Your approach works wonderfully in theory...
Posted By: mt on 2007-11-30
In Reply to: Ummm YES!!! - Typiniowan
but in reality, this rarely works. I have been an RN for 13 years now, doing MT on the side. I do not look at this from a one-sided MT point of view, but rather from a mother's point of view.
As a nurse, you must know that even when you try to educate your patients as kindly and nonconfrontationally as possible, when you start to point out to them things they may be doing wrong (such as not taking meds consistently or correctly, continuing to smoke when they have emphysema or COPD, eat tons of salt on a low-salt diet, etc.), IMMEDIATELY a wall goes up and the mentality is "How dare you try to educate me on MY life and point out my shortcomings".
Public health nursing is even trickier. From experience, even being as kind and non judgmental as you can possibly be, 99% of the time, this mother does not want to be aware that other people know about her problem. Most of the time, they think "OK, if I just ignore it, it will go away eventually". If others come to them and say, "Look, I know you have a problem, let me help you with it", they only get more embarassed knowing that now everyone at their kids school knows that they are not getting rid of it, and she will likely tell you exactly where to go.
I agree with what you are saying, that we should try to help each other out more. I am not being judgmental, but I guess after 13 years of this, I see the way things are and not the way we wish them to be!
I don't know of any nurse that will make a home visit. In fact, our county is getting rid of school nurses starting next year. They will have 2 nurses rotating throughout 24 elementary schools in the county, none in high school or middle schools.
From experience, the Health Department is usually the only entity that can do anything about this. They can come in and give the mom some education, determine why the child can't get rid of them, etc. For some reason, most people will accept that kind of help from the Health Department before they would a concerned parent from their kids school. Maybe they feel like nobody knows if the Health Department comes, but everybody knows if another parent comes over?
You seem to have a very positive outlook on things. Good luck in your schooling.
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Vicks vaporizer...works wonderfully!
I used the Medifast program. It worked wonderfully (sm)
I think the HMR is all liquid which is the difference with Medifast. With Medifast, you eat 5 of their meals (oatmeal, shakes, pudding, soup, or bars) and 1 meal you prepare of a protein and a vegetable. It was very easy to follow, I never felt hungry, and I lost over 60 pounds in 7 months. What I loved about this diet was I learned a whole lot about portion control.
Maybe try this approach...
Use it with him! Tell him to meet you in the bedroom in 5 minutes. Warm up with the toy and then let him join in. If you can prove it is no threat at all to him he may be more accepting and encourage you to use it? Good luck! :-)
Don't lie..different approach
So what if you die tomorrow? Your 6-year-old will not believe anyone again.
What are you going to tell him when grandparents pass on? Might try a Christian book store and see what they have to explain death, heaven to a child.
I like POSITIVE ideas. For instance suicide. I ask the young people "aren't we all God's children? Doesn't God love all his children? You are not supposed to rush into God's presence but HE knows when you are coming and he loves everybody!
If you happen to fall over dead tomorrow, who have you asked to take care of your son? This could give your son reassurance that he will not be alone.
I lost my son on his 22nd birthday to leukemia. I cannot think of anything else but that I WILL see him in heaven. My 16-year-old surprised me when he said that my son will spend his birthday in heaven!
The "free" advice that I want to give you is keep it up beat, positive, loving (not to the extent that suicide is an option), good thoughts. You don't have to accept every idea a church gives you either. Form your own good opinions and ideas! Pass them on to your son!
Good Luck!
A different approach
This is what I would do and why.
First I can see all the posters points of view and if I was my mother I would probably be mad and argue. However, I have learned over time that arguments like this sometime (and I say sometimes) are not worth it. My mom and her husband would fight and fight and fight just so one could say they won. Sometimes something like this is best to just let go (wears much easier on the nerves). However, with that if it was me I would sit down with my husband and explain to him that I was upset because I didn't realize he was going to keep $10 to put money in his car, and thought we were sharing the costs to fill up the car we were in. Then I'd be "more of a man than he is" and give him a kiss and a hug. I would also then suggest maybe an alternative way of getting gas and that would be to fill both cars up whenever they get to 1/4 tank and go half & half on whatever the cost. My dad told me you get more gas for your money if you fill it up rather than little amounts here and there.
So, that is what I would do.
LOL, that's one approach I haven't tried yet, but I like it.nm
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I would not approach her family
I think you would be better off going through the school. Maybe the family is odd! You don't need to create problems with the parents.
I, for sure, would speak to someone at the school though.
If U do apply for job, approach that facility and U
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Never a good idea to approach wildlife - sm
Even deer. One strike with a well placed hoof and you are done.
We live in the sticks. Waaay out in the sticks. We have coyotes, racoons, tons of deer, and the occasional bear and cougar roaming around.
Coyotes have come down and attacked our dogs in broad daylight right in front of the house and the racoons tear into the garbage cans.
Had a bear tear down our gate to the pasture trying to get to our horses one year. The gate post was 8 feet long, buried 4 feet down and anchored in concrete. The bear pushed it over like it was nothing. Thankfully it ran off when I fired a shot in the air.
The game department took one look at the picture I took of a problem racoon we had tipping our garbage cans and said, "Sorry, we don't have any traps big enough for that old man." He was HUGE! I have never seen a racoon that big in my life. I thought it was a big dog until I put the spotlight on it.
Wildlife is nice.... at a distance.
Giving away kittens. Need advice on best approach.
I have four 9 week-old kittens that need a home. I found a good new home for 2 of them. Anyway, I have told the girls, ages 7 and 3, from the start that those kittens will need to be given away. However, they have both become very attached to the kittens. Anyway, the people are asking for them and is wondering when the best time to come get them. I don't know if it would be better for them got get the kittens when the girls are here or when they are at school. They are already getting under our cars and I am afraid they are going to get ran over. They can eat solid food and drink water. I still see mama cat nurse them though not as much as she used to. Any tips would be helpful.
try a gentler approach with them, try watching the kid, even puppy sit, it may make things better
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There is a theory that
all the wonderfully strong antibitics we have can actually cause people to have a fungal infection start in their sinuses. But I don't think all MDs are on board with that idea yet.
I rarely have sinus trouble any more, and I was on an oral antifungal for a while, so maybe that's why. But I also quit drinking milk because of all the mucus production, and that helped me. Silk soy milk is great if you want to try it. I still use other products like yogurt and ice cream, just not milk.
My mom gets great relief with saline sprays, and I have used Afrin for a day or two to get things opened up and get pain relief.
Very sorry you are in pain.
Just my theory on that...
Most refrigerator egg trays are on the door, and the door is opened, closed, and maybe even left open for more than a few seconds at a time. I guess this could theoretically cause temp fluctuations, variations in humidty, or egg trauma, thus reducing shelf life.
I have no idea. I have acutal chickens who make actual eggs and I've stored them at room temperature for several days and in the fridge in the egg basket I collect them in, in cardboard egg containers like normal people do, or even in empty cool-whip containers! They're never around long enough to go bad--always get eaten or given away in pretty quick order.
Interesting question though and look forward to hearing what people find out!
What is your theory on
Maybe rumors isn't the right word, more like being told something by another person about your spouse, but all you have is what this person is saying, with no hard evidence to back it up? I hope this makes sense because I don't want to go into too much detail about this. If you can answer, I'd appreciate it!
theory
My opinion on *rumors* or *gossip* is that if there is no hard evidential proof, take it at face value, consider the source, etc. Since you did not get too specific about this, I can only assume that whatever this person said about your spouse was not good, so just consider that whoever told you is only trying to cause trouble, perhaps out of jealousy, or whatever. If you have doubts about what this person told you, ask for proof. In other words, put up or shut up.
What's his theory?
What's his theory?
My theory on Locke's dad
We all know Sawyer was on a hunt for the man who conned his mother, ultimately resulting in the murder/suicide of his parents. He then mistakenly killed Jack's dad, thinking he was the man he was hunting.
Then there is Locke, didn't know who his father was then his long lost mother suddenly appears with that information, leading him to his father. His father sucks him in to a false relationship and then betrays him, basically conning him out of a kidney, then dumping him and running. Later to reappear as the man prepares to wed a wealthy woman. Her son ends up dead and he (Locke)rightfully accuses his father of murdering the woman's son. His father, in return, shoves him out a window, resulting in Locke's paralysis.
I think Locke's father is the man Sawyer was hunting and Sawyer's newly found sense of good will toward his other survivors will be tested when the Others reveal this to him and give him some kind of ultimatum... ooooooooooooooo
Just my wild imagination.
Is this the new Republican theory?
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I agree in theory
However, the Obamas are not the same as the Trumps or any other conspicuous consumer. As the democratically elected leader of the country, there should be a degree of empathy with the people who put him in office. While I don't expect the Obamas to "reduce" themselves to buying Walmart tennies, I find it hard to believe that there was not some alternative to a $500 pair of shoes, to a charitable event for the less fortunate, no less.
As they say, If you've got it, flaunt it. As the face of America in their position as first family, maybe they should strive to find a middle ground between the Madoffs and those with tissue boxes on their feet.
Well, there goes that theory, LOL. That's good,
though -- that's how we are with my parents too, very close.
Oh no....another conspiracy theory
Is this like Elvis really isn't dead, and JFK is not dead either. Ha Ha Ha
I saw these photo's you are talking about and it looks like him. His skin does not look that much darker than it should be. His face was so scarred from the surgeries and busted up so bad that he wore heavy duty makeup when going out into the public, so when he was alive and went into public his makeup made him whiter than he was without makeup, however, to me and DH it did not appear any darker than it should have been. Also, after you die your skin turns a bluish color which would give the illusion of why you think he looked darker.
As for the medical stuff/time frames not adding up, nothing has been confirmed yet. Doctors need time to go through everything before they make any statements, but anyone who talks to the media about this without knowledge will all have a different stories. Just have to wait for the coroner to tell us what the exact cause and time of death were.
As for his body "bouncing", I have seen plenty of dead bodies on gurney's before and they do move when the gurney is dropped.
Yes I too will miss his music. He was a wonderful performer, but his body is human, and human body is very frail, especially his - he seemed more frail than most.
This conspiracy type thinking also came out after Elvis had died. So many loved him so much they didn't want to believe he was dead and for years and years people kept saying they saw him. I think some tabloid even had a picture of Elvis pushing JFK in a wheelchair and claimed they were on some island somewhere.
I think people should just live with the memory of his wonderful music and performances not not try to start theories that he really is not dead and this whole thing was "staged" so he could go off somewhere to be alone or something (although I am expecting to see that in the tabloids soon).
Meanwhile I wish the media would stop their nonstop coverage of him. There is much more going on in the world that affects us news wise. Michael Jackson has died. Also Farah Fawcett died too but do they give her equal attention?
It doesn't matter "where you stand." What works for you is fine. What works for me is fine.
Comparing ourselves as to frequency is ridiculous.
I've heard that theory before
I think it is very sad when a woman gives and gives all year long, tries to be thoughtful and generous for Christmas and probably every other gift-giving occasion, and gets no thanks at all. Maybe her DH put a lot of thought into the robe, but I doubt it.
It is about giving and not receiving and I agree with the poster below about how this holiday is really messed up. I think life is about giving, not just one holiday, but if there is such a holiday, then one should at least use that time to show his spouse that he appreciates her.
Just a little trinket from each kid that they picked out. For whatever the robe cost, he probably could have found something more personal... he does live with the woman.
I don't think the OP's post was about receiving. It was about giving. That's all she does.
Big Bang Theory, How I met Your Mother,
The New Adventures of Old Christine, CSI Miami, Bones, AI. I'd like The Biggest Loser better if they could fit it into 1 hour instead of 2. When I had DVR, I could speed through it in about 45 minutes. That was great.
who defends the theory that alcoholism
can be inherited from relatives and renders an alcoholic innocent and helpless? I mean that it is already in 'one's genes', a predisposition. I disagree with that.
But I believe that living in a certain environment can turn out many alcoholics, but it is in the end a self-inflicted misery.
I am sort of agreeing with your theory, but also because if she had pneumonia
and was taking Vicodin and/or high-dose cough syrup, which are both are known to compromise the respiratory system, if this alone did not play a factor into it.....and let's not forget the respiratry effects of methadone. I believe if she was taking these with the pneumonia she very well could have asphixiated herself.
Now, if any of those drugs were prescribed to anyone other than herself and they coontributed to her death, that person will be facing manslaughter charges. I do not see the conspiracy theory that Howrd was with her when her son died and when she died, because I sort of would see that as normal behavior if her was her friend and confidant. I would think it sort of normal that he would be there at the birth of her child (although I do not believe it is his) and with her when she was ill if he cared for her.
Rules of Engagement, Big Bang Theory, House ...
The New Adventures of Old Christine, CSI Miami, Bones, Design Star, Biggest Loser.
Ooooooo! That's an awesome theory! I'm a total Lost freak too. SM
I can't believe I missed this thread!
Let's see if this works
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WW Works
I am a successful WW-er, having lost over 75 pounds. WW allows you to have all your favorites, but in a sensible fashion. There is no food category that is not allowed. That's the key for me. WW trains you in how to eat with healthier food choices and it is definitely a lifestyle change as regards food choices. Of course, as with any weight loss program, you cannot return to eating whatever you want in unlimited amounts once you have lost your weight. You must continue to take the tools you were taught and use them each and every day with your food selections. I would definitely recommend attending meetings, though, as accountability is always helpful in staying the course.
it works for me! LOL. (nm)
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Nothing works better than
hanging out in the sun to dry, so fresh smelling, great for sheets also.
What works for my little one...
We always alternating Tylenol and Motrin every four hours. This works better than giving either one by itself. I put him in a tee shirt and his underwear and use cool compresses on his head. Hope your little one is better soon!
what works for me
is medicine, Maxalt.
This works for me!
No but I know what works well sm
I used green tea patches in the past. They don't sell them anymore (probably because it was too good and you'd have to get an Rx), but you can still find them at sites on the internet. Also Hoodia is really awesome. I am taking Hoodia 2 a day and the pounds are just flying off. It is something from cactus discovered that the natives take in the jungle for stamina and to keep fit. It is not expensive at all. I got mine on e bay but found it and also green tea pills at Walmart not expensive. I have had more energy and feel better since I have been taking these 2 things and total cost for the 2 was no more than 25 bucks for the month. Sorry I don't know about the product you asked about but I wanted to suggest to you some cool things. Good luck!
Try T-Gel. Works for us.
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This works!
I did the same. It only took one summer (last year) of doing this and then we slowly tapered off the chore chart. I would "forget" to print it off the computer from time to time. Since then I no longer have to ask but when I do it is already done, just had to get in the habit of doing it without question, I think. My child is like OPs that he really is a great kid but for some reason brushing teeth was a nightmare twice a day every day. The only difference in our allowance chart was that for each item completed (without being asked or questioned) my child would get 25 cents - totaled at the end of the week. He still had to do everything, it was just a matter of initiative and no arguments on his part. I think max would be $5 a week or something like that. I had it calculated out so I new there was a limit. Truth be told, he asked for more than $5 of stuff every time we went to the store (and that was another fight) so this did double-duty in that if we went to the store he had to use his own money. Amazing how picky kids get when its their money.
Yes, but I am not too sure how that works.
Is that like a second morgage?
Do you barrow against your house at a lower APR?
what works for me -sm
I get a massage once a week NO MATTER WHAT! I have been going to the same lady for 5 years, who gives me a break on the price. For 30 mins it is $25, which is a bargain and SO worth it. I also schedule lunch every Friday with a friend of mine and go nearly no matter what else. You have got to make time for yourself and be selfish about it. Best wishes! :-)
If you have MS Works - sm
Use the spreadsheet program and throw it in there. Then I think it's data/sort and go from there.
Yes, please let me know how it works out(sm)
The bedroom is still quite cold at night depending on the temperature outside when you close the door. Hubby never cared because as a child, his room didn't have heat either, so he was used to it, but now that he's older, he's getting to be a little bit too much to handle.
He tried a gas wall heater but it used to much fuel. We tried an Eden Pure, but it died before the winter was over.
He only needs the room around 60 so he cut a hole in the wall above the door and put a fan in to draw the heat into his room but the fan is so noisy, it's hard to get a good night's sleep.
It works!
When mine were smaller they had more fun unwrapping and playing with the boxes.
They are all between 12 and 17 now. I told them to count their blessings if they get Christmas dinner this year let alone presents. This year kinda stinks, but I am sure they will get a few things they each want. I always figure it out.
where my DH works
There are boards (electronic and physical) where employees can post job trades all over the country they would like to make. It has not included houses yet, but you might try local employers near your home or chamber of commerce pages of your nearest town where people would be looking on the internet from far away.
However, that only works if...
people on welfare are being tested, otherwise, they just end up there eating up more of our tax money, so I really don't know if that is a good idea. My point was that I don't see why one would find it humiliating.
Hope It Works
You're welcome. Let me know if it works for you.
I hope that works for you!
Good luck! :-)
Here's how it works at our household....sm
This is for our 6-year-old....
1. Verbal warning to stop the negative behavior.
2. If she continues then she receives a time out for 6 minutes. Time out is spent in a chair and she is allowed to do nothing while sitting there.
3. If she continues with the negative behavior or talks back about having the time out then she loses TV privileges for the day.
4. If the negative behavior still continues then the restrictions are increased to not being allowed to play with the neighbor next door if it's early in the day, or not being allowed into the art room if it's after dinnertime (her favorite room to go to is the art room).
5. If the negative behavior still continues then if it's early in the day she is put down for a nap as often times a nap will get the bad behavior to stop, and if it's around dinnertime or later she is put to bed early.
Kids respond to consistency so be sure that whatever route you take with your kids that they know ahead of time what correct behavior is expected as well as the consequences for negative behavior. Reward them when they're being good for a certain time period. Smaller kids respond well to stickers and a sticker chart that they can redeem "x" stickers for a small prize. We use a grab bag of things I got at the dollar store that she is allowed to grab something out of the bag (without seeing what is in there) every few days for good behavior. When she came to live with me at age 4 (she's our foster-to-adopt child) she had horrible behavior and I would remind her every day if she was good she could have it at the end of the day, then weaned it to every other day, every 3rd day and now it's used once a week. Initially I would get through all 5 layers of discipline constantly with her but now it's very rare that I have to go past the TV restrictions to get her to make the right choice and behave.
Neither my husband nor I believe in spankings and even after the adoption is finalized in a few months we will not spank her. It's more effective to take away privileges and that lasts longer than a swat on the butt does.
I'm not sure how it works on a built-in ...
but you should be able to play the DVD and, if the VHS player is also a recorder, you should be able to record a VHS tape. Otherwise you might need to hook up a second VHS recorder and tape from the DVD player. Like I said, not sure about a combo but you should be able to check the instruction book. Good luck.
My son is young and works....sm
He went to a lot of trouble to get me a necklace that was a heart, said mom on it and had little "fake" diamonds. He is young, loves to work and it took a lot to save his money to buy gifts for everybody himself. I offered to help but he refused. This is not a necklace I would have chosen myself but because it was carefully selected by somebody that loves me that is what makes it so special. While it might not be something I would "normally" wear. You can bet because of the love and thought that was put into it I will proudly wear it daily because it was carefully chosen for me. How do I know? I was with him shopping and he was about in tears because he wanted me to "go to a different spot" so he could make his special purchase without me watching. While it didnt cost hundreds of dollars, yet was not cheap for a young person to buy I will cherish it forever and most certainly wear it proudly right along with the "real diamond" jewlery that I do have. If you ask me it is just as beautiful as it was a gift from the heart.
If you know anyone that works at a hospital, they
and wind up throwing the old ones away. That is how I got one in my possession. Old or not, it could still be resourceful at points even in our new wave of technology online. Just a thought.
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