alcohol makes her nuts, along with millions of other people.
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At 90 it is dementia which makes people - sm
do stuff they would not normally do. Did your dad have a history of being a dirty old man? I have heard many a story about men who start acting totally inappropriately when dementia sets in, kissing, grabbing, swearing, talking dirty, etc, that is/was totally out of character for them. I hope in your case that is all it was.
What makes some people forgive so easily and others not so easy? sm
The reason I ask is that I am in a very unique situation. I have a family member (an in law) who basically hates me. She and I have sort of been at it on and off for 8 years. She's a very mean person, very judgmental, hates everybody. I mean, seriously. It's bad. She rubbed off on me for too long. We were friends! I used to point and make fun at others ONLY when around her. When I finally caught on that she was not a very good influence and that I was so easily pursuaded by her meanness towards other people (backstabbing, etc), I began to keep my distance. And she caught on. Now she hates me. For no reason, really, other than I don't call her anymore, don't hang out with her anymore. And here lately she has been doing evil things to me like returning cards I've sent to her family with a giant "return to sender" on the envelope, getting her sister against me (I mean, come on, how old are we??), etc. She will be at my mother in law's for the holidays with her kids and I am cringing inside. In fact, just today, I received a nasty email from her when I got home saying some pretty mean things, calling me crazy, insane, etc. which I know I'm not, but it hurts anyways to hear stuff like that. She has a very hard time forgiving people, I've seen it over and over in her life, and now it has come to the fact that I need her to forgive me in order for ME to have peace in my life. It's just the kind of person that I am. I am totally willing to look past all the mean things she's done and said the past year and try to move forward positively!
So, fast forward. I've written her an email basically BEGGING for her forgiveness and saying I'm sorry for whatever I've done to hurt you (I know I've hurt her by not wanting to be around her,etc), and told her it wasn't good for us to be on the outs like this. I am pretty sensitive (if you can't tell already), and I really, really, really wish she could get past all of this and just forgive. We all need a little forgiveness, don't we?? What do you think? Why is it that some are so easily forgiven and others will go to their grave filled with HATE? I don't understand it one bit.
I'm not saying I'm any better than she is. I know I'm not. I just don't have an evil vein in my body to not forgive people and I HATE when others talk about others behind their backs. It's mean. I grew up around that stuff and once I reached adulthood and realized that I didn't need to talk about others to make myself feel better, I hated being around it. Give me some advice. Should I send the letter?
Please help me. Would you send it? She obviously needs love. What would you do? Would you just tell her to forget it and move on or would you be like her and hate back? 
Differences in people is what makes the world go round. There's no cut and dried anything anymore
department store, where there is no food being served, and her "baby" isn't being a problem, then you shouldn't have the BIG problem with it that you obviously have. I know my dog is a dog, but I have trained her to be quite well behaved, so I don't have a problem taking her around. Only you are the one who is taking this whole thing as rude. I take my dog into the mall all the time and it's no big deal. I'm not being rude or discourteous to anyone and I mind my own business. It really sounds like you need to do the same. Live and let live.
Here's a question that may help millions! (sm)
I am looking for a new haircut. I have fine, thin hair, brunette, longer than shoulder length and in long layers. I have a semi-round, semi-heart-shaped face. I have had this haircut for 10+ years. I need something new and want any device for all those who know what I'm talkin' about!
No, you are wrong. There are millions
upon millions who are against it, but not afraid of it.
Homophobia is the wrong word.
millions called their cable/tv companies...
Well, the former welfare recipient has her millions now & feels
regardless if it adversely affects children. She knows full well that her books are read by children. Since she has opted to make such a poor decision, I am opting to make a good decision and no longer purchase her books, watch her movies, or buy any products related to her books as she gets a cut on everything. It's one thing to have a personal opinion about homosexuality, but she didn't have to publicly link it to a character in her books.
Fabric softener makes towels softer, yes, but it also makes them less absorbent. sm
Which is, after all, the function of a towel, absorbency. :-)
um, what about deceased hubby family and $millions she was fighting for?
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what about dead hubby's millions, fighting her stepson for
she's been fighting to get millions from her dead hubby estate, fighting the son-in-law. Howard is her attorney for that, which has been going on for years. That family has motive.
And yet there are thousands (probably millions) starving to death in America.....nm
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She's a very spoiled little girl, who is going to inherit millions from the Hilton Hotel fortune
and from her father's real estate fortune. She basically jumped into the limelight when her little personal homemade sex video was leaked out. She is described as a "socialite, actress, and singer." She likes to party hard and doesn't want to pay or take any responsibility for her own irresponsible actions, such as driving with a suspended license, DUI, you get the picture.
Are you NUTS?
"Weddings are very expensive. Mine was over 10000 a while back and if all 60 or so couples brought me a "gift" I would have been VERY upset. Sorry but it's true. "
Whoa. I got heart palpitations with that one. You spend what you, or whoever is paying, can afford, you do not expect your guests to help defray the cost of your wedding choices. You can HOPE that may be the case, but to expect it and be upset if the guests didn't fork over enough $$ is pretty shallow and has nothing to do with the whole reason everyone is there. Champagne taste on a beer budget is not your guests problem. A gift is a GIFT. It is not an expectation, nor is it an obligation. It is something given out of desire.
Weddings for so many are all about the 4-hour event, the dress, the music, the decorations, the venue, blah, blah, blah. Anyone remember WHY you are having that event? You invite your guests to share in your joy, not to write a check out to pay off the caterer.
Think about what the guest went through to be there for you on your special day. A new outfit, maybe a babysitter/petsitter, forgoing all other plans, maybe losing a day's pay, the drive there, all for you. Then you expect them to fork over a minimum of $25. Their presence should be more appreciated than their presents, for that is worth more than any dollar amount.
"I think most people who bring gifts are the ones who don't want to spend much or don't want people to know what they spent but that's just my opinion."
I can't even respond to that 'cause I'm trying to ward off the impending stroke.
100% against. Against alcohol, anyway. lol
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This looks a lot like it - except it did not have nuts. TY!!!
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I would tell MIL that she is nuts for doing that - sm
I have done quite a few ER reports on people who have been in accidents on ATV's, plus my mom had a friend whose son (16)was killed on one (on his birthday, he'd just gotten it). My DH keeps trying to get us one, I keep saying no way. I don't have a problem with a go-kart as it is low to the ground and would have a rollcage. But taking a 9-month old baby on that shows a serious lack of common sense. Does she take the baby in the car w/o a car seat? ( Mine would have if I had ever even let them have my kids, but they have no commom sense either hence I only ever have allowed supervised "visits" with them). Your job is to protect your children, if she was ever hurt because you allowed this to keep going on you would never forgive yourself. Put your foot down now before something bad happens. As for having someone watch her while you cut the grass, hello, why cannot your husband cut the grass??? Or if you MIL is so deperate to ride something, have her come over and cut the grass and put her on the tractor. So between the stupidity of her taking a baby on an ATV and the obvious damage to the baby's hearing which will be permanent-- I'd tell her to cut it out now and if you find out she is still doing it anyway, no more leaving her with grandma, plain and simple.
Alcohol......
I personally don't drink with every meal but I do have wine now and then. A girlfriend of mine and her husband have a glass or two of wine just about every night with dinner and have for years, but I wouldn't say they have a problem.
I suppose you need to ask yourself if you didn't have it, would it stay on your mind until you had it.??
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I think 1-2 drinks a day is absolutely fine. It is relaxing, and I usually do the same. My mom has done it for years, has a glass of wine at lunch and 1 or 2 in the evening and she is well into her 80s and in perfect health! Enjoy yourself and ignore your roommate.
She is nuts...sm
If I had just had 8 babies and had an offer for professional nursing care 24 hours a day I would be like "What time can you be here?" How in the he!! does she think she is going to take care of them? I think the state needs to step in here and do something.
10k is nuts
Someone is taking you for a ride. You could get 1 from either of these and easily get a decent sale price for it private party.
http://www.used-auto-engines.com/usedenginesales/land_rover-store.html
OR
http://www.everdrive.com
For those who suggested alcohol..sm
alcohol is a stimulant and will have just the opposite effect. Melatonin helps, but I don't like its after effects, and it does have some. I recently came across a native american remedy called Cloud Walking Tea. It is a tea and it works. I sleep peacefully with no after effects.
Alcohol is NOT a stimulant, but
it is very short-acting for people with a normal liver, so it helps many people fall asleep, but then they wake up again after a few hours.
I said that about the liver because I have read there are some people whose livers don't work right and really can't handle any alcohol. That's kind of scary because people don't find out until their liver is destroyed, apparently.
any golf nuts out there?
Caught the golf bug about a year ago and watch almost every tournament on TV. Am going to the Open next month. Sooo excited, have never been to a tournament before and am so looking forward to seeing all my favorite players. Anybody have experience at a tournament, any tips? Thanks.
wonder if it gets the complimentary bag of nuts, too. lol
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*Alcohol* is the key word here - sm
and reeking of it is definitely a red flag. How would they get to the lake? By car? Alcohol and cars = trouble. Also, alcohol and water are a bad combination as well. If you're still on the fence about it, you could call the friend's mother and ask if the father is going or not. Chances are she's heard this question before..........
No, I mean no alcohol period. nm
Against lowering and against alcohol
I have a BIL who is an alcoholic. I have seen first hand what it can do to kids and the family as a whole, hate the stuff!!!!!!!!
you don't know that for sure. He says he thinks he's an alcohol.
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Or could he be using alcohol as excuse without
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personality/alcohol
Both, I think. Alcohol makes personality traits creep out from under the woodwork. Surly, sarcastic, belittling, called me four letter words in front of the kids. Yes, I consider the way he talks to you to be abuse, especially if this is how he talks to you most of the time. Of course, everything was my fault. An alcoholic does no wrong. It is never their fault, even when they are down to their last dime with no family left. My children were 14 and 16. However, they did not go with me. He had brainwashed them into thinking that he was the only one who could provide for them, that I could only work for minimus wage and that they would have nothing without him. I stayed in the same town, we had joint custody, he had residential. He has since died and my kids and I are fine.
I don't think your nuts. In fact...
I just noticed my back STOPPED itching. I had an itchy back for the longest time...always rubbing against doorways like a crazed grizzly bear rubbing on a tree trunk, using a coat hanger to scratch myself, bathroom towel, you name it.
I think what was causing my problem was my chair! Whatever the fabric was on it was causing my back to get really heated and probably caused it to sweat and caused the itchies. I have a new chair and it just dawned onto me that I don't itch anymore! Well, I mean aside from the usual wintertime dryness, but nothing like before.
Anyway, it's just a thought. By the way, I'm jealous that you have Valium. Always wanted to try the stuff but no one likes to prescribe it anymore it seems. I just down some cheap wine instead. Works just as well I guess.
Hope you get some relief soon!
what about alcohol? that's legal
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I know it is nuts but true
Plus, that includes labor, not just the price of the engine.
No you are not nuts, just what iffing yourself - sm
and you know most people your age are out at the bars on the weekend, hanging out with friends, meeting new guys, etc. Part of the reason I have told my kids to wait until they are at least 25 to get married. Sounds like you have a good life though, don't blow it thinking something better is out there. Maybe you can have a girl's night out once a week or twice a month or whatever to break up your routine. Sounds like you are afraid of getting into a rut. I have been married for 13 years now and see how our marriage has evolved from being on our own to two years, then having two kids, and the changes the years have brought to our lives. I don't do nearly as much as I did when the kids were little because I work more now, which I need to change. I go out with friends when I visit my family, it is my only time I get out without my DH, though my neighbor and I have been discussing going out, we still haven't, need to do it and say to the guys, we are going out, see you later! You are just a little restless and bored, and there is much you can do without compromising your marriage over it, get some new interests, do something new with your DH, do the girl's night out every now and then, try bowling, whatever. ---I have an ex-boyfriend whose wife (who had been my best friend until she started dating my ex--her choice not mine) decided after being married 4 months that she was not ready for marriage (after two years of dating and living together). He cried on my shoulder about what happened, she wanted to party every weekend (and did with her friends leaving him home alone), he was more of a homebody. They were both 23 at the time. So they were divorced after a 4-month marriage. After that he always wanted me to meet his serious girlfriends. Happy to say he is happily married to a girl who kind of looks like me though 10 years younger (she did not like that when she met me, has not been friendly to me since then-- doesn't understand I never wanted him "back") and has twins with her. He is in CA now so I have not seen him in a while but glad he found happiness. Believe me you don't want to toss your marriage due to restlessness and apparently a 2 year itch.
or drugs combined w/alcohol
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Poor kid; two nuts for parents :(
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Ice cream with any kinds of nuts in it
Black walnut, butter pecan, chocolate almond. My mouth is watering.
Mine is exactly the same way, drives me nuts- sm
He does not understand why I can't keep a picture perfect house. He was raised by a neat freak so he thinks I should keep the house like his mom, immaculate. Not. We are not living in squalor by any means, but it can get messy quick with 2 kids and 2 dogs. Apparently no one but me knows to take dirty dishes to the sink, etc. Granted the house does need an overall/good cleaning/organizing, but help in not making it any worse would be appreciated. The kids help some and are slowly getting better, but there is still a lot I have to do myself and just don't have the time to do. Seriously thinking of hiring a housekeeper/cleaning service for either twice monthly or weekly cleaning. I still need to declutter but that would make my life a lot easier. Maybe you could do the same and hire someone to clean twice a month. I just wish I could take off for 2 weeks and get done around here what needs doing. I will probably take a week off of one job after school starts up again which will leave my days basically clear so maybe, just maybe I can get a few things done around here that need doing!
OMG!!! Does he supply them with drugs and alcohol
so they will be doing that in the safety of their home as well?
I am floored by that reasoning. Its as if there is no hope of teaching a child to make smart choices so might as well have them do it in front of you. What on earth is that teaching them?? I'm sorry but you do not need to be a parent to see how completely asinine that is.
By the way, you should ask him if his home is "safe" enough to preclude AIDS and other STDs, pregnancy, etc. Maybe he thinks there is some soft of "force field" protecting her there. Egads.
Nuts..wouldn''t open for me. nm
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oh yeah, that too...alcohol....*lol*. forgot...sm
And I usually NEVER have air in my brain *ROFL*....thanks for the laugh!! 
Yeah, only the nuts go that early; I get up about 8 and go then - sm
my neighbor is going at 4, I told her she was nuts. I don't go to get anything specific though, I just go for fun. I am pretty much done shopping already for the kids, just need stocking stuffers and a few gift cards and I will be totally done. Most of the early bird sales last until noon or 1 p.m. so why kill yourself.
Or you can drink alcohol at home : )
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Abstinence of ALL alcohol is the trick !!!
This method will allow you to know what you are doing at ALL times and prevent taking the life of another individual. Easy on your organs, too. Good example for your children . . . and on and on and on
What?? Sounds completely nuts!
These poor children should be taken out of this crazy situation. Sounds like something out of an x-rated movie with little kids in the middle of something that should be rated M for mature audiences only. I can just imagine what they will have to listen to when they're tucked into their little beds trying to sleep. Where are the grownups in all this? Sorry, but feel sorry for no one but the kids. Who would put up with this nonsense?? Kids deserve better. Get them out of there.
When my now 20 yo DD told me about her drugs and alcohol sm
I asked that she wait until she was out of high school to have sex, because it carries big consequences and she needed to be ready for that. For that she waited for that, but tried marijuana twice and got drunk a couple of times too. I was shocked by my "good girl."
former teenage alcohol user
I don't know if this is too "harsh" for your daughter, but have you thought about showing her the results of drinking and/or driving? I drank A LOT in high school, starting around 15 when my mom got sick and continued daily drinking through graduation and then some. Did my fair share of drinking and driving or riding in cars with drivers who drank, thinking that nothing would ever happen. My sister who was 5 years older than me died from drinking and driving when I was 18, and to "show" me and my teenage cousins the consequences, we went with my uncle to see her car that had not been cleaned after the wreck (nasty, and I still see it to this day which is about 18 years later)...she was in a little 4-door car and fell asleep and drove underneath an 18-wheeler. That sight was burned into my brain and I never forgot what drinking and driving could do, that we weren't invincible.
I did hear of a school that was doing "shock presentations" to students, arranging to have 10 or so students missing from classes for the day, then the other students were told that they were killed in accidents from drinking. While that is a bit extreme, I really think that shock works best on teenagers as I always thought I knew best and that nothing would ever happen.
3-way stops drive me nuts --
we have 1 at the end of our block. When returning home, I am always on the street that doesn't have to stop. Unfortunately, I do have to turn left from that street and for some reason the people across from me, waiting at the stop sign to come straight through, seem to think that they have the right-of-way.
They have a stop sign. I do not. If I don't put on my turn signal, they may think that I'm going to straight and will start through anyway and end up hitting me. If I do put on my turn signal, they think I should have to stop.
It drives me nuts. They may as well make it a 4-way stop.
Waldorf Salad - no nuts! nm
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he sounds immature, and nuts.
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