You sound angry in your response saying whatever
Posted By: New information on 2007-09-11
In Reply to: so why the **blank** did he eat it? (nm) - Lisa
But it is such a beautiful day will just think you are probably just having a bad day. Anyway, this police did not eat even half the sandwich; I have seen a picture and looks like it could have been a couple of bites. Enjoy the rest of your day, take some time for yourself!
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You sound like a little teenager with your response
You were the one who was giving a free ticket to a man freaking out after a childbirth. There is not that much freaking in the world. Grow up! You should have listened more closely to the adults when you were smaller. Your post was ridiculous.
I think if you were not angry
you would not be human. You did the right thing and she did the wrong thing. Try to hold your head high and remember that instead of being angry. I have learned that MOST OFTEN, people who ask for money are wasting money and they start to think of your money as an easy backup source if they don't feel like pinching pennies. This is America and there are resources out there for emergency situations. The trouble is, the other resources that are in place for emergencies require some effort on the part of the one needing help. It's a lot more convenient to go to a friend for help, especially if they learn they won't have to pay it back.
It is much better to give money rather than to loan it. But now you know you were taken advantage of. Lesson learned. You are a good person!
You are right to be angry (sm)
I would talk to him, probably by phone and say in as calm a voice as you muster up, that your daughter has dyslexia and that she is already sensitive and struggling with that and that by calling her lazy, it really hurt her feelings. The reason I would do this nicely is because if your daughter slept over there, she must really like the other child and you wouldn't want to alienate them from each other. I have issues with a neighbor but because my children like to play with hers, I have to step gingerly when I talk to her about things - if it was just me I was thinking of I would be happy to just give her a peice of my mind! But in my children's best interest I choose my words carefully. I am so sorry that he treated her that way though, and you are 100% right to be upset.
not angry, just sad
I don't know when this started, or why. I guess I didn't notice until I had my child around the time my sisters had theirs, and there was a big difference in how often she saw each one. I have talked to mom about this before, and it goes nowhere. She gets all guilty and cries and apologizes, and then nothing changes. She means well, but actions speak louder than words.
"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its yours. If it doesn't, it never was." I guess that pretty much says it all.
Have you ever seen anyone more angry looking?
It's a picture of a local prostitute. She was arrested for pimping out her own daughter.
Who are you angry at?
Not me because I think Susan was a jewel of a find. I also happen to like Simon and did not find him in any way condescending or the like. I guess you would have to know/like him in the first place to realize this.
You are one angry lady!
I'm not sure what your problem is.
I'm not the OP, but I can certainly tell you that every doglover in the world has the right to have their pet in their own space. Not in mine, though.
Public places that are not designed for dogs include shopping malls, etc. (except pet stores where that is the entire focus of their business).
Perhaps a dog is the only thing that can be nice to you with that attitude of yours!
Calm down!!
me2-cannot stand Jen and was angry she got HOH
You're right to be angry
I would have pointed out to her that as proud as you are of your daughter for making the team, you feel that putting family first is a higher value for you and your husband.
I hope you have a wonderful meal with your father-in-law. Your child is lucky to have parents like you and your husband.
venting and angry
My daughter had this same problem 2 years ago. I finally called the doctor, and the nurse asked me if we have animals. I told her that we did, and she said that they need to be treated as well. So, along with treating my daughter, bagging all her stuffed toys, vacuuming and steaming everything else she had been in contact with I bathed the cats in a shampoo for animals that helps treat lice. We didn't have problems with them again. Maybe you should find out if this child's family has pets, and if so, make a suggestion that they treat them as well. I know this is a frustrating and expensive problem, but as was stated earlier, I think educating the child's mother is the Christ-like thing to do. If she gets angry about your help/suggestions, then you know that you did your part. Hang in there!!
Don't stay angry, instead get EVEN.
been there, done that. no need to be in a hurry, either. if you take months or even years to get even, you have just that much more time to come up with something truly memorable.
or, you can do something swift and simple, like blocking their emails on your pc as spam.
I am the OP and I did not mean to get people angry here. SM
I have not turned my kinds against my husband, in fact I have always defended his actions to them, but now they are old enough to make up their own minds based on his actions. He is not a bad man, but he is just all about him and can be very demeaning and hurtful to me and my girls. Seems like he always has an alterior motive, which is usually something to gratify himself and his needs.
He just does not make me happy and I don't wish him any harm, in fact I want him to be happy. I just don't think I am the person who can make him happy, really.
I am able to financially support my children and I know that without him in the picture, none of us would have to walk on eggshells anymore. That's all.
And the need for adding the little angry icon is???
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I was so angry Gina went last night (sm)
Before last night it just seemed like a silly stunt that was being pulled, between Vote for the Worst and Howard Stern, but last night because a really talented person left before Sanjaya, it went too far and really angered me. I agree with the poster below about Howard Stern being a hypocrite, and the VFTW website seems to be run by some lame people who have nothing better to do. They don't seem to realize that in the process they are actually hurting Sanjaya, not helping him, but they don't seem to care. They just have their own agenda. Something needs to be done, but I can't imagine what because we do have free speech in this country, which normally is a great thing. There, I've had my rant!
I agree/always seems very negative and angry.
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I am angry when I hear something this ridiculous (sm)
But not having a bad day at all. It was more of an eye-rolling thing. He should have taken it back and showed it to the manager and either gotten his money back or another burger. If the girl did anything wrong she should get in trouble with her manager, not the police. If she did indeed go to her manager first, they should be the one in trouble not her. We have all gotten so petty - so focused on petty things that we miss the important ones.
Norb and Dag - the Angry Beavers
Even DH likes them. They are so funny.
Bugs Bunny and Tigger are right up there, too.
Probably should not waste your time being angry or
hurt - she sounds like a loser - and better to just use this as a lesson learned and not share anything with her in the future. Be the bigger person if you can and put behind you - but take a lesson from it - she is not your friend. Praying that you get your dream home! Hugs!!
Nanny 911 would say he is angry about some injustice once
she ruled out hypoglycemia. Is there competition or jealousy. Do you subtly favor the 11 yr old or does anyone else and make it obvious? Fairness between siblings is so important - it levels the playing field. Take him out alone and have a talk with him. Ask him what is upsetting him so much. Tell him it is important that he tell you because it can be fixed.
I know this will make people angry and ...
I do not know everyone's situations, but I see women on here whining and whining about stupid things. Enjoy the person you love. My husband is at war and I miss him terribly. All of these stupid little things that women deem "selfish" and such are usually nothing more than selfish women wanting things their own ways. Like I said, not every time, but come on, you have to give some, too. If you think your man sucks, there is really nothing he is going to do to make you happy, so you should probably cut him loose to find someone who can appreciate him.
Sorry, not my year of birth? Why are you angry?
NM
yeah..okay...now I am nuts, paranoid, angry and need a
psychiatrist. like I said, you are not overweight so you DO attack overweight people. I only eat one meal a day because that is the only time I get hungry, like someone else said about ONLY eating when they get hungry. I am not intentionally starving myself. I just have no appetite for hormone infested, pesticide ridden, additive stuffed foods. I am not being paranoid. I have researched this subject fully, and if you think the govt would not do this to unsuspecting, naive people, you are more naive than most. Remember the cigarette lie? What makes you think they wouldn't do it to your food? why are american's the only obese people in the world? think about it. oh...and I am not nuts, angry, paranoid, nor do I need a psychiatrist or therapy. I am not blaming every one else for my weight problem, other than the food we eat. You did not do this to me...I am not blaming you, but you are also thin and have no compassion for those that DO have a problem. I will not continue this. but this is my opinion only. I HAVE accepted responsibility for my whole entire life, including my weight. Oh...and I am not a liar either. thank you for all your compassionate support...must make you feel better to attack the overweight when you brag about being a size 6. I bet you are in your 20s, as well. hmpff.
It is as if some men get angry if their wives are sick or hurt (sm)
He does it every time too :(
I wouldn't want to. I'm angry that our system is set up so that this innocent man could not b
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grammar mistake above, typing while angry again!
Gotta learn to count to 10.
The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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The weather has been HORRIBLE just about everywhere his Winter!!! Mother Nature Angry! :-(.....nm
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Wow. I think this would be my response ...
I'd ask him what he wanted for supper and when he told me I'd tell him to go out and buy it.
LOL
Your response is what I have said all along
that being, people who are not there because of something they have done, but fell down on their luck, totally different. This is not covered under you do it to yourself type posts.
I did get a response....sm
the principal called me and said that 2 other drama students parents had called him about the same issue. The drama teacher did set a schedule at his insistence and sent it home with the students yesterday. It ends up that this is her first year teaching so I reckon' it's things like this that she still has to learn.
Thank you for your response! sm..
We have ordered one that has a built-in NTSC tuner that is supposed to get all analog programming as well as a built-in ATSC tuner that will take over on the digital channels. I'm anxious to see how this works. Thanks again.
Thank you so much for your response!
 It is the worst offender of my "falling out." I am seriously considering a reduction, which would hopefully take care of my problem. Thanks again for taking the time to respond!! I appreciate it!
In response
Thank you for your opinion. There are several reasons that we (my DH and I) chose the name that we did. The first is that we were looking for a name from both sides of our families, as my daughter has a family name and my other son does, too. The second is that my pop (step-dad) is a wonderful Papa to his grandkids, and his name happened to be one of the only names that were in both sides.
I do not feel that I discounted their feelings. They knew before he was born and never said a word about it.
My pop raised me. I love my daddy, and it is not that he did a bad job or didn't want me or anything like that, but he was sick and couldn't.
Thanks again, I do appreciate it!
response
I'm scared most days of the week with our kids (grown men), my husband's kids, grandkids and great grandkids ...It's nice to know there are people out there thinking of you and your daughter and trying to make good suggestions....Whatever she chooses, she'll be just fine. Cat
What can anyone say in response to that? (sm)
I read it and just thought "wow". I hope she makes it back safely. Your brother sounds like he is just trying to hold his family together while she goes through her crisis or whatever it is. I know someone who is behaving similarly to this and I don't understand. She is obviously being extremely risky in doing this. It's just crazy. I'm sorry your brother and his children are going through this.
In response -
I have a good job - I make over $50,000 a year working as a transcriptionist.
When I say "take care of me", I don't just mean pay my bills (although that would be nice too). I am very self sufficient!
In response -
I have a good job - I make over $50,000 a year working as a transcriptionist.
When I say "take care of me", I don't just mean pay my bills (although that would be nice too). I am very self sufficient!
response -- sm
hi. no. benadryl did not work. It does not appear to be an allergy of any kind. In my reading up on Lichen Planus, it did mention that corticosteroids helped some with the itching and the pain, but it never worked for me. There may be some homeopathic remedies on the internet, but you will have to investigate those. I have not tried yet, as for right now, my symptoms are in "remission". They did mention that stress tends to bring them out, as well. A person can be stressed about some things without really feeling stressed, but I have noticed also that when I am really upset about something, the symptoms will recur shortly after resolution of whatever I was stressed out about. I truly believe it is chemical-related and I am diligently attempting to de-chemical my home, with going "green" on everything. It is not easy, particularly with usual hygiene products, i.e. deoderant, soaps, etc. There are so many chemicals in EVERYTHING we use, wear, eat, that it is almost impossible to live without them. I know at the time of my last outbreak about a month ago, I had recently tried a different deoderant. I do believe that may have been the culprit along with some stressful situations I was undergoing at that time. I do not believe a regular medical doctor or dermatologist would be very helpful either, unless they really understand what Lichen Planus is and the symptoms it causes. My last outbreak lasted over a month. My mother recently had to stop using laundry detergent with dye and fragrence, as well, and I think the longer we are subjected to different chemicals, the more sensitive we are becoming to them. I hope your son begins feeling better soon.
I don’t see where your response had to do with anything, really. NM
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Response
The son and the girlfriend both need to learn that adult actions have adult consequences. You teach people how to treat you. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated. Your son is 18 and an adult and he needs to move out of your home and learn how to be emotionally and financially supportive to his child. Video games are no longer a priority. Learning to provide for the child is. The young lady needs to get out of the passive/aggressive drama queen role and grow up also. It's not about either one of them anymore, it's about the child (should she choose to carry it to term). The child is not a bargaining chip for money and attention. Quite frankly, you don't need her permission you can go to court and petition for visitation. Unless they both grow up, you're going to get stuck seeing more of that baby than you ever wanted to--you will be the dumping ground when they want to do something more "fun".
Response
I don't think you are being selfish. Are your husband and/or son developmentally challenged that they cannot read a calendar or see and understand all the ads on news and print media for Mother's Day specials? Please do not buy into this. You teach people how to treat you. Who says you have big behind? Don't allow this emotional and verbal abuse. Set some boundaries so they learn it is NOT okay to treat you this way. You are not the man's personal shopper; you are his WIFE and that merits respect. You are are a hard-working MT, from reading your post it's plain that you are bright and articulate, and you do not deserve a reprimand from someone else who for whatever reason did not followup with his own mother. You have a lot to be proud of in yourself. Smile in the mirror and remind yourself of that every day so you don't doubt yourself.
Response
My response is actually not going to reference my own mother/daughter relationships. The reason is that my own mother is now gone, and my relationship with my daughter is good. The relationship I think applies to what you're saying above is the relationship I have with my husband.
He acted for 20+ years as if he was always right, and I'm just the stupid numbskull he picked up alongside the road for kicks and giggles.
I went along with his program for many years. I catered to his every whim, followed him around like a puppy dog, and cried when he kicked me around like an incontinent puppy dog.
Then one day I woke up.
I found separate interests (I had actually had those interests all along, but had stifled them because they weren't HIS interests). I nurtured those interests. I truly realized that I am a WHOLE PERSON whether he is there or not.
When I finally got that through my thick little skull, guess what happened?
He follows me everywhere now.
Funny thing....
I find that annoying now.... All those years, I thought that that was all I wanted.
Guess I was wrong.
So my advice to you?
Go ahead and start keeping your daughter at arm's length. However, never forget she is your flesh and blood. But don't let her get under your skin. You're worthy and valuable whether she believes it or not!
When you really truly believe this, her whole attitude toward you will change.
Trust me.
Thank you for a well-written response
Of course, there are parts of what you say I agree with and parts I don't. :)
In my case, I had to step in or the state would have taken the child. The dad was a bum...but when I look at how he was raised and the he** he went through, I understand how scared he is of even trying to be a father. I don't excuse it, but I understand it. I understand it all the way to family court where I will be getting a child support order against him next month <G>. Got one on my own daughter, already. My daughter was born with a mental illness and was a teenage mother. It was a time bomb that finally exploded in a world of drug abuse. But to treat the addiction without the mental illness will never result in a productive member of society. So...that being said, holding these 2 parents accountable is futile...other than financially (okay, even I laugh at ever seeing any of that money). They are infrequent visitors in my GC's life. That is simply the way it is.
I look at European countries and see multigenerations living together even still, where the older family members help raise the young children so the parents can support the entire household. That was what I meant about a community raising children. We as Americans don't function in that way overall as a society. We splinter and break apart and when young adults need help, often it means the children go somewhere else (usually aunts, uncles, grands). Sometimes in divorce, one party has more _power/control_ (usually due to finances) and has a greater say in how, who and where the children are raised. I suspect there is some of this dynamic occuring in the OP's life that she felt she couldn't share. (My story is out there...but some are not as open). Some divorced people use children as pawns, and this, too, is as sad as parents who cannot take responsibility for their offspring.
But I do fully support any parent, who for the sake of the children, can try to enrich their young lives and teach them tolerance, patience, forgiveness, acceptance, and learn how to deal appropriately with situations so that they can grow into strong, proud adults. I suppose my point in all this was in my original response. Bad things can be found everywhere...but if we can teach our children how to deal with them in a positive way, we have given them the gift of maturity.
Thank you for your response. I did appreciate reading it and respect what you had to say.
LOL................very funny response!!!!
 
My take on your husband's response is...
For him to have made this response, that "I think she wants me," after your having told him that there was a potential job opening that seemed attractive makes me think your husband is insecure. For a man to mouth those words to his wife, whether true or not, is a sign he is trying to attract your attention, in my mind. I say this as I think that if she were coming on to him, you'd have picked up on it first of all and secondly, she'd certainly not want the wife of a man she was giving the proverbial wink to, working with her at the same company.
Is he depressed or is he possibly feeling insecure because he has to rely on your income and he knows you are not satisfied in your job situation, I wonder?
See response to your above post
Always respond regardless that the response is
Unfortunately, many people think if they don't respond you are supposed to take that as a "No". That is just bad manners. I once responded to a candle party with a "Yes" and the hostess even said, well I just put that on their. You didn't really have to call. Go figure.
The strange response is actually yours
or you didn't get the sarcasm/humor of my post. Ever hear that saying? lol
agree with other response-
my mom says things to me that sometimes take me aback - like talking about moving further away (from all three of her kids - I am closest in distance - 2 1/2 hours) so that it will be impossible to see her at all - I don't get to see her much because I work 2 jobs to make ends meet - I don't know whether she is trying to make me feel guilty - my dad died a little over a year ago - and I was there once a week for a couple of years - so I think I did everything I could and refuse to feel guilty - I just think that older people sometimes get a little like 2-year-olds - they may be a little depressed, a little self centered - they just don't realize how much they hurt us - but they are gone before we know it - I just bite my tongue and don't respond, and then act like nothing happened.
it's an overwhelming response
in here. I think we may have to do some second thinking if we're going to buy that house or just wait a little more before we get stable. We're just thinking about the welfare of our baby, like living in a comfortable place, not getting sick, etc. I forgot to say that it was our net income, excluding taxes, health insurance, etc.
Just saw this, response inside..
First of all, I do want to say that I respect your opinion and appreciate what you have to say.
I do live with the choice I made, and I even agree with living with the consequences. There are two things I disagree with, however:
1. Family is the most important thing in life. If they are hurt, angry, dissapointed, they should have come to me but they chose not to, and that breaks my heart the most. In the same line of things, as a mother my job is to protect my family, and pretnding my some does not exist is not going to make things better. Family is supposed to work things out.
2. I am not a self-centered person. It is your right, of course, to view me that way because you only know of me what you have read here. Had I ever dreamed, even for a moment, that my family would have been hurt by this I would have reconsidered.
I am sorry that you feel like your brother's existance was erased. Have you talked to them about it?
I guess my whole point is that my family relationship should not ever have been damaged by a name. That makes no sense to me at all.
Naming my son after my pop does not mean I love my dad less. It does not mean that I love my family less, or that he has been "erased." It doesn't even mean that I love my pop more, and the people that do know me should know that. I think of my dad everyday, always have and always will.
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