and I totally concur with your statement!
Posted By: woofer on 2009-02-12
In Reply to: I wouldn't talk about it again with him, period. - Yes, he owes you an apology. sm
You gave him life and the means to make it as far in this world to be 36 years old. You nor your husband owe him squat. You can believe one thing, and I have told both of my children (ages 36 and 34) - that the they would not and could not make the sacrifices that I made for them being a single mom and raising them (without the benefit of assistance). I love my kids but I don't take any crap from them, grown or otherwise. I love them, listen to them, give them any advice they ask for but WHATEVER decisions they make are ones that they must deal with. Period.
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I totally understand the statement
of she was a stay at home mom. This profession never started out to be a stay at home job, in fact after all my years which are almost 40 now, I have only worked from home now for the past 7 and not sent home because I wanted to, but because the hospital decided they could use the room where the MT people were. Many, many postings I have seen have to deal with the fact of taking the job in order to stay home with the kids, common theme here and if that is what women hoped for, then that is the way they are looked at. I know just taking the time to feed my cats with them meowing underneath, I would hate to think of having to feed and tend to small children, babies or the like. Something will suffer, the kids or the job? I really do not believe anyone who says they can work around babies, kids to do this job, not and make a decent living.
i concur, as far as you said as wanting her as my own doc; however,
I think with all the medical information we are bombarded with everynight on the evening and morning news, she is definitely one to listen to with at least one ear.
I concur. He may be experiencing anxiety attacks, which would
most definitely cause profuse sweating. As already stated by others, probably the best "medicine" he can receive is TLC provided by you.
I concur on Rimmel, absolutely love their lip glosses and foundations! nm
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Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
Statement
First of all, it appears that she has had this situation occur in the past. I am not generally a negative person, but in this case, I may make an exception. Perhaps letting her know that we expect our children to learn from their mistakes and accept accountability for their actions would be a start. If this does not work, perhaps stating that she must be a very blissful person, because ignorance is bliss, would make her take a long, hard look.
the statement
The statement that healthy people are dying seems absolutely counterintuitive. People insinuating that sick people with weakened immune systems survive over people with strong immune systems that overreact to the virus flies in the face of logic. The weak survive over the strong? Maybe better advice like if you are getting worse after 3 days, go to the doctor to make sure you don't have a secondary pneumonia infection is better.
In my extended family alone, in my family tree, there are all kinds of people who died from pneumonia at all ages, seemingly random acts of God. It is the pneumonia, which is treatable with antibiotics, that kills people with influenza, and that is actually logical and time proven.
WHAT? Ridiculous statement.....sm
I so don't agree with you - Had one, got rid of him, don't want another - I want men in my life, not in my house full-time! No regrets here, happy, independent, do for myself and my kids and my friends and family without a *DH* to drain on me any longer! Happy Happy!
yet again ANOTHER RIDICULOUS STATEMENT
It is not a ridiculous statement....
Statistics say roughly 5% of rapes result in pregnancy...that is about 1 in 20. So, the statement that very few rapes result in pregnancy is true. Look it up.
What a ridiculous statement that is.
Very helpful.
I gave my statement sm
just 20 minutes ago and they are going after the owners. An autopsy and toxicology were both requested. The police and the rescue people said there was no reason this should have happened and they will make sure that family never owns another dog. Thank goodness. I feel better now. They are getting much tougher in our area regarding animal abuse, fining and sending people to jail. That poor dog's internal body temperature was 107. Definite heat stroke. Makes me sick.
FOR. I don't see them as a religious statement - sm
but rather, a statement of love for the person who died there, an expression of sadness that they were lost, and a little reminder to everyone else driving past it to back off on the throttle a little bit.
I so agree with your last statement!
NM
Is this statement true?
I was flipping radio channels last night and heard a woman say she absolutely positively had to send her children to private school; she had no other recourse because the school system in which she lived was totally horrid. She was talking about how high priced everything is and she was afraid her husband would lose his job, but even if that happened, she'd still need to send the kiddos to private school.
I know there are some bad public school systems around, but couldn't you transfer to a better public school system without physically moving?
Just wondering about this statement.
"It is the one sin the Bible says cannot be forgiven completely. There is a reason for that. "
I thought blaspheming the Holy Spirit was the unforgivable sin.
I do not like 1 statement which annuls
a lot, namely
e) Raise your children without both parents being
in the home
???
This is rather hypocritical, selfish, unthankful, insensitive, God will not bless you for that. I can only wonder.
oh I agree with your statement about family...LOL...
No, I don't want *ANY* family just *dropping by* unannounced.......*LOL* -
Friends yeah, neighbors yeah
family....no thank you *rofl*
oh and I do love my family.........it's just that *family* can be and usually are so judgmental...........we don't get to *choose* our families.....but we do our friends *S*
but then I rolled off the family tree of nuts.......*l*
IMO, he has served his purpose according to your own statement .
.."I believe my brother brought him into my life for a reason. Since he has been in my life, it has been the best year ever and I have evolved into a better person.".....
You say you are a better purpose and maybe that was what he was supposed to do and that is all?
I say back off and if someday he is single and wants to start something up, then (if you are available) go for it! I think Dr.Phil would also tell you this, and any preacher or religious, or educated counselor/psych, etc.
Powerful statement, WWTx...
Mom, you don't want your daughter looking back in 15-20 years and wondering why her mom didn't protect her. Deep down she is looking for boundaries. Hang in there through this rough patch.
What a sad statement, pushing the consequences
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Amen to that statement sister!!
I have never heard of anyone killing people on the highways just from being stoned!!
Now, don't be a bogart!! 
John Assaraf's nauseating statement about that
He was on Larry King promoting the theory that you wish everything into your life.
Larry King asked this man if Jessica Lunsford wished her torture and murder into her life, if this is his theory.
The man paused a moment and then said, "Yes."
Made me sick.
I understand dwelling on the positive aspects of your life and they become more apparent to you. However, to think you simply "wish" something into existence is the biggest pile of manure for people to fall for.
Especially to say that every baby, child, teenager, woman, man ever abused, tortured, murdered WISHED THIS ON THEMSELVES.
Ludicrous.
*time wasting* ?? Not fair statement
I am surprised at the statement, "every facet"
of her life. Have 2 kids, both grown, glad they are out on their own, not interested in "every facet" because they are grown. I enjoy my time now. I am glad my children know how to live on their own and I surely do not live through them. Sounds like you need more interests in your life if you are going to fall apart when she leaves for college.
The family has released a statement saying she died.
So sad.
Two statement I find wrong and disagree with you on
1. With chemo he has a 90% to 95% chance of living a long and productive life. That's just outright not true. Who said that, the chemo company providing the drug? The doctor working for the chemo company to ensure they get their money? The government? Holistic medicine will give him a better chance of living than any chemicals that will destroy his immune system among other things.
Second, your statement of his mother murdering her son is wrong. Have you not been following the story. She is trying to get an alternative health cure so he can live a long and productive live. Not sentence him to death under killer chemo. Sorry if you don't like to hear that but it's a fact - chemo kills.
It's not just a major stress and strain on the body - it kills off the good cells with the bad. It weakens the immune system. It's toxic and poisons your body. I found this article to be interesting.
http://www.naturalnews.com/012727.html
Saying "it's a major stress on the body" is like saying just a couple of your hairs will fall out during the treatment.
This lady wants her son to live. He's only 13 years old. She wants to watch him grow up, go to college, marry, have kids, and lead a productive life. She loves her son unconditionally and is doing whatever is in her will to find him a better treatment rather than one that will kill him. Why would anyone want to allow government to kill her son when there could be an alternative treatment that would save his life and he could lead a healthy and productive life.
Mainly though why would anyone want the government telling them what they can and cannot do as far as how they treat their own family health and well being.
Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
Totally against the war
said it right from the start, told my husband the war was of no use, more and more that is being proven true, hate that young guys are being killed there day after day, the middle east never had as many bombings as they do on a day to day basis now, blood being shed all over the place, the house not wanting to give more money for a no win war, I lived through Viet Nam, no difference here, just different land. Mark my word, different president, the war will be a thing of the past and yet all these fine lives lost.
I am totally
terrified of the draft. I posted earlier about my son wanting to go to Africa next summer and me not really wanting to let him go. I guess you know what my answer would be to the above question so I guess I shouldn't say anything at all.
I was totally going to say
me too!
Oh, but what I've gained ...
(I'll think of something).
Totally think it is really none of your
business that they are working. You don't have any authority and your supervisor is the one to tell them NOT to work. If they have been told not to work and they are, that is between them and the employer.
totally.
My imagination is way too fertile. When someone tells me they are "trying to get pregnant" or they remember the moment their kids were conceived, it's exactly like showing me photos of the deed. Photos I'd way rather not see. ick.
I totally get what you are saying sm
and feel 100% the same way. If I had the means financially, I would help whomever and whenever, my hubby feels the same. However, to not respond to someone who is reaching out to you, I feel, is unforgivable. I would also like to say, give it some more time - you don't know what the situation is and I feel someone who has as big a heart as you obviously have, should hold it open just a little longer.
Totally agree. nm
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Totally agree with you!
Santa Claus was a wonderful time for me and my children. I did not suffer any ill effects from knowing the truth. This is a magical time for children. They believe in goblins, ghosts, the Easter Bunny, play friends that only they can see and talk with, fairies among lots of others. Why in the world would anyone want to deny a child the pleasure of thinking they are that important that this man in the red suit is coming especially to give them presents. It really made me feel special but I guess other parents want to cut some of the fun time from the child's life.How sad....
I totally agree with you, well said.
I find that others think since I work at home, they can interrupt me any time they want, I am expected to cover things while they are at work, etc. I want to be left alone during my work hours to do my work. I have worked in offices where you were not allowed to have personal calls during work hours, which is fairly common. I think I am going to disconnect my phone during my work hours. Sometimes I feel by working at home I don't get the same respect for my job than others in my home that work outside the home.
Totally inappropriate.
He sounds like he's good at his job and also at flirting. He is interested in getting to know you better? Why doesn't he just come out and say - hey baby, how about a roll in the hay? Keep us posted if you pursue this. I'd like to know how things go. Believe me, he knows he's good looking. Good Luck and be careful.
Oh, I totally agree with you there...sm
these are the kids my daughter deals with every day, but she understands at their age, they didn't ask for their circumstances. No child at age 8 or 9 should know anything about sex, using the B word, MF word, and other stuff. They can't write a sentence but they can tell her how to get more food stamps, how their older sister had another baby so she could get more money in her check....the stories go on and on. But the point we started out with was GI upset...they can't help being made take meds that make them physically sick.
I am totally out of debt -
house, cars, motorcyles, credit cards. Everything!
It feels great!
I totally agree with you...
Just a curious question. We are only as young (or old) as we feel, right! I am 37 and feel (most days) much, much younger...like I said before, it is a relative question...thanks for your reply!
Totally agree. nm
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lol, totally NO CLUE..
I'm sure all the neighbors talk about that nut job around the corner who breastfed her very large baby at the ball park! C'mon now...can't even give the kid a juice box or something at baseball time? Something wrong with this picture. I seriously hope she's joking.
I totally agree with you. nm
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I totally agree (sm),
in fact, I should have eloped since I had recently moved and hadn't accumulated many new friends yet. The reception was really lame with the weird mix of people, some of whom I couldn't stand, but mom assured me they wouldn't come, and we were just doing the right thing.
Put on a syrupy sweet voice and tell your mother it is tempting to make this a social event for us, but this is really THEIR event. Let's do it their way since it only happens once. Let's not ruin their big day by arguing about it.
He would be totally crazy ...
If I kept him in for 2 to 3 months!! We have a large deck and in the one corner of it is a dog house and he has totally torn off the lattice in one whole section (to the dismay of my husband, to put it mildly) because he wants to be with my neighbors dogs.
If I cut this off, it will basically be the entire section of pad right in the middle of the paw which I think would take the brunt of his walking. It is on his back foot.
I totally agree and nothing to look at either
I can't believe all these people think he's so great. Yuck.
I totally agree-
it does make the award seem insignificant. They say they don't want any kids to feel 'left out.' Isn't that one of the main motivators to work harder? What about the child who truly earned the award? How does that child feel when the same award is given out indiscriminately so as not to hurt anyone's self esteem?
IMO self esteem comes from doing your best and feeling pride in yourself because of it- and if you are doing your best and improving you will not need some phony award to feel good about yourself, because you already will.
When these kids grow up they are going to be in the real world where they will be expected to perform to certain standards because that is what is expected from everyone. It seems like it is getting harder to find people who find satisfaction in doing a good job just for the sake of doing it. I wonder if there is any correlation here.
Totally agree-
I don't know why the parents would not have told their kids by now, but it is for them to do. It would be even more traumatic for the kids to hear it from someone else.
I was adopted and thank God I always knew I was. When I was too young to really understand they simply told me that I was special because they chose me. For years I pictured this baby store and my parents walking up and down the aisles shopping, LOL.
I totally agree with you!
I have grown sons, 26 and 18. I would never snoop in their e-mail. We have a great relationship and I do trust them. I am not saying that I have not or would not read their e-mail, but if I did, it was because I was looking at something on their computer which they would be aware of (or at least not care) and if an e-mail looked interesting I would read it and tell them. I think they would do the same with me and I also would not care. I think if you have a good relationship with your kids, that you know them pretty well and would know if you should worry or not. I truly believe that most parents, if they would just open their eyes, already know when there are problems. I get angry when I hear of someone who says "I had no clue" because I think that they do and just do not want to believe it. I think you are doing the right thing by trusting your kids. Keep it up!
Totally understand that one!
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