Your sister sounds self absorbed and cares about herself only.
Posted By: I have sisters on 2009-01-12
In Reply to: Is everything always black and white? - Kaydie
I have 2 sisters that are pretty self centered and selfish. Can't understand it either; we grew up in the same house, same parents, and same set of morals and values.
I can tell you that as you love your sister, sometimes it is difficult to admit her bad traits, because as family members we tend to overlook and accept them and have loved unconditionally.
We don't want to see the bad in our own family; however, if you pull away a bit, you start to see things you knew were there, but they seem to become more vivid. If you look back, you will see she had those traits all along, and you just overlooked them and accepted them because you love her.
When you don't speak up for what is right, your sister probably thinks you are okay with what is doing or saying, etc. She will never believe she is wrong.
I take it, she has a dominant personality and you are easy-going and laid back.
Been there, done that.
Personally, I would have laid into her a bit. If she didn't want to talk to me afterwards, so be it. She'll get glad again.
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sounds like you are chasing him too much. if you care, let him show how much he really cares. sm
you said you primarily communicate via phone, text, and emails. do you ever see each other in person? you need to back off as other's suggested and see what he does. when he asks why he hasn't heard from you just tell him i wanted to see if you cared enough to contact me since i am always the one contacting you. maybe that will get him to thinking. most guys like a chase, not being chased so just keep that in mind.
Ha, sounds like my sister, she gets "dishwasher's diarrhea" and heads for the bathroom sm
at clean up time!
Sounds like when my sister's dog chewed up my eyeglasses one night beyond recognition
Although I was pretty much blinded so couldn't see them anyway. HA HA HA
Not a nice way to start the weekend though.
Okay, my sister and I are doing Thanksgiving this year and since my sister can't cook, that means
I'm doing the cooking. My sister gets equal billing cause we're doing it at her house. :) Soooo, I'm looking for some vegetable ideas. I am about sick of green bean casserole! Does anyone have any really tasty recipes for vegetables side? Any kind of vegetables. I'm looking for something different and fabulous.
I had a corn casserole at one potluck I went to, but never got the recipe. Anybody got a good corn recipe?
Thanks Ladies!
who cares?!
there should be a nonsense board!
and.....who cares?
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I don't think sis particularly cares...SM
She's highly wrapped up in herself and is convinced that Mom slighted her as a child and adult, though with 4 of us, and a farm to run, it was hard for none of us to not feel slighted. Sibling rivalry reigned at the time. She just never grew out of it. Now, we're just not her "kind of people".
Who cares if somebody is gay or lesbian..
I am neither and dont really care who is. If you dont agree with somebody's lifestyle move on. If you see something in a store you do not like move on. Nobody said you have to stand there and eyeball all the products just to see if there is something you disapprove of. Most stores are going to have something somebody doesnt like, so what. It is not up to us to judge what somebody else does. They are not looking for anyones approval just trying to live their lives.
Who cares about the money? --sm
She couldn't take it with her and it did her absolutely no good while she was alive. What about the baby girl she left behind? Why is everything always about money.
Who cares, don't you have work to do ?
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Gore cares?
The NES (Nashville Electric Service) reports that Gore's 20-room, 8 bathroom mansion in Nashville uses more electricity in 1 MONTH than the average American household uses in a year. And the article didn't mention the other 2 homes he owns.
Good for you! Someone who REALLY cares! nm
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He is lucky to have someone who cares. . sm
He sounds so much like my dad. My dad smoked 4 to 5 packs of cigarettes a day, so I think he knew he had some medical problems long before he died. He just wouldn't go to the doctor. It was his choice and no one could make him do it. It sounds like you have made your own nice little family.
Who cares???? I don't watch the
show, but my kids do. They are only doing it for the money. Their kids are the ones who have to suffer with having no kind of normal/private life at all.
Yummy! Who cares how much butter she uses?
She's rich ($$$$$$$$$) at this point.... :) Not another show featuring cardboard and fake cooking sprays? Do we really need another show for "light eating"? Our elders lived long lives on lard...... :) Keep on cookin', just don't eat that heavy stuff every day/night! Enjoy.... 
You are saying she cares about her dogs like her children
You, my dear, seem to be taking up for her. You do not let your children go out and murder just because you love them. A dog who would kill another animal might also try killing a small child. Give you my advice and I really mean this - I would have called the animal control on her. There are laws here just for this same thing. You do not let you dogs (kids) run wild and kill and mutilate other animals. It is really against the law. She could be my mother, wouldn’t care. Accept the response you have gotten. You seem to not even care about the little ones who lost their lives. Shame on you.
Are you kidding? That is ridiculous! Who cares? (sm)
People are greiving and he is worried about what everyone calls him? Is it HIS funeral? He is being extremely selfish to even think about something so silly. Just silly.
Do you ever feel like when you are sick nobody cares? sm
I am probably just being a baby but I am having some health issues lately and I feel like when my friends and family are sick I always try to check on them and take care of them but when it is me I feel like nobody even cares. If anything I feel like my husband finds it aggravating. Is it just part of the territory of being a mom??
who cares, the commerical guy is cute
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who really cares anymore? My SO and I will never get married
marriage is a dying tradition
Will answer about who cares about Simon
She stated when booted off, "I love you Simon but I really don’t care." She was asked by Ryan what did she say and it was repeated. Well, no one needs to care about Simon unless they want to continue to be on the show, get exposure for their work, land a multimillion dollar contract. Other than that I would say let her go with the wind. I thought she was a real twit. She was really the worst so I can understand her being targeted as votefortheworst, sounds like they picked the right one!
Update for anyone who cares. due to the emails I've sm
received regarding "how I'm doing, etc." I thought I'd give a quick update. Thank you all so much for your kindness and caring for a total stranger and her family.It means so much to me that others are thinking of me.
I ended up going to an ER and they prescribed Cymbalta and Xanax. Didn't the Xanax filled. I have no intentions of zoning out on Xanax. All I need is to become addicted to something.
I am not too happy with the Cymbalta. We didn't even discuss Cymbalta. We discussed another med, but I can't think of which antidepressant it was, but it wasn't that. Was surprised when I got it filled what he prescribed.
In any event, I have good days and bad days. Got a 2 week work excuse which I haven't abided by yet, either. I feel work keeps me grounded. I may still use it. I do need to focus and deal with my grief. I haven't done that yet. Been too busy. I like busy. Busy doesn't hurt.
Love to everyone here. Love is all that matters now. Love is all we need.
talk about Are You Kidding....who cares about your office affair
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You may be, from the sounds of your posts, sounds like an *illegal*
and that in itself is a crime. Nobody else would take 65.00 for an entire day slaving/laundry, heavy cleaning, etc. LOL. Nah, I don't think so. I'm just saying, what it sounds like to me. : )
He sounds wonderful...sounds like you two have a relationship (sm)
based on love and nothing superficial at all. I'm glad you appreciate him and are so grateful for him. Best wishes & continued happiness to you both :-)
My sister did
My sister changed her OB in the last 2 weeks, but it was because she moved. She had an appointment to see an OB in her new town, went in and took her records, did some paperwork. Then, she went into labor the day before her appointment was scheduled. So, she met her new doctor in labor and delivery.
But, it was her 4th baby and the first 2 were born in military hospitals, so she was up for anything.
How are you supposed to contact your OB if you go into labor if they don't have an answering service? This is very strange.
My sister-in-law comes
About every 3 weeks and does a good cleaning. 2 bathrooms, 1 bedroom, kitchen and living room. I pay her $40/visit. Hubby's bathroom can get quite bad, so she gets a $5 or $10 tip if it's worse than reasonable. Then I just run a vacuum and keep the dishwasher and laundry caught up between.
I hate housecleaning and she needs the money, so it works out for us.
My sister is one
Had to break any ties with her 8 years ago. She recently contacted me and still does not understand while I will not speak to her. She is upset that she has missed my children growing up. But they are the reason I finally broke ties with her. She was bringing too much trouble and grief to my family and saying inappropriate things about our mother to them. She is 53 and still is fixated on all the wrongs done to her when she was 5. I finally said enough is enough. Have never been happier.
My sister and I both used it
I had good results initially, but then not so much. I didn't feel it was worth the money. My sister had fantastic results and it even faded a lot of her scarring on her chin and jawline.
My sister says it does (sm)
She lost about 40 pounds recently and says Hoodia helped her a lot. In fact her doctor told her to continue taking it. She has diabetes and is very overweight. I am trying to lose too! I have used hoodia before but didn't think it helped much. I just started taking Cordyceps mushroom capsules and am going to try Curvelle as soon as I can find it available somewhere. Good luck to you!
My sister . . .
made her hungry all the time, bloated and gained 10 pounds. Other than that she feels way better.
me ex-sister-in-law
totally different situation -but sounds the same in that maybe the child's mother is in denial????
I'm with ya sister....
unless you want predispose your child to becoming a ne'er do well, not to mention looking like a girl. Might as well get the mullet for the complete look!
My sister
has PMDD, and she takes Prozac with great success. I believe I just have PMS, but Prozac is not a good drug for me because of the side effect of apathy I get. If you take it and find yourself wading through dirty laundry, you'll know what I mean, LOL. I'm dealing with perimenopause, so I tried a soy-based estrogen-like product. It helped some, but then I changed to one that contained black cohosh. Wow, did I feel great. No PMS at all. Unfortunately, I lost my appetite and have stomach discomfort and dropped a significant amount of weight while taking it.
This site promotes it:
http://www.connecticutcenterforhealth.com/black-cohosh.html
However, I also read a site that said it could cause GI trouble and even a liver condition, so I quit the black cohosh a week or two ago. My appetite and weight are still not improving much. I'm 5ƌ and my weight is fluctuating between 118 and 120 now. I can do physical activity fine, but yet I'm having a feeling of low energy in my chest area and the stomach discomfort continues. I just had a bunch of lab work, which was all normal. Really weird.
Yes, my sister does it, and
it's quite fascinating (and addicting, apparently). She has traveled from AZ to VT and also WI to check headstones. If you go to her Facebook page, she actually has photos of family trees or something - I haven't clicked on them yet. I just saw them today.
My sister does.
I figure I have to go to the grocery store for fresh veg and fruts once a week or so anyway so I just buy what I need. My sister likes to buy in bulk and picks up extra when at a warehouse store and keeps it in the freezer. She says the milk is just fine after. I'm sure we have drank it too and had no idea. She goes through about 5 gallons a week with her family.
PS - about my sister sm
Diagnosed at Thanksgiving, chemo for Christmas, dead by Easter. No symptoms. Don't let it happen to you. I care about you. Give yourself the best holiday gift ever (not to mention the people you would leave behind who love you).
don't you think you sister would want you to
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Your Sister Would Want You To Have Them
I think she would be pleased that her husband gave them to you. What an incredible act of love. :-)
P.S. My condolences on the loss of your beloved sister. Mine passed away 2 years ago and I still miss her very much.
Right on sister
Well said
My sister....sm
is one of my best friends. Not to say we didn't have to work to get here, because we did, but it was worth it.
Actually it was me and my sister
who joked about writing the whole note (about what an awesome gift) and neither of us minded at all. We just like to try to get laughs.
Of course, I don't know what was going on in everyone's head, but I would think the only people who might have an issue with such a thing is if they didn't know the person (whom the shower was for) very well or something.
My opinion is that it is a silly thing to get hung up on, and I certainly didn't mind it at all!
my sister does hair
and one of her clients bought her a jogging suit that says "i run with scissors!" she thought that was too fun! of course, depends on the personality.
I would never sue my family. We are out the $$ and out my sister.
Maybe I could've forgiven her for putting her hands on me, but now she is 100% lying and saying that didn't happen. This I don't think I can forgive.
I'm done with this and am going to move on. Unfortunately, my family dimensions are different now and that is sad.
Best wishes for your sister's
speedy recovery. Not a nice diagnosis especially at this time of year, but hopefully prayer is the answer. I don't know you, but will think positive for you. I think it is great that you have come here for support, and I think you'll find that the people here will be very supportive. God bless!
I do have a half-sister out there somewhere?
My father was married before he married my Mom, but his ex-wife ran off with his daughter. We have never met her, and he never looked for her! 
AMEN SISTER!!!!
You would think that she cured AIDS by the way people are talking about her. I'm tired of it already. If she was not a celebrity, nobody would give a crap. I never wished bad upon her, but in my estimation, this is no great loss to humanity. I think we will all survive.
My sister and a friend of hers both did it.
After having 2 kids in her 20s, she had her 3rd at around 40. Then she got pregnant again, and miscarried. The miscarriage rate is higher than for younger women. Also, my sister wasn't exercising a lot, and has very loose ligaments anyway, and it was much more uncomfortable to carry a baby. Didn't help that it was a big baby, of course. But that child is 7 now, and she has a great life, just a tad spoiled by her parents who now have more money, and her now-retired grandparents, LOL.
UR right on. My sister got preggers while she was in (sm)
high school. We had a strict, authoritarian father who would NOT have understood, and would've pulled the rug out from under her, even tho she was just a teenager. If a legal preganancy termination (without parental knowledge) had not been available to her, just my father knowing she'd gotten knocked up wouldve ruined her life. He would have kicked her out, and NOT paid for her to go on to college, where she got a master's degree in education, and went on to become an innovative and caring educator. So many other children would've lost out on this wonderful teacher if she did not have the freedom of choice. Instead, she would most likely be working a low-paying job (heh-heh... like OURS!) and barely getting by. Not every personal, medical or moral decision is cut-and-dried & black-and-white, and each individual has to make those types of decisions for THEMSELVES, not be dictated to by an overly vocal, brainwashed, ignorant minority.
They have a sister and they are triplets
Sister! Except I tend to not even
start what I figure I won't finish, LOL. But sleep is one of my (only) 3 hobbies.
I just want to garden and walk my puppies and watch TV and sleep.
Is there any money in putting in gardens for other people when I don't even have a degree in horticulture? Sigh.
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