same mistakes. More than anything (outside of knowing each other very well, nonintimately) is have real committment on both sides, the determination to stay with the marriage. i married a man with 2 divorces too -- 25 yr later we're still married. But it was sheer determination to make it work on my part, lots of prayer and such. I did endure what one should not have to, to get to this point. Once i was into it, i certainly understood how come he had been divorced twice. Wishing you the best.
Sounds like now as of this a.m.
Apparently the so-called lawyer owns a business called Hot Lips Smoochy or something like that and has never tried any cases at all. He is apparently the executor of her estate. Now isn't that convenient? He tells the photographer Daddy that she lost the baby, but she winds up having a baby anyway 9 months later. The photographer breaks it off with her because she is drinking while pregnant. Oh my, the gossip. She looks like she's all drugged-up on any interviews I've seen, and I saw one last night from 3 days before her death. She is wearing dark glasses for the first part (inside), and they go outside, and she takes the glasses off. Makes no sense. I don't know, but what does Granny want with the baby now? That poor baby! So many Daddies?????? I have never seen men trying to prove they ARE the father in all of my life? Twists and turns this story has, which I'm sure has the producers in Hollywood salivating. There will be books and there will be moves. Life happens, I guess.
It sounds to me like you are not even willing --sm
to compromise on this and want everything YOUR way. What arrangement does HE want? Do you even know? You never said what HE would like. It is just my opinion, but it does not sound like you are even ready to get married, if you cannot find a way to compromise on even this small detail. Good luck to you.
Sounds to me like you were just being
very thoughtful, and I bet he appreciates you as much as you seem to appreciate him. What a wonderful thing!
She sounds like quite a gal . . .
especially the part about being a practicing Buddhist. She probably marched to the beat of a different drummer. The doctors might have saved her but who knows what quality of life she might have. My mom, dad, aunts all were healthy until their 80s. They end up in a nursing home. My aunt is 90, she's really been dying for a year, they keep on prolonging it. I think death at some point may be a blessing. You're going through a mourning process. Your tears are for you, you'll miss her, she'll be in a better place. You are going to have to brace up and take comfort in your faith.
Actually should be It sounds.....nm
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sounds like my SIL
We had a chow years ago. We raised him from a pup and he was very protective of all of us but especially the kids. ANY kids for that matter.
The kids in the yard, someone comes up the driveway, he was there. Would not let anyone get between him and those kids. Didn't matter if they were our kids or their friends. He never bit anyone but he wasn't going to let anyone take "his" kids either.
Never did that to the parents of the kids either, just total strangers that he didn't know. For Chow's, he had an exceptional personality and never saw him so much as growl at anyone. He would bark but would back away as he was barking.
My SIL's chow is a rescue so who knows how he was raised.
She just sounds like someone who has --sm
to pick and pick until she starts an arguement. Try to ignore her. If you don't give her what she wants, she will go away. just my opinion.
sounds like it to me . . .
I've seen two physicians recently, one who specializes in anxiety, and they think the crude policy under my current company of having to "make up" any time I take off is burning me out, promotes physical and mental self-neglect and is fueling an anxiety disorder. "That's sick," is actually what one said, and put me on a mild anxiolytic temporarily and told me to find a way out. The company says "everyone else does it" like I'm some kind of freak or bad MT, but in talking to other MTs there I'm finding the majority saying no they're not or they are frying themselves out doing it and have also complained about it. Having to always "make up" a day off is not a day off and does not promote rest. I'm having to learn to take the doctors' advice I'm typing for, letting go and taking care of myself. :-) The consequences of not doing so are much more dire. It kills me they have an EAP program. Seems to me investing in just letting people have a life would be more efficient. Recently bought out, the new company acted like it was a plus to keep this crappy policy. Yeah, right.
I'm really, really close to singing "Take this job and shove it . . . " Shame, because it's an otherwise decent company, um, unless you want a life.
Watching all my family enjoy this weekend as a 3-day weekend while I type. Sometimes I wake up and cry before starting work because I feel like I can't get a break from this job without consequences.
WORDS OF WISDOM: When applying for an MT job, ASK CAREFULLY about the EXACT way "time off" is calculated and quiz their MTs, not the administrative people who have never done MT. What looks good on paper . . .
Sounds like they don’t have a pot to
pi..s… in. These sound like grown folks and I do not consider myself a bank, therefore do not loan money out even to my grown KIDS. Only could a child move in with me if they were sick and unable to take care of their own self. Sounds like they have no responsibility about financial business. Sorry they would just have to do things on their own. Loaning money (or giving it away, whatever the case is) only makes relationships strained. I do not sign as collateral for anyone, do not take stray folks in, do not run a banking business.
sounds
That sounds very pretty. You can also do just a border around the top of the wall with the sponge paint effect. That way it keeps it from being too much green!
Sounds to me like
although getting paid, maybe not the right 1 to be trying to watch the kids. I am a grandmother myself. This sounds like she is irritated by their actions and maybe they did kick her more than you OR maybe with her older legs it just hurts her more. My legs now are a lot different from when I had children as far as the aches and pains, even bruises and sometimes cuts just show up without your knowing where they exactly came from. Yes, she is offended they said something about her legs (even though on the 7 year old I would know probably too young to really understand what the veins were) but she is getting back at them now and trying to get her point across - even if they arent understanding she is trying to make them understand. I don’t see this as a really workable situation. It has been 2 weeks and already everyone at everyone else. Not a good situation. Pretty soon grandmom and kids just doing tit for TAT at each other. Maybe a good sit down and talk it over or else grandmom goes back home and you get someone who is a little younger and able to corral the kids better?
Sounds like you are doing everything right to me - sm
I lived at home for years as it was too expensive to get your own place where my parents were unless you had a really, really good income, which I did not have unfortunately. I did not have a firm curfew once I went to college but it was understood they prefered I be home by 1 a.m. which I ususally abided by, if I knew I was going to be out later I told them, or if I was not coming home at all, I told them. They always knew who I was out with too, and the general plan for the evening. I never really resented it, yeah it was a drag sometimes but at least they cared enough to ask and try and keep me out of trouble (they don't know half of the stupid stuff I did do and never got in trouble for; i.e. going out with stranger met in a parking lot, that sort of stuff, nothing criminal). One thing that will stop her from staying out really late is make her get a summer job, that is one thing that kept me from staying out all hours, sleep was necessary to get up at 6:45 and be at work at 8:00 (til 5pm). My parents paid my tuition but I paid for all the supplies, books, etc., and I also worked 2 jobs at school. Sounds like she needs something to keep her busy and grow up some. If she does not shape up, pull the car privileges unless it is to go to work, and have her pay her own car insurance and cell phone, that may wise her up to life.
Sounds like when I got...sm
a Christmas card from a friend AFTER Christmas. I still don't know what was up with that.
BTW~ My friends threw me a surprise birthday brunch today for my 40th birthday and I have already started writing my thank you notes!
Sounds like her first kid and she has never
been around others to me.
Wow - that sounds so much like him (sm)
He left me alone after my c-section, he left me alone when I got devastating medical news, etc. Once I had a car accident a mile away and he would not come and help me after I called him all shaken up. When I mention these things he just accuses me of bringing up the past. But they are real examples of how I have been treated for years.
Sounds like me and my cat - (sm)
I went through something similar as you are going through with yours. I kept saying I'd know when it was time and really watching to make sure I wasn't being selfish. She went on about her business, albeit different from before, just made herself new routines, and did what she was able. When she couldn't jump on my lap anymore, I picked her up, and things like that. If she didn't like one can of food, I'd open another. This went on for months. I feel like I had the opportunity to let her have a good life, and show her how much I loved her, right up until the end - she decided when it was time. I know what you are feeling. Just love her and enjoy the time you have.
Thanks - really sounds like just what I need (nm)
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Sounds to me like you have
approval addiction. I have it as well and know how you feel. If you don't do everything perfect for everybody you feel guilty. I suggest either reading or buying the audio of the book Approval Addiction by Joyce Meyers. It is wonderful!!
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