You would really be surprised as maybe this is how your hubby is but
Posted By: Lou on 2007-03-09
In Reply to: Unfortunately most men say that to women who are overweight. - sm
this man likes to watch Animal Channel along with me. We have been married for 7 years now and I can truthfully say he never drools, shy, quiet and reserved. More women could use a hubby like mine!
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I was surprised, but I saw it for $1.99
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Here's what my son did, and I was surprised
My son has been seeing a particular dermatologist since he was 16. He's 19 now. We've NEVER waited less than 90 minutes past our appointment time to see this doc, and the longest we've waited was 2 hours and 10 minutes. We've never received explanations or even apologies. Well, one day my son missed his appointment and was charged $50. I told him that was on him. As bad as it is that we've waited for the doc in the past, it was my son's responsibility to keep the appointment when scheduled.
So my son did a little research and found out that the practice is owned by our local private hospital. He wrote a check for $50 and wrote a letter to the office manager, copied the doctor, and then copied the practice manager and whoever heads the medical practice management group at the hospital. He gave dates and lengths of waits at previous appointments. He explained that he was willing to pay for his missed appointment, but that he wanted everyone involved in the management of this dermatology practice to know that the consistently excessive waits past appointment times were not acceptable, as his time is valuable to him.
He received a letter from the practice manager who apologized and returned his check to him! We don't know if the wait times have improved at this practice, because my son decided to see another dermatologist who sees her patients on time.
Anyone surprised? Not . . .
Lindsay Lohan in jail again - what a dodo. Can't she afford a driver? I think she's really going down this time.
I am surprised this still goes on,
Who would paddle her. At 14, she is a young lady. Some adults get a sexual defiancy out of administering that and I would never, ever let someone take a hand to my children. It sends the wrong message.
Not surprised
As a former teacher, I can tell you that 98% of kids will tell you that their parents or grandparents are their heroes. Yes, they get enthused about sports stars, movie people, TV people, etc., but kids are not fooled about the important things. As your daughter indicated in her essay, they are most impressed with how we adults treat other people. They especially notice how we treat the people who cannot do anything for us - other people's kids, the obnoxious parents at the sports events,the homeless, those among us who are impaired intellectually or physically, etc.
I am surprised
how much this question has made me reflect on the differences in parenting and some of the similarities, too. My parents never had a problem saying no, which was final, no matter how much our feelings might be hurt. I realize now they probably did not like to hurt our feelings, but things were totally opposite then; they had more morals than money!
Surprised.
I would really hate to think a lack of an organism would be a driving force towards divorce. I love my husband with all my heart and here 10 years later and never had one! I enjoy sex tremendously and have achieved 1 in the past but not with him. While making that blanket statement about a driving force towards divorce, you say the ex left instead of your husband leaving. Maybe he is not the most pleasing guy you think he is. Just my observation.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
Not surprised at all
When she was alive and I'd see her here and there on TV that snake was always with her. I always believed he was drugging her big time. If he truly cared about her he would have given her the help she really needed - to get off the drugs. But since I believed he was supplying her I figured he had some monetary stake in it. So glad he was not given custody of her baby daughter.
What I wonder is was he supplying Anna's son with the drugs as well?
Is anybody really surprised by this? sm
Obviously, the stress clinic came a little too late for this soldier. Having been connected with the military for nearly 50 years, I believe they have never done enough mental health wise for their people. Most soldiers in the military today STILL will not admit they might have stress issues and need help because this all goes in their military record that follows them from one assignment to the next and can prevent them from advancing in their careers. So, what do most of them do when under so much stress they feel they are going to explode? Beat their spouses or commit suicide. My husband was in the Middle East as a contractor for a year. The things he saw on a daily basis were unimaginable to those of us in the good old USA. Mind you, he was there by choice and could have left at any time. Besides dead bodies being loaded onto planes daily, he saw soldiers coming in from the field looking worn down and so depressed they had no emotions at all. Factor in one problem from home or a letter or e-mail that does not arrive when it should and it is no wonder there is not more of this happening. Shame on the military for not taking better care of their people!!! 
Won't the be surprised next month
This happened to an older friend of mine. Poor thing couldn't get another policy to save her life, and it wasn't a cosmetic issue, it was like entire siding pieces that flew off of her house. Oh, they and came fixed it, then they dropped her like a bad disease. They'd better be careful. Just a friendly warning... I don't know if I'd let the homeowner's insurance in on that deal, I'd cut my losses and replace the carpet.
You would be surprised at what people--sm
do and do not wear at these types of functions these days. Personally, I would dress a little bit up, but I have seen people in shorts and khaki pants, as well, not to mention jeans, as well as gowns. Totally up to you. I would say nothing is taboo, as long as you are dressed. been there. Have fun!
You know, I wouldn't be surprised (sm)
if there are A LOT of effects from microwave cooking that we don't know about. It's scary when you think about what you could be doing to yourself EVERYDAY.
I am surprised myself at how low my cholesterol is
and so was my physician. My hubs very much against eating red meat but he knows I love a steak which I eat less of now since we married. When physician remarked about how good level is, he told me tell hubby alright about that steak and just about anything. No worries here but thanks anyway.
You did right. Surprised so many parents ok with
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I am surprised you work if you don't have to - sm
but where would you be I wonder if your wonderful doormat of a husband lost his job. I am from the Philly area and it is pricey depending on where you are, and jobs are not stable now. So unless he has his own business that is doing quite well I would get off my high horse. You could end up like to poor rich folks who lost every penny to that con artist Madoff. My DH and I had $400K saved until the downturn, now it is about $300K. We only have a mortgage too but lots of monthly bills too which add up to about $3500 a month. We do not think we are better than anyone else. I guess you don't eat, or have phone bills, electric bills, college funds, life insurance, health insurance, etc. One of my husband's paychecks easily pays our mortgage too, and it will be paid off in less than 4 years, but you don't see me bragging to everyone how great my life and finances are. We have ups and downs like anyone else, and no I don't "have" to work but if I didn't we would not have more than $200 left over each month, and that is no way to live if you can help it. You'd better hope to *ell that your DH does not lose his job though, or your perfect little world will come crashing down.
I took a class and was very surprised...
I knew the actual delivery would hurt, but really had no idea how badly the contractions would hurt. I am really not sure what I expected, but not the gut wrenching pain that I got. I did make it through 48 hours of very difficult labor before I opted for the epidural, though.
You would be surprised what docs can
get away with in a hospital setting. Been there.
I know! I was surprised it was Jeffrey too....and what about Top Chef?!!? ; )
Hooked on that too!
You were surprised she got it? A cat's instincts for birds, especially, are sm
great. They keep their eyes on it and it's over. Especially a young one. So sad. I hate the circle of life. All of our goats were attacked and killed by neighborhood dogs a few weeks ago and people are telling me, "Oh well, that's what dogs do!" I wanted to slap them.
Well, with his current predicament, I'm not surprised
Is he careless or just stoopid? lol
What surprised? Things happen everywhere
Have televison on as I work and live reports- a noose found on door of a black educator at Columbia College in New York - yes things happen like this elsewhere, not just the south and another high school shooting in Cleveland, Ohio this time. People are saying shocked it happened at both places. College people said the people there are educated. I don’t know if education has to do with racism. I wonder if and when things like this might be a thing of the past.
Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
Was anyone surprised that Howard Stern
has been arrested as being involved in giving Anna Nichole Smith drugs that eventually resulted in her demise? I am surprised it too this long.
I'm surprised your building even allows smoking -(s/m)
indoors. Most DON'T, these days. Not only a potential health (or lawsuit, perhaps?) issue for any non-smoker, asthmatic or not, because of the secondhand smoke, but also the FIRE potential. Seems to me if smoking indoors were banned, their insurance might be a lot less. Maybe that would be something to mention to the LL.
In the meantime, why not look for a single-story unit, such as maybe a duplex? And if that's not available, just be sure the next apt. building is a no-smoking building. Where I live, you aren't even allowed to smoke outside the units, out by the pool, or in the alley. Smokers are required to walk clear out to the curb. Have you checked your lease? What does it say about smoking?
As a nonsmoker, I think you definitely have some rights, here, but you'd have to investigate it a little further. Still, it might be easier to move than to try to force the landlords to change their policy.
I am amazingly surprised by it!! It really does work great (sm)
and I have barely had to clean the shower. I would buy all those in the spray bottles, but let's face it, no one but me is actually going to spray the shower in this house and half the time I forget! I can actually get the kids to press the button on this when they are done in the shower and it gives you a few beeps before it starts off, so they make a game out of it.
We just moved into this house a fever months ago and it is even beginning to remove the crud that I could not get off from the previous owner and it is literally starting to shine - and I am only on the second bottle. This is really one product I can recommend, especially if you hate cleaning the shower as much as I do!
P.S. When the beeps go off, don't watch to see what it does without goggles! :)
I'm hooked on this show. Was surprised it didn't
She was probably surprised that you knew that. After all, we just "type what we hear," right?
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I am surprised at the statement, "every facet"
of her life. Have 2 kids, both grown, glad they are out on their own, not interested in "every facet" because they are grown. I enjoy my time now. I am glad my children know how to live on their own and I surely do not live through them. Sounds like you need more interests in your life if you are going to fall apart when she leaves for college.
OK, this is going to sound weird, but I'm surprised nobody else suggested it... sm
but the key to a good sex life is to know your own body. I mean *down there.* Without your partner! Get a little vibrator, they even sell them now at supermarkets and drugstores in the aisle where they sell condoms. I think the polite term is personal massager. Also get some lubricant. You can go the whole route with candles, in the bath, read a sexy book, use your imagination. Then once you figure THAT out, you can help direct your partner... show him what you learned. A whole new world will open up for you!
He just told her to stop acting surprised when she gets compliments.
It was kind of funny. So when he complimented her performance she smiled very nicely! I don't always agree with Simon, but I did agree with him on that. I don't think the acting surprised thing was an act for her, I think it's just her personality, but by now she should stop being surprised that the judges like her so much! I do too. I hope she wins!
I'm surprised some Trixie Belden fan didn't steal sm
The "Red Gate Farm" sign.
Or am I the only one old enough to remember that and crazy enough to care? Rhetorical question, peeps! 
Nope, not surprised. But IMHO, he did us a public service...
...by getting rid of that skank. They're all just a bunch of low-lifes with more money than morals or brains.
This entire country is scary...surprised people still leave the house.
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Boy, if stress is the trigger, I'm surprised I'm not one big blister. Stress is my middle name
and MT-ing is my game..
You're surprised? I'm not. They're not going to stop voting....
as was mentioned in a prior post. Imagine if they succeed? They just may.
My ex-hubby had it done.
He wasn't too keen on the idea either. He confided later that it was goofy stuff that bothered him--like what happens if there's an earthquake while he's on the table?
Anyway, he was tender for a day or two, but some Tylenol took care of it.
Actually I ended up having a tubal ligation done after we split up. That was pretty easy, too. They did it with a laparoscope, and used silicone squeeze clips on the tubes rather than cutting them. Easy peasy.
My hubby had one at about 46.
DH had anterior cervical laminectomy 2-3 years ago.
It was scary for me, and it was the only time they kept him overnight. They sent him home after rotator cuff and (of course) knee arthroscopy. The bad thing about Friday surgery is that the office isn't open if you have a question that doesn't seem like enough of an emergency to call about. They made DH a hard cervical collar ahead of time. Be sure they give you 2 sets of the cushion inserts for the collar, because you will want to be able to wash and air-dry one, but not have her without one. Do ask about whether she is to sleep with the collar on. Because DH had a plate put in, after the fact we were told that supposedly the collar was just to remind him to be careful, but he was sleeping with it on for about a week, I guess. Getting up and down out of bed was scary, especially because he wanted to sleep on his side. Very scary to get into that position, but once he was in it he could finally sleep. I was appalled how apneic he sounded at night. He always has a little problem, but with the collar on he was having pretty long pauses. He is a big guy and at risk for that anyway. The scariest thing for me when DH had this and the shoulder surgery is that he is 6 foot 2 inches and big. Me? 5 foot 6 inches and average weight. Thank goodness his mom was there for the shoulder surgery, but I think we did it alone for the neck surgery AFTER he stayed one night in the hospital. Oh, and because of the anterior approach, swallowing was hard for quite a while. Speech also was affected, maybe it was with hoarseness? Can't remember. Due to swelling, his throat was not totally normal again for 6 months after surgery.
You might rather be fat but my hubby
cooked some brown rice yesterday with garlic, red and green peppers, Kokoman sauce and other ingredients he just throws together. This was along with some turkey wings with a sauce that I spooned on the rice and cabbage with peppercorns. I cannot find a restaurant that can come close to his cooking. He never tastes and always hopes that I like it. I am 1 lucky girl. He is very mindful of eating healthy and we very seldom have red meat, once in a great while but his lemon chickens, marinated meats and other things make me really disappointed to eat out and then have inferior food. He says I can do the same. No thanks..... I will not shame myself. When he is gone from home (he drives and away) he fixes salads with his own dressings and OMG, I am just sitting here with a smile on my face. I am sure no one can compare with his foods!!
Hubby
I wonder if he is not looking. One of my daughter’s friends is having a birthday party Sunday. His mother drove by our house to drop off an invitation. We both talked for a while. She is a really an attractive lady. She looks like she could probably model swimsuits. Anyway, she had invited me to go jogging with her because I mentioned I was interested in getting into an exercise program. I am 60 pounds overweight. I also mentioned job burnout and told her I had been thinking about getting out of MT and the medical profession totally and going into something else. She told me that there maybe some job openings at the company she works at because they are expanding. She is also the supervisor of the collections/credit department there and told me of all the wonder benefits the company offers and told me that if I decided I wanted a change, she would put in a good word for me. Later I told H that she was nice. DH said, “I think she wants me (him)” I told him he was full of himself. Bad part is, 8 years ago I would have been jealous but now if he did run off with someone else, I think the sweetest revenge for me would be to let the woman keep him and give her full custody of MIL.
hubby
May be you 2 need to spice things up again. Like go out on dates, etc... It sounds like alot of your gyn issues could be effecting the way you look at sex. I would definitely talk to someone about it. May be there is a pill you can take!! :)
My hubby had 1 and did not like
He is a really neat guy and took so much time just cleaning after 1 use. I know some just use time and time again without cleaning but that is just not him, wants his spic and span each and every time.
I have used, my hubby believe it or not
was able to pull off an entire hair 1 time like that. It is really good for sparse hair and it does cover, comes in all colors and different sizes. He was going to a hatless place (because of his hair loss, he wears his hat all the time) but used that day and no one knew. Great stuff!
What would I do without hubby.
I feel guilty, but I didn't think I'd still be working at this age. My mom was a housewife, even though she had a college degree.
ex-hubby
That's funny - I did the same thing, although my son had NO contact with his father from the time he was 3. When he was getting married, (at 26), I asked him if he wanted me to contact his father. He said his "real" father would be there (my now husband who raised him) and that he didn't want some guy who with one squirt was labeled his "father" to be part of his life.
Afterwards, when he called and wanted to contact my son, I got his phone # and told him I'd have my son contact him if he wanted to. My son wouldn't even let me give him the phone #. Another bunch of time went by and he called again - how he keeps getting my phone number is behond me - first he found me in Connecticut, then Colorado and then Texas (he's in NY). This time he accused me of not giving his phone # to my son and I said I tried, but he didn't want it. He didn't believe me, of course, but I then got rid of my regular phone and got Vonage and I haven't heard from him since. But Ive never been sorry that it worked out this way. Serves him right for being a lousy father.
hubby
ONe thing i have learned is men ALWAYS think it is greener on the other side and come crying back because its not. So what if you have gained weight I am sure he has to. Do you believe he is being faithful to you? Maybe this is his way of feeling guilty for something he did while traveling. Try counseling. It worked for us. We all need to leave our hubbys for a week with the kids and ALL our jobs and let them see how tuff it really is. They feel since we work at home we have the freedom to do everything with time left over!! COME ON! I wish you lots of luck. I would tell him if you really loved me you would deal with me the way that I am. Yes I can try to change but is that really the root of the problem here. Sounds like an excuse! Sorry, but being organized and gaining weight should have nothing to do with if he still loves you or not. Tell him didn't he take the same vows as you did "Till death do us part"
My hubby is
incredibly wonderful. We will be married 20 years in October. We renewed our vows at 10 years (Just the 2 of us at a small chapel, well of corse a minister) and for 20 years the children want to be with us. There is a running joke in my family....My parents say that if we ever divorce, he can come "home".
hubby
ago and demanded my husband see his doctor. He went on Prozac and things were oh, so much better for a long, long time. Now he is off the Prozac, as he was tired of the side effects. We are back to the same crap as before, and I am so weary of it. I don't know what to do. I'm praying for wisdom. He just seems like he hates us all, that we are nothing but a pain in the a$$, and we all tread lightly because of his garbage. Unfair. Hugs to you.
That's where I'm from too, and hubby
was born in WV, but his dad moved them to Indiana when my hubby was very little. DH's dad was the first one in the family not to be a coal miner.
Hubby is a big packer fan, which sure makes my dad happy. The Packers are the only team I'll watch. Brett is adorable. I'm glad he has a super wife (since I can't have him :o>).
your hubby
I feel for you... and the signs seem pretty classic from here suggesting that he most likely has another lady. Cell phones may not work "out there" but somewhere along the way he eats, drinks, sleeps, etc and there are pay phones if nothing else. Your acceptance of his excuses give him the room to do as he pleases and his beating you down keeps you from thinking straight/catching him in his own game. Sounds like you need to dry those eyes and open them to take a good look at reality - then deal. It hurts and bites, but until you deal, nothing changes. If you really want to teach your kids about better relationships, show them the strength to stand for what is true and right.
How old is your hubby?
Mine's in his mid 50s. We had the same problem. Doc took a blood test and found very, very low testosterone, put him on replacement, and a month later he's got energy again! not just for sex, either, but work, yard work, repairs. Wonderful stuff, that, if it's used right!
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