Your apology is accepted, Ella...sm
Posted By: curious girl on 2009-05-19
In Reply to: And I truly apologize for that post. - Ella
I've never had a person apologize on here to me. :)
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Ella, I feel the same................nm
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Ella got the point (thank you!)
Yes, only within the last few years has being an MT been so volatile and I think there are few on the board anymore who can appreciate what I was saying. I did not have these sorts of problems five years ago or even expected anything like this. The uncertainty in today's environment is something this generation has never experienced and is unprepared to deal with. I keep thinking of that saying, *there but by the grace of God go I." The OP is not the only MT suffering and has my empathy.
Thank you, Ella, for clearly seeing the underlying message.
Come on, Ella, extremely attractive?. How and where?...nm
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Right, Ella, but nonetheless each people has
its characteristics.
Geez Ella, get a grip
She didn't say her husband was a monster, just that he would not let her give a permanent home to yet another dog. Maybe you'd trade your husband for a stray pit bull, but a lot of us wouldn't.
Hi, Ella! Glad to see you back, witty, as usual.....nm
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Apology
Opie, I would like to personally apologize for my fellow brother in Christ and I would like to say to Christians: I call on all of you to reread your life manual (Bible) and really pay close attention to the Gospel (Good News) Jesus preached and lived. Our role, as was his, is not to condemn the world (people). If you think your role is to condemn or critize the world I suggest you pray first and find out WWJD. If He wants you to confront someone He will let you know how and when but 9 times out of 10 he will point you to Matt 7: 1 thru 5 or 1 Sam 16:7. Let us live and preach true Christianity which is that of reconciliation with the Creator and not condemnation.
apology
I don't see an apology as a punishment; I see it as an aknowledgement to wrong doing and making her accountable. It works for my kids, and by now they know I expect it. I understand the little gal was tired, but I simply do not see an apology as a punishment.
You don't owe them an apology (sm)
They owe you one. You remind me of myself up until recent years. Don't always be sorry. You are not always wrong. :-) I know you are just trying to make peace and drop it - but you really have nothing to be sorry for.
an apology
I just realized that I sounded really mean and I apologize. As a thin person, maybe you don't realize that those of us who need to lose weight, and struggle with it, maybe took your post as boasting about how tiny you are. If you want to offer support, I'm glad for that. I'll take it, as I need to lose about 50 pounds. Again, I'm sorry for being nasty. It's hard bein' chubby. 
Ella (retired) meant it 'sarcastic.', read her post....nm
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I agree. I think an apology is very appropriate.
Having to admit one did wrong and apologize for it is sometimes the "best" way to not forget the action and not do it again.
Cat, not for you to call for apology
I think the original poster can take care of herself. While most of us do not know the terminology in birthing cattle, horses, etc. Hayseed will do ok just on her own.
ha ha---we ALL owe our parents an apology:-)
Unfortunately we never realize that until our OWN kids put us through stuff.
Our son owes us an apology?
He blames us for him quitting school and him working at a job for 6 years that he hated. He is 36-years-old. He refused to go to school and the fines we received for him not going to school cost hundreds of dollars. We made him pay those fines. But the whole point was he hated school, wanted to quit, but we thought if he worked a summer, he would go back. He made the choice not to go back to school even though we begged him to because with education, he would get better jobs, but to no avail. Now he is blaming us for ruining his life. "After all, I spent 6 years at a job I hated and I wasted my life."
He is now in a good job, but it really hurts that he thinks we are the ones that caused his problems. Now he's telling my husband, because there is no work for his occupation, that that's no excuse not to go and get a job somewhere else.
What is wrong with this picture? I am furious with him. I think he owes my husband an apology. What do you think?
I'm venting here because if I say anything to him right now, it will go in one ear and out the other. He is totally right all the time in his mind.
then why point it out at all if it needs an apology? sm
sounds like you were more offended than any Navy SEAL would be. geez.
Yes, I do believe he owes you and your husband and apology.. sm
You don't say how old he was when he refused to go to school, but I'm guessing he was high-school aged. I have a son who is now almost 18 and getting him to go to school up until this last fall was a struggle. He is learning disabled and absolutely hated school, couldn't care less if the schoolhouse burned to the ground. Thankfully, I was able to get him into a work program this past fall which will satisfy his graduation requirements and he is very happy with it now. I wish you had had access to some kind of program when your son was in school. However, his choices were his own and he has to accept responsibility for them.
I could not be accepted by MIL
as she died before we married but I wish I had known her- if she was anything like the man she raised, I would have loved her as much as I love her son. I see the rest of his family here and there but everyone is out of town but all on good terms.
Definitely accepted
I love my in-laws. My husband is one of 10 (some step) and we all get along really well. I don't have a sister, so my sister-in-law and I are very close and I consider her my sister. I don't know what I'd do if they didn't like me. I can't imagine being married to someone and not being able to get along with their family.
The apology was referencing the title, not the author (nm)
Okay, you opened this. It is (nm) in the subject line...
So I will elaborate...
An Iowan is correct
I also had An Walking On Eggshells Mother is not correct...
Get it yet?
Good...
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Accepted - but my MIL drives
So I keep my distance. She's a martyr at times and very gossipy so you have to watch what you say around her. SIL takes advantage of her all the time. I try to remain cordial and let DH worry and deal with her.
Totally accepted
I was totally accepted. My MIL is one of my best friends, even after the divorce. Still talk with the brothers and wifes although not as much as before but I still feel accepted but now because I am me and not his wife. So there are nice in-laws out there. Can also say that my family has always accepted spouses into the family, may not be our best friends but have always been accepted and treated well. My brother sure put this to the test with his six wives but we liked all of them and probably more than him. Still in contact with several as he had children and my mother when she was alive never lost contact with any of the grandchildren or even step-grandchildren when it came to birthdays, Christmas or whatever when there was a divorce. Anyway, there are good in-laws or ex in-laws out there. Patti
Totally accepted
My FIL was a better father to me than my own dad. My MIL said she learned more about her son's life from me than she ever did from him (that's true).
And after my MIL passed away, my FIL remarried a few years later, and I was fortunate enough to get another SUPER MIL who has been not only my friend but the best grandmother I could ever ask for to my son.
Am I lucky, or what? I feel very, very blessed.
Absolutely accepted!
I love my in-laws! They're really great. My husband wasn't very close with his family growing up, but is now that I love being around his family. He's also close with my family, so we are very lucky to have both sides of our family to be friends with and we love having everyone over for bbq's during the summer. Then again, I'm the kind of person that gets along with everyone and I like to think that everyone has at least some good in them and I think this definitely helps with being accepted into other peoples' families.
Totally accepted
I was immediately accepted by everyone in his family, and they all loved me right off. His mother is constantly buying me things, even though I don't exactly like all of the things that she gets me!
Accepted in the family that you married into?
How many people are REALLY accepted into the family that they married into? I don't just mean the EXTREME cases of, "You STOLE my son, you brazen hussy!" but the more subtle stuff too.
Accepted for who we are and not for what people perceive us to be. sm
Looking at most of my relationships now that are bitter or no more, this seems to be the case. My 2 SILs hate me with everything in their being and I've never been anything but myself around them. This is a very hard pill to swallow. To not be accepted for who you are.
Thank God I found Joyce Meyer. She's ON MY SIDE! I love it!
Totally accepted by DH's fam but not by my own family
Hubbies mom, sis and brothers make myself, our child and my children from a previous marriage feel so comfortable (I will not bring up their jealous spiteful wives) however my own mother, father, brother and sister make myself, DH and our kids feel like outsiders.
I was totally accepted by my 1st husband's family but
when I married my second husband, I was never accepted by his mother. Of course, she didn't even like my husband. The rest of his family accepted me and that was all that mattered.
The funny thing is...when she was dying, she asked me to forgive her for all the nasty things she did to me and of course, I did. It wasn't her fault she was like that. Life made her that way.
Between the 2 MIL's, I'd take the first hubby's mother any time. We spoke and visited even after the divorce, even invited them to parties we (2nd husband and I) because he liked them too. . . and they always came. I miss them.
But wait! Act now and I will throw in one for free! Check or M.O. accepted. nm
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You don't need a proposal; you've already accepted. Go to a jeweler and pick one out together
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But this is not a school-wide accepted teaching practice, it is individual (nm)
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