alcoholics have personality changes; talk to AA group
Posted By: get info on it. n/m on 2007-12-30
In Reply to: Would he still act like this even when sober? (sm) - OP
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Not alcoholics
however, we are happily married AND met in a bar. :) Ok, so sometimes..... the kids drive us to drink, does that count! haha :) Many years and four kids later, I am proud of everything that makes my husband and me who we are. But, I do know what you are saying, and we may be the exception. Best of luck to you.
Hey, we are not alcoholics either, but
met in a local pub, introduced by mutual friends. We are not married (both been there and done that) but we have been together for almost 9-1/2 years.
no one changes their personality..
wake up now before its too late. I'm just a few years older than you and I'm glad I didn't settle for something less than what I expected. Sure you have to think of your children and that is 1 more reason not to put up with crap. Best of luck to you though.
pit personality
You know when my male pit that is inside turned a year and a half old he got real protective over us & VERY dog aggressive. There is no doubt in my mind he wouldn't kill another dog because he is just a completely different dog when he sees a strange dog he doesn't know. BUT there is no way he would turn that aggression towards us. AND I knew he was going to more than likely be that way because he has Boudreaux bloodline & his mother was aggressive. But that didn't keep me from falling in love with him or owning him. I just have to be careful that he doesn't come in contact with another dog. He has a fenced in yard and if another dog approaches the fence I give him his command to come inside & he does so. All too often this type aggression that some pits can display gets mistaken for people aggression, but these are two totally different things.
personality/alcohol
Both, I think. Alcohol makes personality traits creep out from under the woodwork. Surly, sarcastic, belittling, called me four letter words in front of the kids. Yes, I consider the way he talks to you to be abuse, especially if this is how he talks to you most of the time. Of course, everything was my fault. An alcoholic does no wrong. It is never their fault, even when they are down to their last dime with no family left. My children were 14 and 16. However, they did not go with me. He had brainwashed them into thinking that he was the only one who could provide for them, that I could only work for minimus wage and that they would have nothing without him. I stayed in the same town, we had joint custody, he had residential. He has since died and my kids and I are fine.
No. It's a personality type to try to fix
things. A fixer (a male trait that some women have) doesn't realize it when a person is just asking for sympathy, not actual help. They think that by coming up with a practical solution, in this case, an honest way for you to make some cash and everybody to enjoy a little pampering for a small price, she has helped solve your problem. She has no idea this would be offensive and hurtful to you. If you complain she will be shocked because she honestly thought you were asking for help.
I had to figure this out because I have this trait and it's really hard for me to tell if somebody wants help or just a pity party.
Pitbulls personality
I totally sympathize with you. Sorry for you having to go through this. I really try to urge people when they get a pitbull to really get to know the mom/dad personalities & the breeder. Like I said in an earlier post my male pitbull that is inside is VERY dog aggressive BUT on the flip side he is the most gentle loving dog I have ever owned. He just doesn't like other animals, ESPECIALLY dogs. We have a fenced in yard though. If he come in contact with an unfamiliar dog he would definitely be in kill mode with his aggression. BUT I knew what I was getting myself into cuz he is Boudreaux bloodline & his mother was aggressive. His father was an absolute sweetheart to anything. I knew that aggression would probably surface up in my dog & it did at a year and a half old, but I wouldn't ever trade him up for anything in this world. He wouldn't dare turn on us, and I know that animal or dog aggression is not people aggression. I do have a great respect for what could happen if I let it happen, but I am responsible enough to know what my dogs like & don't like & I never have a problem out of them. They are definitely a vital part of our family & we love them dearly.
she may have a passive personality, is all.
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My hormones rule my personality
and I'm tired of it also. I have many problems with ovarian cysts, etc. I believe if you have problems like these, it is worse. I never know what kind of mood I'll be in, and neither does anyone else :) One minute I can be laughing and the next I'll be screaming in anger. There are a lot of natural things out there they say help, I have not tried any but may do that soon. Here's just one article I found....
http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/womenshealth/a/PMS.htm
Personality wise? I am probably most like Blanche! LOL
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Sounds like a personality disorder
to me. Perhaps Borderline Personality Disorder, or personality disorder NOS. Maybe, though, it is hormonal. An abundance in testosterone CAN cause aggressive behavior, mood fluctuations, etc.
I hope you get to the root of the problem. But, the main thing that concerns me is his unwillingness to be evaluated or even admit that there may be a problem. This is what leads me to believe it's a personality disorder (borderline). People afflicted with this and anti-social personality disorder often do not admit that anything is off keel with themselves. Rather, it's alway's *someone else's* problem/matter/issue.
Good luck to you. I'll be thinking of you. Please keep us posted. The erratic behavior is really concerning.
twins nor triplets would be born at same minute. must be split personality, LOL! nm
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Food Network TV personality...host of Good Eats.
 Great show...he blends science with food. It's perfect for those of us with attention-span-holding issues!
Did ya ever just wanna talk about nuthin' just to talk?
As I said before in another post, I miss everyone so much...
So, I have absolutely NOTHING to talk about. Love my new job, love that spring is on the way, and I love that my belly is absolutely filled up with pancakes my husband kindly made for me just now...even though it's lunchtime and not breakfast. I'm one of those freaks that could eat breakfast-type foods at every meal.
...and that reminds me that it's almost that time of year to order some baby chicks for next month. Laying hens, not for meat or anything, just eggs and entertainment. I can't wait for warm weather--it's been a long HARSH winter this year. In fact, I think we're due for another ice storm at the end of the week.
I hope everyone who stops by to read my note about nothing finds themselves and their families in good health. Miss you all, even the ones that can't stand seeing that "Hayseed" name up there.
Go try it, talk, talk and listen sm
Counselors are trained to "listen" and direct you to talk (not them). I have transcribed many, many mental health reports. They do dig deep and keep it going for a very long time, very long, usually (perhaps not for you). But if you both don't tell the truth, you are wasting your money, so why not just get it all out on the table and get it over with and get on with your lives? Don't pussy foot around, get it all out and deal with it. Gosh, life is too short to put on a show, it's not a dress rehearsal, it's life. Go forward, forgive, forget and forge ahead. Don't need a degree for that!! But a little help can't hurt. Might help.
Group singing
I think the group songs have been much better this year than previous years I've watched. Mostly their voices blend well and pitch has been good.
Didn't Chris sing well during his solos in the group songs? I think it was just fierce competition/tough schedule that dis him in. Either that or he just wanted to go home.
The name of the group is Heartland -
I just looked up the words to see if I could find them - I did - I cried again.
Hope they are a better group than this
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Maybe a cat or dog rescue group needs help. - nm
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Choosing a group
You can pick a charity by clicking on the "Add a Charity" button at the bottom of the page. On the next page, on the left side, is a box for the not-for-profits groups. If you click that you will see all the groups listed.
Or you can just type in "Pet Rescue By Judy" and use that one, LOL!
Once you have selected your group you can check how much your are helping by clicking on the "amount raised" button.
Can you imagine how much MTs can help with all the searching we do! We have the power you guys! Don't forget to shop through this site also! You can shop for Target, ebay and many others. Just click on the shop through GoodSearch and shop as usual. It really helps! You can make GoodSearch your home page too and see just how much you can help!
Thanks for all the great responses! May God bless you with many, many lines, easy reports and no ESLs this week!
Pat
Is this the same group against Gays?
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Youth Group Name
My DH is a youth pastor, our Youth Group at the beach was called WAVES, which stood for Worship Active Voices Exclaiming Salvation. We moved up to the mtns of our state, and he had coined the name for our Youth Group as EXCITE, which stands for Exalting Christ in Today's Environment!!. We are still looking for a home church since we moved in Jan 2007. My DH is getting very disheartened... Good luck to your Youth Group. Oh, by the way, if you live anywhere close to Myrtle Beach, SC then consider taking your youth next year to the Big God Conference on New Year's eve/day. It is AWESOME!!
Wonder what a group of men would be saying about women?
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Please don't group everyone under the assumption
that our jobs are unfulfilling. I enjoy my work and am very happy with my accounts.
Oh, and I think anyone can start a group there.
You can start an MTStars group most likely. It will advertise MTStars as an MT forum and then if people use monikers, they can say who they are, or they can just be a part of the Facebook MTStars group. I am not sure if MTStars would mind or not, so maybe we should ask the admin, but I would think the would want posters to draw their friends here. JMO. I don't want to step on any toes though. It is networking and I learn a lot from Stars.
So, Yeah, Thanks for being here MTStars...
I feel bad for the 1st group. There were
several more of them that would have made the top 12 if they have been included in this group rather than their own.
If it is the group I heard about on the news...
They are an extremely disturbed church group who protest at the funerals of soldiers who died in Iraq, but get this, not against the war, but against gay people. Nutty right? They protest and yell that the soldiers are dying because God is punishing America for being too accepting of gay people. Very sick. They do this at soldiers' funerals throughout the nation, regardless of if the dead soldier is straight or gay.
I get a knot in my throat whenever I think about those poor grieving families, but Harley Davidson riders around the country have come together to form a solid line of riders between the families and the protestors.
A recently used solution against this group
was applied by Hells Angels. No joke.
The Hells Angels motorcycle group was nearby where a protest was being held and they showed up! Ran off every single one of the Westboro derelicts.
First time I've ever been in favor of Hells Angels.
Don't group all girls in that same generalization.
It is not fair. My DD as well as my nieces are all really good girls. I am not fooling myself. One niece is getting ready to leave for Liberty College becuase she wanted to attend a christian college. None of the girls dress unappropriately. They are all very good students and all but one are active in youth groups. The one that isn't has a job so that she can help out with her soon to be large college bill. Not all girls are out hunting down guys.
Oh, forgot to say females that are in a group
seem to have their periods synchronized. Just think, if all these girls got theirs at the same time, no pool for a week? Oh, I forgot, get an excuse.
I think you do want to join you're just to shy to say so - group hug? nm
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There is one from the 10 Minute Solutions group.
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I agree totally. This group could not
compare to the first. There is only 1 more group left. I personally liked Allison (the redhead), and Kris (the guy after her), and Adam. He has been 1 of my favorites from the beginning. I also wanted to like Kai and was disappointed with his performance.
Agree with last night's group
I wasn't wowed by anyone last night really. Obviously Lil was good, and I actually did like the one girl who had been brought back... can't remember her name. I didn't think any of the guys were that great. That kid who did That's Why They Call It The Blues... that was embarassing. I find it surprising that they passed up other people for some of them that they have in the 36. Anyone, I thought week 1 was much better and even thought last week was better than this group. As far as the format, I don't like it all that much either. However, I do remember that my Clay, still my favorite then and forever (lol), ended up on the show as a wildcard.
The "Harley Group" people speak of here
Are actually the Patriot Guard Riders
http://www.patriotguard.org/
They are made up of anyone who wants to join. You don't have to ride, you can go on foot or by car.
My husband and I are riders and are really proud of all the fine people in the Patriot Guard.
They usually don't go though, unless the family requests/consents, because they don't want to cause additional grief. Instructions are to not engage troublemakers, and shield the families as much as possible.
Thank God for Patriot Guard riders!
Just got a foster dog from a local rescue group
Very sweet, but has a bad cough that's been going on for over a week. I've been asking the rescue group if I can take him in to the vet, but they keep saying no. I don't have a job, so I don't have the money to do it myself (I do have the time). I'm certain the rescue group is concerned about money, but this seems unfair to me and the dog. For all I know he could have any number of things wrong. They are telling me it's a cold, and to just wait until he's better before he goes in to be neutered.
What's the right thing to do? What should I tell the group's organizer?
Suggestions?
Thanks.
They are a largely Hispanic group though. My brother
was homeless at one point and got woken up with one chopping him up with a machete, their signature weapon. They are an extremely dangerous gang. We moved way out to get as far as we could from that stuff in a great part of town and I am seeing tags already from them.
Somehow my brother lived. He even managed to keep his arm they almost chopped off. We think it was part of an initiation.
Is there a grief support group in your town?
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she is restricting him from this group; he is rebelling for this reason.
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Right - he IS a minority in the group of kids he is around on a reg. basis (nm)
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I like it and I'm old. Reminds me of late 60's girl group
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It's not like this is a support group. It's a chat board. nm
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All very funny and cute! What a creative group of mom's!
My son wants to be a french fry this year. I had it down and was ready to make a great costume until he clarified to me that it was 1 single crinkle cut fry...now I'm lost. I'm going to the fabric/hobby store today to get ideas. I don't know how anyone is going to know what he is! lol
Ideas for Youth Group Names
I'm teaching a small youth group at our church and I'm trying to come up with a good name for them besides "(Insert church names here) Youth Group". Also, our Baptist Association has an association-wide youth group and I'm trying to come up with some ideas for them too.
(I know this is church-related but I was hoping I'd get more ideas if I put it on the Gab Board)
TIA!!
I was disappointed in the group last night basically
No one really grabbed me like I would like them to. Adam was okay but I am just not into him as well. The group overall had none of the zing felt with the first group. Oh, well, I think there is a brand new group next week, isn't that so and how many more groups are there?
My daughter started group counseling sm
She meets with the school psychologist once a week and other kids from her grade who all have coping issues, and they work on their social skills. She is 9. Maybe your school has a similar program? Or maybe some internet research would turn up some group counseling in your area.
Good luck to you and your son!
An orthopedic surgeon told our group at a lecture sm
that it is not harmful to crack knuckles, etc., as it is just joint gas making a pocket that causes that noise. So crack away and enjoy!!
Sounds good to me. I am going to get in that car and go or go with a travel group. Life is too
short to wait around on other people for whatever. Probably plenty of people to talk to. I just got out of the habit of going alone actually and it is time to get back into it. Sometimes I agree you go with people and spend more time worrying if they like where you wanted to go than doing what you want. Yep I am going to go for it.
we can make a quiet knowledge group effort to eliminate him
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Small group family/friends out for bowling and pizza
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I agree...I think most of us in this age group don't find sewing a basic skill...
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