Your idea of details and mine differ greatly.
Posted By: SM on 2009-01-02
In Reply to: Yes, and we've all had a BM, but you don't need to know the details - Keep it to yourself
Details would be a blow by blow. Simply stating I conceived my child 9 years ago on this night is not detailed. Saying I did or didn't have a BM today is not detailed giving you a play by play explanation of said BM would be detailed. We all have sex and we all have BM -- saying so isn't gross. Doing it in front of you would be gross. Showing home movies would be gross.
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Think it greatly depends on the area
you live in. I was paying $25 30 years ago in Reno, Nevada; now charged $15 in small town Northern California - of course hairdressers and MTs have both lost wages in the last 10-15 years because of SuperCuts and outsourcing in my opinion. I was charged $15 my last cut and she did such a fantastic job I gave her $25 just to make up for all the bad cuts I have gotten and to let her know how much I appreciated her!
improved greatly in 2007 compared to 1990s...
it's not glass anymore - it's plates that are not ice cold and they don't squeeze as badly as they did back in the earlier days. Takes a few seconds only and 4 views. Piece of cake....also have been getting them nearly yearly for 15+ years......
Great, greatly supportive post from "Through the Mill". nm
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Thank you for the details! -sm
I don’t know if you’ll see this response to you. I hope so because I can’t tell you how much this reply of yours has helped me! I feel I am not alone now. My story is so similar to yours. It is just over 2 years ago that I found out my only option was for total top and partial bottom dentures.
My phobia goes way back. I had a tooth extracted one time where they had to cut some of the bone out because the tooth broke when pulling it, and they had to remove the fragments. I ended up in the emergency room twice after that with abscesses. Also had a root canal by another dentist who drilled too far into the bone for the screw. He told me about it when he was done, said that never happened when he did root canals in the past, and it may give me trouble down the road. Anyway, there’s more to tell than that, but that’s where my phobia began.
You can’t know how you’ve relieved some of my anxieties by hearing what you went through. I actually am looking forward to doing it now. I really appreciate your message.
Have you tried tea tree oil for the sore spot? I have used it for gum soreness before, and it works wonders. A lady I worked with about 10 years ago had to get dentures, and I remember her saying that was the only thing that helped her get through those first few weeks. It smells very strong, like turpentine almost, but with the relief it gives, it’s easy to get past that. Just put on your finger and rub on the gum. They sell it in health food stores, used to be about $7 or so for 1 ounce.
Thanks again for your help.
Additional details to consider ........
Yea, I tried not to read to much into this, but it was inappropriate if you consider the fact that he actually left the service desk (with customers in line) and walked 20 yards over to where I was standing and being checked out by a female clerk (who was more than capable of making sure that I found the items that I needed and the appropriate fitting bras herself)but instead he felt the need to "walk away" from his job duties and the customers he should have been taking care of to come over to me and look at me and ask if I found "one that fits?" Why on earth did he feel obligated to come over and do all of that? Wonderful customer service?! OR a bit of a pervert?
I apologize for not providing all of this info in the original post, but the message was long enough and I was simply trying to give "some" details to get thoughts on whether the question was viewed as inappropriate by others or if it was just me.
Thanks again for everyone's input. It's still a toss up for me because it is so borderline, but it was inappropriate in my opinion and I felt awkward about the whole thing. I think most people would.
Yes, details please, are you in love? nm
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santa...details...
this was during "reading". she read Rudolph to teh class. her choice. she brought it up. they read adn then they started asking questions, kids were disagreeing about it, arguing..and so she asked for a show of hands on the certain parts that she chose from teh story that " could happen" and "could never happen"...fact and fiction stuff. she totally started it.
Way, far from a prude - no details here but (sm)
If I am treated with love and respect almost anything goes -it's not an issue of walking around in my panties :-)
Yes, and we've all had a BM, but you don't need to know the details
It's not the act of sex. I'm in my 50s and happily married, but I don't parade around telling people that last year at this time my DH and I were passionately making love and we created a baby. They don't need that picture. Like I say, keep it to yourself, let us celebrate the wonderful "BIRTH" of your baby. Not the exact time to the minute that you know who stuck you know what in you know where. If I want that I'll go rent a porn movie.
Since when do men deal with all the details of holidays and
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Does anybody know the details of when this will be received for us receiving SS?
Know it will be paid in the same manner, i.e., direct deposit, as you receive normal SS check. But the timing is what I am asking about.
When deposited. Know it is to be done before end of May, but just wondering what order or whatever they are paying this $250.00.
Obviously didn't cover many details in a post.
I am not emotionally selfish. Heavens. And I am a Believer, while they are not. I am an animal lover, not above humans. But when I have gotten together with my family in the past, they have chosen those visits to ridicule my family and our love of animals - family get-togethers were nothing more than lets bash the youngest over her love for her animals. Its a bigger picture than I am comfortable to explain here - basically even covers the hunting versus anti-hunting personalities, etc. I have never ever pushed my philosophy on them - its always been vice versa. As an animal lover, I can sense disdain when I am around others who are not as close as family, but who believe animals are worthless - the old dog belongs outside in a dog house philosophy, or the only good cat is a dead one. We can discern these types and I would certainly rather not spend my time in their presence. While you are feeling the need to explain that you don't disapprove of your mother and her choices, your whole theme has honestly been one of disapproval of her and her choices. You don't need to speak those words to her. She can discern your real feelings, but perhaps you are not discerning your mother's. Just a thought from one Biblical Christian to another. 
Pork roast...details below if anyone is interested
I do mine with tomatoes, basil and a clove of frash garlic and just a tad of oliver oil. I wrap that in foil and put it on the grill. I make this with red potatoes (slice partway open and put some butter inside, wrap in foil and grill also). I usually steam some green beans to go along with it, but this is a throw it on and forget about is for 45 minutes. Not great for those thighs but tastes heavenly!
but I differ on some (sm)
Brad is getting on my nerves following Victoria around. He should get with Sharon and be done with it. I love Nick and Phyllis together (especiallly Nick with a beard - now that's HOT). Victoria and JT I like together. Jack and who knows who? I like Lily and Daniel together. Couldn't stand Dru. I hope she NEVER comes back. Yes, it's always good to have someone to chat with and figure out what's going to happen. - LOL
Ok, this is where we differ
I moved into my new home in 2004, at my previous one had been on the budget bill for electricity like you. I was told if I wanted the budget for this home, I would have to accept the old homeowners budget bill moving out- or else pay for 12 month straight before I could get on my own budget. Mind you, same company, just 30 miles down the road some. The woman said this was a different home from mine and I said yeh, and different family. Long story short- the previous owners were paying in excess of 200-300$ per month. I just had my bill reduced once again from 80 (wound up with credit paying that each month) and for the next 12 months $76.00. I tried to tell her- different family!! I would never accept their price because knew I did not use that much.
I beg to differ on this (sm)
My mom was in a health care plan supposedly run by doctors. Well, they would NOT cover a hospitalization or doctor because,even though I had prior consent to use this hospital and doctor ahead of time, they refused to pay the bill! I had to beg the doctor to release her ahead of time as Mom did not have that kind of money to pay out only living on $500 a month. 
I took them through the appeal process and did win. They had to pay...but found out,in talking to others, that they were even worse than a regular insurance company! I dropped that insurance fast and got her signed up with regular insurance!!! No more headaches. 
Beg to differ
First of all, this forum is called GAB - it means we express our opinions. SO, stay off this board and keep your judgments to yourself. Your're judging us just as you're complaining about how we are judging the Spears kid.
Secondly, this does concern all us. Not only because it affects the young people in our lives, who will be talking about this among themselves, but also because this 16-year-old child Jamie Lynn is having a baby who will be going to school and living in this country. So, that child will indeed be affecting my tax dollars. I may not pay for the delivery of the kid, but everything that impacts that child's life is paid for by our tax dollars.
You would have to an @diot to be happy about this kid having a kid. There is nothing nice to say about it unless you just have no clue.
I beg to differ . . .
nobody's trying to shove any agenda down anyone's throat. Just because you personally don't like homosexuals, doesn't mean they don't deserve the same rights as anyone else. Otherwise, we would still have slaves and women would still be considered inferior beings!!
I beg to differ
I have met quite a nasty handful of man hating mothers lately who have raised a bunch of foul mouthed daughters who hate men. My son deserves better!
I beg to differ.....going by who she hangs around with.
Jay-Z attended George Westinghouse High School in Downtown Brooklyn and Trenton Central High School in Trenton, New Jersey but did not graduate. He claims to have been caught up in selling drugs, which he refers to in his music.
Jay-Z was accused of stabbing record executive Lance "Un" Riviera for what he perceived was Riviera's bootlegging of Vol. 3... Life and Times of S. Carter. The stabbing allegedly occurred at the record release party for Q-Tip's debut solo album Amplified at the Kit Kat Klub, a now defunct night club in Times Square, New York City, on December 9, 1999.
Jay-Z's associates at the party were accused of causing a commotion within the club, which Jay-Z allegedly used as cover when he supposedly stabbed Riviera in the stomach with a five-inch blade.
Nice role model, huh?
LOL
I beg to differ - Carpetbagger ! sm
New York State does NOT bring you Hillary Clinton! She is, was and always will be a carpetbagger - the only reason she came here was to set herself up to run for President! She swore back then she would not do that. See how honest she is? I'm ashamed of anyone who voted her into office!
I differ in my opinions - sm
Everyone has limitations and personal problems, including those with high IQ. When we examine those on the other end of the scale, the mentally challenged, many of them seem very happy, and easily contented with the simple things in life. Its because they are able to concentrate on that one thing and enjoy it. Often the rest of us are too distracted by what's going on in our head to enjoy the here and now. The smarter one is, the more easily they can identify what is wrong with a situation, so perhaps the more problems they see the more they tend to be distracted by worries, etc. and cannot enjoy the simple things in life.
Alcoholism? The tendency to that type of escapism is inheritable. Wise people that know it runs in their family will never indulge at all. But smart doesn't necessarily equal wise. In fact, smart often leads to arrogance, which leads to risk taking. You can also wonder how smart people can smoke, gamble, vote the way they do, whatever. These behaviors may be unwise, but they don't make them any less smart (except when the activity actually kills their brain cells). Guess what my ex said to me - "I have so many more brain cells than most people, I can afford to kill half of them off and STILL be smarter than you". Gee, I wonder why I divorced him...
I knew a brilliant guy (not my ex) that I posed your question regarding self-destruction. He claimed it was his brain, and his right to waste it, or not, as he saw fit. I suppose it will be between him and his maker to discuss whether or not it is a sin to do so. I don't think anyone blamed his mother. Nobody blames my ex's mother (indeed she has tried very hard to make him see the error of his ways). They lose the respect of people that had high hopes for them, yes, the definitely do. Their future looks really dismal. But they can still run rings around us in calculus, even three-sheets-to-the-wind. Aggravating as heck, but oh well,
I am one that believes that if a person wants to trash their life, its between them and God. But as I told my ex, when judgement day comes, he'll have some explaining to do, and I wouldn't want to be his his shoes.
Begging to differ. sm
If I had Michelle's figure, the world wouldn't be ready for me! I've been short, stocky and usually overweight from day one, and even at my age, I'd love to have a figure like that! :D :D
I think different states may differ in rules...
but the answer was yes in my case. He "quit claim" deeded the house to me, but the mortgage was still in both names. No way is a bank or mortgage company going to let one off the hook in case the other defaults.
Hope this helps.
I beg to differ; NOT just the *rich and famous*..sm
this problem crosses every socioeconomical level.........it's not just involving the rich and famous.........
i beg to differ. I wish i had freedom FROM religion
I get treated by a leper because I am athiest.
I beg to differ -- Our menstrual cycles
are designed to repeat approximately every 28 days, therefore allowing us the opportunity to avoid pregnancy or seek it. Of course, I know not everyone is regular enough to rely on the rhythm method, but it certainly seems that Mother Nature designed it that way on purpose. A little bit archaic though, I think, to say that we shouldn't be deciding whether we want children or not. Planned parenthood has been around for decades.
I beg to differ. Forgiveness, even Biblical terms, can
only genuinely happen AFTER the offender repents for having hurt/offended you. Forgive and forget is just a wimpy nonconfrontational thing. The only way one can feel true forgiveness is if the other party repents. One can make informed decisions and move on, but forgiveness is not one-sided, though it sounds all warm and fuzzy.
I beg to differ - chocolate tastes better than "skinny." LOL. NM
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Yes, true, the daily lifestyle does not differ, but the nightly does,nm
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BAD idea! Terribly BAD idea!
This could not be worse of any idea. People need to worry about their own bodies, not what other women do! This is supposed to be the land of the free, but people are trying to turn it into the "the land of the free as long as you agree with me." It's a medical procedure and no one else's business period! For some women, it's a hard enough decision to make without having other people tell them how they should do it!
If you do not believe in abortion...great, don't have one, but mind your own business and leave other people alone that need/want to have one! Again, it's none of your business what someone else does.
I don't have any children and don't want any. While I always use birth control, that's not 100%, and if it failed, I certainly would get an abortion without hesitation. I much rather have women get abortions than bring a child into the world that they don't want and mistreat or that they can't pay for and stick ME with paying for it! There are enough leaches out there having kid after kid they can't pay for, and we tax payers are footing the bill. Enough is enough already!
How about all you people that but your nose into other people's business and don't want these women to have abortions pay my share of taxes too since you don't mind paying for all of these unwanted children!
One more idea...
I had a friend whose father got her a diamond ring. It was a heart made out of diamonds, from Daddy to daughter. She treasured that. It was her first "real" jewelry as far as something with precious stones, and it meant a lot that it was from her Dad. If you're a Christian family, as this family was, it could also have the same meaning it had for this family, which was basically a promise from the father to be there for his daughter and a promise from the daughter to remain sexually pure. I don't remember exactly how they did this, I know they took her out to dinner just the mom and the dad and the Sweet Sixteen-er, but she talked about it for years.
I just remember thinking my dad would NEVER have done something so sweet. But I digress.
My son's idea
He wants to make fry bread and call it Native American fry bread so that it would be an N food.
Still searching for something fun with a Thanksgiving theme.
Another idea...
We have 3 golden retrievers, 2 of which are female that we bred. We used to use (dogs are now fixed) little girls underwear and cut a hole for their tail. We then used regular panty liners inside those. It was much cheaper and actually worked better than the things you buy at the pet stores. Both dogs got used to them and usually managed to keep them on most of the time. My human daughters also got a kick out of picking out the underwear..lol.
Word of warning though...don't ever keep her outside when she is in heat if you don't want puppies. We had a Rotweiller go through 2 fences and and a shed door to get to our female.
Good luck!
Here's an idea......sm
My husband cannot stand light when sleeping....it all started really in collge when he would put a pillow over his face to block out roommates being up, etc. After watching him put a pillow over his eyes for 20 years, I finally made him get an eye mask...which he now has been wearing for a number of years and likes it a lot. They are soft, doesn't bother him to wear, and now I can read with the light on and not watch him nearly smother himself with a pillow!!
I like this idea...
Just a thin board I can prop on the sill and attach a hook at the top to keep it flush (so no dreaded light comes through). Plus I can just keep it under the curtain and no need to attach fabric since the curtain is dark enough (of course) not to show through.
And you're welcome with yours. That's why I decided to ask you guys - more people, more ideas.
An idea:-)
Can he go on line and track his banking that way so he doesn't have that problem again? I check my account every day, especially before and after going to the store for anything, to see where I am plus use Quicken software to see my budget for the weeks ahead. That way he will always know what's in there, what was taken out, and keep better track of it. He can add in his Quicken or MS Money on what day his cable company takes their money out for every month and will see how much that leaves him that week. That's terrible how much money he lost on that. Sorry to hear that!
My DH has no idea how I can even do it - sm
he knows it is hard, though he does complain I don't make enough, but that is another issue (I goof off too much--procrastinating). Sit your husband down, put headphones on him and tell him, okay, so you do it and let me know how you do. He will shut up really fast!
Here's an idea. Why not something other than a K then!
I just always hated that, all names with the same letter or that rhyme. Ugh.
It's an idea, but...
That would be punishing the kid for the dad's behavior.
idea
Hey Mammamt,
I love your idea and the way you were able to express the joy of your son coming into your lives....I've been planting trees for siimlar reasons for years. You're a loving and compassionate person.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7KLnCni68M
Cat
Had an idea
Kids were wanting to go to Blockbuster which got me started thinking. Obviously cannot give movies or movie cards but how about movie CANDY and popcorn (crunch and munch or cracker jack or those 3-flavors-in-a-tin so popular this time of year?)!! And I thought about hitting the dollar store - I get stuff for my kids there - the little simple games, notepads and pencils/pens... You guys have gotten me inspired. THANK!
You know, that's not such a bad idea.
business, and they do all right in regards to pay. I also have a friend that just does local (rich) or what I call (rich) people with big homes, and she gets to use their vacation homes for nothing. She does a great job and is a nice person. Word of mouth has been her way of getting new clients.
I am in agreement with the "in front of the computer" thing, but I need a few more years with the kids. However, I have thought of working part-time in a local healthcare facility and doing this part-time again from home when my kids are just a tad older. I'm almost there though.
Does anyone have any idea what happens
when you end up pregnant and are in-between insurances/jobs?? If you don't go to the doctor with your existing insurance that is running out in a month, will your new insurance pick you up, or better yet be obligated to pick you up, when it goes into effect, after you are 3 MO preg?? Curious, and surprised. We make too much $$ to go on any kind of state plan, and didn't know if any new insurance when a person is already 3 mo preg would consider it "preexisting." Any input appreciated!!!!
Idea
If you are a walker or runner, you could completely fix this dog's boredom by making friends with the people and get permission to walk their dog. You could offer to do it for a fee if you think they have more $ than time. Or if you need an excuse so they won't feel like you are criticizing them, you could say it would make you feel safer to have a dog with you.
If you are not a walker, consider the huge benefits to your back and legs. It could make a huge positive impact on your health, too.
If the dog is a puller, the quickest fix I've found is a prong collar. Maybe they have one.
just trying to get a better idea
multiple marriages possibly? i THINK you mentioned you worked 3-4 jobs at a time that sort of thing, maybe he feels abandoned? when was the last time you talked to him? does he have contact with his father?
i realize they are adults but even adults have hurts that sometimes stem from their childhoods.
i know my mother, though in the same home, was totally absent emotionally. she worked several jobs at a time too and i suppose i still have some resentment about that... never having her to talk to. i had the materialistic things i needed but not the motherly love i needed. i try very hard to be there for my children... suppose that would be part of the reason i work from home...
i have a relationship with my mother and i will always love her but i will admit there are times when i'm short with her. sometimes i think she has selective memory as far as the facts of my childhood. i believe she thinks everything was perfect and she was the best. lol.
she has never apologized about ANYTHING..... suppose that would be part of her denial. just wondered if things may be similar between you and your children.
you may very well just have ungrateful children or maybe they have hurts that need healed. :)
i hope you made amends with your son. very sad to me.
I do not know if he is, still, have no idea
A mother does not deserve abuse from him or from anyone else. I do not have in my own home. I went to his home to give him a gold watch my father wanted him to have, a family Bible and had several watches I did not want and offered him those. I basically was ambushed and could not believe his anger. This was in 2005. I do not know if he is still on this, did not ask them, have not asked since. He is a grown man. He has a wife and grown children now. I do not tell him what to do nor do I try to put myself in their lives. If I were ashamed of my actions, I have no problem saying I was wrong. I hope for his family's sake he is off drugs. I talk with his wife occasionally - she called recently to say sorry for the loss of my longtime pet.
Just an idea....sm
Little league fund raiser...candy bars $1.00 ...What we did was stand inside the vestibule to the bank on Saturday morning...Ya know they're going in to get money and weren't gonna pass up 2 boys with mitts filled with candy and deny a contribuion to the home team.
Now, if we were in an office setting we'd all be selling each other wrapping paper, candles, candy or cookies on the behalf of our daughters or sons on a regular basis, or hit up your family and friends.
Who in their right mind would let their daughter or son walk up to a stranger's door in this day and age?
The good ol' days of 50 cent cookies (that I sold as well door-to-door), magazine sales, and the black and white TV are long gone.
 Cat
Idea
"I do not think I would be able to get anyone for what I pay her . . . " Maybe she wouldn't have to steal if you paid her a decent wage, and why do you need a housekeeper if it is just you and hubs?
an idea that may help....
I am not sure if you can do this feasibly, but if you have been communicating with this person, the police can track his computer ID number and find out where he is. If you have any kind of conversation in an email, IM, or even through the site, they can track his computer.
Another suggestion may be to report this to craiglist, as this is where you found him and they will have info on him to give to the authorities.
I hope this helps you.
Another idea you might consider - sm
When my grandfather passed away, my grandmother was in the same situation as your dad.
Might sound crazy but this is what we did.
Gma and Gpa had a three bedroom home and I had two kids. I talked it over with Gma and we moved in with her temporarily. Her wishes were the same. She wanted to die in her home, her bed.
She was still fairly active but she did have some significant health issues and memory issues. Her safety was a big concern.
The kids weren't too thrilled at first but it was probably the best 2 years of their childhood. Gma always had a story or something to talk about and we all really re-connected.
After Gma passed, we moved back into our home. We did have an occasional home weekend when my aunt was in town to visit. That way they could have a more personal visit and we had a little time to ourselves too.
It worked out well for us. Might not be the same for everyone but I sure was glad we could give her what she wanted.
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