anything positive come out of this letter?
Posted By: nm on 2008-05-07
In Reply to: This is a letter I sent to the parents of a - kid who was bullying in our school.
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Are you positive...
you don't have deer?? I have to keep a cage around my roses because the deer think the buds are a delicacy. I just had all of mine lopped off last night by a hungry deer. What makes me the maddest is that they sometimes leave a mess and don't even eat them all, just cut them off. We bought this stuff at Home Depot called Liquid fence. It smells terrible, but the animals won't eat what is sprayed. Your roses won't stink though if you like to cut them for the house.
Try to be more positive sm
I am trying very hard to see my cup as half full, not half empty. I hope I can carry this throughout the year. In the meantime, I have only a few days left to "work on it" so I shall start practicing. Hope I can keep it up. My husband says I could be president of Worriers Anonymous! I think I can, I think I can - I shall! Happy New Year! Good subject.
We have to think positive.
and hope that it dissipates. Big hope, I know. I don't want to go through that again, either, only this time I will stay and hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.
You will probably just need a letter
from your vet. But if you have any of the packages from the bad food, keep them, whether they are empty or still full. If they are still full, at least you can show you had been buying them at the time. Just make sure nobody accidently uses them!
letter
I worked for a family practice physician who would send personal letters to the family of any of his patients who died. He also pulled me aside when my dad died and expressed his condolences and told me how much he had enjoyed being my dad's doctor. What a great guy.
No, we are absolutely positive about where and when -sm
it was left, I will be checking the schools L&F though just in case the guilty party returns it to there to escape detection.
Thanks for the positive feedback
I was just sharing a story.
Thanks you all for the positive posts.
I didn't think anyone would tell me not to let him go and that is exactly what I needed. I guess all along I knew I would not be able to keep him here, my heart would hurt too much to see his heart hurt if I did say no. I know I am supposed to just turn it all over to the Lord, but sometimes that is really hard to do. I will continue praying about it and I know that will help give me some peace. Thanks again to all.
I am 50! You are younger than me. How is that for positive??? nm
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Well...have taken 3 different self-assessments & all 3 are positive! (sm)
score is about 7 out of 10 on all of them. I don't know whether to be upset or happy. I guess I should be happy because maybe I can get some help with it.
thanks for all of the positive responses!
I did not think i was being negative at all, but here are two responses I got:
So you say the "only" things they do is fight for our country and rights and help out in times of need. What do you think that consists of? How many lives have been given since 1776 to secure and protect those rights? Have you ever looked at the freedoms we have and the wealth we enjoy? What more do you expect the military to do? Wash your clothes. We are the only truly free nation in the world and it is because men and women have chosen to join our military and fight to give you those freedoms that you don't seem to understand.
and
Ma'am, thanks for giving me a subject for my Memorial Day speech in our community. The subject will be:
Americans who have no idea what military heroes have done and are doing for us, thereby humiliating our sacrifices.
Gee thanks for the positive feedback
I beg your pardon but I am certainly NOT spoiled. I have been in a marriage with someone who likes to point out all my flaws and correct me constantly, someone who told me I am just average looking and someone who has not touched me in over a year. I am staying for my children and have been staying for the last 6 years I've been miserable. Don't you dare judge me. Have you ever had your self-esteem taken away, your self-worth. A husband should tell his wife and think that she is beautiful, not average my dear.....I feel worthless and hopeless and ugly and hurt so please refrain from calling me selfish and putting me down - have enough of that already. Words of encouragement are needed.
Your Positive Event of the Day
Your Positive Event Of The Day
What is something good that has happened to you today?
Even something as small as having a candy bar you enjoyed.
positive things
1. The sun is shining (even though it's 0 degrees out).
2. I am warm and able to work in the comfort of my home.
3. I have work! Yeah!
I turned 40 today! Please tell me something positive about it!
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positive thoughts for a friend
Let me start by saying I can't believe how low some people will stoop. Just when I think I have heard just about everything, something else comes up.
My neighbor is the sweetest lady you could ever meet. The whole family is very nice and very giving. I have known them since I was very little and she used to babysit me and my sibs.
Three years ago, her daughter was a junior in high school and ended up pregnant by one of the "jocks." They dated for over a year but as soon as she ended up pregnant, he would have nothing to do with her (typical huh?.) I might also add that while his family is fairly well off, her family is not as fortunate but they are comfortable. The daughter decided to keep the baby and raise him with the help of her family since she was not getting help from the father of her little boy. I have kept him on occasion too and I just love this little guy.
Stacy finished high school and struggled to get her nursing degree, making a nice living for herself and Michael.
Last April, Stacy's dad passed away suddenly and now that everything is settled, she and her mother have come into some insurance money. Not a gigantic sum of money but nothing to sneeze at. Let's say its a couple hundred thousand.
After almost 4 years of nothing from Michael's father or his family, he's come back around again. Of course, he has heard there is some money now! Apparently daddy has cut him off for some recent bad behavior and I won't say what that was. Not only that, his mommy now calls Stacy all the time wanting to see her "grand baby." Oh BARF! Give me a break! Michael will be FOUR very very soon and NOW they want to see him?
Something really stinks.
Please send Stacy positive thoughts. I don't think she will give him (dad) the time of day, nor grandma either since she encouraged him leaving her behind but, you never know.
He really broke her heart when he just started pretending he never even knew her. He doesn't deserve her or Michael.
Thanks for all your positive help, case closed sm
I am going to close this query now. I have had many wonderful e-mails and help on the board which I can print (well, most) and make a little portfolio for him to get some ideas. His wife has been working double shifts nursing to make ends meet and he has been caring for the kids and doing all to make the holiday reasonably good for them. He's been doing all nighters on researching and the company is very impressed with all the research he's done on his new job and product and are going to travel here to meet him and work with him to get him started, Everyone is positive and anxious to make this new innovative product introduction a success. There are no coincidences and paying it forward has been our family's way of life and we are grateful to all who e-mailed and posted positive little hints to ease the transition, we are from a small rural area and am not familiar with that area. Thank God for good people in the Christmas Spirit. I've helped many on the boards throughout the years under another name and feel fully rewarded. I will continue to pay it forward myself and God bless you great people. We had a death in his wife's family over the holidays which we were unprepared for and travel arrangements, funeral plans, babysitting, eulogy, etc.had to be prepared, and you made our life so much easier and renewed our faith. I will close the subject now, it has been a lesson in life, that's for sure.! The end - Merry Christmas to those who passed on their holiday helping spirit. You helped us through a difficult time. Thanks so much to the helpers (and I made some new wonderful friends.). God Bless!
Great and positive post. - nm
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sending positive thoughts
Hope everything works out for you. . My brother and his daughter have barely spoken to each other for over 12 years. . He now has 2 grandchildren. . I hope he will make that same first step you are making to mend fences. . Life is short - it's time for you to enjoy your grandchildren!
Positive sayings from your childhood
What sayings do you remember your parents telling you?
Do unto others as you would have them do onto you.
that doesn't sound very positive!!
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I think I remember it because it was a very positive experience...sm
you guys don't know how much you actually helped ole MTME4vr (that's me) thru some very dark days.
It did get kind of strange and intense with all the crazy anecdotes and side stories during the guessing games. Call me weird, I miss it terribly!! HAA! HAA!
Then everybody ended up either sick or injured, that was a rough spell!
Hey do you remember the story about one of the gang, think it might have been MTSara, went to the door and her neighbors were out in the yard arguing in their underwear?? ZOIKS!!
What's the penalty for testing positive?
How long before they can straighten up and test negative? Does this mean for the rest of their lives, they will never receive any welfare benefits becase they smoked a joint?
Would I the taxpayer have to pay for the drug testing that is performed this one time or multiple times? Would I have to pay more taxes when people are homeless? Would we need more homeless shelters? What would this cost the taxpayers in the long haul? Is every applicant tested? Where is this information for the results of the drug testing stored, in a police database? What type of rehab if the test is positive would be offered, if any? Would the person serve time for being under the influence? Would this cause me to have to serve jury duty more often? Would they also be screened for alcohol? What type of future ramifications are in order if and when they do get a job? Would the prospective employer be notified that welfare was not granted due to drug use/intoxication?
Not an easy task is it?
I am glad yours had a positive outcome..sm
my father died of cancer, liver, lung, brain cancer. An alternative treatment put him into remission for a year. He then took the *traditional* medical route and died within three months. I guess I have no faith in doctors any longer and certainly not in traditional medicine, as I view 99% of it as $$ driven and not true patient care or concern, dictated to us, the patients, the human beings,by the pharmaceuticals, insurance companies, and traditional physicians who have been cubicaled into *standard operating procedures* which are shoved down our throats, and now court ordered, as the only means of survival, all the while depleting our bank accounts and sentencing some to an untimely death, wherein they throw up their hands in disgust, saying *well, that one didn't make it, guess we'll try it on the next one and hope for a better result.* We are only guinea pigs to them any more, vessels to be tested on, and pushed aside when their precious *treatments* do not work. There is no compassion any more, for the human body. Doctors see themselves as gods, thinking they, and only they, hold a persons life or death in their hands. Their egos have gotten in the way and $$ and greed have taken over proper patient care. Personally, I have no faith whatsoever in traditional medicine any more. The *miracle* happens when one's own mind decides that it does not want to be ill any longer. We heal ourselves, if we allow ourselves to. I have seen it work miracles where miracles should not be expected. I have also seen it take a life when a life does not want to go on any longer. State of mind is everything. Doctors and pills, and vicious chemicals that ravage a body and destroy the soul, are not. But that is just how I have come to feel from the experience of *modern medicine*. No bashing intended towards you or anyone else. Just offering another perspective on things. Like you said earlier, agree to disagree, and on this subject, we totally disagree. That does not mean that either or us is right or wrong. We just had different life experiences. I am glad yours was a positive experience...mine and *Joel's mom*, not so much. So, I will stick that fork in myself now, as well, as I am just as done.
Anyone else get this letter in mail?
Got letter in mail -- inquiry about 'opportunity' for my service to hire on 50+ MTs including dictation platform - something about an MTSO losing 98% of its hospital business in November and wanting to place these MTs. ? I'm wondering if these poor MTs even know about it yet ??
That was the letter he was given by the teacher. nm
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I have already written them a letter that I will
I also suggested they take the "America" off their name as they don't represent America in any form.
Sad letter to granddaughter
My GD has started college now. This is son's child. I have posted here before but for years I was always put on the backburner, her maternal side of the family always came first. I tried, really tried, took the entire family on wonderful vacations, bought clothes, gave them this and that but hardly any visits (passed me by on the way to the other GMs home) - always calls though from DIL but I so wanted to speak with my own son some. Oh, I could see and talk with him when I paid to have work done around my home (although on the maternal's side, GM and great-GM always had yard cleaning, painting, whatever done as freebies.) It really hurt my feelings. My DIL's family have no outside friends, just family and thick as thieves so I was the outsider. I remarried about 7 or so years ago and have wonderful man for a husband, spoils me and we have, in our golden years, much to be thankful for, jobs, travel, wonderful relationship. After my son wanted to give me a tongue lashing about what he perceives me to get in money from my father's estate, I had enough and basically threw in the towel. Just too much to take any more abuse, verbal or otherwise. I get letter yesterday from my GD asking me why did I give up "blood" for my present husband? I could not believe what she said. She said saw her great-aunts more than she does me or even communicates with me- This went on from the time she was born and it was due to her mother basically taking the kids around her family more than me. I used to cry, I was sad but finally just gave up and I mean no visits, no calls, no nothing. I cannot tell her why- she probably would never believe me and why should she? She is her mother's daughter and extremely close to the maternal side. I wrote her back and told her unable to say why, would not be believed anyway- would only cause people to feel worse towards me (I never explained to anyone there why I stopped coming around- just stopped). I have been passed over all these years, just basically ignored when it came to the kids and now this?? I told her I would be the fall guy and to believe the ones she has heard for years, I would have nothing more to say. My father (prior to his death) had given the GD and her brother both $5,000.00 in their high school years to buy their clothing until they got out of HS- her mother spent that but does this daughter know? I kept that a secret- never said anything, would not be believed probably but yet this GD says I bailed when times got tough? My father also gave the GD and her brother (both my g-children) $20,000.00 several years ago for their college- I have no idea if any of that left in the bank as after father's death the parents of these children had access to the accounts- and yet I am to blame for bailing so to speak? I could write a book on this. My heart has been heavy for years but no way could I find to squeeze into their lives and now this. The no visiting and so forth started way before this marriage and now I have a DH who loves and adores me and yet I am catching flak for dropping out. My GD says the bad thing is that I seem to be content with things as they are- I have had to learn to live and accept things as they are if I could not change them and I am content now .Anyone else have a similar problem? Oh BTW, I moved to my new home in 2004- son who lives about 15 minutes away has never been to my new home nor even called.
I think that is really a touching letter. sm
I could send the exact same letter to my mom, unfortunately she is no longer here. Not trying to bring you down, but I am going to start paying more attention to my MIL cooking. She does the Thanksgiving dinner every year and I just make a couple of casseroles. Just may have to spend the day with her which is something I really enjoy doing, most of the time. LOL
What a lovely letter...sm
Thanks for sharing it.....My Mom's 1004 miles away.... I'm sure you've called her by now to get all the "how to's" for your first turkey and all the trimmings...She'll be delighted to give you all the secret family recipes....Have a great Thanksgiving!  Cat
This is a letter I sent to the parents of a
I am writing to inform you that, after much discussion with other parents of children who are in direct contact with your son, Matthew, and daughter, Samantha, i.e. on the bus and in school, it has been the consensus that your children seem to be modeling quite a bit of inappropriate behavior, including bullying and inappropriate language, as well as not being able to keep their hands off of other children. As parents of children in this community, we are concerned about your children’s apparent complete lack of respect for not only the rules of the school and the bus, but also lack of empathy for the feelings of their classmates and fellow bus riders. Bullying is not only painful to the victim, but is also a reflection of the bully’s own ineptness at dealing with their own feelings of insecurity and perhaps a direct reflection of a dysfunctional home life. It also interferes with all of the children’s education and the feeling of safety and community in the school environment.
As the parents of these children, we would avail you to please work with your children to teach them appropriate behavior and to keep their hands to themselves in order to not be disruptive and stressors to the other well-adjusted children in the classroom setting.
Thank you in advance for your efforts to teach your children appropriate behavior and social skills.
I think the letter is fine (sm)
until it reaches the "Bullying is..." paragraph. I would have left that section out. At that point, it appears you are attempting to psychoanalyze these children, which is strange (and arrogant).
Stimulus Letter
Even though I had my direct deposited, I actually got a letter two days after it was already deposited that it would be coming.
If its a business letter,
I wouldn't use Thanks. It's too informal for me. I use the old standby Sincerely most often.
he did send a thank you letter
the following day. See I don't know if the secretary gave the interviewer the message and he didn't call back or if he didn't get it. If he did get it I'm worried if he calls again he'll seem to pushy.
They should just make it a law that you have to tell them right after the interview!! LOL
Send them a letter . . .
stating that the debt is not valid. They will have to prove the debt is valid within 30 days before they can continue trying to collect. A lot of times, collection agencies buy up batches of bad debt for pennies on the dollar and do not have documentation to prove it is a valid debt. Many times, they give up after this, but will sell it to another collection agency. Also send a letter telling them to stop contacting you. It is a good idea to send these letters certified.
If they cannot prove it, dispute it if it is on your credit reports. Also check your state's statute of limitations for collecting debt. In my state it is 7 years. If they do not collect it by then, they are legally out of luck.
Lastly, if they prove it is a valid debt and it is within the legal time frame, you can negotiate a payoff with them. Don't pay more than the original debt because they only paid pennies on the dollar for it.
having said that, I would tell my husband about the letter...
He deserves to know what is being said about him.
Loving these positive responses. Feeling much better about it now!
nm
Results came back positive...I have breast CA.
Will correspond with you via e-mail.
I think it started in the movie Clueless - not positive, but I think
nm
Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. SM
I hope your son realizes we all make mistakes (including him) and that he finds it in his heart to forgive. Your grandchildren need to know you and vice versa. I truly hope it all works out for you. My dad and I were estranged even after I repeatedly attempted to reconcile and he died without ever meeting my children. So sad.
Proof positive that time-outs are nothing but
positive press & Amazing story
http://www.wdsu.com/video/18244963/index.html
http://www.cnn.com/video/#/video/us/2008/12/10/dnt.dog.saves.family.kwtv
Good ideas, positive thinking sm
We need more kindness around here. I try to stop and let someone through a line of traffic when everyone else ignores them. Most times I get a wave and a thank you, sometimes just a dirty look, but hey, I tried! Don't have to spend money or do anything spectacular, sometimes just a smile or a "go ahead" in line at the supermarket when they only have a few things and you have a carriage full helps someone out a little. What the heck, does make you feel better as well. Karma. Are you the type who gives people a break (or do you give them the finger)????
Not Positive, But State Employees' Salaries
PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm
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does pizza hut begin with the letter D?
nm
They guaranteed me a letter grade better
It is quite expensive though. But it was worth it in my household. Good luck!
Mine is letter carrier
and with mail volume going down, he is thankful for Netflix, and Amazon, and E-bay and people mailing oranges from Florida, and . . . .
To the poster that got the certified letter from the ER
Been thinking about you and hoping everything turned out okay.
I would write a detailed letter - sm
to the teacher, school counselor, principal, and send a copy to the school board. No resolution, no satisfaction, no kids in your school!
That counselor was way out of line but the blame also falls to the principal and teacher for not following up and making sure you were able to get a meeting.
They have some nerve. They forget WHO pays their salaries.
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