You sound like me, except my SO is off an on with his affection.
Posted By: Im always on - LOL on 2008-02-15
In Reply to: Sorry to say...we're mutual gropers in our family.. - WanderingMT
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That is the only way my husband shows affection. .sm
It breaks my heart sometimes. He especially likes to sneak up on my while I am doing dishes and the kids are watching tv. I hate it because I know that means he wants sex and will hound me until he gets it. He wants it once during the week and once on weekends. Once the kids are asleep, he will pester me until I give in or we get into an argument because I don't feel like it. He use to tell me he loved me every day and give me a kiss at night and in the morning. Now, it's nothing but the groping and sex. I think he considers it foreplay! He is otherwise a good husband. I am hoping as he gets older (he is 32 and I am 40), that it will get better. Right now it seems to be getting worse!
I'm the one being rejected. He is rejecting my affection unless it involves (sm)
sex
Wow, you sound like
someone with real compassion for animals - NOT.
I personally would rather have my tax money go for this cause as opposed to going to cover welfare and disability incomes of people who are perfectly capable of working and just choose not to because they can. But that's just my opinion.
You know what? If it were me, and I know this may sound sm
way off to some people, but I would treat this young boy with love! Invite him over, talk to him, show him that someone truly loves him. I would invite him to church and pray for him. I know, totally unconventional. He acts that way because of his parents. He needs good, godly role models in his life. I would try my best to be that person.
I think too many people try to throw away bad kids. It's such a shame. They can be rehabilitated. 11 isn't that old. And I am not saying that is your responsibility because it's not! I understand that. But if I lived there, that is what I would do and see how that works. That saying, "love makes the world go round," is because love can turn a bad situation around. Bad always reaps bad.
I know because just this past Wed. I kept 5 kids at my house (I have 3 of my own!) and we stayed outside and played until 9 at night. I live out in the country and have a lot of land, animals, a pool, etc. The kids I had over has a dad serving in Iraq and I just wanted to give their mom a break. They don't have a yard where they live. They played until they collapsed. I ordered pizza and just loved on them. I see their mom struggling with them and I just wanted them to have a place where they could let loose and have a great time. One of them was a little ornery, but I would talk to her and be sweet and I really think I brought the best out in her. They brought their collie with them to play too and he ended up staying! So, we also have a new dog and we love him!
Good luck to you. I know this probably hasn't helped you much at all, but try not to be mad at him.
You sound
like a real taker and nasty, changing dirty diapers on a conference table?? I would have been finished with you then also. Gross. I have been at time share meetings before but a good answer is NO! Did not have to resort to a free this or that and I know how to get a point across without being offensive.
you sound like me
I have read people use timers to get themselves away from the computer when reading email on their working days. For me, I keep talking to myself and saying "just do it" especially when I feel the urge I want to begin and don't want to delay getting started any longer. I was more energetic when I was a SE.
Here's the sound for ya ...sm
 Cat
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0hBUO_1BPWU
How do you know who I am? You sound
xxx
That does sound a lot like us
I'm one of those tweeners size-wise; I'm not fat and not thin, wearing somewhere around a 10-12 jean, a 16 shirt, 5Ǝ", 170 pounds. But three children and breast-feeding have taken a toll, not to mention the varicose veins and a few randomly scattered keratoses. Like yours, mine claims (and acts) interested until it's actually bedtime, but then finds reasons not to come to bed. Like you also, the supposedly wanted advances have frequently been rejected (not outright, but more a 'not now' thing), so I've kinda quit putting myself out there, too. Fortunately, there are things that still say everything else is okay so I'm sticking it out, but with the price of batteries going up, we may have to find a better solution!
you sound like the big sis I need
Thanks for your note. I could be making more of this than what is really necessary. It is a horrible way to live (always planning for the worse and worrying about what's going on for things we can't control). I think he realized today that all the negative news and me having to work was really getting me down. I just feel myself getting heavier and heavier and I'm so exhausted right now I feel like I'm about to fall asleep and I have got to finish the rest of my work (about another 4 hours). The reason we don't celebrate holidays is actually an agreement we both have. We used to celebrate holidays but every year I found myself so depressed because I've been away from home for close to 30 years and it is still hard, and I cant just go home every year. And he does not like family rituals or whatever those things are called (can't think of the word), as in it's Thanksigiving so we eat Turkey because it's thanksgiving (family traditions - that's it). So over the years I found it easier to deal with the holidays by not celebrating them. If I do cook a turkey on Thanksgiving its because I feel like having turkey that day.
When I say I can't throw too much at him, he doesn't have health problems, but he just can't handle too much. We take one situation at a time. I learned that years and years ago. Me, I'll do 10 things at once, but I keep it simple for him otherwise, so he doesn't get too overwhelmed. Yes I know he's a big boy, but not all men act like it.
I may not be expressing myself too good at this point. I'm so exhausted and need to go lay down.
Thanks for listening. I liked your last line bout thinking his down and out feelings are more important than my well being. I will be thinking on that one more.
Thanks again.
you sound like me -
for the past couple of years, I have said, let's forget the gifts and just spend the day together at my mom's house -- but oh no, that would be horrible if we did not buy presents. This year, my sister's husband lost his job and now it's automatic, we are not going to be buying gifts.
I always wonder, why is it that one person in the family always seems to make the decisions for everybody else?
This is going to sound very mean, s/m
but I have three full grown cats and two of them won't leave the tree alone. We go through this every year. For the first two days, I do not plug the lights in but sit waiting with my squirt gun. Once they are in the tree, I shoot. They run. Normally after the first two days, they won't climb it again, but they will sit underneath it and bat at the balls on the lower part of the tree, which I make sure are plastic just for them. So far this has worked for me. Now if anyone can find a way to keep them off the counter, let me know! I have tried pepper, hot sauce, two sided tape and the squirt gun.
You sound like the
Geez!
I'd rather live next to the cows and pine trees any day!
You sound like me. ...sm
We seem to get the strays. I don't have the heart not to try to take care of them. I am a succer for dogs.
If he has pit in him you definitely do not want to call animal control. I would just feed him and show him love and try to find him a home. I would just tell my husband look he has nowhere to go. Until I find his owner or a new owner I will be taking care of him. My husband gets annoyed with me too, but he won't deny a dog food and care.
LOL, you sound like me
Except not only would I start fights, if my BF was even 5 minutes late coming home I'd have his clothes and stuff on the front porch and him locked out. I'd make him beg and apologize for about 30 minutes before letting him in (but make him wait 30 more minutes before allowing him to bring his stuff back in so I could 'think about it'). Finally I realized why I was doing it and, once I did, I worked really hard on thinking before I did anything.
It takes a long time to drag yourself out of that craving for chaos. Now when I want thrills, I suggest he and I go do something crazy together instead of me throwing his belongings onto the front porch and it's been smooth sailing ever since, lol!
I would still like to know if the OP had the same type of upbringing we did. Hopefully she'll post again soon.
This may sound dumb...
but it's driving me crazy. Does anyone remember a Jewish actress, around 60-ish now, with very short dark red hair, very prominent features, large nose. I think she played in a sitcom maybe as someone's mom. We saw her tonight in New York and all recognized her but none of us can remember what show she was on! Just wondering if anyone might be able to help us figure this out.
This may sound a bit weird., but /sm
I read your post and got to thinking about when I lived in a really large house and kept missing the knocks at the front door. I got myself one of those wireless doorbells, and would take the "bell" part from room to room with me when I was expecting a delivery... I wonder if you could take the part that usually screws onto the door frame and put it on a necklace or something for you mother to wear and "ring the doorbell" when she needs help, and then take the "bell" part from room to room. Actually mine was loud enough I didn't need to pick it up and move it unless I was going upstairs. They might even sell them with 2 or more receivers (what I call "bells") so you could hear it ring on whatever floor you are on.
Good luck. I took care of my uncle when he had lung cancer and we rigged up a baby monitor for him, but he was in a 1-story house and I could hear him except at night time, so I can empathize.
do any of these sound like you this year?
CHRISTMAS CAROLS FOR THE DISTURBED
* 1. Schizophrenia --- Do You Hear What I Hear?
* 2. Multiple Personality Disorder --- We Three Kings Disoriented Are
* 3. Dementia --- I Think I'll be Home for Christmas
* 4. Narcissistic --- Hark the Herald Angels Sing About Me
* 5. Manic - Deck the Halls and Walls and House and Lawn and Streets and Stores and Office and Town and Cars and Buses and Trucks and Trees and.....
* 6. Paranoid --- Santa Claus is Coming to Town to Get Me
* 7. Borderline Personality Disorder --- Thoughts of Roasting on an Open Fire
* 8. Personality Disorder --- You Better Watch Out, I'm Gonna Cry, I'm Gonna Pout, Maybe I'll Tell You Why
* 9. Attention Deficit Disorder --- Silent night, Holy oooh look at the Froggy - can I have a chocolate, why is France so far away?
* 10. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder --- Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle,Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells , Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells, Jingle Bells,
What do you think? I know this may sound crazy, but here goes. sm
I am in my mid 30s and currently having orthodontic treatment done. The doctor is so sweet (great looking too!). I find him staring at me whenever I come in there, unusually so. He's very, very attentive to me when he sees me. Fast forward to yesterday. I paid all of treatment within 3 months using insurance and cash (close to 5,000) and I received a letter today. He told me that he was so impressed with the way I set goals to pay my treatment in such a short time. Then he went on to say he was "looking forward to getting to know me better."
Okay. I was a little shocked. Is this normal? I've never had this happen before. It was a personal, hand written note.
Anyways, just wondering what your thoughts would be on this. He is the kindest, gentlest doctor I've ever been around. But, that's besides the point.
Just wanted to share this with you all. Not really looking for advice. Just thought it was weird.
Okay - this is going to sound crazy
But if you are an MT and this is MT business - you might consider contacting the AAMT - which is stationed in Modesto, Calif - even if you are not a member you'd think they could be halfway helpful. I'm familiar with the Sacramento area and could tell you places to stay away from there in Stockton and Sacramento but not familiar with Modesto. Sorry and best of luck!!
Doesn't sound right
under those circumstances. Then whenever someone wanted new wall-to-wall they could just crap it up themselves and submit a claim and get a new rug.
At any rate, even if this is somehow true, the insurance company will only jack up your rate or drop you all together, so you're going to pay either way. And then you'll have a claim history and no other company will want you either.
We tried the sound machine...
and he didn't like that. I think he likes the air flow even if it's not directed at him. I hadn't ever thought about the cost that fan is running constantly.
I'm not clear about the white board (drywall?, white boards that you write on?) but certainly is a consideration. I could make that easily removeable and yes cover with fabric. Thanks for the ideas too.
Never will be another Motown sound
or anything close to it. Gosh there was no one who wasn’t the best there, was there? Kids off the street (as in Idol) getting the chance of their lifetime and giving us all that wonderful music. I can sing along with so many of the songs from back them. Such fond memories.
You have to be honest with him, but you do sound a bit. SM
codependent on him. Something to think about. I've been married twice (once for 10 years and to my current husband for 4 years) and you cannot change people. You have to work on things together and try to change things together. I man will never read your mind and do what you want. You have to be very blunt with the male species and tell them what you want and need, but be careful about being too needy as that could be a turn off.
You must love him for who he is.
Good luck! I wish someone would have told me some of this stuff 15 years ago, but I'm in my mid 30s and still learning.
You sound so much like my daughter.
She did it all, no wedding planner. I did not see her dress until the day of the wedding. She asked to see what I would be wearing as she thought (being as I am known for liking flash, sequins and the like) I might try to be over the hill according to her. It met with her approval but I know her and know what she would not like. She had a beautiful wedding and she, like you, a control freak, some are, some arent but that is what makes people interesting. She is a highly independent person so we talk often, I do not get into their business and think things are good like they are. If she needs me she knows the number.
You sound like one of the monitors here.
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It does sound good, but (sm)
DH refuses to live in a community where they can tell him to mow his grass. Now mind you, our community is pretty secluded, and most of the people here do keep it up, but he is of the old school where if it is your house and the grass gets a little too high, it's your own business. We don't like it trashy either.
You sound like hyperthyroid
with hypothyroidism your metabolish slows to a snail and you can actually gain weight. I have the one with the weight gain but never had the feeling of a lump in my throat and no throat pain. Dry skin, hair loss also goes with mine and the tiredness- hey I also have fibromyalgia and tiredness goes with that so I get a double whammy there. I do get really tired sometimes, just bone tired. I have not had some of the symptoms you talk about.
This is going to sound terrible
but my dad used to tell us if he caught us flipping the bird at anyone he would chop our middle fingers off. Of course he wasn't serious and I was the only one gullible enough to believe it.
Also I remember my grandma telling me when I was really young that kids that bite have to have all their teeth pulled out. God, it sounds like I had a horribly sadistic family but they really werent! LOL
I also remember being told if we swallowed watermelon seeds they could grow in our stomachs.
First sound of thunder I am off and see msg
One lady in my state using the commode got killed when lightning went in on the plumbing and 1 lady got knocked off her computer to the floor when lighting struck. This lady quits at first sound of thunder.
You sound as though you are speaking from
Would you honestly want to be stalked by a man you thought you got rid of 19 years prior??? If the answer is yes, then I will gladly introduce you two.
They sound beautiful!
Thank you for that. I sure would love to go to a cat show once. My sister would, too, I know that. I live in PA, and if I had someone to go with I would like to get out of town to do that. Can you give some details? Do you need tickets?
Oh, no. The dog is here, safe and sound.
A little on the bossy side with my dogs, but...LOL! She's here and everyone is getting along for the most part.
Not to sound harsh here BUT -
Freedom is not free. The military is there to provide a function in our society. It can provide wonderful opportunities for young people, provide them with a good education and training, BUT there is a chance they can be called to go overseas to fulfill a contract they willingly signed. I would let my children go in a second if they chose that route. I am at least 5th generation military myself. Quite honestly, kids these days have a better chance of being killed in a car accident than in combat. Look at the true statistics. You might feel better if you spoke with the recruiter with her. Just my two cents...Best of luck to her! :-)
Mmmm, those both sound
good. I'm getting hungry too! Thanks!
I work for an ENT doc. This doe not sound like
an infected hair folicle to me. Sounds like you have a cellulitis on the outside of your face stemming from the knot. I suggest you get yourself to an ENT asap!
How do I sound controlling?
Because I don't approve of her boyfriend? Yes, I hate the fact that he smokes...she's likely to start smoking. I have talked til I am blue in the face about safe sex...my point is she's too young for this very adult thing in her life. If (God forbid) she got pregnant, who'd be the one to raise the baby??? Me and her father...that's who, cause we won't let her throw her life and plans for college away to raise an unplanned child. And yes, I have a right to be a bit controlling...she's my child, living in my house..and she's only 17!!!
You sound like a wonderful
pet owner and it sounds like she has had a nice long life...Be prepared...It is so hard...Best wishes.
Ugh, doesn't sound
too fun! Don't want to go to the hospital. That's why I figure it's past time to quit. My son is scared of me dying anyway. I told my husband no need in making his fear come true!
I really feel sorry for you, you sound
so very angry, child-like in your thinking. You sound like you would stomp your feet if you don’t get your way. Poor thing.
thank you - do my symptoms sound like ADD to you? (sm)
I went to a teacher conference recently and noticed that my son's desk had papers hanging out all over the place - just like mine used to be! It kind of struck me at that moment that maybe I should try to do something about this. He is very intelligent, but very disorganized, forgets to turn in homework, forgets to bring books needed for his homework, etc. I lose things, forget to pay bills, etc.
Thanks - do my symptoms sound at all like yours? (sm)
I also have many unfinished projects!
it does sound good I will have to try it nm
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You can try to spin it, but you just sound very
So because she was in the public eye she shouldn't have had sex, and because you weren't it's okay? That makes no sense. Parents can use her situation as an opening to talk about how teen pregnancy can happen to anyone and how careful they need to be if they do decide to have sex (not to mention STDs, obviously). People are so up in arms because she's supposed to be a role model, but she's still human, and she is still a teenager with out of control hormones. Plus, her mom was letting her shack up with the guy, which wasn't smart, obviously.
I find it astounding that you are judging her decision to keep an unplanned baby when you terminated one of your own babies. I would think you would be empathetic with her if anything, for you have both been in the position of being pregnant unexpectedly and having to make a very difficult decision. It just seems odd to me. I will say it again - being in your 20s or 30s does not mean you will be a good parent. Sadly, there are horrible parents all over the world of all ages.
This may sound crazy sm
Sounds like he has a good heart but other problems. You could ask him if you could both go on an alcohol-free stay at the hotel? Most hotels have a pool, suana, etc., and since alcohol dulls your senses, etc., wouldn't it be nice to start the new year out sober and clean or clean and sober, whatever! If you drink as well, it may be nice for both of you to pour all the alcohol down the sink together forever. Not only will you two be happier, but what a gift to your children! Alcohol could be causing him to act peculiar. Alcoholism is an allergy of the body and a craving of the brain or obsession of the mind, in my estimation. There are so much better things in life! Just my humble opinion. You sound strong enough to carry out a plan and if it doesn't work, then take the next necessary step. Good luck!
PS: You could tell him that your marital relations will improve in the bedroom without alcohol, that's a fact as well. Sounds like a good guy gone wrong to me.
The Boy Who Sees Through Sound
Its on TLC and repeating right now about a 14-yera-old who lost his sight to cancer at a young age, but he "clicks his tongue and can see" its AWESOME and if you get a chance to see it on repeat, I recommend it
That did sound funny..
Last year I got the years wrong until my sis informed me. This will be 46th!
George Strait - County Western Singer... Handsome, love songs
Maybe you did sound upset. .
As you said, you were talking to your aunt on the phone who is dying of cancer and is in hospice. Are you sure you didn't sound upset or irritated with your daughter? At least she cares.
You sound like me, Trose
I'm 45 and my daughter is 14 and I've been taking her to concerts since she was 6. We just went to a Matchbox 20 concert and a few months ago we saw Daughtry. I think it's great when people don't necessarily act their age, within reason, of course. I think I also dress appropriately for my age. And yep, I wish I was the same weight 20 years ago. LOL. But whatever works for others is fine with me. My neighbor across the street is my age, but you'd never know it. She acts and dresses like she's 60, but she's still a friend. Long hair short hair, it doesn't matter as long as you like it.
You sound like a man. I would think a woman would
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You sound very uneducated and
I just cannot believe I am reading this in an MT forum, a group of people I once believed were intelligent. I know there is always one bad apple in the bunch, but prejudging LAST NAMES???!!! No wonder this country is going to pot...
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