absolutely. its a disease, and a super prevalent one also.
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Absolutely, it is a disease, but one that a person can recover from if they
have the desire to be sober. Unfortunately, there is no test to tell you prior to your first sip of alcohol that you area an alcoholic and will suffer from this disease and hurt everyone, including yourself. Fortunately, however, there are steps to recovery and, albiet it not a cure, it does not have to debilitate you. I am a recovering alcoholic and have been for 13 years. My recovery started with admitting my problem and taking the necessary steps to change and find other ways to deal with my self-esteem, problems and anxieties other than a drink. Since my recovery I have not only become "sober" but a much better person and very serene with my life, which of course has made a very producitve member of society and not "disabled." I think someone who accepts disability based on their alcoholism has not only accepted their fate, but accepted its consequences and not willing to change. I really think that is very sad.
That seems to be debatable even in the medical field. Disease or not disease?
things that could lead to diabetes and hypertension are true, they are still diseases and could obviously occur with or without staying away from known causes.
But for you to come here and say alcholism is "NOT" a disease is a little extreme and maybe should have been accompanied by IMO? That is my opinion anyway.
Very prevalent in my family...
My mom under 5 feet and 100 lbs, and she is on 4 meds to control her BP, and my older, physically active brother also takes BP meds. Too many secondary family members with it to mention. Mine, so far, is dependent on my weight: Under 140 lbs and the BP is normal.
PAMT-MD, my condolences for the loss of your father. That is how I lost my dad, too, way too many years ago.
Of course they will listen. Mental abuse is extremely prevalent
and the abuse counselor will tell you the cycle of violence, here's an example you may recognize from him: First there is grumbling or little comments that demean you. You question yourself because he just seems to be "trying to help you," then, there is using finances, threats to take things away including children, controlling who you see, where you go, even what you think, then when you voice an opinion the violence. Starts out verbal. Will definitely lead to physical some day. He will also try the "crazy making," If you know the moon is blue for example, he will say it is green cheese, and then make you feel like you are the crazy one. You will question your reality and the truth that the moon is blue. You will become confused.
Then, a gift will appear, some form of kindness from him. You will forgive him figuring you were wrong, maybe it was you, maybe he will change, or whatever. You give in to him. Then it starts all over again, the grumbling. It is like clockwork. This is a proven fact with abusers. These people never change. A minute percentage do seek counseling, but the control they desire is too rooted in their being and their identity. They feed off of this control. Once the person they control is gone for good, they will seek someone else out.
Mental violence is a crime. Stalking is not just physical for example, phone calls, constant badgering when you say no, or say stop treating me this way, this is violence. I could go on about it, but please call the hotline and forgive me for being wordy here. Make that call and all will fall into place.
Super sad
I took three kittens home from the vet to give them extra TLC as they started going downhill. One died a week or so after coming home. The second one died a week or two after that. Tonight the remaining kitten went from playing to unresponsive in about 30 minutes. We just rushed her back to the vet but I think she's going to die as well. She's getting fluid right in her bone now and a little glucose. The vet thinks they all had failure to thrive syndrome as none of them have gotten over a pound and I syringe fed them every couple hours besides what they ate on their own. I'm trying to keep up hope for the last one that we've started calling "Little One." 
What I do a lot and is super easy
Is just take a bag of frozen vegetables, usually whatever I have. Broccoli/caul/carrots, broc/caul... or those new steam in the bag veggies. I just cook up some kind of whole wheat pasta, whatever I have, and then throw it together with the veggies. Sometimes I add some kind of pasta sauce or even just sprinkle with parmesan. If it's one of those packages of veggies that's already seasoned, that's really good too. I don't feel like pasta, I'll use rice instead. Quick and easy and you don't feel deprived because of all those veggies.
SUPER BOWL
GabbyChic,
I suggest you actually watch this game. Been a Steeler fan 30+ years, eventhough, I moved to Texas in 88. I promise you, this won't be boring.
It IS NOT a disease. The use of it causes disease but
alcoholism in itself is not a disease. My husband was also predisposed to it by *genetics* (his mother and father were also alcoholics). He should have had better sense than to ever pick up the first drink, but he didn't. Now, for the rest of his life he will have to battle with the fact that he is an alcoholic (albeit, a recovering alcoholic). He CHOSE to drink. He CHOSE to take the chance and it caught up with him. It's just like cigarette smoking. That's not a disease, but the effects of the cigarettes cause disease. If one is predisposed to something harmful, they need to take control of themselves and stay away from whatever causes the problems associated with it. Both of my parents are diabetics, so that predisposes me to diabetes. They are both hypertensive (as am I). I'm predisposed to have hypertension, but I have to use my common sense and stay away from things that could cause the hypertension to blossom into something much more serious. The predisposition to alcoholism has to be handled the same way. STAY AWAY FROM IT!!!!!
I spoke with the super last night
to arrange this meeting today. I pointed out to him that the policies have a list (long list I might add) of things they consider as weapons but they don't list pepper spray.
I get the feeling that he is going to go with me on this and chalk it up to an unfortunate event.
Sadly, if things go the opposite direction, there is no alternative school. This is a very small town. We would have to pack up and move away in order to put her in another school.
Homeschooling is not an option.
Will followup after the meeting.
We have had them super bad for years and were told
we heard about this stuff called Tempo and we found it at our local feed/farm supply store. A small bottle around $45, but we have used last year and again this year. The trick is to get them before they come in, which is usually after the first frost. With the crazy fall we have had, hot, cold and hot again, today was 70 in WV, I think we sprayed too soon, but there are some, but not the
thousands we have had in the past. I also heard dish detergent also worked, like Ajax or whatever, we tried this last year, but also did the Tempo, so I am sure it was the Tempo.
Actu7ally A&H Super Scoop is what I use, tho' cat
It doesn't seem to be the texture so much, as I've found even softer ones (the softest being Feline Pine Scoopable), but she wants no part of it. Prefers plastic or linoleum. Have removed all litter and just used:
a) Empty litter box
b) Newspapers or paper towels -
but the problem there is it's only good for one use, then the box has to be completely washed out. Not very practical, sanitary, or good-smelling.
Does anyone have a dog who has Cushing's disease? sm
My mom and dad's daschund was diagnosed with Cushing's disease. She's 15 years old. She's going to have to be medicine for the rest of her life. I've read on a web site this can be fatal. Has anyone ever had any experience with their pet having this? thanks.
lyme disease
Friend's dog was chewing paws because joints were sore from Lyme disease.
Disease question
As someone in recovery for more than 9 years this is my take on it. Addiction (alcohlism) is a combination of nature (genetics) and nurture (environment). One can be predisposed to addiction but never know it if they never ingest the substance. Many people drink but not everyone is an alcoholic. Drinking the alcohol is a choice that one can control, but once an alcoholic or addict makes the choice to drink, they no longer have control over how their body reacts to it.
If classifying it as a disease is a way for health insurance companies to pay for treatment and healthcare for the alcoholic or addict, then that is fine with me. But it is NOT an excuse to drink and once one admits or realizes one is an alcoholic they ARE responsible for what happens after they take a drink.
To the original poster wife: The best way you can help your husband is to take care of yourself and your children through Alanon, Alateen and/or counseling. The only person YOU can control is YOU. Lives by example. Your husband just might find his own way to changing his life by watching you change yours.
thyroid disease
I have hypothyroidism and take Unithroid. I'm up to 150 mcg a day. The only thing I am sensitive to is hot and cold. My internal thermostat does not work well. No medication sensitivities though, but that does not mean much as each person is different. We all reactive diferently from each other. Good luck though. Hope things improve with this.
Colts are Super Bowl Champs sm
Woohoo! GO COLTS!
3 yo granddaughter got super-glue in hair,
at her other grandma's house. Is there any way you know of to get this out and same from cutting her beautiful hair off ?? thanks.
Having our annual Super Bowl party
Just a few close friends. We're having pizza and chicken wings and my the neighbors bring over various dishes. One usually brings over a great hot chicken wig dip and my husband will make chilli in the crockpot. My friend and I just like to watch the commercials. LOL. After we eat and see the halftime show, the kids and women go across the street for our own party.
Hot (but not super hot) chocolate and a couple Tylenol.
It's my Wonder Drug.
Super easy homemade pizza
Very yummy and under $10 Serves 3-4
1 lb ground hamburger or 1 bag of pepperoni
1 box jiffy pizza crust mix
1 bag shredded pizza cheese
1 jar pizza sauce
Brown hamburger, drain; set aside. Make crust mix as per directions. Put into pizza pan - bake 3 minutes. Layer sauce, a little cheese, meat, then more cheese. Bake on 350 degrees for about 12-15 minutes. You won't believe how delicious this is!
English Toffee--super easy
You can put down any kind of nuts you want--if you want in a raised-sided cookie sheet.
Cook 1# of butter and 1# of brown sugar plus a little vanilla to hardball stage (I put a little in a cup of cold water and if it is crunchy, it is done).
Quickly pour into cookie sheet because it is easy to burn. Scatter one bag of chocolate chips on top and wait to melt a little before speading across the top.
Everyone loves it and it is pretty easy to make. Once it cools, you break it into pieces.
Tell Us ABout Yer Super Bowl Plans this Year.
what are you doing? Making? Will ya be on your own or having peeps over?
Having our annual Super Bowl Party
We have one every year. We're having about 15 friends over. Pizza, wings, assorted munchies and whatever dishes our friends decide to bring. It's a lot of fun even though I just watch the Super Bowl for the commercials, and the halftime show.
5yo Daughter cut her hair super short...
She cut it so short on the front and on the sides around her ears.... How she got scissors I have no clue, because I am in my office and she didn't get them form ME!!! URGH I am so mad!!! She had absolutely the prettiest long brown hair! I don't know what to do! I can't take her to the hair place because I have NO money!!! I spent my last few dollars on groceries until next paycheck... LOL. Anyone know a good hair site? I tried to Google some.
Foot-in-mouth-disease
At one time or another we have all suffered from it. Sometimes, things just pop out of our mouths before we have had a chance to edit them. What was probably a poor attempt at conversation turned out to be an embarrassing situation for both of you. Accept his apology and move on.
A lifer here, too. It used to be called a disease!
That really freaked me out on hearing that diagnosis. Cysts and pain come and go - supposedly we are to avoid chocolate and coffee/caffeine. yeah, right! No way! I do not do breast self-exams, and was also instructed not to do them as well by my OB/GYNs and surgeons, as we will always find a lump and then freak out. I have yearly detailed mammos - dozens of shots for surveillance. Had a cyst aspirated now and again, and have always been fine. In my 50s now and have gotten used to it - not lazy about it, but just not so afraid. Information is power! It is a very common "condition", by the way! We are all in good company!
Polycystic kidney disease....
My husband was just diagnosed with this. It is the mostly common inherited disease there is and many people don't know they have it. It generally leads to renal failure later in life. There is a new clinical trial beginning right now for a drug that is supposed to shrink the cysts. This is the third phase and so far it has been extremely successful. The clinical trial is at Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore. Let me know if you need more info.
...going on here, including a few disease processes. nm
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My thirst is Sjogren's disease! sm
I am always, always and forever chronically thirsty, but I don't have the polyuria to go with it.
I have dry eyes, dry nose (to a point where it is usually pretty full of scabs), dry mouth with caries at the gumline. I have gastroparesis and proctalgia fugax which often go with Sjogren's just like the rest of it. Dry skin and feeling like you are drying out from the inside out is part of it. I even get a nasty, clay-like sludgy feeling in my mouth and throat from my stomach being too dry to digest.
It is misery and even better than a gallon of water a day doesn't fix the dry feeling, but it keeps my kidneys from shutting down from being dry.
Lovely huh?
They are such super family pets, and beautiful as well! Thanks for sharing. NM
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How about a super glue/duct tape combo?
I can't tell what material the broken part is though.
Love his book "The Stand" - but that was a super flu - sm
that killed you quick. From what I have read most people live through the swine flu, no deaths in the U.S. as yet I believe. Probably like any flu, the very young, and very old have the most to worry about, and those immuno-compromised of course.
My 13 y.o. niece has just been dx with Grave's disease. Does anyone here have any info or sm
advice on what I can tell my brother about this? They are such a precious family. Brother visibly upset over this because he has been disciplining her for behavioral problems, etc., when all along it's been here thyroid. They want to do radiation right away to help shrink it? Or possibly remove thyroid altogether. She is so pretty. I spent the summer with them and yes, she did act diff. from other 13 year olds, looked very developed for her age (to me), and her eyes weren't bulging to me. I'm so glad they caught it today. It sounded like she was in the early stages of shock with fever, shakiness, etc.
Anyone with experience in this? Thank you so much.
Every woman in my family has thyroid disease...
and only about half of them are overweight, so that's just another excuse. You really need to stop blaming other people for your weight problems and take control of your own situation. I too have hypothyroidism, but I am a size 6 and was only overweight when I was eating unhealthy and not exercising. If you're really only eating one meal a day, I can guarantee this is why you can't lose weight! Your body is probably holding onto everything you eat because you're starving it!! You absolutely need to eat 3 (small) meals a day and 2 snacks. There's a book called The 3 Hour Diet that can really help you with what you should be eating, how much and how often. You sound like a very angry person and like you don't want accept that you're responsible for your own health. Honestly, you're not overweight because of what the government does or doesn't do, it because of what you're doing to your body.
And the scariest part is, they then carry this disease
among many others without even knowing and spread them around.
I studied the disease back in 98 when diagnosed
and thank goodness for the web!!! I continually get educated all the time from being online. I love it. Glad you're feeling well!!!! Attitude has much to do with it.....
Anyone with thyroid disease experience sensitivity
I have had thyroid disease for about 5 years now and am on Synthroid for it. I find that I cannot tolerate caffiene very well and narcotic/anlgesic medications, such as Novocaine make my heart race and make me feel so weirded out I can no longer tolerate this. I cannot even have a wisdom tooth pulled because of this.
Anywa, I thought it was just me but I recently read in a magazine that thyroid disease could cause sensitivity to medications. It would stand to reason once your thyroid levels were adjusted this would go away, but such is not the case with me. Does anybody else have this problem?
If you have a child with a life threatening disease
you possibly would think a little different about this issue. I do and saying full steam ahead.
In some places there are now open MRI scanners for the claustrophobic & super obese.
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Thank you for sharing that. Yes, thyroid disease left untreated can sm
be a very serious thing. I appreciate your response. Good luck to you!!
My daughter has hand, foot and mouth disease
She has 4 ulcers in her mouth and, of course, is in pain and won't eat anything. I put some cereal and milk in the blender this morning and she drank that okay, but her poor little mouth is really painful. We tried the saltwater rinses, but that didn't help. We have been using Orajel on the biggest sore, but was wondering if anyone has any other ideas for pain relief. She's been coping pretty good with the blisters on her hands and feet so far, but this is only the 2nd day. Hopefully, this will be over soon. Thanks for any help!
Check out celiac disease from gluten allergy
Many times it is mistaken for IBS - my grandson is being tested for this by GI doctor on the ball!
Incidental finding, polycystic kidney disease
Not something that I would have liked to hear but being as older, told the doctor maybe can outlive the cysts, i.e. having to be on dialysis and/or dying because of them. I had an MRI of another region and those picked up, told someone in my family had to have and know of no one. The cysts I have can go anywhere in your body so they will watch them every few months, no abnormal lab tests or the like, found those about 2 years ago. The kidney cysts are the only ones I know of.
Great board and a super idea! How about fall decoration ideas?
Received a dx today of fibrocystic breast disease. Painful lumps in my breast. Going for a mammo
towards the end of the month. Anyone have any info on this disease?
ABSOLUTELY . . .
If children find out on their own, they think they have figured out the great mystery of life, if someone tells them (especially an adult), they are taking away a precious, magical childhood time. My daughter believed up until she was 11 . . . and now that she and my almost 11-year-old son have figured it out, they think THEY have uncovered a great mystery!!! They think it's funny, actually. My 7-year-old still believes and he will until he is at least 10, if I have anything to say about it. That's like talking to them about faith in my opinion. That's the parents' responsibility
Absolutely..
My stepmother had a TAH almost 20 years ago and has had hot flashes ever since then. Sorry, that's probably bad news!
Absolutely don't do it
Same story here. Sit through sales pitch, very very hard sell, push push push. Then, instead of the "jeweled timepiece" which was the LEAST expensive prize, I got a cheap Timex that didn't even run.
Run run run away from this!!!!!
absolutely I would have said something
What if these kids are in his care a lot?
What if he does this behind closed doors (very likely if he struck out at the little one in public) when mommy isn't around?
What if he isn't their dad (or is) and he's abusing them but she doesn't know it?
As a mom, I would definitely want to know if someone struck my kid. Especially if I was a single mom (which I have been) and this guy was a boyfriend who was responsible for caring for my kids while I was at work or otherwise occupied. I would never leave them with him again, I could tell you that for certain.
Doesn't really matter what their personal situation is. The fact is, the kid was struck for no good reason and the jerk should have been called on it.
If he made a stink or if she made a stink, SO WHAT, follow them and get a license plate number then turn them in!
You-re absolutely right
A few months ago I was at a class I take at the YMCA and one woman was telling us how her daughter-in-law had a miscarriage. She was saying how hard it was and finally I spoke up and said I too had miscarried. After I said that, at least 4 other women (out of a group of maybe 10-12) admitted they too had miscarried. I was stunned. I had no idea how many of us there were. Knowing I wasn't alone might have helped when I was going through it.
On the other hand, if anything good came of it, I think it made me a better mother. I cherished every moment of my children's lives and took none of it for granted.
Absolutely!
Men like that feed off of control. My ex did the same thing. Just pull your boots up! It'll be okay. Talk to your family (parents? siblings?), see a lawyer (don't tell your husband), and look at getting into counseling. I've been exactly where you are and I know what you're feeling. It's awful, but the sooner you get free, the better you'll feel and the better off your children will be.
Did I read that he stays off for days without contacting you?
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