anyone have trouble with their neighbors...????
Posted By: me on 2007-05-18
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beginning to wonder if there could be anything worse to have to put up with. I have been dealing badly with these people for almost 2 years now and am in the process of remodling to sell out and find a better spot to live. my neighbor is going down hill quick. what used to be the all american suburb, has turned into trash neighbors...sorry had to vent!!!!
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I wish I had more neighbors like you!...sm
You obviously have a good heart and good intentions. I'm also a sort of paranoid person but not to things like that. Every year, I mail Christmas cards to our families and only get a few. DH's family doesn't ever send out cards. I always say I'm done doing cards, but then what would that prove? That is me and I won't change me. I want my kids to grow up and do the same. Don't change. And I also believe in karma!
Neighbors
Unfortunately, this seems to be the way these days. I moved into my house 10 years ago and the people around me were older and very friendly, everyone knew everyone and people helped each other. All we had to do was ask. Now, most of the people around me have moved out and new younger neighbors have moved in. Nobody speaks to anybody else except to complain about something, and I have found that they would much rather complain than do something to correct the problems. I have tried to put together a neighborhood watch based on people telling me they would be interested... only to have nobody call to confirm they would be coming after I made an appointment.
What I would do is give more to the people or organizations who you KNOW appreciate what you do for them, and just not worry about the rest. You are not a bad neighbor, we are just few and far between these days. Things are definitely not like they used to be, too much is happening and people are cautious. I would not waste a minute being depressed over this, they sure are not worrying about you! I thought the reason people decorated their houses was for it to look nice, you are just appreciating what they did and saying so. Nothing wrong that I can see.
Hope you feel better soon, and I sincerely appreciate what you do with your donations to the animal rescuers.
My neighbors do that too!! LOL (nm)
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my neighbors are all
anal retentive fuss-buttons. I guess it could be worse, they could be a bunch of messy, dirty people. They're not very friendly though. They're all older and retired, and we're younger and still work, so I feel they don't respect us.
How are your neighbors
Well it started off to be a wonderful day. I made myself a cup of coffee, grabbed a new book I wanted to start reading, and just wanted to sit on my back porch and relax in the morning breeze and listen to the birds, but 5 minutes later it just went downhill. Problem is my neighbors have now decided to play music quite loud. It wasn't loud enough that you would call the police over, but they opened their back window and their back window is right next to my back porch (which is the only area in the house to be able to sit out at. So forget about reading and the peace and quiet. Came inside and the neighbors on the other side decided to mow their law, and then neighbors next to them are hedge trimming. So, now im on the puter looking up other places to live that are a little more in the country where neighbors are not so close (right now if I was to talk to one neighbor the other 4 neighors on all sides of me would hear the conversation. I grew up in the country where the closest neighbor was my grandparents and it took us 5 minutes to walk to their house - so I really really really miss the peace and quiet.
Wanted to know what other people think of their neighbors and if they get equally uptight when their neighbors place loud music (and its not like classical or smooth jazz or anything - it's party music, lots of bass and drums and chipmunk voices singing). Oh yes we have another neighbor who decides to mow his lawn between 8:30 and 9 pm, and the other neighbor across the street (we call him Mike the Mechanic) has opened a car repair thingy at his house (but no business signs) and he's rebuilding engines, sodering, banging and clunking with people showing up at 10 pm and later and they'll be out talking and working on cars. Drives us nuts! And on top of that school is not even out yet and there are lots of neighborhood kids that scream and play on the weekends (some are funny and a delight to watch, and some are obnoxious), so know once summer vacation hits it will be worse (we moved in last September so we don't know what the summers are like yet).
Is anyone else like us and does anyone think there is any place in America that you can get some peace and quiet from all the noise.
My neighbors
and I have talked to her quite a bit. Her husband is also out of town most of the time so she is on her own. She has home schooled 3 kids total. I believe she is down to 1 now. From what she has told me the biggest thing is to have a strict schedule, just like the children would at public school. They still have to wake up early mornings and keep school hours. They don't get to take random days off because they just don't want to do school now or something else comes up. SHe also kept an area of the home for "school" with desks for more structure and privacy. She also said when her husband is home he enforces the homework to give her a break. She has also said there are a lot of home schooling websites and organizations out there. She does field trips and everything like normal school would. Apparentnly they are easily found online. Hope that helps but sorry I can't say from experience.
Let me tell you about my old neighbors..
Sorry it's long.... We live in a nice quiet subdivision in Central Florida, lots of kids, big parks, nice people, have lived here 22 years and most of neighbors here for 15+ years...well used to be. My best friend/cousin is Deputy Police Chief of city so stops in regularly. My neighbors across the street moved in 2-1/2 years ago, drove a Cadillac Escalade, worked at Wal-Mart. Got to know them a bit. Found out they bought their house for cash because the father won a few hundred thousand in the the lottery. FOund out they did drugs and kept my distance. Hubby lost job so they got a new hobby, breeding pit bulls. Nothing like seeing a yard full of pit bulls every few months. Animal control put a stop to that as did the owner of the female pit bull dog, whose dog they stole to breed.
Last year in January traded Cadillac in for brand new mustang which someone crashed into a wall 3 weeks later, had no insurance on it and that was their downfall from there. Totaled mustang stayed in front yard up on blocks for 6 months or more before they sold it for 2000. COde enforcement came and went with them.
They like to drink A LOT and play rap music..boom boom boom until 3, 4, sometimes 5 in the morning. Wife doesnt work or does work until she quits, gets fired. Convicted of welfare fraud, found this out by searching for convicted felons/child abusers/sex predators in my neighborhood one day. The couple like to fight daily, police called constantly. They also liked to do drugs and soon a family of 2 adults 3 kids turned into tons of people hanging out daily and/or moving in. It was really nice to see another person moving in to their house walking on the sidewalk towards their house carrying their garbage bag full of clothes/stuff. Rap music started playing loudly from 10 a.m. on, cars stopping in their driveway and driving off as fast as they stopped. Cops now becoming aware of what is going and watching the drug dealers. A few busted, sent to jail but out of jail as fast as they go in.
The week before last Thanksgiving their electric was turned off because they were caught stealing it and then the water soon followed. Both companies had to put locks on it because they kept trying to turn them back on. They kept stealing our water, we think. Somehow our hoses outside would get turned on at night and we would find them on in the morning. After 2-3 weeks with no electric I called child neglect hotline as I think it is neglect, turns out it is not but the state gives them a generator that they run for 12 hours a day. Love the sound a generator makes but a lot less aggravating than rap music.End of March, one of their great new roomies was arrested for murder but we all know he didnt do it, he was framed, he's a good boy, he wouldnt do that (what every person says when arrested for a serious crime)
Then May 5, 2008, the greatest day EVER. They had to move out. It's never nice to see a house foreclosed on but for once I was so happy to see a family go along with their hanger ons. Their customers, I mean friends keep stopping when I am outside asking me where Kevin went. I tell them to try the local jail.
Your mom's neighbors should not have...sm
dogs if they can't have a fenced in yard to keep them in their yard. Nobody wants someone elses dogs coming over making messes in the thrash and trying to bite and going to the bathroom in their yard. Dog owners should be responsible but not all are.
Are we neighbors?
Mine gives away stuff too, her husband doesn't know, and now that they are retiring their credit card debt is a big problem.
Maybe that is the reason for my neighbors
still having their lights on the house, and ON.
that would be right - if neighbors esp are Russian
We had new neighbors move in who
had a similar theory about what was acceptable.
They had a habit walking into their neighbors houses without knocking. My parents were too polite to say anything, so they were clueless that they found it appalling. We didn't normally lock the doors when we were home, but to keep them out, we kids started locking them when everybody was inside, just to befuddle the barging-in neighbors. One time my dad had been working in the yard, and he was doing his usual change out of his work pants at the back door. He had privacy because he would announce he was changing, and close the door at the top of the stairs so that he had closed doors on 3 sides (door to garage, closed back door, closed door into rest of house, and open doorway into the unfinished basement. The clueless new neighborgirl decided to have a visit, came thru the open (big) garage door and opened the door into the house, where my dad stood, crouching with pants around his ankles. Oh the bellow that came out of him!
That new neighborgirl did drop by and barge in quite so often after that ...
No, I just said I feel sorry for your neighbors.
nm
Thanking god for my neighbors.
I got lucky when I bought my house about four years ago and am surrounded by home owners. Many of our houses are duplexes or duplexes converted into single dwellings (like mine). We had one bad group down the street on the corner (the landlord lived next door) and they were almost impossible to get out he spent gobs of money to get them out and in the mean time they trashed his property. The neighbors all kicked in to help him repair. This time he checked all the references and made sure none were bogus it took an extra month of the property being empty but he has had no problems with them and they are extending their lease and other than that home there is only one other house that rents and the owner (a sherriff) lives on one side and rents the other. My suggestion is try to move into a neighborhood that has very limited or restricts renting.
VEGETATION AND NEIGHBORS
Hi: Do you know them? If you do, have you said anything? If you haven't then assure them that you "don't mind" if they come on your land to cut back their vine. If this is not a possibility, then get some of that vegetation killer and put it on the vines on your side. I think some of them even will go back to the root, so maybe it will kill the vine on their side too. That might not be all bad for you. So, when it is all gone on your side, re-landscape your areas and dig down with one of those sprinkler shovels (the ones that cut and look like a pancake turner straightened out) and put a barrier, like chicken wire or something more solid. I think they hve plastic things for that at Home Depot. I guess it wouldn't help your lawn if the roots are all in it,, but maybe you could cut and roll it back and put in some Zoysia grass if it is legal in your area or another grass lawn. I have a trumpet vine I have been nursing along for 4 years and the weather is so bad here that it is still a tiny thing. Maybe I should pull it out?
yep, friendly with ALL my neighbors
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Are you sure you aren't one of my neighbors?
Sure do have the same attitude. Have a good day!
Friendly with all the neighbors except
for the ones directly across the street - they are loud, obnoxious, lazy and don't know the meaning of the word neighbor and are raising their 2 kids to be the same.
Personally, I have neighbors who are sm
teachers. The rule in the high school here is that Cell Phones are to be turned off while the students are in the classroom. If it rings, it is confiscated. I totally agree with that rule. School is for learning, not text messaging, etc. However, in case of an emergency, of course, they should have the ability to dial out in an EMERGENCY situation.
How many neighbors could you borrow something from?
If you're baking a cake and run out of sugar or an egg or something similar.
I've got three.
Is it because of the neighbors in general
or just that you don't want to impose on anyone? I have 3 that I can borrow from and have. My very best friend who lived across the street up until last year was someone I always went to and vice versa. We could borrow anything from each other and I mean anything. We joke with each other all the time now when I need to borrow something really crazy that I wish she was still here because if I asked the others, they'd think I was nuts.
Neighbors want tax breaks because
they say this purple house is bringing down property values of their own homes.
PS: I think the neighbors have a problem with a
People I know who've relocated from Calif. to Washington (or Oregon) felt they had to change their car's license plates on crossing the state line, in order to avoid persecution. Usually folks tend to blame Calif. for their property values (and TAXES) going UP.
Have you ever had trouble with your
bones just aching and thought something else and come to find out you did not have enough calcium and once supplemented, the pain stopped? Has anyone been so deficient in calcium that this actually happened? Thanks.
Trouble is.
That I think they believe her that they cannot do anything without her. I think she just loves to bully. It gives her some sort of power or something. I think that is why she kept insisting she look after my kids while I work. Normally I am a submissive type that is a target for bullys but when it comes to my precious girls, I draw the line. I have become better and taking up for myself and especially my babies. She had some ugly things to say about me too from what I understand when I told her no that the girls and I were happy with the child care they were receiving at the daycare.
I have been wondering, if I called the CPS if they would make the parents put the children in a regular daycare or something better then what they are getting. She still feeds that 2 year-old and insists that the DIL still feed that 2 yo baby food because Aunt does not want and is not going to cook. DH told me that when I left the room that she told the little boy that he was going to get a dose of Tylenol because she needed to get some sleep. It is a shame that she treats him like he is a burden.
The only way you could get in trouble with the IRS sm
Is if that person worked ONLY for you. A lot of people try to pass their full-time housekeepers off as IC because they don't want to bother with the taxes. Those are the people who get into trouble. That person is an employee, not an IC. But if they work for other people as well, they are an IC and responsible for their own taxes.
If you have that much trouble trying to....
communicate when you're trying to buy something off her, imagine how bad it will be if there are problems later and you are unhappy with the product. I would just go to some other place.
I'm not sure I want to know what trouble that may be LOL - NM
NM
My parents have horrible neighbors.
They are nice people, but their three daughters are always dressed in dirty clothes. You will often see one of the girls out in the yard with no clothes on and they are old enough they should have clothes on. There back yard is totally trashed. They have junk thrown everywhere and the kids are out there playing in the junk with dirty or no clothes on. They have several dogs that they can't keep pinned in and we often find them in my parent's yard taking a dump or just walking around. They had two goats and when my dad caught one in my mom's garden, he shot it with a BB gun. They had two ponies in their back yard, which isn't big enough for one pony let alone two, and the one pony had what looked like a old tuna can stuck to its hoof. They never mow the front yard. They have junk all over the front of the house. I don't even want to think about what the inside of the house looks like. Their dogs come over and my mom has tripped and fallen over them as she suffers from MS and her balance is not good. Both the parents have dark long brown hair and if you see them from the back, the only way to tell them apart is by their tattoos. My mom has called the humane society about the animals several times. Nothing has been done. I told my mom to start shooting animals at random as they enter her yard. LOL!
that is sort of the way we started off with our neighbors...
but, then we started to see the real THEM!!!!!, time after time after time...thats why that saying that dr. Phil uses is so true "good fences make good neighbors". we should have never started associated with them in the beginning. up until then i had never even allowed my children to play in the front....I should have kept to me rules.
She may be lucky, but I feel sorry for her neighbors.
nm
No, not really dense, she said felt sorry for my neighbors. the ones who
are nice, quiet, have a sense of wanting to live in a nice community, wanting to have something in life. So, now my deah, DUH to you because she said she felt sorry for the neighbors and the above fits mine to a T. I guess you can take some people out of the country but you will never take the country out of some people. Read again, she is sorry for having nice neighbors such as the doctors, lawyers, judges and the like where I live. Yeh, makes a lot of sense to me. NOT.
my neighbors waiting for snow outside
with a flashligh in North Carolina!!
Should add, these neighbors are not nice at all! I am afraid of what sm
they will do to me and my family if I tell them what I did. I'm just being completely honest with you.
That is such a sweet thing to do for your neighbors!
There's only 1 family around here with little kids...most everyone else are older or seniors, and I think they would get a kick out of it.
Every Christmas I make up little centerpieces out of balsam and different evergreens I scavenge from the woods here, pretty them up with a candle, bow, and a festive pick and give all my neighbors one. I was always able to deliver them during the day and leave them on steps or front porches...again, in the safety of daylight.
Last winter I had to delivery my goods at about 11 p.m. because of my crazy schedule. I hoofed it, in the snow, with just my arrangements and a flashlight. One of my neighbors heard me come down the driveway (cruncy snow) and cocked his gun--it was that distinct "CHI-CHINK" sound, and it made me stop dead in my tracks! Can you imagine?! Apparently someone had been threatening them in a domestic-disturbance kind of way and they thought I was that person! They apologized up and down but I nearly shat myself, know what I'm sayin?! Lesson learned...never go roamin' around at night...even in the country. Folks is packin' heat!
Are you friends with your immediate neighbors or just acquaintances? nm
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Well, I'm guilty of giving neighbors' dog
he does come over our fence, literally climbs over, and comes into our yard and then our house. He goes straight to the kitchen, waits for a treat and then goes out the front door and to his yard. He gets ignored a lot so I feel sorry for him. He's so cute.
Christmas goodies for the neighbors - do you?
This year my goodie bags will revolve around hot cocoa mix. I have 5 neighbors that I take goodies to. Three will get cocoa mix, mini marshmallows, snowman mugs, and a pint of peppermint schnaaps. The other two will get the cocoa mix, marshmallows, and peppermint sticks. Cute cheap mugs if I can find some tomorrow.
Here's the recipe I'm using:
Best Ever Hot Cocoa Mix
This hot cocoa mix can be stored in an air-tight container for 3 months. It uses two unusual ingredients: white chocolate chips that give the cocoa a soft, creamy texture and escalate the chocolate flavor, and the cornstarch in the confectioners' sugar (an ingred added by the maunfacturer to prevent clumping) helps thicken the cocoa.
Makes ~ 20 servings.
3 C non-fat dry milk
2 C confectioners' sugar
1 1/2 C Dutch-processed cocoa powder
1 1/2 C white chocolate chips
1/4 tsp salt
Combine ingreds in a large bowl. Working in two batches, pulse ingreds in food processor until the chocolate is fine ground.
To make hot cocoa, stir 1/3 C mix into 1 C hot milk. Top with mini marshmallows.
What are you all sharing with your neighbors and friends?
50 cents here, but no neighbors complained!
xx
Dont know my neighbors and so glad
I don’t do coffee mornings, do not care to chitchat, don’t care to visit in their homes. I have my own home to myself, my husband and my 3 furkids and that is exactly the way I like it.
potty trouble
Just like when a pacifier mysteriously disappears, you can hide the pullups and act like you ran out. She may suggest buying more, but conveniently, the store will be out of her size. She won't tolerate going in panties nearly as well as the pullups at her age. You may have more laundry, but if you stick to it, she'll come around. To avoid the pullups at night (so she doesn't catch on), use rubber sheets and avoid late drinking. Continue with the praise, rewards, and all the other methods simultaneously. If she's able to hold her poop that long, with the right foods, she'll be less able to put it off (of course, I don't mean give the poor thing diarrhea). It's just that children tend to be on the constipated side according to my pediatrician, so that might be partly why she can go so long. Make sure she eats plenty of veggies and put her on the potty at the same time daily, preferably in the morning after breakfast or warm milk, cocoa, etc.
Potty Trouble
Was reading the board tonight and just wanted to share my experience with you about my son (who is now 18). He was also a very independent, smart, could do anything kid, but refused to potty train. However, he really wanted to go to "school". After explaining that they did not let kids into school who still went to the bathroom in their pants, he informed me that he would starting wearing his big boy pants and going to the big boy potty once he started school and by gosh that is what he did. Stubborn as all get out! Your daughter sounds a lot like him...used to hide to have his bm and could have cared less about wearing dirty diapers or pull-ups (I cannot remember, but I don't think they were available yet). Anyway, I got a lot a grief from many friends and especially family about this. He was my first child and it really stressed me out, but he took care of it on his own in good time. I am not sure whether you can try something like this with your daughter such as a special place that she might like to go or the all time favorite...a bribe. Whatever happens, it will work itself out in the long run. Just remember not to get too stressed about it and take it all in stride and do not worry about what other people say. My son is now a terrific young adult who has been wearing his big boy pants for a long time and has suffered no severe mental setbacks that I can tell () from all the pleading and begging his father and I did. Sorry so long, but I worried so much about this and frankly I could kick myself now since there were so many other huge issues that we would be facing later on. She will get it....hang in there.
What do you do when your child gets in trouble?
Spank/Swat
Time Out
Natural Consequences (ie, if they won't stop throwing food, then lunch is over, or if they run away while you're out, it's time to go home)
Re-direction (ie, trying to get your child to focus on something else)
Other (possibly a combination of methods or something else entirely)
When I had trouble, it felt like a really...sm
sharp, hard pinch along my sternum. I was given Motrin. I did have a workup first before the doctor decided on costochondritis - EKG, treadmill, echo. I do have mitral valve prolapse.
Arm hair trouble
It seems like over the last several years the hair on my forearms has gotten darker and darker. I'm so self-conscious about it, I feel like it makes me nice and mannish looking :(
Here's my question: would it help to put hydrogen peroxide on my arm hair everyday? Bleaching is such a hassle for a large area like that, and I don't have the money now for laser removal. I think hydrogen peroxide lightens hair, but would it make a noticeable difference on my arms?
Well, guess I am in trouble then because
my housekeeper who has been with me exclusively for the past say 15 years or so only works for me. No taking out of taxes, all under-the-table, how if she never does taxes, pray tell, will the IRS know???
I'm in a world of trouble, then
because all my grandparents with the exception of my maternal grandmother deceased before I was born. I am now in my 60s and have actually made it this far without knowing any of their history. What is a lady to do?
Daughter In Trouble
I wish you, your daughter, and your family well. I mean that sincerely. You need advice from an attorney -- not from a lot of us speculating on a web site. I worked in child abuse for many years before MT work. It is doubtful (my opinion only) that you will be successful in bringing charges against this young man because of the age of consent of your daughter. She was not raped; she had sexual relations with him willingly. IF you are successful - please be prepared for the price you are going to make your daughter pay. She will have to testify at his trial and the defense attorney will make her look like the worst XXX in the world. It will be horrible for her - at best. Please think long and hard about what you are about to do to your daughter.
I would keep the lines of communication open and drop it. You will be so sad if you put your daughter through this only to find that -at most- the boyfriend will receive probation. Remember my words, "Being a winner does NOT mean you win." Sometimes the cost is very, very high Mom.
Been There As A Prosecution Witness 1,000,000 Times and now an MT because of it.
Lilly
Trouble concentrating
Just wondering if anyone else suffers from SAD and has trouble concentrating this time of year. I am losing my motivation to do anything (besides eat). Any helpful suggestions would be appreciated. The shorter days are really starting to affect my drive. I'm usually very energetic and upbeat. Just have the blahs.
Second at 36. I didn't have much trouble sm
keeping up with them. They make you young again, take you back to playful times. I agree, have always looked 10 years young than my age.
Most of my friends had kids much earlier, had no education, no idea which way was up. Somehow, they all turn out ok. Something to be said for your mothers, and older mothers, too.
In my expeirence, the older mother know much more about the ins and outs of applying for financial aid and college than do the younger mothers. Been there, done, that, and all of that. Worked for mine. Graduated NYU in 2005 and is well onto her way to great career..
What would you do? School trouble.
We moved here to Texas about 2 years ago and have never had any to deal with the kids and school behavioral issues before, but my 14-year-old daughter apparently just had her 5th tardy to a class (she's a talker and I can easily see how's she's distracted getting from locker to classroom) and was given a choice in school today of ISS (in-school-suspension) or take swats.
Swats? I had no idea they still spanked kids at school. Didn't that stop happening about 20 years ago? I talked to one mom earlier and apparently in Texas it's still legal and she didn't think twice about it and said her own kids had been paddled in school and she thought it was just fine.
It's not that I'm trying to get my daughter out of her punishment, but apparently since I didn't sign a "paddling permission" slip, she has to choose the school suspension thing. Though she brought the slip for me to sign tonight if I choose. She apparently actually wants the swats because she says that's what all the other kids do and (quote) it doesn't hurt. She says she doesn't want to miss class anyway and it's dumb to miss classes if she doesn't have to.
While I agree with her on the missing class part, I can't help but wonder what the point of a punishment of a paddling is IF it the kids say it doesn't hurt AND they choose it instead of in-school suspension. It seems so barbaric. Do they really think smacking the kids with a piece of wood is going to keep them in line? I suppose it worked when we were kids but I thought our society was past that now.
So I'm just wondering what you all would do (need opinions). As I said, I talked with one mom tonight that said just go ahead and let her be paddled, it's no biggy. I asked my daughter if she thinks that will keep her from being so chit-chatty and not making it to class on time and she just shrugged her shoulders. How can the kids be so calm about the whole thing?
I hate parenting sometimes! So do I sign the "no paddling" slip or not? 
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