Your loss is very significant. sm

• my dog has been missing...sm - goincrazyquick
  • OMG that is so sad. sm - curious girl
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  • Your loss is very significant. sm - Ella (retired)
    • and thank you for sharing.... - goincrazyquick
    • oh my goodness..... - goincrazyquick
  • I understand how you feel - Animals
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  • Im so sorry to hear about your dog...sm - minnabird
    • thank you.... - goincrazyquick
    • I agree, if you have the option to wait - .-
      • yes it would be terrible.... - goincrazyquick
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think the final cost would be more than $800.  My niece was mauled by a dog and spent about a week in the hospital.  She was 4 years old at the time.  It was the saddest thing seeing her in that hospital bed  with her whole head swollen up.  The dog bite ripped out a couple of her still-forming permanent teeth  and she ended up with quite a nasty scar along one cheek.  Most of the stitches were in her scalp. 

My sister and her husband had to sue the homeowner's of the dog's owner (their babysitter) because she was so badly injured their insurance didn't begin to cover the expense.  It took quite a while to sort it all out.  They ended up with a settlement that would after 15 years of very modest growth pay for her college and also any future medical bills.  She has had revision of that scar on her face, but she is 19 years old now and still hasn't had new permanent teeth implanted.  She is missing bone where theimplants need to go and so will need grafting to be able to accomplish it.

She was not emotionally scarred forever by the incident.  She is fine, and it didn't take that long for her to be fine.  Just keep loving your daughter and she'll soon be back to her old self.  Money won't make it go away. 

Try not to let your anger overtake you.  I know they are responsible, but there is no need to try and take them for as much as you can.  You could conceivably ruin their future.  Accidents happen.  What exactly were the circumstances surrounding the bite? 

With all the posts about how many times you were married or divorced, I thought I'd ask how you met your DH.  So how did you meet?  Were you high school sweethearts, friends?  did you work together?  Was it love at first sight or couldn't stand the sight of them?

I lived across the street for about 2 years from where my DH worked but never saw him there.  I met him at my grandfather's house in another state.  He worked with my uncle who lived with my grandfather.  DH lived down the road from my uncle and had gone to school with my uncle's son.  It wasn't love at first sight for me.  We would run into each other at my grandfather's house and he sort of grew on me. LOL!  We've been married for 15 years now.

playing sports with a friend.  After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.

Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!

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jm

Sending cyber hugs.  Believe me I know how it hurts.  I'm sure kitty is at Rainbow Bridge, happy, healthy and full of life.

A friend of mine and former boss lost her husband very suddenly in a work accident when they were both in their early 30s - 5 years ago this week actually.  I think she might have tried the online way for awhile, but I know she ended up going to a grief counselor in person eventually, which really helped her.  She took her 2 small kids for a few sessions as well, if I remember correctly, and when she was about to remarry, her finance went as well. 

I'm not one to take meds unless I absolutely have to, but have you considered seeing your doctor for some sort of antidepressant?  You sound very depressed, which is understandable.  And people that tell you it's time to snap out of it can take a flying leap as far as I am concerned.   Everyone grieves differently and at different paces.  One step forward and 2 steps back a lot of the time. Just when you think you have a handle on it, something goes haywire.

((((hugs))))

You obviously gave your sweetie a good home and took wonderful care of her.  Furkids do not have such long lives without constant love and attention.  You had no way of knowing the exact time she was ready to go.  You did your best to make her comfortable, and I believe she knew that and appreciated all you did. 

When I lost my 17-year-old Whiskers in November, he was in an emergency clinic and I was not there.  A scenario I never imagined.  I was incosolable because, let's face it, 17 years (18 in your kitty's case) is such a long time to have someone in your life. There is a website that helped me through the grief--www.petloss.com.  It may or may not be to your liking, but please at least check it out.  You can write about your kitty and just get all the emotions out. 

Please write again and let us know how you are doing.  ((((hugs))))

Here is a link for The Association for Pet Loss.  http://www.aplb.org/

They have scheduled chats for people who have lost pets and who anticipate losing a pet.  It was a great help to me when I lost my dog last year. There is even a book called, "Loss of a Pet" by Dr. William Sife.

My dog Scooter was my constant companion for 11 years. She got sick suddenly and deteriorated quickly.  I took her to a pet ER and made the decision to put her to sleep, but she was in pretty bad shape.  I don't envy your mother or you having to make this decision.