adding the excitement back
Posted By: in your marriage on 2007-02-15
In Reply to: Might be exciting now, but future will be grim. SM - cm
I don't have any great advice - I'm no counselor - but, try reading "The Wedding" by Nicholas Sparks if you really want to make your marriage work. It's not great literature by any means, but it's a sweet little story about a man who realizes that his wife isn't in love with him anymore and they've fallen into that roomates routine and what he does for both of them to fall in love again. Falling in love is the exciting part. It's easy to miss that when you've been married a long time.
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Was it Santa? or the excitement
to all the wonderful gifts? I agree with the above poster. I feel it is unnecessary to lie to the children and set them up for such pain. To hear a parent say "I had to tell her the truth" is jarring when she is speaking of her very own child.
I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage."
I can understand how you can get caught up in the excitement (sm)
... those exciting feelings of a new love. I'm sure you have had those same exciting feelings about your husband at some point. Life happens and those feelings tend to dull. You need to put your time and energy into reigniting those feelings with your husband. I really like the teachings and concepts of Willard F. Harley, Ph.D. You can check out his web site at www.marriagebuilders.com. There is a lot of information there that can help you. He has written a great book (among others) "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage." Good Luck!
Have you ever tried adding just a little
color in subtle highlights to thicken up the strands and give you texture? You don't want to change the color so far it dries it out too much, but just enough to giv it some texture. Then let the front grow out and sweep it from a side part across the forhead or straight up and then to the side, in a retro 1920s look. Something to play with. Try a flat iron and get your stylist to show you how to do the whispy flips out in multiple layers. A lot of it is just experiementation and finding out what your hair wants to do that's interesting.
Adding to that.......
Clean up my language.
Stop talking to myself.
Stop talking to the computer.
Quit sleeping at my desk while waiting for jobs on each of my 4 accounts.
Adding to above
or were your brother's children listed as contingent beneficiaries on the policy?
adding to the sentence above
Short ones if a normal YEPP. If just short. Nah.
adding pix for dummies. sm
I click the insert image icon, but that dialog box is strange to me. Help!
And the need for adding the little angry icon is???
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In my defense & adding to my confusion (sm)
The few times I have waited a couple of days and not contacted him, I get a message from him saying, "what's wrong? Is everything ok? I've usually heard from you by now!" So at that point, I resumed my regular contacting him first. Should I have just shifted the lead over to him at that point? Just curious what you think. This is all very educational for me - thanks!
All of the above is good, but adding 2 cents
If you are constantly checking on the birds, it will make them nervous. Think about what birds do in the wild for protection. If they lay a clutch of eggs, then they notice a snake hanging around, they will eat the eggs and abandon the nest until the snake goes away for good.
I did not read your other post so I don't know what bedding material you are using, but for my finches, I would go outside and find tall grass and tear off several hand fulls. I put some in the nest and some on the cage floor for the birds to carry to the nest.
My first egg laying experience was from an Indian finch who laid 11 eggs, sat them just fine, but the instant the first one hatched, both parents clung to the opposite side of the cage like some monster had invaded their home! I had to hand feed that baby every 45 minutes for the first 3 days! Oy, was I tired!
One thing to add to their diet is a boiled egg - crush the complete egg, shell and all, into small pieces. They get the protein from the egg and calcium from the shell. Sprinkle some shavings from the tops of brocolli on top.
Depending on what type of finches you have, they may need live worms for the protein. You can buy meal worms (more than 20% protein) at your local pet store pretty cheaply, but if you want to grow your own for free, write me (some people think it's disgusting, but these worms are very clean). There are other worms that are over 35% protein, but they are impossible to breed and expensive to have shipped, but the more exotic finches require them.
I really do suggest that you don't check on them so much. I also don't know what kind of nest you are using, but I highly recommend a wooden box hinged onto the back corner or side of the cage. You can lift the lid when you see both out of the box and it will disturb them less. If the nest has nothing around it to conceal it from the rest of the room (like a cup-style canary nest), it will be hard for them to settle down.
Write if you think of anything else you would like to know. I was a certified avian breeder and there were several difficult finches I was able to breed successfully.
For some reason, the last 2 days I have been adding
an "l" to words ending in "y." No idea what is going on with my fingers.
Try adding some fatty acids to his food
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I'm glad you liked it!! To me there is not much that can't be made better by adding green chi
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Here’s to adding the zebra to the endangered species list!
Here’s to adding the zebra to the endangered species list!
Adding coconut oil for flax seed oil to your diet
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Reveling in adding a new bird to my life list
of birds I have seen - a red-breasted nuthatch - not common this far south - at my suet feeder when suddenly birds scattered and my resident Cooper's hawk almost hit the window in front of me. Don't think he scored this time.
I just keep checking my line count and adding up my money. Great job.
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and all of my -tion words come out as -tino, like I'm adding a latin flair to them. nm
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Don't know about cats. What about adding mayo or plain veggie oil to their food? Or butter? nm
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Then they can get right back on their tires and rafts and float on back to Cuba! nm
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Back-to-back black swans that look like (sm)
a giant moustache. My MIL painted it for us and put our last name on it and my DH nailed it to an outside storage room door. It looks ridiculous, and when the kids have other kids over they always ask why we have a giant moustache on our door!
Hayseed was back a few weeks back
But we haven't heard from her since. I miss her too. I hope she's doing okay.
Well, I'm going to at least try to take it back...
...and if they don't believe me, I can't really blame them. Several years ago, they had someone return a computer and get another one, and when they opened the boxes later, they were filled with wood and rocks, etc. I'm still looking for my receipt, but not holding my breath.
My dad used to work at Lowes and he said they kept finding empty nail boxes behind the full boxes. Turns out, people were combining two boxes of nails and only paying for one. I didn't realize nails were that expensive. Who knew?
thank you so much for having my back.
for a little bit was beginning to think i was crazy/
i havent said anything to her yet, but i have to many parents and one of them spoke to teh principal who laghed it off. teh teacher, when that parent talked to her about it, said that seh goes thru this every year with parents and that teh children wanted to talk about it. i told my mom adn let me tell you, she is PO'd to say the least. tonight is our christmas program, my mom said she was going to talk to her, i think i'll be standing right next to her. i cant wait. i wish i was more vocal, adn wasnt so scared that if i did make a fuss she would treat my daughter differently. just dont know what to do here, i feel like screaming, but am too scared...isnt that silly.
MTT, you just took me back to...
that baby sweet smell of Dreft that I used when my kids were little! 
Back at ya!
Sorry took so long! Chickens rock!
Could it be your back...sm
Causing the pain in your foot? Up until just recently, I had that electric-shock feeling in my foot when I would turn it a certain way. It was excruciating! But it would only happen if I turned my foot at a certain, odd angle, like when I was stretching, so I just tried not to move it that way. It lasted for a good 2 months, then finally went away on its own.
I'm certain this was caused by whatever is going on in my back, though. In the last few years, I've started to have a lot of problems with my back. My doctor thinks it's because I have scoliosis, the degree of which is considered mild, but they're finding out now that even mild curves can cause severe pain.
Mostly my pain is from muscle spasms, but there is also definitely some "pinched nerve" type stuff going on at times. Lately I've been feeling an odd sensation almost like something is encircling my big toe on that same foot that had the shock-like pain, but it's very mild.
Anyway... maybe you could see a chiropractor? I went to one in the past, and I could really tell a difference. If I missed an appointment, I'd start to feel that sciatica-type pain down one leg. Also, a physical therapist might be able to help with exercises and tips. Insurance will usually cover that, but they don't always cover chiropractic care.
I got a TENS unit through my PCP and that helps relieve the pain, and I do stretching and strengthening exercises (I even have a DVD for yoga exercises specifically for the back and scoliosis that I *really* need to start doing.)
Anyway, just throwing out some ideas for you. I hope you can find a solution. I know that "shock" pain is horrible!
thanks - got it back
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No. I don't think they are trying to win back--sm
their customers. This particular company has had negative reports about their products for years. Personally, I would never give this pet food to any of my pets even prior to the tainted pet food scandal just because of the negative reports about their food. They are going to be faced with a number of law suits anyway, in regard to the tainted pet products, as are probably some others. I don't think their giving away free pet food is going to win back anyone, who has a lick of sense in their head and true concern for their pets. Actually, being a pet owner, I think I would stay away from any and all of the pet food manufacturers involved in this tainted pet food business. I would no longer trust their products to be safe, no matter what the conditions after the fact. The *quality* pet food manufacturers are not on the recall list, so I would stick with them, for now. but then again, this is just my opinion.
I just got back from looking.
It was awful. As far as the chickens and the sheep, that really did not bother me at all. I grew up on a farm. They had had a party a few months ago and never cleaned up. It smelled of urine. I still have that awful smell with me. GAG. The place looked trashed. There were holes in the walls. I know you are supposed to look beyond that and I tried and tried. The fact that they knew since Monday that we were coming to look, I think they should have made an effort to make it look presentable. Even the realtor agreed with me on that. I don't feel they took us seriously. The realtor said they already came down from 130k to 125k so the potential buyer could put in new carpet or steam clean it. I tried not to make a face but Dh said I had rolled my eyes. My cousin, who knows the owner, said these people do this for a living. They buy houses, live in them for a little while then sale them for profit. I don't think they have a clue about their business. IMO.
DH looked into the attic. He said he could move the beams with his hand. He did put his face on the wall in the living room, he said it was crooked. DH said that our house is better built. I noticed cracks between the ceiling and the baseboard in the loving room but I thought maybe just the baseboard needed to be renailed. DH thinks that is an indication the house is sinking.
The only thing we liked was the living room, sun room and that shop outside. I liked the backyard but the master bedroom was too small. The one I have now is small but it is bigger than that. I want bigger, I don't want to downsize. The other two bedrooms I thought were too small as well but we could live with those if we had to.
I guess the reason they did not take us seriously and did not put out an effort was because I had already told them that 125k was too high for that neighborhood. THe realtor lady said that they had come off but evidently that 125k was their comming off price. I don't think I would want to pay 70k now, not even 50k.
Just getting back to you but the dog
had foot surgery- I saw it prior and had like a lipoma removed from its foot (have seen it since also). Apparently the dog has problems with being mobile as older dog, heavy dog (the guy fed it scraps from the table)and thus the reason for the mother giving it drugs for pain, sorta like I take ibuprofen daily because of fibro. Anyway, I appreciate the post- got email from her again this morning, about nothing really, but once I answer know it will get back to the doggie issue. Several people associated with her have sent her books, items, etc. about her enabling, so she tells me, but she will continue. I have a now deceased husband who did exactly the same- you would never have made him understand it does not help. He told me he would go to his grave and not do any differently and he did. I am not sorry for paying for the surgery but now have decided no more doggie medicine money. Thanks again!
Hey, I just got back from there
and was at the Belliago and I sure did not have freebies. Don’t you have to be one of the big rollers (or they think you are going to spend a lot at the tables) to get deals like you are talking about? Regardless of what places give away free, too spoiled to stay anywhere else now since my stays there.
I back you in everything you have said
and people who think you can ask nicely are probably the ones who have the problem children. Some kids just do not like anyone older saying jack to them. Sorry some people want to hide their heads in the sand. Their children probably don’t know how to behave either so they think youre asking/telling the kids to go was wrong. The kids would have responded the same way to either asking or telling. Poor upbringing.
No, not at all. I'm 37 and am going back SM
to school to be an ultrasound technologist. I started this path back in 1993--graduated from rad tech school in ྛ. Then I had kids and never worked in the field. Went back to school in 2000 to become a medical Transcriptionist and have been working as an MT ever since.
Now, I'm finally working toward finishing my ultrasound degree. I'm really excited about it. I sometimes worry that I'm too old, but I'm not going to let that stop me.
You can do it! 
Chickadee
I'm 60 and going back - nm
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I think I would think back to before it went bad (sm)
The last time you knew he was happy, and find somewhere you can spread them. A place you know he enjoyed or something like that. Before things went downhill.
Just came back and saw something
it was close to where Depends are kept, urinary incontinence supplies- for people who may can not wash their hair and it is a dry substance you put on and comb out, I believe. I have seen other things like this before also.
He should have to pay it back somehow, but (sm)
I know that doesn't help you when you have to fork over $100. Hope it all works out for you, and that he never does it again.
Oh, please, go back to bed or something (sm)
Have you ever been to NYC? I used to live about 30 minutes from there, and spent a lot of time on subways on my way to Columbia Presbyterian where DD had appts. Believe you me, it can be very confusing until you get the "lay of the land" and she sounds like she is trying to help.
No - if it comes back to your son
he may hesitate to confide in you again.
It all comes back to you
Congratulations!! and yes it does all come back to you .....I am a mother of 3 with 6 years in between each (I think I kept forgetting how it happened!) Mine are 18, 11, and 5 and each time I felt like I was going through all the nervousness for the first time!
does anybody know how to back up
save it to a disc maybe?
TIA
Of course it will come back if...
you go back to eating lots of bread, potatoes, and other high-carb foods. It is a way of living, not just a diet. I have been on it for over a year now and have lost over 20 pounds. I was not overweight, just needed to lose those last few pounds. I have my cheat days where I will eat whatever I want, maybe once or twice a week. If you love steaks and can stay away from the french fries, then it is a fairly easy diet. I don't count my carbs anymore, I just stay away from those high-carb foods and if I notice my weight going up, I will go back on induction for a few days and it comes right off.
To the original poster, the ketosis will pass. I had dizziness and shortness of breath but it passed. If you are concerned, I would consult a doctor though. If you have certain medical problems it might end up hurting you.
I don't know how I can cut back any more....sm
I'm cut to the bone as it is. I only have my 2 sons and my mother and brother in my family to buy for. However, I do have a couple of friends that I buy for and my pastor and his wife.
My youngest son wants a bow and arrow set at Wal-Mart that costs $97. I don't know how I will afford that, much less anything else.
I definitely am not going to back down.
And let them know that in no uncertain terms. I worked at this facility 35 years ago when I was in high, and the work is what inspired me to go into the medical field to help people. I know this unit supervisor personally, worked with her 35 years ago as nurse's aids together, so I don't want to think that she had anything to do with it. It is not like this was personal property just lying around for the taking. Whoever took it hard to work pretty hard to get it off her finger. It makes me so sad that people can be so duplicitous.
why fly back at someone sm
telling you the truth. Sounds like you just want to argue now or want sympathy. GET OUT! You are doing a disservice to your kids. Don't say you can't get out because you can. This is from teh voice of experience lady. Dont bite back at those who tell you the truth because you don't like it. Sounds like you want someone to tell you its ok to stay. Why would you listen to cop who gave you the advice that he did? This is 2008, not 1958!
If he's so sure he can pay back the IRA, let him use HIS. nm
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you did right, don't look back.
God would never want anyone to put themselves in danger to "help" IMO. I too have been a crime victim, and way before that was dumb enough to pick up 2 guys at a time and give them a ride. They were nice, but even they said, "how do you know we are not going to rape or murder you." If you have children or family, you could "help" and risk leaving them without a mother, a daughter, a wife, etc.
Yes, that was me. I let him come back after he was
released from the psych hospital and of course nothing changed. Well, it changed for about a month.
Pat on back for you. You said it all. nm
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