and maybe she could just say no because she does not want her to go -

Posted By: Amanda on 2009-05-28
In Reply to: She's your mother. There shouldn't be "boundaries." - SM

not everyone wants to spend every minute with someone besides their immediate family.

I love my mom, too, but I do not feel the need to take her on every vacation or every trip I go on, and I certainly don't expect her to invite me everywhere she goes.

Neither of us have hurt feelings over it either. We do not owe our parents our lives just because they are our parents and not spending that one week with her is not going to make or break their great memories when her mother is gone.

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mom wants to crash my vacation...advice? - Tab
- "Mom, maybe next year." - Don't explain or defend. She knows.
- What I would do - - janet
- The best policy is - Honesty
- I don't blame you for being upset.. afterall.. - Gina
- Just got to tell her no - sm - XXX
- I would just be direct, as others have said. - sm
- Two more ideas - NightOwl
- extended family, boundaries, and etiquette...sm - flybye
  - I totally agree with... - Just Me
  - She's your mother. There shouldn't be "boundaries." - SM
    - I would rather have my kids - Veronica
    - I disagree - there absolutely should be boundaries - Happy MT Robin
      - I'm with you--there should be boundaries... - Kendra
    - and maybe she could just say no because she does not want her to go - - Amanda
- Thing Is, you are going to have to tell her the truth. - Fingers
- My suggestion . . . - Anon
  - that one might work... - Tab

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