You probably saved someone's life in the future.
Posted By: s/m on 2008-11-13
In Reply to: Has This Ever Happened To Any Of You Here? - New Pet Peeve
A couple months ago there was a terrible head-on train crash near Los Angeles, and the cause of it was the engineer of the passenger train blew through a red light because he was texting some teenagers. It's a shame he was killed, because he should have lived to see the carnage he caused.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
anyway, they saved a life; that's what we'll focus on
nm
Saved by the grace of God.
//
I saved this in my Favorites.
nm
It's not hard if you have pictures saved
on your computer. There are many sites that make it harder to post than this one because here you just click the line that says "Click here to Upload Image" and then search on your computer, usually under Pictures, and choose the thumbnail you want to post and click on it.
Hope she saved lots of the tips for you for therapy...
just kidding ;)
If it can't be saved by a rebuilt engine, consider a scrap yard. sm
If you have a husband, SO, or brother, etc that is handy with tools, put an ad in your local paper and part it out. Or you can take it to your local scrap yard. They would take it off your hands. If it is a 2003, the engine block would most likely be aluminum, the catalytic converter has platinum in it, the rims are probably metal of some sort. You would be amazed what your local scrap yard takes. Plus you get money for it too. If you call, they can give you the price per ton for aluminum, steel, etc. We did that to our truck and made approx $1,500 when all was said and done. The only catch is that if they have to take it apart, you will not get as much for everything than if you take it apart. But that is something to consider. Good luck.
We silicone a key under the wiper blade base. Can't see it at all! Saved our butts
s
What saved the folks on the edge was pulling up the emergency brake
s
I asked a very simple gift for Mother's Day, should have saved my breath
I was going to visit my aunt out of town this weekend and my daughter wanted to go with me. The only thing I asked for Mother's Day was that my daughter behave (she is in her 30s understand) but what I meant was getting along, if I should say anything she might not like to smile and say yes. I just wanted a little peace and quiet but I wasted my breath. She said she felt like she always had to walk on eggshells around me. I told her she does not know me at all, never has and I don’t think she cares about me at all. I have been asked loads of time if she is an only child. She is not but that should tell you what others think, just a me type person. I paid for everything, the gas, the motel, the food, everything and thought I could ask for something that she would not have to spend money on. I am thinking seriously about throwing in the towel on her, just giving up. I am too old to fool with her me type stuff any longer, I really have been thinking about doing just that. A simple request, not 1 that I could not pull off if my mother had asked me to do. The last thing before we got home, I wanted to stop at 1 of my favorite pizza places, get a pizza, we could have called before getting home, could have been ready (left out earlier coming home) and she just wanted to grab something quick, so we got a hamburger. I really do not like her and I am sad because I would like to. It has been impossible for me to really love her like I should.
does your future son-in-law sm
go to church each week. If not is he getting questioned like your daughter. I am Catholic and go to church every Sunday. I know from hearing family members that a priest will not marry you unless he has proof that you are going to Church each week. The envelopes are the proof. The priest does not want to marry you in the church just because your Catholic. So if your son in law does not go to Church he is at fault also. My DD is getting to another Catholic next year. She became very relaxed about going to Church. They registered back into the Church once they got engaged and waited six months before contacting the priest.
Some of what you said seems like it is the priest and not the Catholic religion. I would contact another Catholic priest and see if he feels the same. The bad part is if your daughter is probably getting turned off by the Catholic religion before she gets started. She will have to sign a paper promising she will raise her children Catholic. My daughter told me that there is separate paper work to fill out if you are living together so most people do lie. She does not live with her fiance. Also after they get married in the Catholic Church and then stop going most priests will not baptize the children just for the sake of it if the parents are not going to take the children to church. All this is really a shame because the Catholic church is turning a lot of people away. Good luck and give us any updates.
Think about future resale
I could only get preapproved for a mortgage on stick built homes. No modulars, no manufactured, nothing that had "ever been on wheels or classified as such on the tax roles". I had to pass up many good deals on great properties because my lender was adamant about stick built. So keep in mind it may be harder to sell when that time comes.
This just in from my future contractor
"You friend is correct, but may be jumping the gun a little bit.
As I said before, I would avoid purchasing a NEW PC with XP. This does not make sense, especially if your current PC is working for you. Extended support for Windows XP systems will continue through 2014 at least and probably longer. So the timeframe for upgrading is quite long…
I would not upgrade a current PC (more than 2 years old) to Vista under any circumstances. With anything less than 2 Gig of RAM, the Vista OS slows to a crawl and many hardware vendors have not upgraded their drivers.
As far as a new machine goes, I would wait until the Vista SP1 (Service Pack 1) has had time to “soak” for a while before making any decision. It’s also MUCH better to change machines than trying to attempt an upgrade later (to Vista SPn for example).
Again, the other thing to consider is that not all vendors are currently ready to support Vista and the “compatibility mode” of Vista has been shown to be problematic.
So to summarize, here’s what I am suggesting to my clients and friends …
1. Let 2008 pass without upgrading.
2. Revisit the stability of Vista and the depth of vendor support in late 2008 to be ready for a planned migration from XP to Vista in 1Q 2009 at the earliest (and possibly later).
3. When considering the upgrade to Vista, plan a complete hardware upgrade as well.
If you would like to talk about this on the phone, feel free to contact me anytime. See this link http://www.microsoft.com/windows/products/windowsvista/sp1.mspx for more information about Vista SP1.
Lack of help from future son-in-law
Please tell me if I'm overreacting. I'm moving 60 miles away from where I'm now living next weekend for a new job at a big hospital in my hometown. I'm excited but nervous also. My daughter is getting married in November. I only have about 3 rooms of furniture and a lot of it is already boxed and in a storage room. I asked my daughter if "Bruce," her fiance, and his buddies could help move me, as I am single, with no father, brothers or friends who are able-bodied any longer (I'm 50+). She asked him and grudgingly he said something to the effect that he could, but we would have load the truck the night before and he would have to be finished up before noon the next day, and his friend would help for $200(!). The last straw was he told my daughter to tell me not to expect to have boxes, furniture placed or set up, because he HAD to get to the "Mud Bog" by 12:00 sharp.
Is this any way to treat a future in-law? He knows I don't have any family really. I did get a couple of co-workers and their husband/brother to help, thank goodness, but I'm really worried about the future with this boy--respect for me, priorities, selfishness--thanks in advance.
That is work; he is your future son-in-law
It sounds like you were lucky to get the offer you got and since you have no one you'd have been better off to take him up on it.
You certainly can't expect people to do things just out of the goodness of their heart when they know you can't stand them. If you can come on here and post about your future son-in-law's flaws, then I'm sure he knows how you feel.
What are you trying to prove here? He said he'd do it, that it would cost $200.00 for the friends to help (do you expect him to carry everything by himself), but that he couldn't place the furniture? So what's wrong with that?
For your future and that of your kids
You may not think so, but you've got a lot of things going for you, the most important being that you realize you need to do something.
Short term: You've gotten great advice about making small changes, like exercising, losing weight, etc. Go for it.
Long term: You're worried about bills, housing, and your children's reactions to changes in their lives, and those concerns are certainly valid. But there is something more important at stake: You do not want your unhappy marriage to be the template for your children's future relationships in adult life. They deserve better than that, and so do you. See a lawyer and plan your exit strategy. It may take time, but *commit* to change. Have you ever heard the saying, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step?" Take that step and you will be surprised what you can do.
Might be exciting now, but future will be grim. SM
I would suggest adding some excitement to your marriage. Try to find the guy your husband was, that turned you on to him. That is where your attention should be.
You cannot go back again and you are not an 8th grader, but are acting like one.
Hmm, maybe modeling in her future? Hope
xx
Yay, my future son-in-law is such a peach. HE didn't forget about me! nm
nm
Agree. Teachers of future generations should be better
iop
Went to HS with future Mrs. Tom Hanks, Rita Wilson
//
I have a life, a great life at that. I just happen to include my canine family
t
Office; Life on Mars; Lost; Life; Pushing Daisies
nm
thank you so much for the quick response. Would this pose a problem for me in the future?? nm
Past, present, future. Still expecting miracle.
//
if the sonogram was not wrong, for the future you may want to get your hormone levels checked. sm
a lot of times when women have multiple miscarriages at the stages you are it is because their hormones are off, in particularly low progesterone. if this is the case, in the future it can be corrected by taking progesterone at earliest sign of conception until about 11-12 weeks. so ask questions as to what your estrogen/progesterone levels were on your lab results today. have you carried any children yet to term? wish you the best of luck and pray for a good outcome......
Guess he can take out a loan for future schooling! Son found a phone
s
for the life of me..........sm
I mean this just does not make any sense. I had an adjuster come out who looked to be right out of high school, looked at our roof, said it had a LOT more years left on it. I went right to the phone, called my company, said to send someone out that knew something about a roof. I got 3 estimates from roof companies and an estimate to redo one of our bathrooms where it was leaking through. When I threatened to go public with how many roofs were put on homes and checks paid in the field, at the owner's home, standing in their yard, and knew this folks didn't need a roof, then they actually gave me enough to replace our roof. If I sound bitter, I am. This is ridiculous. I cannot help a hurricane blew through, but one could argue spilling bleach in one's floor is their fault, not nature. My mother has an old home, over 90 years old. She has done the best she can with what she has, but when they came out and told her that she would have to pay a deductible to fix part of her room, and then another deductible to fix another part of her roof, because both problems didin't come from the hurricane (like they know this for fact), I blew a fuse. I went ballistic on them. She did get a check in the field from an adjuster at first, but it wouldn't even cover removing the old roof, let alone replacing it with a new one. After the hurricane, she had leaking in several rooms in her home. I pitched a hissy fit. They then came back out and I got a roofer to meet with them, and she then got enough to actually replace the roof and supposedly to fix the ceilings in her house....though I don't think it would cover all that. I called our state insurance commissioner and let into him.....I told him I would expose the garbage going on. People 1 to 2weeks after the storm getting all kinds of paid repairs, but those of us who had to wait later on down the line for an adjuster, were being told they couldn't find a problem. No, the money started flowing out like a river, and then after a few weeks, they start telling their adjusters to tell anyone else they don't see a problem. Bull!
Her life was more...
than Stephen King and John Grisham together could have conjured up. Maybe Howard Stern was a plant in her life by the millionaire's family or maybe someone else close to her was planted by his family. I don't know, but it is the most sensational story I've ever heard in my life.
life
I knew her from when she worked on the North side near the airport. She had Daniel with her at the motel not far away. I was a waitress and we had a meeting for all the employees of a new club and she came and had Daniel with her and I had my son (now almost 19) with me and they played for a bit and she would come to my house on occasion with him.
To be totally honest when in the clubs people are introduced as "family" so I dont know if her "sister" was actually her "sister".
I was a different person back then and unlike her I was able to get away from all of that. I wish things had worked out differently for her and especially for Daniel he deserved so much more.
I hope for Daniellynn??sp?? that she has her mothers spirit and tenacity and her brothers sweetness so that she can see through all this and know that her mother and brother loved her very much.
too bad; it's not WHAT you know in life..nm
Get your own life!
nm
Just another day in the life of...
I just read on MSNBC that China executed the ex-head of the Food and Drug Agency for taking bribes to okay substandard drugs citing, "Such cases have brought shame to our administration and revealed serious problems in approving antibiotics blamed for, at least, 10 deaths and other substandard medications." I sometimes wonder how much this sort of thing is going on in the rest of the world??
and Not in MY LIFE...........
Its her life though
You can't plan someone's whole life for them, or tell them they are ruining it because they have chosen a different path than you chose for them. She has to make her own mistakes and learn things in her own way. What you might call a ruined life could end up making her very happy in the long run. You do not have a crystal ball in that regard. Everyone has had a "bad boyfriend" or several and its a learning process. You can't choose who someone else is attracted to.
When I had children I realized they will not be a carbon copy of me, they will have their own experiences, feelings, etc. from day one. I made up my mind when my child was little that even though I might not like or agree with my child's life choices, I'm just going to have to grit my teeth and bear it. Its about what makes them happy, not about what makes ME happy.
Oh I want her life!
That is so cute! Anyone else allowed in that chair, or is that her's?
You know, I saw that plastic snowman in the window straight off! We had one like that when I was a kid too! I think we had a halloween decoration or two made out of that same funky chippy plastic. Very retro! Thanks for posting the picture!
She's got the life!
A vet told me years ago when I took in a young stray cat that the strays "seem to instinctively know the best places to show up" so they can have a good home. I think he's right! Looks like she picked the perfect home!
My life now could not be better
I am at a point in my life where I do not have to answer to others, can do what I want, have money to travel, don’t have to work 3 or 4 jobs to make ends meet, in fact working part now, have money in the bank, a loving husband, my daughter, family out of state. No one makes your happiness- only you can make it. I do not count on my children for happiness- I wish them well and that is all I do. They are on their own and hope they continue to be able to. I feel so blessed every day- I thank the good Lord above for my husband, he is a jewel. My daughter loves her stepfather - he had a birthday recently and she left him a message wishing him Hbirthday and tells me she is happy for my happiness. I would not wish to return to my earlier years for anything, so glad I am where I am in my life now. Totally blessed woman.
that was my life for the day, thanks.
I could see me wishing I HAD done all that preparation! If I ever go on safari, I'm taking you with me!
Life was fun up until about age 8,
and then it started getting more complicated.
From those early years I remember wonderful summer nights in Wisconsin with the windows open and cool breezes coming in, the June bugs hitting the screens, summer pajamas. I remember riding bikes and pretending they were horses. I remember shopping for fall clothes when we were lucky enough to get some instead of having them all hand-made from ugly Jiffy patterns. I remember the WI State Fair and winning 3rd and then 2nd prize in the twin contest there. I remember vacationing in cottages in Vermont when I was 4. I remember climbing our maple trees and being about 50 feet high and that was a normal thing to do.
I remember my first kiss from a boy when I was 3 and he was 2. He tried to talk me into walking down the sidewalk to watch a store being constructed and I had to explain my mom wouldn't let me do that.
From later years I remember good times camping with the girlscouts and the time we found a secret place to go near our house where there was a grove of sumacs you could sit under to get away from the world.
You know, we all have needs in life, and
recognition is one of them. Good for you for doing something beneficial for animals, and it doesn't hurt the animals that you'd like others to know you have done something nice in life. I know the Bible says that kindnesses done in secret will be rewarded in heaven, but life is tough and to get through it, I don't see why we can't have a little pleasure or satisfaction out of life now and then to help make the druggery of life worth putting up with. If you want rewards in heaven, you can do something else anonymously, I suppose.
Hers and your life may be - sm
a lot shorter than you think since he has been screwing up his courage and back to banging on her door, etc, and he carries a gun, not a good combination.....get the restraining order, find out how to make it permanent, video tape everything he says and does on her property (with date/time stamp), as poster above said document everything, they can pull phone records and see he calls you and her 30 x a day, etc., call the cops every time he comes and harasses, the cops will take care of it I hope.... they might not like it but that is what they are paid to do so use them, I would just call them when he threatens suicide, don't tell him, just do it, and video tape the threats, etc. Good luck.
oh, get a life.
Just a few observations from living in the south. I never said anything about eating squirrel, rabbit, etc. Someone else must have gotten to you before I did for you to be so defensive. Thought true southern belles were sweet! Or is that a generalization that is wrong also?
I will tell you and from how my life has gone
my life was so down at 1 time but rut was what I called it. I too was the entire breadwinner, had a househusband. I did it all and not a cent from him, everything in my name but I felt like I was the person in charge, I felt superior, I really did. I was supporting 6 people at 1 time, everything (these were his g'children as well as my own daughter who lived with me). He died, I remarried and now I have a person who helps me everyway, financially as well as supportive. The other husband was a real dog, ran around on me and caused me so much stress. It was like a 1000 pounds lifted from my shoulders when he died. I never wished that but when it happened that is how I felt. My life is wonderful now. I am saying, the support and love I feel alone is priceless. I still work and hubby pays the bigger bills, I catch the smaller ones. I know where you are, I have been there, I have struggled, I have been stressed but it can and does turn around a lot. I know this. Probably with him it is like just another child around taking care of them, huh? I have gone from much abuse to none at all. Here are good wishes your way.
I cannot believe for the life of me that
this so called mother put another child thru such as she did. The raping and killing of that precious child. How could she? I would probably be glad to hand her some knife blades if I had them available and could get to her. Hopefully they would be extremely sharp enough to cut her throat ragged, sounds good enough for me.
there's not enough spontaniety in this life....sm
I think it's fine if friends drop by for a few minutes to say hello, to touch base, to have a cup of tea with (few minutes to an hour). I believe there is not enough spontaniety in this life in general so this does not bother me when friends stop by. As a matter of fact, my friend who has cancer just rang my bell, we spent 30 minutes chatting here and she was heading home (same area). I loved it. Life is too short for it all to be about work-work-work and a clean house.
My opinion is that a home should be clean enough to be healthy and messy/dirty enough to be happy. 
have had this my entire life........
I had always gone for yearly mammograms and sometimes with bilateral hand-held ultrasound (my opinion is that the latter is better because w/ultrasound they always show up and not so with every mammogram). I have never needed a breast biopsy either. I am older now, breasts much less *dense*- a word that the MD always used - and I do not go yearly but every other year. BTW, no family hx for me of breast cancer. Try not to worry.......you can Google this too if you'd like......
We have a life line
We have a life line you can get through your local hospital probably. There is a "base" connected to the phone. She can wear a necklace or a pin. If she needs help, she pushes it and believe me you will hear it, it says, "help call in progress, help call in progress". Someone will pick up and ask if you guys need help. You can answer, no we have it now, or yes we need help. It is approximately 40.00 a month. This is also good when you want to go out and she has to be alone.
Have the time of your life!!
You are always willing to help others, and I hope you have a great time! 
Lady, you seriously, seriously have to get a life. nm
nm
Loves of my life are
the 2 male cats my hubby brought home from Wal-Mart, some guy had them outside. Guy said found beside road, who knows and really how cares. They are wonderful, gorgeous brothers, long coats, black and white and I love being able to stroke them with 1 hand while still working (do a lot of editing so can do this). I had them fixed at an early age and believe in that but still will feed any stray that comes in my yard or I see out anywhere.
So, accept second best in life
and do not complain about your lack of love, the abuse you accept for staying around for a 6 year old and live life as you have it. I am the product of a divorce and to tell you the truth, never ever bothered me. Did not miss having my father around 24/7, saw him often while growing up but lived with my mother and brother and had a wonderful time growing up. I find it amusing to hear someone say the happiness of their child is worth sacrificing their own happiness- remember this when she grows up and decides to leave and then you are left with? Any therapist will tell you in no certain terms you should be happy first, if you are not then your child is not but then, like I said, live your life like you want. I for 1 love my life and hubs, wonderful times, spoiled rotten and could not ask for more in life ever. I am a very blessed person.
|
