Your hostility is strange. Must be hitting a nerve.
Posted By: Me on 2006-12-13
In Reply to: Geez, again, GET A FREAKIN LIFE! - nm
Maybe it's your conscience; otherwise you wouldn't care that other people see this differently than you do. It's not like anybody is going to track down your kids and spoil your fun, so you are the one overreacting.
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Hostility or something else...?
I don't know about you but I have just about given up on trying to explain follow up, follow-up, followup, and weeks, week's and weeks', and when to capitalize the specialties versus when not to, etc., etc., etc. I'm afraid it's a lost cause...... but it sure keeps us busy! :)
Any idea where the hostility is coming from?
Did you have a spat earlier? May I humbly suggest you take off the injured wife hat and put on the cap of friendship for a moment or two?
Try hitting F11 key
that is what does it on the program/platform I work on.
Sorry am hitting age 60.
In your circle of friends and family that is the way but I know of many ranging from 35 to 60+ that definitely want a man to take care of them. Don't know why that would make them vote for a woman but whatever. Just don't think that this shows egg on his face, yours??????
No way is someone hitting my kid in school
I went to Catholic school and we had a paddle. However, if any teacher had attempted to hit me with that thing, I would have kicked their rear. Seriously. I'm all for giving your kid a swat on the butt when needed, but that is up to me, not the school. Plus, swatting a kid for being tardy is ridiculous!
They should bring the dog in and tie the dog-hitting kids.....
:(
Thonk! That was me hitting you on the forehead,,,
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..The light hitting it when turning it sideways or whatever may
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Sore thumb joints from hitting space bar (sm)
They are sore on the opposite side of the thumb, not the underside that hits the space bar. Does anyone know anything I can wear on my thumbs to prevent this from getting worse? I'm afraid I'm giving myself arthritis in my thumbs! Thanks
What nerve.... the little....
I would have gone up one side and down the other of that father. I would have made him look like a fool in front of his own kid! OOOH I wish I was there. What a nutjob!!!!!!
I do not let anyone get on my last nerve, if they try
I would stop that short. My father who was elderly was calling and calling. I moved and did not give my new number and it was four months before I sent that to him. Talk about peace. You can also get call blocking, have the caller sent to another number- perhaps cell phone??, lots of ways for folks not to bother.
Getting on this last nerve
I recently went to upgrade my kitchen counters to granite. Found a place close by and pleased with the price. However, there is a foreign person who owns and not that I mind that, but she keeps making these little digs about not being able to afford (I asked price up front and would do if I had $10 or 10 million), does not want me to go in debt for something (told did not want to do credit and did not want to take $$$ out of bank because would be penalized if taken out before maturity on my CDs and want to pay cash when property closes next month). Folded contract up and told me to come back when I could afford. Maybe this is just the way she talks because of being from another country?? Sold a rental home last year, selling another property next month and have my new home so barely qualifying for food stamps. I want to buy there but feel like I am having to prove or compete even with her remarks. Any come backs or would you just chalk it up to she really does not know how to talk to prospective buyers?
last nerve
If it were me, I'd definitely take my business elsewhere. That is just outright rude and if she isn't able to deal courteously with her customers she should not be in a customer service position. She should hire salespeople who know how to close a sale, not drive people away like she is doing. Tons of places sell granite countertops - who needs the aggravation? Definitely point out to her that she is rude, and that you are taking your business elsewhere.
Wow! Was a nerve hit???
I didn't think the OP was harsh. I'm not a grandmother yet, but I'm the mother of 18- and 20-year-old sons. Many of my friends are grandparents now, so I think I can speak for some of us in my generation regarding what we went through growing up. Most grandparents today grew up in the 1960s and 1970s. Those were pretty crazy times. I know grandparents who attended Woodstock. I've been to Ozzy Osbourne-Black Sabbath concerts where the air was thick with the aroma of weed and fellow concert goers were having sex in the seats next to us. So, yeah, we understand what it's like to grow up in that sort of culture, and we also know what it's like to raise kids in the moral-desolving pressure cooker of the current culture. You make it sound like all grandparents walked off the set of "Leave it to Beaver". That's just not the case. By the end of the 1960s and into the 1970s the pendulum had started to swing so far toward women having careers that we were often belittled for choosing to be home with the children. Remember Hillary Clinton's cookie baking comment during her husband's first campaign? In fact, stay-at-home moms were the norm for only one brief period in our history right after WW II in the post war boom times. There was a pretty awful recession in the 1970s, and I remember gas rationing and long lines at the pumps. My mother had to work two jobs, and my father, who was in construction, was often one of the first to feel economic ups and downs in his paycheck. But we had dinner together every night at the kitchen table. Before the stay-at-home mothers of 1950's t.v. fame, most mothers worked. They had to. Only the very privileged stayed home and waited for Ward Cleaver to come home from the office. My grandmother, who lived to be 94, God bless her soul, was born in 1908. Her mother died during the great Spanish flu epidemic in 1918. My grandmother was the eldest of four children, and at the age of 10 she became the woman of the house. She stopped going to school so that she could cook and clean and took care of her father and siblings. And no one thought that was wrong. It was expected because there really weren't any government social services -- no welfare, no foster care. Eventually, when her father's depression over the loss of his wife became so great that he couldn't manage to bring home an income, people in the neighborhood just took over. The two eldest children went to live with other families. The two youngest went to an orphanage. My grandmother's father just drifted away and his children never saw him again. My grandmother married at age 20 and had four children during the depression. Talk about having it hard. When I was a young mother trying to make ends meet and I'd cry to my grandmother, she brought me around to reality. She told me what it was like for her to raise children during that time. Many a night she cried over whether or not she could even feed her children or if they would have a roof over their heads. And she wasn't alone. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, was in the same boat. The Great Depression was enormous. She and my grandfather worked wherever and whenever they could. They brought home a dollar or two at a time and fed their children buttermilk and potatoes. They didn't sleep, they worried all the time. Today, my grandmother's washboard hangs in my kitchen on the wall next to my dishwasher. It reminds me that I have no right to ever say that things are harder on us today. They aren't. Generally speaking, most Americans have so many more advantages, choices and opportunities than those who came before us. Yet many in my generation and the one or two generations behind me are just whiners and crybabies who don't think about the big picture. They even dare to say they have a harder time as parents today. Please. Not even close! Every generation seems to believe that, but just a short trip through a history book proves otherwise.
I'm not that very old. But I've raised my children and I raised them well. I know what it takes to do that. It takes self-discipline, sacrifice and consistency. And you know what? That's exhausting. Parents today are tired. So what? All parents are tired. Offer it up, as the old nuns used to say. The kids have homework an hour a night. So what? They should have homework, and parents should make sure that it gets done, because education is important. There are parent-teacher meetings to attend, coaches association meetings, scout meetings, dance lessons, school recitals, etc. etc. etc. So what? Balance it out, quit what can't be done, do what can. Work because you have to. The kids have to be fed. It's still easier than it was a generation ago, two generations ago, three and on and on. We're parents to young ones for only a short time. Which reminds me, let's not forget about birth control. Most of us have 2-point-whatever children these days. I'm the youngest of 7. Most of the families in my neighborhood when I was growing up had 4 or more children. Today women can choose to have as many or as few children as they want. That means that we parent for far fewer years than the generations before us. I'm done with day-to-day parenting after just 20 years, and in fact, it got much easier on my day-to-day schedule once my boys were in high school. But my mother had children at home for 34 years. Imagine the number of cloth diapers for 7 children for year after year after year. Yes. I had it far easier, and I know it. So when I was exhausted raising my two boys, I just sucked it up and kept at it.
The OP, I think, probably didn't want to be as blunt as I'm willing to be. She IS helping by babysitting her grandchildren while her children work. I'm sure she loves her children and grandkids, but I'm willing to bet that if she dared to say to her children the things I've posted, her children would react just as you did and she'd end up cut off from her family.
To the OP: I hope it helped to vent a little, and I want you to know that I understand.
Ridiculous. I can't believe the nerve of
Would make me want to take it to the School Board, but I understand about whether or not it is worth the trouble . . . don't know what they would be able to do, but she should at least, at the very least, be reprimanded. Perhaps moving her into the middle school or high school would be punishment enough. LOL!
Hope you guys have a Merry Christmas despite her spoiling Santa.
The lizard gets on my last nerve.
The caveman cracks me up. 
Looks like you struck a nerve
j/k
Kids are going to have accidents and get hurt, no matter how much you try to avoid it. How many times have you mothers out there been busy cooking or taking a shower or doing any of a hundred other necessary daily-life activities and your child has come to you with a bruise or scrape or cut or whatever? IT HAPPENS. No matter how good a mom you are, no matter how hard you try. No one is perfect and no, mothers don't really have eyes in the back of their heads.
So come on, everybody take a deep breath and RELAX, okay?
Okay you have touched a nerve with me
I have a HUGE issue with the way disability/welfare is set up. I have written several letters to my representatives. I happen to live in Indiana and I have learned a few things.
Once a person in Indiana is eligible for disability, they will NEVER review that person's case...... unless someone has reported them and even then, that is not a guarantee. They do not check to see if they are making followup appointments or any such thing.
It is very hard to disprove mental disability. I personally know someone who went in and said they were "hearing voices" and started to receive disability benefits within a few months. My father had COPD, cancer, and other health conditions that kept him from working; keep in mind that he worked 35+ years in the same place, not like he didn't have a good work ethic. He applied and was turned down twice. It took the help of an attorney and after two and a half years, he was finally approved.
I was also told that the turnaround for the ones who decide who receives and doesn't is unreal. It was conveyed to me that there is not a panel of people who do the decision making... it is one person who makes the decision. This person may be very new and not sure what to do. One person may be quick to deny and one may be quick to allow benefits.
When I made the suggestion that EVERYONE who is on disability be required to routinely take a drug test, I was informed that the federal law has allowed each state to make that decision. Indiana has yet to do that. My thinking is, sure it is costly to do a drug test but you figure the cost of that would be a whole lot less than the cost of helping those who are not helping themselves. Let's see if the ones who should be taking certain prescription drugs are indeed taking them and let's see who is involved with illegal drugs and IMMEDIATELY drop them.
I am sure there are a whole lot out there who are on disability or welfare, collecting $$$, receiving food stamps, lliving in government subsidized housing, free healthcare, prescriptions, etc.
I was told by one representative that everyone who has concerns NEEDS TO WRITE TO THEIR REPRESENTATIVES and voice their concerns, lobby, etc. I was also told that those emails that have people add their names too, etc. don't carry much weight. They want to hear personal experiences, concerns, etc.
I URGE EVERYONE OF YOU TO WRITE TO YOUR REPS.... and voice any concerns you have.... talk to your friends, family, etc....
I apologize for any typos in this... I am short on time... as I HAVE TO WORK. ;)
Yeah, that would get on my last nerve. (sm)
I don't know about it being illegal to have them, but I would think they would at least need to keep them contained. If that doesn't work:
2 lb. deer steak, tenderize cut in squares
1 green pepper, chunked
6 bouillon cubes, beef
5 tbsp. cornstarch
3/4 c. water
1 chopped onion
2 tbsp. oil
Place oil in frying pan, heat. Rinse blood out of deer. Place squares of meat in hot oil and brown. Add 4 cups water and 6 beef bouillon cubes. Simmer 1 1/2 hours. Add peppers, onions and cook another 45 minutes. Dissolve cornstarch with 3/4 cup water. Add to meat mixture. Cook another 35 minutes or until tender.
I think I struck a nerve with you because
your happiness is based on being taken care of and you would stay whether you were beaten, unhappy, cheated on, etc. As I said, I am a very secure person.
I seem to have struck a nerve...sm
Although this is not about me, I happen to hold two degrees - a bachelor's and a masters.
Now, if I am permitted on that basis to speak, please note that I offered no negative opinion about this individual. I don't know him, obviously. I merely advised caution and due consideration.
One of my degrees, incidentally, is in Security Management, and I'm a member of both the IACA and IALEIA, which are crime analysis and criminal intelligence associations, respectively, as well as ACFE, the Association of Certified Fraud Examiners. I teach courses in identity theft at the local community college. I think that I do know something about the cautions that I offered - which were NOT opinions about this individual.
As I said, I posted very reluctantly. Obviously, you do not appreciate the fact that when I did post it was because I was concerned.
Oh, and by the way...you know nothing at all about what I happen to know about my partner, so I'd appreciate it if you'd keep your venom to yourself because my post did not merit that kind of response. I do wonder, however, what it comes from, and if I had to make a bet, well...I'll let you finish it.
You hit a nerve?...that's hysterical! Surely I did!
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Ladies - I know this strikes a nerve with some of you (sm)
Just remember-everyone is different. The situation is not the same as yours as they are all different. I asked for opinions and I got them. I said I HAVE been making them go. I am just wondering if I SHOULD continue that. Some think I should and some think I shouldn't. This is not the same as your SIL telling you off or your DIL not letting you see your grandchildren. She sees them as much as she wants, any time she wants. I got to all the family functions she wants us to go to even if her son can't go. I help her when she is sick. I call her on the phone and check on her. We all spend several weeks throughout the summer at the lake with her. We spend EVERY holiday with her. How do you figure this woman is being short changed?? My own mother is the one being short changed - she lives 8 hours away. She never gets to see me or her grandchildren for holidays because my MIL would have a FIT if we were not at her house for these events. When we visit them once or twice a month, we spend ALL DAY at their house. How is she being cheated if she doesn't get every single thing she wants but does get at least 95%?????????
maybe a slightly pinched nerve? (sm)
I've had something like this happen before, mostly just took an anti-inflammatory and/or another hot shower to loosen up then tried to work through it...
Good luck!
That takes some nerve in my opinion.
It is not like you have any say so in your son's graduation, and in my book that would be more important to me than my nephew's wedding. It if interferes with the wedding, so what. There is nothing you can do about it.
Talk about nerve, this megamom has now set up
a website asking for donations. Well, I am going to set up a website asking for donations for my animal rescue. I rescue animals that otherwise would be put down, vet them, spay, neuter at my own cost and then try to find them a wonderful home. I am not adding to the problem (animals here) but hopefully helping the problem. She is getting food stamps, disability, said she would use her student loans for the children. Family and Children's Services should be knocking at her door before long. Talk about a Jolie wannabe.
I had nerve pain in my thigh for 15 years.
I finally figured out the cause of mine and it's gone, so I hope you can figure yours out too. Are the MDs saying nerve conduction studies wouldn't help them with it? Do you have hypermobile arches, where the ligaments are too loose and there is too much sag when you step down? If that is causing a nerve problem (and I just know it can cause pain to shoot straight up through the arch), then you would need to get just the perfect arch supports for your feet and NEVER go barefoot. Just a thought.
Good luck.
Your mother has some nerve and if she knew manners
she would know basically it is NOT her wedding, basically she has NOTHING to do with it and should keep her nose out of it. You or someone else needs to clue her in on where she stands, no where basically. Does she have some mental issues? If she put up that much fuss, I probably would disinvite her to the wedding and I am not playing. Don’t be spineless, tell her...
Thousands of nerve endings insignificant?
Well - as far as I know, the foreskin protects the glans. It also keeps the glans moist and secretes antibacterial substances. Also, circumcision greatly desensitizes the glans, reducing the pleasure quotient for men. Did you know that?
That's a creative idea. I'd love to have a listen, but I'd never have the nerve to ask! n
OP
You might be compressing a nerve in your spine or neck. Get up often. Drink all day long. See your
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LOL- and he has the nerve to preach to the average person - hahah)sad -people believe him
No, mine is elevated IOP without optic nerve change. I was just to see an ophthalmologist who
actually is from Wills Eye. It is not to the point of doing anything now.
That is so strange
Those are the exact dreams that I have as well. The locker combination, never getting to class, can't remember where my class is and I had the teeth falling out one about 2 weeks ago!!!
Strange how so many minds can work the same subconsciously.
I always figured it was because I have "issues" from high school, lol.
So nice to know I'm not the only one who dreams those things constantly!
strange. . .
a peep show. . I think you're over reacting a little. . . Give this poor mom a break. . yes, everyone has problems - I sure do - but this lady does not need this sort of bashing right now. . how is that helpful to her??
This is strange
because my DH and I have talked about this often. I do think consumers get the short end of the stick because the government does not release drugs as quickly as they should. They also will not recognize a treatment because if doesn't have FDA approval. I do think the FDA does keep us safe at times but I also think they are too slow in approving many drugs that have been safely used in other countries for years.
My DH and I also have talked about how if they came up with cures for many of the diseases what would they have fund-raisers (think about the millions MDA has brought in) for and wouldn't it put many of the researchers out of business? Because drugs and cures are big business.
Strange...
I took my daughter to the doc today with these exact symptoms. Neg flu and neg strep. She is really sick but with what? She has amoxicillin and Dytan.
Really? It seems strange
that you never discussed it. If my man would not admit it, I would pester him to death becuase I couldn't stand it.
And I am very shocked that he just accepted you making him change his lifestyle so (not making any moves alone) without a word. ??
Not strange here
My daughter has her 9th grade dance and if they're from another school they have to sign a form or they won't get in. The same if they're not in the 9th grade but are in the same school district.
Very strange
I was just going to get on and ask the same question. For about the past month, my legs, mostly from the knees down, have felt tight and achy. They are swollen and red, blanching when I poke them with my finger. I too will sit with them up for a while and they feel better, only to go back to where they were when I sit again for any extended period of time. I have been trying to drink a lot of water, stay away from salt, etc. I don't know what is going on. If the support stockings help, I will also wear them.
How strange!
You said in your experience "the longer a girl waits, the more socially awkward she feels, and the more promiscuous she becomes once she finally joins the party." You also wrote that "being the only virgin left in the school would also cause psychological damage."
I don't understand that at all. So caving to peer pressure should be the deciding factor in when a person loses his/her virginity?
Not for me. I was a virgin until my wedding night, at age 23. I've been married 25 years. My husband was also a virgin. I wasn't socially awkward, and I certainly didn't become more promiscuous when I finally "joined the party". I was, however, college educated, living in a large eastern city, enjoying all life had to offer which included a lively social life.
I'm not very fond of the idea of purity pledges and big group celebrations where fathers present their daughters with promise rings, etc. I don't think a public declaration is needed. I was simply raised to respect myself and to be responsible. My father and I were very close, yet we never once had a conversation about "saving" myself. But throughout my life with him (he died when I was 21), he made sure that I knew how loved I was. I knew that he felt I was special. He was always a gentleman and treated my mother and me, and all women, with great respect. From his wonderful example, I learned how a woman should be treated, and I settled for nothing less. I'm sure this upbringing is a major reason why I enjoy a strong and loving marriage with my husband.
Compared to the purity pledge idea, I think my father's method is a much more effective way to raise up a woman with a healthy attitude about herself and her sexuality. I know it's not the experience that most women have, but I certainly wish it were.
get your son out of there. What a strange
attitude and behavior of your in-laws. Continuing like this they will never get closure. This will render everybody depressed. Is this sort of a cult?
Strange, isn't it.............sm
how we assign super mortal status to celebrities?
Farrah was just a girl from Corpus Christi, Texas, and MJ was just a boy from Indiana, yet their lives and deaths and the manner of same has become fodder for the media. Before anyone says "sour grapes" let me say that I am happy for them that they achieved superstar status with all its attendent perks. I just don't quite understand what makes their deaths any more interesting than the average person.
May they both rest in peace.
I can say she looks strange, she does but
then what about him? He was such a good looking guy at one time. Know he had the money to get all the plastic surgery done but why would any reputable physician do the surgery?
Strange Situation....
OK, I'm not sure if I'm overthinking this, but I'd love your opinions and advice.
We're good friends w/our next door neighbors -we go to each other's kids parties, have lot's of cookouts, and do lot's of things together. The last thing was our Christmas Open House. They were here, all was 'normal' and we all had a good time.
For the past three years we've celebrated New Year's Eve together. I mentioned it at our party a couple weeks ago and she kind of himmed and hawed b/c they may be out of town, but then, no, they would be in town. She'd let me know.
Then, later that week, a friend of hers who is an acquaintance of mine called me about this makeup she sells. In casual conversation she mentions an open house our neighbors are having and says she'll see me there. Uh, what open house? We were not invited, no mention of it, no come by after your family leaves, nothing. The acquaintance kind of back-peddles, but there's no going back. Their open house was yesterday, and from the looks of their driveway there were 30 or more people there.
Their kids came over today to play with our kids and the little was saying how we should have come over, didn't we see all the cars? I wanted to, but didn't say we were'nt invited.
Now, should I swallow my pride and just call over to see about New Year's Eve, or just let it go?
Only that this is strange, because a similar
feeling has come over me. I had a fling years ago that lasted a couple years. We never committed, would just meet up every couple of weeks or so. We both had a *relationship* but we were still in our early twenties. I wound up getting engaged to and marrying the guy I was in a relationship with, dumb move, very young. When this guy heard I was engaged he dumped the girlfriend and asked me not to get married and I guess finally wanting to commit to me. It broke my heart, but I didn't want to break my fiance's heart. Anyway, that was the last time I saw him. Wound up divorced after only 2 years and moved about an hour away from there. Heard he had married too around that time.
Now, I find myself thinking of him all the time and just learned he moved too and lives about 10 miles from me. I'm with my 2nd husband now for around 10 years, but c'mon is anyone really still feeling those butterflies and excitement after all these years? The answer is not usually. Why do you think affairs happen in the first place? And I do think this is probably a very common feeling especially if it was someone you were crazy about. You kind of think maybe you can start up again where you left off at a point in your life where let's face it things are not all that exciting. Let me just mention my husband is a great guy but lately we've had some major disagreements about things which I believe has made me start feeling this way. You however mention you are *content* in your relationship and sorry but something has to be wrong somewhere. Maybe the bedroom? I do however agree with the other posters that it would only cause more problems. I have given this a lot of thought myself and decided not to contact him unless I end up divorced first and I find out that he is no longer married. And for now I guess I can only imagine. :)
yes, people are still strange....sm
Unfortunately people are still bent-out-of-shape about these types of things. It's too bad. I am so non-racist having grown up in NY in the civil rights era......
For example, I married outside of the culture and religion and my mother insisted I would *lose my roots* - she was dead wrong - I became so much more in touch with EVERY culture, including my own.....
We need to show tolerance.......I am only intolerant of the intolerant.
No. Never have been for some strange reason.
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The strange response is actually yours
or you didn't get the sarcasm/humor of my post. Ever hear that saying? lol
What a strange comment.
You were able to discern that from my post? I find THAT strange!
Actually, your assumptions are quite wrong.
I will say a prayer for you, that God may grace you with wisdom and patience.
Strange sitings
I was 10 when I saw a similar craft right at tree line, dark (not shiny) gray. I live in the South also - Louisiana and wonder about that mystery often. It too was huge, silent, and disappeared when I bent down to talk to a younger sister. Looked up, and it was gone. Took just seconds.
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