You need to take action.
Posted By: Now. on 2009-06-16
In Reply to: Got an eviction notice today. - sm
1. Do you have a physical problem keeping you from seeking out new employment? If you do, please see your doctor now. If you have a true disability, see what you can do about maybe collecting disability.
2. Do you have emotional issues going on that you cannot handle well right now? Please seek out help, again, through your physician. If that is not an option, go to your phonebook and look for a community help line phone number. Someone there can help guide you in the right direction. In my city, that would be in the white pages in the blue section. Not sure how everyone else's is.
3. Do you have anyone at all that you can turn to for living arrangements, even on a temporary basis? If not, you better get on the ball and start right this second looking for another apartment or even just a room so you don't end up on the street.
4. Look into getting some help from your local food pantry. Again, a friend, clergy, or a local help line could lead you in the right direction to do that.
5. Call your gas and electric companies to see if you are eligible for help on your bills. Many companies offer this.
6. Do you have any stuff you can unload at a flea market? I would say ebay but it sounds like you don't have time for that. A flea market would be good for some immediate cash on hand. I looked in a box I had been holding onto for years and never really looked at what was in it (my ex-mother in law gave me what I thought was old Christmas decorations). I ended up making over 2,000 bucks on ebay for the crap that was in it. Still don't know why people went nuts over that stuff, but apparently they were some kind of collectables (as I remember there were some old lead figures, some kind of collectable penny lucky charm thingy and a couple old Lone Ranger and Tonto dolls still in boxes, and stuff like that.) Anyway, if you have been holding onto stuff just because, get rid of it now. It could put a few extra bucks in your pocket.
7. Don't post here looking for help. In your situation you need REAL and IMMEDIATE help. Call a friend, go to your church if you belong to one and talk to your clergy. Seek heart-to-heart and face-to-face help and counseling.
8. When the dust settles, make a plan, start an emergency fund (even if it is just 5 bucks a week) and don't ever ever let this happen again.
Just my two cents.
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