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Posted By: ks on 2008-02-06
In Reply to: sm - rumors (sm)
Since your husband is already aware of this person and he has warned you that she likes to stir up trouble, do not be so quick to believe her. You said you do not even know her. So, she has no loyalty to you whatsoever and has no reason to tell the truth. I am not saying to blindly believe your husband either, as it seems that he already knew something was up, but you know him better than anyone and you can probably tell if and when he is lying about something, or trying to cover something up. As others have said, keep your eyes open and take notes, but do not be so quick to take the word of a stranger, either, particularly another woman. Why I say this is because I had a good female friend for over 20 years. We were good friends prior to me marrying my second husband. She had known my second husband previously, as well. In other words, we were all in a circle of friends. After he and I got married, she meticulously began pursuing my husband. I had seen her in action with another woman's husband over the course of the 20 years that I knew her, so I knew what to look for. When she began playing these games with MY husband, I knew she was up to no good. Things happened that made my red flags go up and eventually I ended the friendship. If I could not trust her with my husband, then she was no friend. Needless to say, he was not much of a husband either, as six years later, he pursued another woman and that was the end of that. Trust does not come easy, but once it is broken, it is very hard to repair. For now, I would put her comments on the back burner, but also keep aware. He may not be so innocent either, but not trusting him in one little incident could ruin whatever you already have together. There will always be someone trying to take what you have, always. Stay vigilent. Good luck to you. I hope your husband is not trying to deceive you. I well know the pain.
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