an 8 1/2 yo baby-sitting a 6 yo?
Posted By: ..... on 2008-09-20
In Reply to: Sibling abuse - Need Advice
that seems really young, how long are they alone before the parents get home? Next summer I am considering letting my oldest who will be 14 baby-sit my youngest who will be 11 if i find a job outside the home, but even that makes me nervous.
i'm sorry i don't have any good advice for you. if it were me, i would be tempted to take him to karate class or something so he could learn to open up a can on the brother if necessary
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Sitting
I have three things to sit on - a rolling stool with a tractor seat, a straight chair with or without back pillow and an exercise ball. In this way, I can vary my posture, stay more alert, and even get a tiny bit of exercise with the ball.
I am sitting here laughing at both of you
What martyrs you sound like, working at night so you can be there always for those children, not a boyfriend so to put those kids first, sacrificing. I could almost throw up listening to all the people talking about their being a single mother, and? so? It is like a badge of honor. Women have raised children for long years before these days and did not bend over backwards trying to sacrifice, just part of raising children. I was a latchkey kid, my kids also (oh, guess what- I actually had to work away from the home in earlier years!!) and my grandchildren were latchkey kids. We ALL turned out alright, no gangsters, no murderers, upstanding people. The reason kids are out of control now is the way you pamper, pet and sit the kids on marshmellows and do not let them be real kids. Kids get hurt, part of life. You need to say you are sorry for the post about not watching her kid 24/7, ridiculous! And get a real life besides the children. There are other things in life, really there are.
Thanks so much for that. I was sitting here feeling SM
terrible, even after all these years and telling people who do not even know me is humiliating.
Don't want to take the focus off of the initial poster who is having this decision to make now, but please just let me say that I was emotionally drained and just coming out of a short but very abusive marriage. I met this man and we were friends, nothing more. That grew and grew and soon I was looking forward to going into work. . . THAT should have told me something right there!  Then in a weak moment I went out with him and that was the beginning of the end. I was so in love with this man who made me finally feel good about myself and told me I deserved to be loved and treated right. I waited and waited for him to leave, even though he had little boys and that was killing me. I just could not see going on without him. After I wasted the time and suffered the heartache he was gone. Probably the only truthful thing he said to me on the phone was . . Don't cry over me. I'm not worth it. I come from a good decent family and this can happen to good people when you need to be loved. That is why I want to caution this woman again, please, please, do what is right. It's not the easy thing to do, but it is the right thing. If this man really values her, why is he still conversing and carrying on this friendship when he knows how she feels, and he knows he is not in a position to do anything about it?
Thanks gor hearing me out. I feel like I had my second shower of the day. You have a good heart to acknowledge me like you did. 
i get low pay from sitting at the computer all day
actually I think my neck problems are from my computer use, staring up at the screen for so long
hehe.... well, at least he's not just sitting there
;D
I have a *to do list* sitting on my desk
every day because I can't remember anything and I'm early 40s. :)
I remember cat-sitting for a fellow-MT once.
She was a first-time cat owner also. They had a little Maine coon, and she claimed he didn't play. She was only a year old, so I thought that was strange. I dragged a string for her and she proceeded to show me an extremely playful side, leaping onto the couch, running across the back, leaping to a chair ... I was rolling on the floor over this supposed non-playing cat. So make sure you leave a string toy. Or do you have one of those wants with a feather on it? or the other fishing-rod style toys. My cats were crazy for those toys that required owner involvement. And forget trying to read - my cats insisted I pay attention to the game during play. Cat servant indeed.
When sitting down to a formal dinner
which way do the dishes get passed.
Clockwise or counter-clockwise around the table?
Just sitting here shaking my head
on this, you said it ridiculous and especially for the parents who pay for this. Shame on them all. And people are wondering what is happening with the kids now.
wow, just sitting there waiting to pounce, are you?
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Wannie, they are probably sitting on their fat behinds
right now not offering much to society, as much as they would like to think they are special. They can look down their noses at those who have had to ask for assistance and say what they will because they have sad, pitiful lives and only feel superior lambasting others (I guarantee one of them is looking up the word lambasting right now?). Be prepared for some snappy, snarky comment from one of them. They are unhappy with themselves which is why they must degrade others. You have done nothing to warrant their scorn.
tis bilateral swelling from sitting. sm
When I put my feet up when I go to bed the swelling goes away. I am wondering if the TED hose really work, etc. etc. They both get pretty tight around the calf when this happens. I do worry that it might progress to a DVT so I try to move around as much as possible.
So cute! I'm going to be puppy sitting sm
a pug this coming week. Her name is Sadie, and she is 6 months old. She is SOOO cute. I kept her for a couple of days last week to make sure she would get along with my dogs okay, which she did after they got used to each other. She is my first experience with a Pug, and I really think she's adorable.
you need to keep your butt muscles tight while sitting
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I agree...just a bunch of yentas sitting around...
without much to say...I tend to think their main audience is the stay at home mom or others who most likely only get their news from them, don't seek out other sources. Whoppi Goldberg is Rosie only she is smart enough to research what she talks about.
I have 2 kitties too who love sitting under the tree. However,
my question is: Where did you find the Wii????? LOL
Anyone else get low back pain from sitting at the computer all day. Any
suggestions to help this.
Intense pain, especially sitting & pooping.
Added stool softeners for more comfort, changed diet to change the constipation. Try "Hemor-Rid" (spelling?) in the pink tube. Soothing, helps shrink them, and doesn't stink, like Prep-H does!
Hope U feel better soon!
My cat chewed through the cord on mine while sitting on my lap LOL
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Hayseed..you crack me up.. I needed that. I was sitting here on the verge of tears..depressed..and
you made me laugh. Sadly, even her dad couldn't save her though. She lived with him but he was on the verge of a heart attack ( I feel his pain). He said he tried to avoid going home because he would get heart palpitations which I now recognize as anxiety that I also get around her. He just couldn't deal with it anymore. She drives everyone away and that hurts me too but yeah I keep thinking the only way I'll ever get away from her is enroll in a witness protection program..and of course, I feel guilty for wanting to get away from her.
What's the difference between talking on cell and talking to person sitting across from you?
You should be ignoring people at other tables and MYOB.
when I roll in the driveway I see my dog sitting there staring out, waiting, waiting, and (sm)
When he sees me he yawns and stretches, then puts on this act of being all bored and sits on his tail so I cannot see it wagging... like he was not eagerly waiting for me the whole time and seeing me is no big deal. Every single time. If I have someone with me I'll say, "watch what Walter does..." and he does this every time. Oh, by the way, don't feel bad for this guy for having to wait for me once in while, he has the life of a king.
New baby on the way.
Congratulations!!!!!! Hope you have a beautiful, healthy baby. I lost my first baby and it was 4 years before I tried again. I also think about the baby I lost, I don't think that ever goes away. I am proud to have two girls now to enjoy. Take pleasure in each moment. Enjoy!
I just want him to baby me
I am a female have been married to my husband for a year and 7 months, (no kids yet) and ever since I have been married I feel like I am babying him. I am more affectionate to him, I always want to cuddle with him, always worried about him and feel like I don't want to lose him. we have a great relationship open and honost. But sometimes I want him to run after me, to show me affection, to take care of me to feel like he is scared to lose me. I want him to tell me that I wanna go out with you with out any friends just the both of us, I just want him to baby me like I baby him. what do I do? trust me I have tried talking to him, but you see I don't want to tell him these things I want him to do it on his own. I go to school 2 times a week in the evenings and I always have to beg him to pick me up from school, I want him to tell me that he wants to pick me up. how do I go about? please help.
The baby's name is
Dannylynn Hope Marshall Stern. I think the move to Bahamas was Stern's idea and I think he is sly like a fox, i.e. the main players mother and son out of the way and now the baby who he is laying claim to with the name of Marshall in there (deceased husband's name). If you are the real father, you would demand to have paternity testing- we all know this is something he has tried (unsuccessfully thank goodness) to stop. The courts supposedly giving DNA results this past Tuesday but nothing yet. It would be a big shocker if the husband who died (Marshall) turned out to be the really father, wouldn't it? Can we say invitro?
My baby Fox isn't doing well.
He hasn't felt well for several days, but it seemed that every time we decided okay, we definitely need to take him to the vet, he would improve a little.
But today my son was getting ready to leave the house and Fox usually runs after him, barking, to try to get him not to leave. Fox started barking, but he couldn't get up. He was on the carpet, not the wood or the tile. He just could not get up.
So I took him to the vet and she examined him. He has arthritis in both his knees because of the surgery he had when he was younger (for patellar luxation). We found out a few months ago that his right shoulder is luxating in the same way that his kneecaps did.
Now his left shoulder is also luxating.
He's such a little stoic it is hard to tell exactly how much pain he is in. The vet gave him a prescription for a fentanyl patch. My husband should be home in a few minutes so he can help me put the patch on. The vet shaved a place on his back for it but she said to hold it in place for 2-3 minutes so that it adheres properly.
The vet said the pain reliever might make him feel so much better that he would be running and jumping around and injuring himself worse. If he feels well, the only way we can keep him from running around is to crate him.
I don't know what to do. I don't want him to hurt. I don't want to shut him up in a crate. He would go nuts - he is used to being very active.
I don't want to keep him alive and miserable for my own selfish reasons - that I can't bear to part with him. But I also don't want to decide too soon that his quality of life is unacceptable.
I don't know what to do.
Baby sm
First of all, congratulations! You are about to experience the greatest gift on earth. I was not heavy but had a friend who was. Mind you, this was way back, as I am older, but I was surprised that she actually went on a very healthy diet which was good for the baby, and actually lost a few pounds. Check with your docs, but perhaps this will be a great incentive for you. Be positive, it will all be good! Best of everything to you and your baby.
Baby's bpm.
Hello. I just had my first real appointment at 12 weeks today and the doctor, i believe, told me the heart rate was 114. I've been trying to do some research on this but the more time i spend on the computer the more worried i'm getting. I've been reading a lot of women saying they lost their babies. The rate was much lower and around 5-6 weeks but i'm still scared. If anybody has info. about this or knows a thing or two i'd really appreciate it until i can call the doctor tomorrow. Thanks so much. =)
My baby
Buster is unfortunately not a puppy anymore. He will be 14 in January. He has some arthritis in his back legs and has what we think are TIAs occasionally, but he still runs and plays like a puppy when he gets a new toy.
Maybe you could rig that baby to
heat the house! 
Baby? lol
He looks like a big baby! lol How cute, looks like he poses for pictures often. I would definitely have that one in a frame with that beautiful smile! :)
Sorry about your baby...
Losing a pet is like losing a member of the family. We lost our beloved 9-year-old black lab 4 years ago, the week of Christmas. I had to take him to the vet because out of the blue he had an episode, that he just lied there and wouldn't respond. I thought he was dead then. He came to and I took him to the vet. She couldn't find anything wrong with him, took some blood for testing. He died the next day. It broke all of our hearts and when I saw my husband cry (I had never seen him cry before in 13 years of being together), it made the hurt that much worse.
Hopefully someone will come up with 8 baby
te
baby
Congrats!!
If your income isnt too much you can always get medicaid and wic (not health insurance but helps out with food and formula)
right age for a baby?
For those of you who are planning to have kids, what is the "right" age to conceive? Of course everybody will have a different right time, but I'm just curious about other people's time lines.
What about Sun-In (to go along with the baby oil)...
and, more importantly, drive-in theaters - my boyfriend and I used to go to the drive-in almost every weekend in the late 70s/early 80s!! I wish they would bring the drive-in back.
some relief for your baby...
Try hemorrhoid cream to the blisters...I swear it will significantly decrease the itching. My daughter was around 4 when she got the chicken pox and I put Preparation-H on her blisters and kept it on them and she barely noticed them. Please try this, it honestly will help! Good Luck...and BTW, sounds like the doctor isn't the only one that is a jerk!!!  ---to your "husband"...
Poor baby!
I hope you can figure out what's going on with her.
A note on my baby
I left a message on the board about how my babies F/L was measured short and the doctor told me the baby probably had down syndrome. Well, I went to see a specialist who was very upset with the previous doctor and he did a level II ultrasound and my baby is perfect and normal. They do not measure the F/L for down syndrome. They measure the humerus bone. Anyway to make a long story short-----thanks to all who responded !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Oh and the baby has very long legs......
2 is NOT a baby! It's a toddler and IMO too old...
to be breastfeeding! That's disgusting for a child that old and YES I would be offended and grossed out to see a mom breastfeeding a 22 month old! I have absolutely no problem with moms breastfeeding BABIES in public, but not a toddler.
Thanks for that tip on Baby Alive!
I was wondering such! My daughter's birthday is in two weeks, and guess what she's asking for? More food and diapers for Baby Alive! Poor Baby Alive, she hasn't been fed since the day after Christmas! She'll be so happy when birthday time comes!
Baby Alive
You bet!!! My 5-year-old loves Baby Alive. We are on our second extra package of food (10 pack). The cost of diapers was getting crazy so I gave it a shot. You have to adjust the pretty tightly but $7.00 for 40 diapers is so much better than $4.88 for 6! I am wondering if you can used baking soda and water for food? Good Luck!
My Mom got my Baby Alive from
a yard sale, but I loved her anyway! I could only play with her in the backyard on the picnic table, or maybe I just chose to do so??? lol Anyhow, we had great times and I'll never forget her, ever! 
Baby Alive
Me too! I will be 40 next September. Wonder what became of my original?
I'm not going to breastfeed my baby...sm
by choice. I want my husband, other kids and family members to share in the joy of bonding with the baby by bottle feeding at times and have no desire to be pumping my breasts. Our pediatrician leaves it up to the mother to decide whether or not to breastfeed, which is the way it should be. I've known plenty of kids who were bottle fed that turned out just fine.
Anna's Baby
Yes! Yes! Yes! The baby should be with the real father now.
TrimSpa Baby!!
Great for the heart...
the baby did ask to be born
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I think the baby looks like the guy they showed her
the nice-looking dark-skinned man in the hat and glasses. They showed a glipse of them hugging. I think the baby looks like him. She has really curly hair and an olive complexion. JMO.
Baby daddy is by DNA
Larry is the father
Thinking exactly the same that the baby
might be getting, according to the older child, more attention than he is at the present time. I could understand him doing something like this for attention getting. Hope this works out ok for you.
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