attitude: going to the Christmas program with hate in your heart. More important you watch that,sm
Posted By: good post on 2006-12-14
In Reply to: Confrontation - mt47
than your kids still believe in a mythical fat man who brings presents.
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Hate to break your heart
When I read the first part I thought that was an odd thing to say, especially since he keeps saying it. I would say to him "why wouldn't I believe it and why do you have to keep asking if I believe you". I don't know much about the relationship (long distance-local). If (and I'm just assuming this is an if) he is long distance he might have a wife or girlfriend. You can't trust what he says if you can't see the situation with your own eyes. If he hasn't called there is definitely something wrong (hence I would start to believe he has another girlfirend or wife). Have you ever been to this persons home, seen where he lives, or any of that?
The second part of the message is what bothered me. When someone borrows money no matter how much you care about them no matter how much they borrow they should pay it back. I know you care a lot about this person, but to lend someone money is a very dangerous thing. I know from experience.
We loaned my BIL some money about 4 years ago. We helped him get out of some payday loans and I went through his budget very very carefully and spent almost 3 weeks constructing a budget for him to live on to including a separate bill for paying us back (a certain amount each month), but this budget also included some "fun money" for him - not a lot but would give him the means to go to a movie or grab a pizza once a week. Anyway...here it is 4 years later and he has only paid us back less than half of what he ows us. He keeps giving us the line "I'm good for it" "I love you guys a lot" "You know you can trust me" "I won't let you down". I keep getting these "lines" from him (and he's my BIL). My point I am saying is this is my BIL and he keeps giving me the same type of lines it sound like this person is giving you.
Please be very very cautious with this relationship and just remember, there are hundreds of other fish in the sea who you will meet and will fall in love with you and won't have to add "I hope you believe that".
So, I hate to break your heart but I think he is taking advantage of your kindness and has no intentions of anything further. If I was in your shoes I'd send this person an email ditching him, and remove the email from my contact list and have no further contact with him.
My DH's motto that he keeps instilling into me for the past 25 years.... "Trust No One".
Time for a long, uninterrupted heart to heart. Sorry to hear
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I'm better than you attitude from
I guess I am getting hormonal but sometimes my beloved family gets to me. I have a cousin that had a baby about a year ago and she doesn’t want her child around my children because they “go to daycare and she does not want them getting her child sick.” Okay, if that is the way she wants it then that is the way she can have it so I don’t go to her house. Well, she calls and says she has something for my child who is a 3 months older than her child asked if I could drop by and pick it up. I said I could but I had my 5 yo with me, my little one was with her granny. She said that’s okay just come get it so I go over there and we visit for a while. My 5 yo child was interested in looking at her baby cousin says “don’t touch her, don’t go around her because you go to daycare.” I told her well, she has had a bath. (This was when her baby was about 4 months old.) She said I don’t want your kids getting mine sick. Well her child is now 1 year old and it has had ear infections, stomach bug, just about everything that goes around and she was telling me about it, I told her well my little one was sick last week but she got over it already. She says “well your kids are going to get sick, they go to daycare. I have to protect my child." She says my 5 yo is too rough with my 16 mo. She does get rough but if you call her down she stops and she has mellowed since dd was first born. She says my 5 yo was too wild. Actually she is not. I have had her in daycare and I this year she started pre-K and I have yet to have anyone say that she was a discipline problem. I asked the daycare provider even and she said she doesn’t have any problems with her, just the typical 5 yo stuff.
Another thing, as worried as she is about her baby getting sick….the other day I go over to her house because she said she had sold my piano (with permission, her mother was buying her a dining table and she needed more room) and the buyers had left the check with her. She had clothes stacked up on all her furniture, dried food on the baby’s highchair, papers scattered everywhere, diapers falling out of the trash can, dried food on the baby’s walker and bouncy seat.
I think those daycare comments bit her in the butt though. One day, after I dropped my little one off, the director of the daycare asked me if I had seen cousin’s baby lately. I told her no that I don’t go around her because she said my kids are germy and go to daycare. The director stepped back and said “oh bull” I swear did not know that later that day my cousin was going to apply for a job there so her kid could stay for free but the daycare director turned her down. My cousin told that she went over there to look for a job. I did not tell her about the conversation I had with the director earlier that day.
I usually like my cousin but it just seems that since she had this baby she seems to think her stuff doesn’t stink.
What a sad attitude!
I'm sure your attitude was formed by your life experiences, and I'm sorry that the men in your life have not treated you better. My life has always been full of the most wonderful men, and I can tell you that there are lots and lots of good ones out there! I am the youngest of 7 and the only girl. My neighborhood growing up was just full of boys, but only two girls lived on our street. I'm married to a fine man, have three nearly grown sons who are also fine men, and have more male friends than female friends. I'm also an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop where our goal is to help boys travel a path into an honorable manhood.
I'm also a firm believer that a wonderful relationship between a father and daughter sets her up for good relationships with men all of her life. I was lucky to have an amazing father who made sure I knew how valuable I was to the world.
I also think it's true that when we have self-respect, we attract respectful people. I know that not all men (or women) are good people. When the bad ones come along, they can steal away our confidence and self-respect. It's a hard fight to build ourselves back up after bad relationships, but it's not impossible! And believe me, there are just as many good men lamenting about not being able to find a good woman!
with that attitude you won't have it sm
handed to you for too long! You will get older and he will get tired or your self-serving, you owe it to me attitude.
If your neighbors are like you then you really must live in one miserable neighborhood..........at least miserable for normal people!
What attitude? I just did not understand
when you said we, I knew only females got pregnant or thought they did anyway and I had no idea you were meaning your husband was pregnant also or whatever role he was playing. Does this also include the physician in the we being pregnant? Please enlighten me because when I was having children it was me that was pregnant but like I said maybe things have changed..I thought by saying we you were including females - had no idea you were talking a male.
btw, with your attitude, if you have daughters
I'd be willing to bet they would have an abortion behind your back rather than suffer your judgment by having a baby at a young age or out of wedlock. Would that feel good on your conscience? You could be missing out on the joy of grandbabies!
You have the right attitude, everybody should live like that...nm
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Nice attitude, there. Can we apply that to MTs, too?!
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Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
Amy, I hope your better than everyone else attitude gets an adjustment soon!
Big deal, so you could do it. Kids need more than beans and potatos on the plate! Calm down sweetie, that's what assistance is for; don't begrudge others who have had to resort to it. It takes a lot more courage to ask for help than to try to scrape by on your own.
your Trailer Park attitude is probably not helping
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My current cat doesn't watch much TV, but my last one liked to watch hockey. sm
He would sit in front of the TV and swat at the puck now and then. The only time my current 4-year-old cat watches TV is if the TiVo restarts for some reason and that little animated video comes on with the dancing TV and the loud music. He's fascinated by that and will come running to sit and watch it.
What are people supposed to call Christmas Eve and Christmas Day now?? (nm)
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I saw some program the other day on TV where the
The TV program (can't remember the name) said the kids today in America have it pretty rough and so for one day a year, Halloween, let them have some fun....
Y'all don't need to be reading PAGANISM into this holiday for toddlers/little kids as I believe 90% of the trick-or-treaters do not come from Pagan families......
Give the little ones a break, please! 
we are probably on different program...
I have very little problems with the program I use but we are not supposed to talk anything about MT work on the Gab board, per the rules, as I understand them.....
on what program?
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what email program are you using? nm
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Where do I enroll in that program?
 Do they provide the class materials????? 
Program for fleas
I have not heard of Program, but I use Frontline. I have not had NY problems with it. My vet charges $15 for it, but I can also get it at our local Humane Society for $10. With 4 cats, it adds up to quite a bit of money. You might want to try that.
Do you use an antivirus program? If so, what? sm
My McAfee ran out and I just wondered what you use. I heard there are "free" antivirus programs you can download from the internet. Anyone heard of that or tried it?
thanks
WW is a great program IMO (sm)
I lost 70 pounds on WW and have kept it off (up/down 10 depending on life). I believe this is one of the best programs because it gives you a very simple, almost subliminal, education about nutrition and allows you to eat just about anything in moderation.
Once one is emotionally and mentally ready to accept that lifestyle and dietary changes are necessary to lose weight (the biggest hurdle IMO), WW is really the smartest plan to follow. No fads, no prohibited food groups, etc.
I don't follow the plan currently, but what I learned and practiced for the 9 months it took me to lose 70 pounds (4 years ago), I'm pretty much programmed regarding portion control and how to undo the overdo... yeah... I'm in the process of undoing right now :-)
Good luck to you!!
Nursing program
I am 49 years old, have been an MT for 7 years and am thinking of going back to school for an RN degree. Wonder what my chances of getting into the program are (I know there's always a waiting list, but of course that depends on the school one chooses too; I live in GA), and how long this all might take.....??? I made As and Bs in high school and aced the transcription program at a local 2-year technical college...................any thoughts? Should I forget about it? I don't want to be unreasonable, but having thoughts about doing something to make more money. I have one child who is a senior in college and have 2 boys to put through college eventually, so more money sure would be nice.
good program
I used the program to sell my old house about 6 years ago. Now after 6 years in this house, definitely time to start up again because I am not thinned out from moving!
Just started again 2 months ago. I love how you start at the ceiling and work your way down to the floor, 15 minutes at a time. I love how my bathrooms are always "company clean" and my sink is shining. She is on youtube now and I used the holiday missions and it worked great for getting the christmas decorations put away! Can't say enough good things about it. I think they used to teach this stuff back in the old days for people who did not work outside of the home, but working inside of the home and not being able to keep the house clean was too frustrating! Baby steps work much better, like you said, so the dust quits calling my name!
In our area, there is a program called
"Mended Hearts". I am not sure if this is nationwide, but there are volunteers that will come out who have had the surgery, and they talk about how far they've come. Another option, I guess would be cardiac rehab, and I am wondering if that would lend some support as maybe he feels a little alone in his quest? Best of luck and hope he finds his way soon.
Weight Watchers is the best program
You can eat what you would cook every day, but it is the portion control. I used this program after having both of my children as I gained close to 100 pounds with each pregnancy (too much bread and butter). I have now stabilized, but still watch my portions. I do believe the water and exercise are a very, very important part of Weight Watchers. I did not feel deprived from sweets because as the other poster stated, the point system took care of that. If you know you will indulge, you simply cut back on one of your meals. I had a husband and two children to care for, but I still lost weight eating the same food that I served them, I just controlled my own portions. Hope this helps. Weight Watchers gets my vote. 
I'm trying to lose weight through the WW program
I started during the summer and kind of fell off of it. I'm trying to lose between 30-40 pounds. My daughter became a vegetarian about 4 months ago and she already lost 23 pounds. I like my meat so I won't go that route, but I'm trying to exercise a little bit every day and eat healthier. Good luck to you and everyone else trying to lose.
Fantastic! What a wonderful program that is. -nm
As part of an incentive program- sm
I get 12 cpl, but only after 1500 lines in one day, 11 cpl after 1000 lines. Believe me, it's incentive. It really starts to add up, but the best I've ever done is about 1980 lines in one day, once, a couple years ago. This week my goal is 1800, but it's turning out more like 1600.
I used the Medifast program. It worked wonderfully (sm)
I think the HMR is all liquid which is the difference with Medifast. With Medifast, you eat 5 of their meals (oatmeal, shakes, pudding, soup, or bars) and 1 meal you prepare of a protein and a vegetable. It was very easy to follow, I never felt hungry, and I lost over 60 pounds in 7 months. What I loved about this diet was I learned a whole lot about portion control.
if you work with Horizon program, please see message
I just started working with Horizon Radiology Manager program and having problems viewing my line count. I was told by another MT that Java interfers with this program. Does anyone else have problems with Horizon and Java? I also have another job where I help out some and their program is Meditech and I think I need my java for that.
Thanks for any info.
Does anyone use Program flea meds for their pets? sm
I have three dogs and a cat that I was using a topical flea med on. We got a new puppy last week and she had fleas. I washed her and got rid of them, but now have noticed a couple of fleas on the other dogs. Not a lot, but some. I have heard that the Program works better than the topical stuff and would like to try it, but it is rather expensive so I am looking for any input before I buy it. Thanks!!
Mine has a bachelors and applied for MS program (sm)
he is three years older so was about the same age as me when he was going to do this. Thinks its alright for him. Our marriage is already very rocky. I feel like rather than deciding whether to divorce or not right now I should further my education instead.
I have Avast antivirus program, and it's free also. - NM
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Have you ever heard of the Weigh Down Diet program? sm
It's not really a diet. It is a matter of changing the way you eat, not what you eat. Feel free to e-mail me and I'll give you some specifics.
An Individual Education Plan (or Program)
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Anyone know how to get started having a computer program made
I have an idea I have been thinking about for a while, a software program actually. I think it is a good idea but I have no idea where to begin to try to have it made and marketed. If anyone knows I would really appreciate any advice you have.
Thanks!
I did read some stations not carrying the program
so perhaps offensive in some things? I did not watch. I think Sharon probably looks the best of all the family.
Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
Son's HS grad program listed the "Class Moto."
Ugh!
In my school district they have a "schools of choice" program.
The kicker?? Your school has to participate. Our new Supe took it upon himself to unilaterally disembowel the "schools of choice" program. Our school district is not as bad as Detroit, but I think it is getting there.
He stated "the only way anybody is going to get out of my school district is to move." And of course with the housing market the way it is, who can afford to move?
We cannot afford to send our son to a private school either. And even if we did participate with Schools of Choice, you are responsible for your own ransportation.
So, the only other choice is a charter school, but then you have the same problem - you must provide your own transportation.
PS I live on the west side of Michigan.
Body For Life is a weight loss program that worked for me.
The book is full of ads for his foods. If you can read past the ads it has great advice. The journal is essential IMHO. It is nice to know exactly what you did that "worked" when you start to drop the pounds. I do Walk Away The Pounds for the aerobic exericise part.
Most libraries own the book. The ISBN# is 0007149670
MOST IMPORTANT!!!!
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It's not really as important to me as it is to you.
Why don't you take your misdirected anger and put it where it belongs instead of being mean and rude to people on the Internet who have done NOTHING to you!!! Now I remember why I stopped coming to MT Stars and that's because of rude people like YOU.
This is very important..
the cat should be an indoor cat ONLY!! It would never survive outside without any claws. I don't understand why people put their cats out anyway...they are just as happy as being indoors as long as there is stimulation and playtime. I let my cat out on my balcony (under supervision) to "blow the stink off him" but he prefers to be in the house looking out the window.
VERY IMPORTANT
It's very important that you teach your daughter that someone who treats her like this is not a true friend. I have taught my daughter to BE NICE TO EVERYBODY, but you DO NOT have to be everybody's best friend. I have told her what is acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Help her understand that it is disappointing, but the sooner she accepts that's the way this girl is, the happier she will be. Unfortunately my daughter had to learn the same lesson at that age and I have had to reiterate it to her this year in the 7th grade. It's OKAY to not be best friends with this girl, and that friends should not treat friends this way. It's all about boundaries.
Important
I think it is very important to try to get to the root of your son's problem. He may not have a real handle on what is bothering him (or what happens) either, but there should be someone qualified to help with that.
Another thought is to see if those nanny shows are on DVD. It seems they are very smart about handling a lot of the situations with children and families.
Well that is certainly more important
in the long run.
P.S. - very important
Another thing you don't say is how much you really know about this man. If he has bad credit, unpaid child support payments, a criminal record, etc. this could permanently scar your own situation.
If you don't truly know a great deal about this man, spend a few bucks and have a private investigation firm check him out.
I do not have anything more important
To think about than the one person on this board who posts every other blog, arguing back and forth with themselves, like you, pretending to be 100 people, Maybe you should think about that.
St. Vincent De Paul Society is good. Volunteers administer the program.
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